Married Couples: Do you sleep in the same bed?

Married Couples: Do you sleep in the same bed?

ToyGurl ToyGurl
I found out the other day that a lot of people I know (who are married) sleep in seperate beds. I find this to be so... weird. Simply because I have always wanted to sleep in a bed with someone each night. My husband and I go to bed in our king size and we sleep just fine. A lot of the couples say they can't stand their lover's snoring, or it gets too hot and uncomfortable. I even have a good friend who sleeps in seperate rooms. Occasionally they sleep together in the wife's room, but that's only on special nights. So what about you?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
We sleep in different beds
We sleep in different rooms
5  (9%)
We sleep in the same bed
45  (85%)
Other
3  (6%)
Total votes: 53
Poll is closed
09/05/2011
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TameTemptress TameTemptress
I sleep in the same bed with my husband... I do know a few friends and family members don't sleep in the same bed as their spouse. My (happily married) grandparents have their own bedrooms, even!
09/05/2011
Rossie Rossie
We sleep in the same bed. Sometimes we'll joke about getting our own beds, my husband rolls around and always ends up in the middle of our bed. By the time when I go to sleep, I have to push him back to his side.
09/05/2011
froggiemoma froggiemoma
When I was married for about 4 yrs of that marriage we slept in different rooms except for "special" times. I sleep in the same room now with my live in bf. I do know of a lot of people who sleep in seperate rooms like that though.
09/05/2011
hjtee hjtee
We sleep in the same bed, but I have a friend who has never slept in the same bed with her husband, even after sex they go to separate rooms. They are both very overweight, and snore loudly, so they prefer the comfort & quiet of separate rooms.
09/05/2011
Kkay Kkay
We share a bed. That changes when I'm feeling particularly badly though, as I'd keep my husband up all night, and he needs a good night's sleep for work.
09/05/2011
Wondermom Wondermom
right now different rooms, but soon it will be same room separate beds because my son is moving into his own room finally. I have a chronic pain condition and can't sleep in the bed with anyone else.
09/05/2011
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
We share a bed, but sometimes we fight and sleep in different beds...
09/05/2011
Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
We sleep in the same bed, but sometimes I think I'd be more comfortable in my own bed.
09/05/2011
Taylor Taylor
I'm not married, but my parents never slept in the same bedroom when I was growing up. I have a really hard time sleeping when someone else is in the bed with me, so who knows I might choose to sleep in a different room too.
09/05/2011
SaMiKaY SaMiKaY
I always sleep in the same bed is my boyfriend. Sure, he snores, is hot and sweaty 110% of the time, and gets up and down alot... But I am able to look past that. =) In my opinion, all of that is comforting. It lets me know he is still there!
09/05/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
studies support that couples that sleep in separate beds actually have better marriages then those who sleep together. but i'm a cuddler so i'll probably sleep in the same bed when i have a partner/ get married
09/05/2011
newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
I found out the other day that a lot of people I know (who are married) sleep in seperate beds. I find this to be so... weird. Simply because I have always wanted to sleep in a bed with someone each night. My husband and I go to bed in our king size ...
I have sleep apnea and until I got a cpap machine my wife had to stop sleeping in the same room. Thankfully the machine allowed her back. It was not a joke she could not sleep.
09/05/2011
CSEA CSEA
Quote:
Originally posted by SaMiKaY
I always sleep in the same bed is my boyfriend. Sure, he snores, is hot and sweaty 110% of the time, and gets up and down alot... But I am able to look past that. =) In my opinion, all of that is comforting. It lets me know he is still there!
I feel exactly the same!
09/06/2011
emiliaa emiliaa
I'd be heartbroken if my boyfriend said he wanted to do that when we moved in together. I love waking up next to him and cuddling him while i sleep.
09/06/2011
meitman meitman
My wife and I don't sleep as well when we don't sleep in the same bed. Kinda weird, but I'm ok with it
09/06/2011
southern woman southern woman
Absolutely sleep in the same bed! I couldn't sleep without him next to me! Even when we've gotten mad at each other, we still have to sleep in the same bed.. Neither one of us can stand it.. The one time i got mad and went and laid on the couch, my husband came in the livingroom, picked me up, and carried me to bed. Thats just how it is.
09/06/2011
Angelica Angelica
I would love to have my own bed and room if i got married. I just need my space, and Im a bed hog and its so hard for me to be comfy lying next to someone. Plus i'm such a light sleeper if they get up for something im up as well.
09/06/2011
Ghost Ghost
Technically, yes, we share a bed. But between the cat and I, my husband sometimes sleeps on the very edge or the floor. ;3
09/06/2011
married with children married with children
yes, same bed. same side of the bed every night also.
09/07/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
When we first started living together it took us months to be able to sleep soundly. He hadn't shared a room, except for college, with anyone since he was a small child and both of us had room mates in college. But, I was an only child growing up, so I was used to sleeping alone, too. We had to work on sleeping together. I'm a very light sleeper, but being next to him is worth the occasional interruption.

