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Contributor: Breas Breas
This is just a fun little poll to make you think.. I have asked a few family members/friends this question and the answers I get are pretty interesting...

Okay so here is the scenario:

You are offered 1 BILLION dollars, but the catch is, is that everyone you have ever known (even your family), will lose their memory of you. So basically, you are a stranger to them.

You are able to become close with any of these people that once knew you, but you will have to rebuild the relationship from the ground up. Also, telling them about past memories together is useless, as they will NEVER EVER remember (and most likely think you are crazy).

You will have all memories still, but they will have none of you.

Anyways, I guess this is kinda "useless" because this will never happen, but I thought it would be kinda interesting for others to think about and to read eachothers replies.. Also, I am wondering if there would be a major difference between those that have a child(ren), or are married/single, etc.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes I would take the money.
Ghost , wetone123 , hjtee , PropertyOfPotter , ThoughtsAblaze , Sir , Ansley , JRabbits , aliceinthehole , ~LaUr3n~ , Eva Schwaltz , Taylor , Scott Ghost , Inwitari , null , Apirka , Cherrylane , shcoo , bayosgirl , Badass , geliebt , allinonekid , Harpina is gone , Nazaress , Narr , Gone (LD29) , Sundae Sparkles , FallFire , Scrawberry78 , ginnyluvspotter
30  (22%)
No I would refuse the money.
EJ , sexyintexas , The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary , Ms. Spice , Tuesday , Ryuson , Jul!a , SaMiKaY , AndroAngel , caligaliber , Peggi , Rossie , Yaoi Pervette (deleted) , ellejay , GenderSexplorations , dv8 , Ace <3 , padmeamidala , ZenaidaMacroura , Howells , Shellz31 , Ninja Wolf , Kkay , Rin (aka Nire) , Linga , SiNn , married with children , Powder , Lucky21 , Diablotin , newfoundlust , darthkitt3n , Sunshineamine , Errant Venture , guard083 , FaerieLove , link82 , iLashe , The Curious Couple , toxie m , southern woman , haley730 , slynch , Beck , Miss T , Silverdrop , EnMH , Midway through , OhMy! , jeangel246 , DeliciousSurprise , Pink Jewel , DeliciousDrip , Valentinka , NicNat , Seventeen , MrWishyWashy , - Kira - , Sweet-Justice , WhoopieDoo , karay123 , starryeyedangel , Vanille , Eucaly , Megan Jean , (k)InkyIvy , EdenJP , MissCandyland , LilLostLenore , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , Cherry21 , poetprincess , Allstars316 , Princess-Kayla ♥ , Fun with Dick & Jane , DreamWolf , FemmeFlo , GONE! , SaraU29 , jbknows , KyotoAngel , Zombirella , te , samanthalynn , AndromedaJane , Lola Park , TheSlyFox , voenne , sparksrebbecca , Emerlyn , Feisty , KrissyNovacaine , sexxxkitten , SimpleTeaser , deltalima , eeep , SMichelle , Airen Wolf , lovebites , lineswecast , Billie Bones , Abombadong , pirata , SkylarrStarr , nicole098
105  (78%)
Total votes: 135
Poll is closed
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Contributor: JessCee JessCee
A billion dollars is a lot of money.... dang. I hate greed and money... it makes these questions so hard to answer! I guess I could always build up the relationships again, some of the memories would be good to forget so I could start new and have better relationships with certain people, but some of the memories forgotten would be priceless.

I have a strong urge to say I'd take the money, but an even stronger urge to refuse it... but maybe only because I feel like that's the more "acceptable" answer... ughhh, let me think about it...
09/03/2011
Contributor: sexyintexas sexyintexas
No because, while I know where my man hangs out (I could meet him again) and what he likes (so we could date again) I would be devastated without my family and children.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
Quote:
Originally posted by JessCee
A billion dollars is a lot of money.... dang. I hate greed and money... it makes these questions so hard to answer! I guess I could always build up the relationships again, some of the memories would be good to forget so I could start new and have ... more
I know! It is a pretty tough question! For some people it is easier to answer, but others it's quite difficult! It really depends on so many things...

