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Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
I was in the store Spencers tonight at the mall and I just noticed a lot of young kids in there. I saw one girl about my age with a child probably 5 years old an a toddler in a stroller. Maybe it's just me but I don't think they should be letting kids in that store. At least a curtain or something should be put up like they have in the Waterbeds N Stuff store where you have to be 18 to enter that part of the store. I'm not going to lie when I was 13 I went in with my friends and we would laugh and be all "ewww gross!" about the sex related stuff but I'm sure my mother wouldn't have wanted me in there. I know when I have pre-teen or younger, even a certain age teenager I don't want them going in there seeing pot related stuff along with stripper poles, sex toys and such. Anyone else think it's a bit wrong? I'm not trying to be all "this is an outrage" just find it inappropriate. I'm curious as to why there isn't a rule implied.

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Agree. Children shouldn't be in those kinds of stores
Nazaress , js250 , Bignuf , EnChAnTiNg , BlooJay , darthkitt3n , Snozzberries , mpfm , DeliciousSurprise , slynch , Missmarc , married with children , Kissy , poetprincess , TheSinDoll , Bigkc , wdanas , bayosgirl , Errant Venture , Fun with Dick & Jane , deltalima , CountryPrincess , Sundae Sparkles , TheGreat , FHeemz , Terri69 , Vanille , CaliGirl
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Disagree. I see nothing wrong with it
EdenJP , Chirple , SaMiKaY , BobbiJay , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , NicNat , dv8
7
I really don't care
MrWishyWashy , Modern^Spank^Anthem , Crystal1 , Puss in Boots , blacklodge , Ansley , SMichelle , Secret Pleasure , jeangel246 , Unconventional , Trysexual
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Total votes: 46 (46 voters)
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Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
I kind of agree, though maybe not to an extreme. I "tsk-tsk" when I see people bringing children into Spencer's. There is almost NOTHING in Spencer's that isn't adult. There's lingerie, sex toys, and products with adult words and humor all over the place!
02/01/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
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Originally posted by Nazaress
I kind of agree, though maybe not to an extreme. I "tsk-tsk" when I see people bringing children into Spencer's. There is almost NOTHING in Spencer's that isn't adult. There's lingerie, sex toys, and products with adult ... more
Exactly. I wonder if they let the younger people buy inappropriate stuff. When I was 16 I bought a pair of handcuffs from there without any questions (I wanted to hang them on my rearview mirror because I thought I was "cool"), I know that isn't exactly sexual but it came from that area of the store.
02/01/2012
Contributor: EdenJP EdenJP
Quote:
Originally posted by Zombirella
I was in the store Spencers tonight at the mall and I just noticed a lot of young kids in there. I saw one girl about my age with a child probably 5 years old an a toddler in a stroller. Maybe it's just me but I don't think they should be ... more
dont see anything wrong with it
02/01/2012
Contributor: MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
I haven't been in that store in a while, so not sure what they have nowadays. But I don't remember anything over the top that would require a curtain, etc. to see anything offered for sale in the store.
02/01/2012
Contributor: Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
they try to section it but kids go in anyway
02/01/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
I agree, children should not be in that area of the store. However, I remember being a teenager and you couldn't have kept me out of those stores. I would have found a way to get in.
02/01/2012
Contributor: wrmbreze wrmbreze
Quote:
Originally posted by Nazaress
I kind of agree, though maybe not to an extreme. I "tsk-tsk" when I see people bringing children into Spencer's. There is almost NOTHING in Spencer's that isn't adult. There's lingerie, sex toys, and products with adult ... more
I go into the store with my kids and direct them away from that stuff. As a parent thats my job.
02/01/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Zombirella
I was in the store Spencers tonight at the mall and I just noticed a lot of young kids in there. I saw one girl about my age with a child probably 5 years old an a toddler in a stroller. Maybe it's just me but I don't think they should be ... more
Our Spencers has a NO ONE UNDER 18 admitted, sign on their mall door and I have SEEN them enforce it.
02/01/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by wrmbreze
I go into the store with my kids and direct them away from that stuff. As a parent thats my job.
Oh, but how few parents actually do their jobs!!!!
02/01/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
Our store layout is bad, right off you have the obscene shirts, the pot related stuff then another wall of drinking/pot and the middle/back corner you have sex toys and penis galore bachelorette stuff. I felt so uncomfortable in there tonight with my fiance, I was looking at some vibes and a teen came up with her friends and was saying OMG who would buy a dildo that is so stupid, eww and so on. I just kinda turned like I was starting at the fake vomit and stuff lol. I felt like a pervert, I know it's stupid but I did lol!
02/02/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
It would probably be best if children stayed out. There is no telling what they would see.
02/02/2012
Contributor: darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
I've gone in there and seen kids maybe 10-14 years old looking at all the sex toys. The store closest to where I live is probably 90% adult items, with the rest being jewelry, purses, and belts. I don't like going in there and seeing kids. It just makes me want to leave, especially since some kids can be obnoxious and make a mess if they aren't being watched by a parent.
02/02/2012
Contributor: Chirple Chirple
Maybe other stores are different, but the one near me is rather harmless.

