Have you ever Facebook stalked someone b/c you thought they were hot, wanted to know more about them without actually confronting them, or couldn't stand them & just wanted to see what they were up to & find something wrong w/ them or see how much better you are than them? I've never done the last one, but I do know a couple of people who have. I've Facebook stalked a handful of people just b/c I thought they were kind of hot or I hadn't seen them since high school & wondered what they were up to. How far is too far? Is just doing it period for any reason too much, or is it going too far when you have to go through all their pics, check their relationship status, age, birthday, their last 50 status updates & wall posts, go through all their friends, & find their personal info like where they live, work, go to school, major, phone number, email, & all that stuff. I usually just go through pics, find out how old they are, see if they're single, & what their major is.
Facebook stalking
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Have you Facebook stalked anyone?
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Have you Facebook stalked anyone? How far is too far? Please elaborate.
05/11/2011
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I've looked up people who I was curious about, and I'll read any info they have publicly posted and look at whatever pictures are available. I've never added someone just to gain access to info they have set to private. "Stalking" makes me think of a thing that happens repeatedly, whereas I'll generally look into it once and then get on with my life. The term "creeping" seems more fitting, haha.
05/11/2011
Hah, I use the term Facebook Stalking, but it's more for those times that I'll mention something that I put on Facebook a long time ago and somebody who's a relatively new Facebook friend already knows about it. But these are also people I hang out with in real life. I've never added somebody as a friend to gain access to information, but I have gotten really bored while at work in the past and with nothing else to do, spent a few hours looking at every picture a friend has posted, going through their recent history to see what they've been up to, and stuff like that. I've had friends do that to me, especially when their friends list isn't overflowing with people.
I had one person accuse me of stalking their profile to try and cause problems between her and her boyfriend at the time, but it really doesn't count as actively seeking out information if their photo album shows up in my news feed. As far as legitimate stalking activity goes, if you can find it in less than 5 or 10 minutes on the internet, it's free, and you don't have to get a fake account to try and see a private account, it's not stalking; it's you not utilizing privacy settings. /end rant
I had one person accuse me of stalking their profile to try and cause problems between her and her boyfriend at the time, but it really doesn't count as actively seeking out information if their photo album shows up in my news feed. As far as legitimate stalking activity goes, if you can find it in less than 5 or 10 minutes on the internet, it's free, and you don't have to get a fake account to try and see a private account, it's not stalking; it's you not utilizing privacy settings. /end rant
05/11/2011
Ive never FB stalked anyone. I have on occasion looked for ex bfs and checked up on what they were up to but dont think that would be considered stalking. = )
05/11/2011
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I'm an adult and I've never stalked anyone on Facebook. I use it solely as a way to contact friends and people I haven't seen in a long time and to send pics to my friends.
Originally posted by
GravyCakes
Have you Facebook stalked anyone? How far is too far? Please elaborate.
I've never even looked for ex-boyfriends. Just not interested.
05/11/2011
It's complicated. :/
05/11/2011
No, never.
05/11/2011
I'm not sure it can be considered stalking when the people make the information public. I mean, it's not like you're actually following them around or hanging around their house. Now if you take this behavior beyond Facebook or being harassing the person on FB, then I do think it's a problem.
05/11/2011
I know this sounds weird....but I sometimes just can't help it and it's almost by accident. You see that someone you went to high school with just got engaged....so of course you want to look at their engagement pictures. Then you look at his profile and see he has a brother listed....who is cute. Then I feel weird because I suddenly know WAY too much about a person and wish I could go back. I guess I just consider it accidental stalking.
05/11/2011
There's only one person I've FB stalked, an ex, and it's only been to the extent of looking through his pictures, just because I miss his face. Well, actually, I also kinda look to see how things are going with his wife....one can always hope, right?
05/11/2011
I FaceSurf. It's kinda like Facebook Stalking, but a lot less targeted. Most of the time it's because someone might know someone I know but in a totally different way...which is really interesting to me.
05/11/2011
I'm always stalking everyone and sometimes I feel really bad about this.
05/11/2011
everybody does
05/11/2011
I never have. Never really wanted to--i think i would just feel weird.
05/11/2011
My best friend and I always go facebook stalking when we talk about people we used to know. It helps put a picture to our memory. Plus it is a great way to see how much people change.