I think just a FEW (of the MANY) things it would depend on are:

1. If you have children
2. The age of the children
3. If you have a career
4. If you are married/single
5. If you have many close friends
6. If most of your family has passed away
7. If you have ever done anything to someone (or more than one) that you regret immensely
7. How confident you are in your ability to regain these connections
8. If you have weird stalkers lol
9. If you have a negative stigma attached to you
10. If you have a lot of enemies
11. Your dependency on others
12. Others dependency on you

There really is no right or wrong answer... I just come up with really crazy questions sometimes to ask my family and friends.. I guess I just like starting conversations that can really get people discussing and thinking about something they would never really think about before bringing it up... I guess I have too much time on my hands, my brain runs wild! lol
09/03/2011
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Quote:
Originally posted by Breas
This is just a fun little poll to make you think.. I have asked a few family members/friends this question and the answers I get are pretty interesting...

Okay so here is the scenario:

You are offered 1 BILLION dollars, but the catch ... more
Gotta agree there are alot of ifs on this one.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
For the people who voted "No, I'd refuse the money"; would you vote differently if it were say, 100 billion dollars?
09/03/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
Quote:
Originally posted by Breas
This is just a fun little poll to make you think.. I have asked a few family members/friends this question and the answers I get are pretty interesting...

Okay so here is the scenario:

You are offered 1 BILLION dollars, but the catch ... more
NO!!! HELL NO!! I suffered a lot of memory loss with the car accident that happened to me a couple of years ago. It is very lonely to hear about memories I no longer share, and also frustrating for my friends and family to try to "make" me remember. No money in the world is worth that!
09/03/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
Quote:
Originally posted by Breas
For the people who voted "No, I'd refuse the money"; would you vote differently if it were say, 100 billion dollars?
Double HELL NO!!
09/03/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
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No way! The only reason that I want money is to make my life with the ones I love more comfortable!
09/03/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
That is a lot of money, but I would want to be able to use any money I come into to help build my life with my husband and I can't very well do that if he has no idea who I am. I'd rather spend my time with my loved ones than have a lot of money and have to rebuild 23 years of relationships.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Ghost Ghost
I'd take the money. I have no qualms about losing my family: I can build a new one. My family never appreciated me very much anyway because I wasn't peppy enough.
09/03/2011
Contributor: SaMiKaY SaMiKaY
My friends and family mean more to me than money. =)

It did make me think about it though... And I know several people who wouldn't think twice about taking the money.
09/03/2011
Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
Quote:
Originally posted by Ghost
I'd take the money. I have no qualms about losing my family: I can build a new one. My family never appreciated me very much anyway because I wasn't peppy enough.
My family never appreciated me either; for unknown reasons to me. I'd gladly trade them in for a family who loved me. And spend the money on them! Got no man, got nobody. Got nothing to lose...
09/03/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
Absolutely not. The people I care about are entirely too important to me. I have no children (thank goodness) but I do have a long term partner who I'd trade the world for. $1 billion isn't close to enough, there isn't anything more valuable to me than him except my free will.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
Honestly, I would say yes, take the money, if I weren't in the relationship I am in now, but having that money and risking the possibility that somehow I may end up changing the relationship all together (because I'd be so comfortable around him, I wouldn't do things the way I did when we were first dating) wouldn't be worth it.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
My husband and my family are worth more than a lousy $1 billion.
09/03/2011
Contributor: GenderSexplorations GenderSexplorations
Yeah, definitely not. I share too many good memories with the people I care about. Wouldn't want to lose that!
09/03/2011
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I would take the money. I'm not that close with anyone other than my husband. We have tons of pictures and videos....plus I think we could have a stronger relationship if we could eliminate some of the pain that we've experienced in our relationship.
09/03/2011
Contributor: ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
Just talked about this with my man, and we both agreed that we'd take the money. The key is that everyone else would lose memory of us, not that we would lose memory of everyone. That means that I would still be able to find him and my friends and establish a relationship again.