Many studies have found that the time spent awake during the night early in a live in relationship actually helps couples bond. They have more sex, they talk, they touch each other, they laugh together. I know we talked about everything under the sun those months when neither of us could sleep well, and eventually we were able to sleep together well. I KNOW it helped us bond even more.

My Man's parents had separate rooms, and I mentioned it once. His mother said it was due to his father's coughing (he was a long time smoker and had chronic bronchitis and emphysema, COPD and the lung cancer that killed him.) But, My Man told me, "It started long before he ever got sick. That will NEVER be us." Basically for them, it was a solution that was less "embarrassing" than divorce and they obviously weren't having much or any sex anymore (he used to hear his father screaming and yelling about it. Yeah, his dad was real piece of ... work.)

My parents eventually had the guts to admit it was over and get divorced ("what people think" be darned) but they slept in the same bed until the day they broke up.

I love sleeping next to My Man, even on nights when he's all over the bed (like tonight, which is one of the reasons I'm online so late) But, I'll be back in bed with him in a few minutes.

So much sex is spontaneous, and we often start while one or both of us are asleep, I don't want to miss any of that. And, just touching him while I am sleeping is comforting, sensual, arousing and lovely. I wouldn't get my own room for anything in the world.
09/07/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
Quote:
Originally posted by newfoundlust
I have sleep apnea and until I got a cpap machine my wife had to stop sleeping in the same room. Thankfully the machine allowed her back. It was not a joke she could not sleep.
I have sleep apnea too. It seems to be off and on and it's funny because I don't totally understand it. My doctor kinda just said "it's sleep apnea, no biggie" and shrugged it off. But I hum in my sleep and wake myself up when I can't breathe. My husband has gotten used to the humming but I find a mouth guard helps a lot. I have Epilepsy and I have what is called a VNS (Vagal Nerve Stimulator) which causes this problem.
09/07/2011
catgirl9 catgirl9
Quote:
Originally posted by married with children
yes, same bed. same side of the bed every night also.
Same here. I have a hard time falling asleep if we switch sides.
09/07/2011
SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
I found out the other day that a lot of people I know (who are married) sleep in seperate beds. I find this to be so... weird. Simply because I have always wanted to sleep in a bed with someone each night. My husband and I go to bed in our king size ...
id go nutts if I couldnt sleep next to him or him nxt to me
09/07/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
Even though I can only sleep literally next to him when it's cold out and we often end up on opposite ends of the bed facing opposite directions, I still really enjoy being able to sleep in the same bed as my husband. For me, it's comforting to know that he's right there if I need him for anything.
09/07/2011
PassionQT PassionQT
For now we share a bed, but there's a twin size in my office if one of us can't sleep and that happens often. I guess we aren't compatible sleep partners due to nightmares, staying awake, tossing and turning, cover stealing, night sweats, etc...it happens. We'd both rather get the sleep we need. I think that as long as two people make time together in one bed, whether it be talking or having sex, it's ok to sleep separately and get the needed rest. We've already agreed that if one day we have a larger home , we will have separate bedrooms for sleeping.
09/07/2011
leatherlover leatherlover
We share a bed, and we are always cuddling when we fall asleep. I know both my parents and my in laws sleep in separate beds now, where they used to sleep together. For my parents, it is because of my dad's snoring. For the in laws, it is also for his snoring, and because she likes it REALLY cold in her room.
09/07/2011
Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
Me and my boyfriend sleep in the same bed. I couldn't think of not sleeping with him. On the other hand my boyfriends parents don't sleep in the same room. I don't know why. I've asked and she said, It's because she doesn't want too. I think its odd. I sometimes I think his parents only stayed together because she had gotten pregnant. They treat eachother so bad sometimes it's hard to think they could be married. My parents are very different they have been married for over 20 years and they act like they have only been together for a couple of weeks. They can't keep away from eachother.... It's kinda gross.. lmao hahahahahaha
09/07/2011
cheetahpita cheetahpita
I'm not married, so I checked "other," but I've known couples who sleep in separate rooms, all because of noise issues (or so they say!). My aunt often says she gets fed up with my uncle's snoring and can't sleep, so she goes to the guest room (she's done this while visiting us, lol). But they start off the night sleeping in the same bed. And I have a cousin with CF (cystic fibrosis) who refuses to sleep with her husband when she has bad days - which involve a lot of coughing and hacking up phlegm. He says he wouldn't mind, but she doesn't want to wake him up (and I suspect she doesn't want him to see her like that), so she sleeps in the guest room.
09/07/2011
NavyDoll87 NavyDoll87
My husband is in the military and gone often, so I cherish every single moment we are able to sleep in the same bed.
09/07/2011
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