05/11/2011
LOL! I actually know tons of people who have to do all those things on everybody's FB page! I am always saying how crazy it is to spend hours just looking at FB pages. I've never stalked on FB. The only thing I've done like that actually happened 2 nights ago. I had a girlfriend in high school who always belittled me & called me fat & told me that I shouldn't eat or drink anything for 4 weeks except for tomato soup so maybe I'd lose weight! I never even asked for her advice on my weight, but she was constantly telling me I wasn't good enough. She even pointed out my "ughly toenail polish" once. Although this was years ago, I don't forget those words & I was 125 pounds! That is not fat. Well, the point is, I tried ending our friendship multiple times, but she'd show up at my house, apologize, and beg to be friends again. Of course it worked on me. Well, when I dropped out of high school she refused to speak to me.
She send me a friend request 2 nights ago & I saw her pictures. I HAD to look at one of them after remembering all the times she commented on my weight in high school. I know it's mean, but I did enjoy the moment of 'karma' I thought to myself Wow! so many of the people i went to school with have turned into exactly what they told me I would be. Like, an ex told me I'd never amount to anything, I'd be a low life. Now, he's got a kid, no job and STILL parties living with his mommy! I however, have made it pretty far in my short life.
The thing is, I love to see those people and be able to think to myself "Hmm.. I didn't turn out to be an overweight, low life, piece of trash like you'd said I would." I love that I have proved them wrong and I can't help but feel a tiny bit of happiness when I see the girl who'd constantly belittled me turn out to be a bit less than perfect. It doesn't feel good when the table is turned. I don't allow myself to get overly joyed and of course I don't want any woman to feel low about herself, but I admit, it feels nice that she's kind of realizing that she is not perfect and I wasn't that bad.
She send me a friend request 2 nights ago & I saw her pictures. I HAD to look at one of them after remembering all the times she commented on my weight in high school. I know it's mean, but I did enjoy the moment of 'karma' I thought to myself Wow! so many of the people i went to school with have turned into exactly what they told me I would be. Like, an ex told me I'd never amount to anything, I'd be a low life. Now, he's got a kid, no job and STILL parties living with his mommy! I however, have made it pretty far in my short life.
The thing is, I love to see those people and be able to think to myself "Hmm.. I didn't turn out to be an overweight, low life, piece of trash like you'd said I would." I love that I have proved them wrong and I can't help but feel a tiny bit of happiness when I see the girl who'd constantly belittled me turn out to be a bit less than perfect. It doesn't feel good when the table is turned. I don't allow myself to get overly joyed and of course I don't want any woman to feel low about herself, but I admit, it feels nice that she's kind of realizing that she is not perfect and I wasn't that bad.
05/11/2011
I've done it by accident.. maybe i'm fibbing just a little.
05/11/2011
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Agreed. The term "Facebook Stalking" makes me uncomfortable. It's not stalking to look at some information that a peer has publicly posted or approved your viewing of.
Originally posted by
Leila Eden
I'm not sure it can be considered stalking when the people make the information public. I mean, it's not like you're actually following them around or hanging around their house. Now if you take this behavior beyond Facebook or being
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I'm not sure it can be considered stalking when the people make the information public. I mean, it's not like you're actually following them around or hanging around their house. Now if you take this behavior beyond Facebook or being harassing the person on FB, then I do think it's a problem.
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"Facebook Stalking" should be reserved for actual cases of stalking and harassment on Facebook. Stalking is serious, and the term should not be used lightly.
05/11/2011
Yeah - it's really not stalking if they have it out there publicly.
05/11/2011
Me & the friend I'm really into Facebook stalk the crap out of each other. He lets me know too. Gotta admit I'm shameless about it myself with him.
05/11/2011
I have never stalked anyone, on facebook or elsewhere.
05/12/2011
I think when she called it "FB stalking" she just meant obsessing over someone's page by trying to learn everything about them, everytime they upload something. I don't think she actually had the definition of stalking wrong.
05/12/2011
Nope - I've never FB stalked anyone.
I have more interesting things to do and couldn't give a stuff about stalking someone. It's a waste of my time and energy.
I have more interesting things to do and couldn't give a stuff about stalking someone. It's a waste of my time and energy.
05/12/2011
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What's FaceSurfing? Just interested.
Originally posted by
El-Jaro
I FaceSurf. It's kinda like Facebook Stalking, but a lot less targeted. Most of the time it's because someone might know someone I know but in a totally different way...which is really interesting to me.
05/12/2011
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I completely agree with this. I also hate it when people talk about "raping" someone's facebook wall - I think they call it "fraping." These are very serious crimes - not something to joke about.
Originally posted by
bunny love
Agreed. The term "Facebook Stalking" makes me uncomfortable. It's not stalking to look at some information that a peer has publicly posted or approved your viewing of.