Some of it's kinda tasteless, but meh.

I figure if you can get to the mall by yourself, you're probably old enough to see hilariously vanilla and cheap sex/joke toys. And maybe I'm jaded because I live near a big university and have all my life, but you see random pot-related things everywhere and it doesn't bother me. You see alcohol-related stuff ALL OVER. :/

As for parents bringing in little kids - it can be annoying, just like bringing crying babies to rated-R movies and the like, but I doubt it's harmful.
02/02/2012
Contributor: Snozzberries Snozzberries
I would not let my kids in there. That is not the kind of lifestyle or attitude I want to promote.

It's funny when you know better but possibly damaging to a kid's sense of right and wrong behaviour.
02/02/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
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Originally posted by darthkitt3n
I've gone in there and seen kids maybe 10-14 years old looking at all the sex toys. The store closest to where I live is probably 90% adult items, with the rest being jewelry, purses, and belts. I don't like going in there and seeing kids. It ... more
This is how the store near me is. And the non-adult stuff is spread throughout so you have to walk by the 'dirty' stuff no matter what. It's not so much the toddler/babies that I hate being in there (though still I don't think they NEED to be brought in) but the ones old enough to want to know what that is. I'm not a parent yet but I have no idea how I would explain the sex related items in there to my child especially the preteen age. I could better explain it to say, a 16 year old.
02/02/2012
Contributor: Puss in Boots Puss in Boots
I've been going in spencers since I was about five (they had backstreet boys trading cards, see) and it hasn't had a negative affect on me. I don't see the big deal. Kids and teens are already hugely exposed to sex and drugs. If you wouldn't want your kids to see it, then you should be the one responsible for keeping them out of there, not the store. That would just lose them business.
02/02/2012
Contributor: BobbiJay BobbiJay
I agree kids should not be in parts of the store, but I take my 6 year son in there with me sometimes. I never let him go into the erotic area.
02/02/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
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Originally posted by Zombirella
I was in the store Spencers tonight at the mall and I just noticed a lot of young kids in there. I saw one girl about my age with a child probably 5 years old an a toddler in a stroller. Maybe it's just me but I don't think they should be ... more
I am not really a fan of Spencers.
02/02/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
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Originally posted by Bignuf
Oh, but how few parents actually do their jobs!!!!
Isn't that the truth.
02/02/2012
Contributor: married with children married with children
I agree with you on this. but its up to the parents to do their job of parenting their kids. You can just turn on the news and see that this does not happen any more.
02/03/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
At all of our locations here, there's a very heavy-handed policy about unaccompianied minors in the store. So I can't say that I've ever really cared about seeing kids in there. I used to go in when I was a teenager, but I didn't cause a scene and there isn't anything they have that I couldn't have found on television, in a magazine or on a web page. And in my opinion, they've toned down a lot of their stuff in the last couple of years because not a lot of people are interested in that stuff.
02/03/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I myself can't say that i disagree because i have brought my son in there but they do need to put the adult stuff more discreet where the kids can't see it. Thank god my son stays up where the toy stuff is at.
02/03/2012
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
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Originally posted by Zombirella
I was in the store Spencers tonight at the mall and I just noticed a lot of young kids in there. I saw one girl about my age with a child probably 5 years old an a toddler in a stroller. Maybe it's just me but I don't think they should be ... more
Hummmm.... wow I'm torn. I think there is an age of awareness thing which is kind of fluid based on your own kids. I would not have an issue with an infant or even young toddler who has no idea what the stuff is... but as they get older.... Now because I grew up all over the world I kind of have a fucked up working view. When I lived in Greece I could drink at 13 and everyone ran around topless at the beach. When I was in Korea the hookera would come up and try to pick up on my dad and step brothers all the time when we were out. I smoked from age 12 on until I got knocked up with kid number 1 - but haven't touched a cig since in almost 16 years. I have gone into semi-adult stores with my kids when they were 2 and 3 and was totally fine but at 7 and 8 no way. On the other hand if the 15 year old goes in to Spencers so what - but I still wouldn't be down with my 13 year old. Hard question really and I guess it should be up to the individual parents to decide. I know that some of our friends freak that my kids play blackops and war games. Same ones who freak that we take the 7 &8 year old to the range and let them shoot the twin glocks that the 13 and 15 year olds own. But our other circle of friends have their kids right along side. I guess if your going to take them you better be fully prepared to get the "what's that?" And have an answer ready...
02/04/2012
Contributor: NicNat NicNat
I dissagree, spencers isn't just a store for sex and dirty stuff, they have a lot of cute band tees, posters, and hats, and jewlery there.