Now, if the rule had been that *I* would forget everyone, then I would refuse the money.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
Quote:
Originally posted by ThoughtsAblaze
Just talked about this with my man, and we both agreed that we'd take the money. The key is that everyone else would lose memory of us, not that we would lose memory of everyone. That means that I would still be able to find him and my friends ... more
I love the fact that you talked about it with your partner. Very interesting points you make. I also would be able to say no much quicker if I were to lose the memories
09/03/2011
Contributor: Ace <3 Ace <3
Money is worth nothing if you have no one to be with. And any new memories you make will most likely be in favor of you being rich, and not the original reason you became friends.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
I'd take the money. Everyone outside of my immediate three family members has either abandoned me or led me to hell. Only people I'd actually miss are my sisters and father. No, money doesn't buy love, but you know what? Love only goes so far. So I'd rather be alone and rich than alone and poor. Because either way, I'm still alone.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
Quote:
Originally posted by Breas
For the people who voted "No, I'd refuse the money"; would you vote differently if it were say, 100 billion dollars?
Nice one, upping the ante.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
I'd take the money. Everyone outside of my immediate three family members has either abandoned me or led me to hell. Only people I'd actually miss are my sisters and father. No, money doesn't buy love, but you know what? Love only goes so ... more
everyone outside of my immediate family I am not close to... My dad's side of the family .. well, they really have no memories of me already so that wouldnt be a weighing factor.

I think it'd be easy for me to become close with my mom again. she is my best friend, and all of our interests are basically the same, so we'd become friends again. My sister too. I think it'd be harder to become "friends" with my dad though, and I would hate the fact of losing having him in my life. My dad is quite older though, so if he passed away, the choice would be easier to make.

I'm pretty easy to get along with, and I don't have that hard of a time making friends.. so reconnecting with my close friends now, and making new friendships wouldnt be a difficult task for me.

I havent voted... yet. I still am unsure of what I would do. I find it a really hard decision (even though its not real lol) because there are so many weighing factors.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
I am also wondering if I had made the voting private it the answers would be different... I think a lot of people are looking at this question as if it is asking if money is more important than your loved ones...

I can see it being looked at like that from first glance... but to really think about it, it involves so much more than that.. I probably just have way too much time on my hands to think about random, never-going-to-happen scenarios lol..
09/03/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
Quote:
Originally posted by Breas
everyone outside of my immediate family I am not close to... My dad's side of the family .. well, they really have no memories of me already so that wouldnt be a weighing factor.

I think it'd be easy for me to become close with my mom ... more
I see what you mean. I have this terrible personality trait, though, where I detach very easily. I get that from my mother actually, and I am not fond of her. I've only had two people in my life who I've truly felt a deep connection with, and it's very difficult for me to deal with. So having them forget about me, maybe it's for the best. I kind of wish that my memory would be wiped too, though.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
I see what you mean. I have this terrible personality trait, though, where I detach very easily. I get that from my mother actually, and I am not fond of her. I've only had two people in my life who I've truly felt a deep connection with, and ... more
Eek! Not me! If my memory was wiped, I would refuse the money immediately. Only because all of the things I have done, the people I have met, etc etc has shaped how I make decisions today and how I look at things. I would hate to have my memory wiped of some people, and then end up being friends with a jerk again who will eff me over. Or dating someone that I already broke up with in the past because I have no memory of their shittyness.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
Quote:
Originally posted by Breas
Eek! Not me! If my memory was wiped, I would refuse the money immediately. Only because all of the things I have done, the people I have met, etc etc has shaped how I make decisions today and how I look at things. I would hate to have my memory wiped ... more
No, I meant memory wiped of human interactions. I could do without those. If I retain my knowledge of math and BDSM, then all is well in my world. But I see what you mean. Perhaps that's why I'd like to forget.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
No way. I'm not money orientated so my friends and family mean a hell of a lot more than any amount of money!
09/03/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
Quote:
Originally posted by Breas
For the people who voted "No, I'd refuse the money"; would you vote differently if it were say, 100 billion dollars?
No, my answer would still be the same.
Yes I need money to suvive, but I was never brought up on a lot of money and I don't have that strong desire to be rich.
With the way things are now, I'm happy and appreciate what I have. I don't want to become one of those rich people who don't have respect for anything or anyone cause they have so much money to throw around they can buy anything and pretty much anyone.

No thank you - I have what I need and I'm blessed to have loving family. I wouldn't change it for any amount!
09/03/2011