"Facebook Stalking" should be reserved for actual ... more
"Facebook Stalking" should be reserved for actual ... more
Agreed. The term "Facebook Stalking" makes me uncomfortable. It's not stalking to look at some information that a peer has publicly posted or approved your viewing of.
"Facebook Stalking" should be reserved for actual cases of stalking and harassment on Facebook. Stalking is serious, and the term should not be used lightly. less
"Facebook Stalking" should be reserved for actual cases of stalking and harassment on Facebook. Stalking is serious, and the term should not be used lightly. less
05/12/2011
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That's it exactly. When I say stalking, i don't mean literal stalking. It's just something everyone calls it.
Originally posted by
K101
I think when she called it "FB stalking" she just meant obsessing over someone's page by trying to learn everything about them, everytime they upload something. I don't think she actually had the definition of stalking wrong.
05/12/2011
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Those are silent victories you celebrate alone in front of your computer.
Originally posted by
K101
LOL! I actually know tons of people who have to do all those things on everybody's FB page! I am always saying how crazy it is to spend hours just looking at FB pages. I've never stalked on FB. The only thing I've done like that actually
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LOL! I actually know tons of people who have to do all those things on everybody's FB page! I am always saying how crazy it is to spend hours just looking at FB pages. I've never stalked on FB. The only thing I've done like that actually happened 2 nights ago. I had a girlfriend in high school who always belittled me & called me fat & told me that I shouldn't eat or drink anything for 4 weeks except for tomato soup so maybe I'd lose weight! I never even asked for her advice on my weight, but she was constantly telling me I wasn't good enough. She even pointed out my "ughly toenail polish" once. Although this was years ago, I don't forget those words & I was 125 pounds! That is not fat. Well, the point is, I tried ending our friendship multiple times, but she'd show up at my house, apologize, and beg to be friends again. Of course it worked on me. Well, when I dropped out of high school she refused to speak to me.
She send me a friend request 2 nights ago & I saw her pictures. I HAD to look at one of them after remembering all the times she commented on my weight in high school. I know it's mean, but I did enjoy the moment of 'karma' I thought to myself Wow! so many of the people i went to school with have turned into exactly what they told me I would be. Like, an ex told me I'd never amount to anything, I'd be a low life. Now, he's got a kid, no job and STILL parties living with his mommy! I however, have made it pretty far in my short life.
The thing is, I love to see those people and be able to think to myself "Hmm.. I didn't turn out to be an overweight, low life, piece of trash like you'd said I would." I love that I have proved them wrong and I can't help but feel a tiny bit of happiness when I see the girl who'd constantly belittled me turn out to be a bit less than perfect. It doesn't feel good when the table is turned. I don't allow myself to get overly joyed and of course I don't want any woman to feel low about herself, but I admit, it feels nice that she's kind of realizing that she is not perfect and I wasn't that bad. less
She send me a friend request 2 nights ago & I saw her pictures. I HAD to look at one of them after remembering all the times she commented on my weight in high school. I know it's mean, but I did enjoy the moment of 'karma' I thought to myself Wow! so many of the people i went to school with have turned into exactly what they told me I would be. Like, an ex told me I'd never amount to anything, I'd be a low life. Now, he's got a kid, no job and STILL parties living with his mommy! I however, have made it pretty far in my short life.
The thing is, I love to see those people and be able to think to myself "Hmm.. I didn't turn out to be an overweight, low life, piece of trash like you'd said I would." I love that I have proved them wrong and I can't help but feel a tiny bit of happiness when I see the girl who'd constantly belittled me turn out to be a bit less than perfect. It doesn't feel good when the table is turned. I don't allow myself to get overly joyed and of course I don't want any woman to feel low about herself, but I admit, it feels nice that she's kind of realizing that she is not perfect and I wasn't that bad. less
I do not stalk people on facebook and even refuse people acces to my facebook even if I know them, or have known them. So many people just want to add you to add to their growing list. I try to keep my number below 100, I don't care for people on FB unless they use FB to communicate with me or if they are family or very good friends. I am really picky!
05/15/2011
I've facestalked a few people. Some friend and I actually had a facestalk party once. Just typing in every name of anyone we could think of from our past.
06/14/2011
everybody does it some
06/14/2011
I stalk some people just cause they have interesting status updates and shared links. Some I don't even know but yet their profiles are still public.
06/14/2011
Sadly, I am guilty of this sort of thing. If someone takes it too far, then I feel it would be wrong, but I like to watch people, so I sometimes get caught in that sort of thing.
06/15/2011
i facebook stalk people all the time. you take it too far if you're actually stalking them in real life.
06/23/2011
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ive been facebook stalke d thats just creepy
Originally posted by
GravyCakes
Have you Facebook stalked anyone? How far is too far? Please elaborate.