I do think that spencers should be a 2 room store, the front side for everyone with stuff kid frinedly, and a back room that has the sex toys, dirty or pot related posters and other pot related stuff. There should also be a sign that says like 16-17 or older, or at least say 'If a Minor, needs parent super vision'

I disagree with the hole 18 or older to look at sex toys(only if parent there though) just because when my daughter gets older i rather her fuck a toy then a nother man and risk getting pregnant or some sort of STD. Agreed?
02/04/2012
Contributor: poetprincess poetprincess
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Originally posted by Zombirella
I was in the store Spencers tonight at the mall and I just noticed a lot of young kids in there. I saw one girl about my age with a child probably 5 years old an a toddler in a stroller. Maybe it's just me but I don't think they should be ... more
I find it disturbing that they sell that stuff right there in the malls where teens can see them and get a hold of them..
02/06/2012
Contributor: TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
I agree - to a point. I take my 13 & 14 year old girls in Spencers.They have some cool stuff. They enjoy spending a good bit of their own money there.

We usually skip the tour of the back, where most of the sex stuff is located, but I'm sure they've seen it, but that's not their first introduction to sex. We took care of that a long time ago as parents, so it isn't that new and shocking to them. The behavior of those kids running in and out like idiots are. Any chance I get to let loose a bevy of nasty words on one of them, I take.

However, the most important part, my kids are in there with an adult, clearly looking at merchandise, in order to make a purchase. There's an obvious difference.

Maybe an 18+ unless accompanied by an adult sign- sounds about right.
02/06/2012
Contributor: Bigkc Bigkc
Maybe it is just me, but I think any one under fifteen should not be allowed in. After that age then they would be smart enough that if they want to see what the store has they could just go online.
02/06/2012
Contributor: Secret Pleasure Secret Pleasure
I might get a lot of flack for my opinion but I am entitle to it as is everyone else to theirs. I personally don't think its a big deal at all. Don't get me wrong I do not think children should be exposed to certain things to early, but its just a store and I don't think theres anything in there thats to bad or that I wouldn't let my daughter see no matter what age.
02/06/2012
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
I don't know what this Spencers is, but if it's a sex toy store then I'm on the fence. I went into a sex toy store when I was a pre-teen, and I didn't have a problem with it. but at the same time I do think that kids should at least be accompanied. Luckily, all the sex toy stores I've been to (too few, sadly) all have an 18 or above only policy, and have a knock and wait until accepted to enter policy.
02/06/2012