06/23/2011
I have not done this, but when I was a teen we stalked people we liked by driving by thier house. LOL Time have changed.
06/23/2011
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this is a very hairy topic a thin line that some seem to cross often
Originally posted by
GravyCakes
Have you Facebook stalked anyone? How far is too far? Please elaborate.
06/23/2011
Honestly, I do it all the time. Whenever I meet someone new I look them up on facebook, probably most of the time I add them though. If the information is available publicly then I don't see anything wrong with it. If the person didn't want people to be able to look them up they'd set their information to private. I am guilty of looking up my exes on facebook to see what they're doing.
06/25/2011
No i will never do something like that,But i have been stalked and get stalked on facebook all the time gerr
06/25/2011
I don't really consider it stalking, but I have checked up on past friends from time to time to see what they've been doing.
09/22/2011
I think most people do this. We're all curious..not stalkers.
09/22/2011
Checking name, relationship status, etc doesn't seem off to me. The rest of it though is a little creepy.
09/22/2011
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Agreed. There's nothing wrong with checking out basic info. That's why the stuff is there!
Originally posted by
Kkay
Checking name, relationship status, etc doesn't seem off to me. The rest of it though is a little creepy.
09/22/2011
I'm totally a facebook stalker.
09/22/2011
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I prefer the term "Checking up on" LOL.
Originally posted by
GravyCakes
Have you Facebook stalked anyone? How far is too far? Please elaborate.
09/22/2011
I think everyone has done some facebook stalking..or at least has thought about it..and I hate to say it, but I don't think anything is off limits..secretly haha
09/25/2011
Guilty of creeping. If it's on FB I'm going to consider it fair game. I've most recently taken to creeping an acquaintance of mine who I only see a few times a year, but recently had a bonding experience with and would like to get to know better. I'm shy though and afraid of rejection and he's kind of...mysterious, I guess, so I'm just kind of creeping and making little comments here and there on current stuff. It made me feel better when he posted a comment on an old profile picture of mine, so I know he's creeping too! lol! I should call him out on it and see where that goes.
09/27/2011
i think stalking of any kind is wrong that said there is stalking and there is keeping up to date with whats going on with a friend
09/27/2011
I sometimes like to look at profiles of old friends or old crushes, and occasionally will look through pictures, but I've never really read all their info.
10/14/2011
Not really FB stalking, but there are a couple of people I'm not friends with that I pull up from time to time to see if there's anything interesting.
10/14/2011
I've never actually stalked anyone on facebook for myself, but I've done it for a friend! On a regular basis! Because she thought this guy was cute, and she doesn't like to be the one to "judge" the guys she thinks are cute, because she doesn't catch little indicators that they might not be such a great person, so she had me go on and follow them for a while and see what type of person they appeared to be. I never found anything wrong with it because it wasn't for me, but I think I'd feel weird following someone on there for myself. I have my own creepers on there, and I don't want to be like them!
I do, however, keep a close eye on people I don't like. Mostly so I can poke fun at their status' with my friends. Oh yes, for women in our 20s we are so mature
I do, however, keep a close eye on people I don't like. Mostly so I can poke fun at their status' with my friends. Oh yes, for women in our 20s we are so mature
10/14/2011
Hate facebook
10/14/2011
I wouldn't call what I do "stalking" lmao
I have a sister that's 16 1/2, just about 10 yrs between us & my mom isn't her friend on facebook, "its not cool" to be moms friend when your 16 I guess. So I have to "check up" on her to make sure there is no troube or anything like that. May not be the "ok" thing to do but it's an easy way to make sure she is ok without being a paun in her ass or being nosey. If I see an issue I don't report it to our mother either, I ask her if she needs me to handle it. . There may be a big age gap but she is my sister & I'd scare the shit out of someone if they were to big for her to deal with on her own lmao
I have a sister that's 16 1/2, just about 10 yrs between us & my mom isn't her friend on facebook, "its not cool" to be moms friend when your 16 I guess. So I have to "check up" on her to make sure there is no troube or anything like that. May not be the "ok" thing to do but it's an easy way to make sure she is ok without being a paun in her ass or being nosey. If I see an issue I don't report it to our mother either, I ask her if she needs me to handle it. . There may be a big age gap but she is my sister & I'd scare the shit out of someone if they were to big for her to deal with on her own lmao
10/14/2011
Never stalked anyone.
10/16/2011
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Seldomly do i find a reason to fb stalk someone, im much better at it IRL.
Originally posted by
GravyCakes
Have you Facebook stalked anyone? How far is too far? Please elaborate.
lol
02/05/2012
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Haha, yeess! lol!
Originally posted by
Badass
Seldomly do i find a reason to fb stalk someone, im much better at it IRL.
lol
lol
02/05/2012
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Its not worth my time to, I haven't done it
Originally posted by
GravyCakes
Have you Facebook stalked anyone? How far is too far? Please elaborate.
02/10/2012
I don't put up any info I don't want others to know about, so I don't have a problem with creeping in general.
02/10/2012
I guess I have "stalked" people I was interested in. I look at their pictures and info, but I don't memorize their entire friend's list or anything. I'm just curious about the,, that's all.
04/05/2012
It's always going too far. I've done it before and probably the worst person I've Facebook stalked was my ex. I just ended up hurting myself.
04/05/2012
I creep facebook ALL the time. I have a lot of those friends who post every single thing that pops into their head though, so I already feel like I know too much.
04/06/2012
I guess I facebook stalk (don't like that wording, would prefer lurk) my ex, seeing how he's doing, if he's found someone else. Frankly it's not worth my time as he's rarely on .
I also lurk watching someone I love/loved facebook's page who married someone else.. but again they are on like once a month if that.
I look up crushes too.
It's not like I'm constantly staring at their pages or fingering myself to their pictures so frankly I don't see the harm.
I would imagine (and I guess hope) someone was curious about me as well.
I also lurk watching someone I love/loved facebook's page who married someone else.. but again they are on like once a month if that.
I look up crushes too.
It's not like I'm constantly staring at their pages or fingering myself to their pictures so frankly I don't see the harm.
I would imagine (and I guess hope) someone was curious about me as well.
05/02/2012
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Every once in awhile I will just check up on my exes. It's curiosity, and I don't get crazy in depth. I don't care if they're single or who their friends are, etc.
Originally posted by
GravyCakes
Have you Facebook stalked anyone? How far is too far? Please elaborate.
05/02/2012
i find the reason that people use FB to stalk an ex's creepy
05/02/2012
yes several females. i have even made fake facebook pages and they accept lol. i see there post and pics. i use it to my advantage. expample. this chick onc posted how she wants to go to this new restuartant in the city. an i said i wana take her out and took her there and when she got there she was shocked and like omg i was just literrally telling all my fb friends i wanted to come here so bad lol.
05/02/2012
Yes im guilty lol
05/14/2012
ive looked at people's profiles but not to the point where its stalking
05/18/2012
ive gone through peoples Facebook but i wouldn't consider it stalking
06/05/2012
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i check others' facebook pages especially if it's someone i just started talking to, but not other than that..
Originally posted by
GravyCakes
Have you Facebook stalked anyone? How far is too far? Please elaborate.
06/05/2012
I think in general "getting to know" someone is slowly becoming more stigmatized to make people seeking companionship in any way seem desperate. I think that if you try and find out things about the person in a bad way (getting onto another person's FB account to look at a person you are not friends with, for example) that's creepy, though.
06/05/2012
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Nope, I don't use facebook really.
Originally posted by
GravyCakes
Have you Facebook stalked anyone? How far is too far? Please elaborate.
06/07/2012
I avoid Facebook entirely.
10/08/2012
yes i have to find out info on them then when i speak to them i know how to start a convo and then they are in love lol
10/09/2012
Only very mild stuff.
10/10/2012
Haha I have a funny story. There was this guy that worked in grocery store. He always looked at me and flirted with me. So I thought well maybe he likes me.
10/10/2012
I think almost everyone has at least looked up someone they were curious about.
10/10/2012
I think everybody does.
10/10/2012
Nope I don't, I look at my page and call it good.
10/10/2012
Honestly, I don't really see anything wrong with it... I really like finding information, so sometimes even if I don't really care I'll google someone or "facebook stalk" them. If you don't use the information against them, who cares? After all, they were the ones that made it publicly accessible. If you don't want people to know it, you need to become more conscious of what you do and do not share.
10/11/2012
I don't use facebook....I do have an account so people can get in touch with me if necessary, but I have made an effort not to go on it anymore. I felt like it was toying with my mental health to see how "happy" and "cool" everyone was, and comparing myself to that. Of course, most people only portray the best version of themselves, so it's not complete truth.
Trust me, life is SO much easier when you're not checking other fb pages!!
Trust me, life is SO much easier when you're not checking other fb pages!!
10/11/2012
No, I have never Facebook stalked anyone
10/11/2012
I did but he was an ex/first love and it's how I found out his girlfriend was pregnant. Sad me.
Basically never did it again after that.
Basically never did it again after that.
02/07/2013
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