I am really wondering if issues like divorce, single parenting and unplanned pregnancies really do run in families or if it is just another myth. Please answer all the polls in order so we can have an accurate comparison. This should be a great learning experience.
Single Parenting: Were you raised by a single parent? Are you a single parent? Is your child a single parent?
Discussion Topics
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Were you raised by a single parent?
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1. Were you raised in a single parent household?
2. Which parent raised you?
3.Why were they a single parent?
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Are you a single parent?
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Are you a single parent ? 2. Which parent are you? 3.Why are you a single parent?
(9 posts)
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Is your child a single parent?
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1. Are your children single parents? 2. Which parent are they? 3.Why are they a single parent? 4. I have no children.
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Did you grow up in a single parent household? Which parent were you raised by? What were the circumstances of the single parenthood?
02/13/2012
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No I was not.
02/13/2012
My mom died when I was 9. After that I just lived with my dad until he remairried when I was 18.
I know quite a few single moms and I always find it interesting to see what kinds of things they prioritize vs. what kinds of things my dad prioritized. It seems like every single mom I've talked to raises their kids totally different than how my dad raised me.
I'd be interested to talk to someone who was raised by their dad to see if they had a similar experience, but I haven't met too many single dads or people who were raised by one.
I know quite a few single moms and I always find it interesting to see what kinds of things they prioritize vs. what kinds of things my dad prioritized. It seems like every single mom I've talked to raises their kids totally different than how my dad raised me.
I'd be interested to talk to someone who was raised by their dad to see if they had a similar experience, but I haven't met too many single dads or people who were raised by one.
02/13/2012
I wasn't raised by a single parent.
02/13/2012
Nope.
02/13/2012
single mom because all relationships are farces for pleasure.
02/13/2012
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I am a single parent.
Originally posted by
js250
Did you grow up in a single parent household? Which parent were you raised by? What were the circumstances of the single parenthood?
02/14/2012
raised by a single parent with a couple "step fathers"
02/14/2012
I was raised by a single parent, and I don't have kids yet.
02/14/2012
I Was raised by my mother, and do not have children yet.
02/14/2012
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I was raised in a two parent household by my biological parents.
Originally posted by
js250
Did you grow up in a single parent household? Which parent were you raised by? What were the circumstances of the single parenthood?
02/14/2012
I was raised by just my mother when my father left when I was young.
02/14/2012
No I was not. My parents are fixing to celebrate their 43rd wedding anniversary Feb 16th!
02/14/2012
Nope I wasn't...
02/15/2012
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My mother gave birth to and raised me and did a damn fine job of it. I'm so proud of her for being the incredible woman she is, she's the best mother I think I could have ever hoped for.
Originally posted by
js250
Did you grow up in a single parent household? Which parent were you raised by? What were the circumstances of the single parenthood?
She did such a good job that I really didn't care that I never met my father.
02/15/2012
I was raised by my mother.
02/15/2012
I was raised by a single mom.
02/24/2012
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I was raised mostly in a single parent household, my mom
Originally posted by
js250
Did you grow up in a single parent household? Which parent were you raised by? What were the circumstances of the single parenthood?
02/29/2012
No I had both my parents. But my mom has hated my Dad's guts for the past ten or eleven years and left him 2 years ago as soon as my youngest brother hit 18.
03/01/2012
Yes, I was raised in a single parent environment; my mother. My dad was a philandering alcoholic sociopath. No one should be raised in that environment (still, he had visitation rights).
03/02/2012
My parents divorced when I was about 18. It wasn't much of a marriage, lots of resentment and game playing. I vowed never to treat a man the way my mother treated my father. NO ONE deserves to be continually criticized and nagged night and day. Yet her stories always shine on her as the Victim. Sheesh.
I don't nag my man and I rarely criticize (unless we're on the outs, sometimes the poison seeps in.) We've been together longer than my parents were, we have sex all the time and we are in love, yet my mother seems to think she needs to tell me "what men are like." She's rarely correct.
I don't nag my man and I rarely criticize (unless we're on the outs, sometimes the poison seeps in.) We've been together longer than my parents were, we have sex all the time and we are in love, yet my mother seems to think she needs to tell me "what men are like." She's rarely correct.
03/02/2012
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While my father worked weird shift throughout most of our lives, he and my mom both took care of us in the same home, thankfully. SO, I was raised by both and am not a single parent. I am a parent and both my partner and I raise the child together. My child is not old enough to have children so no, he is not a single parent.
Originally posted by
js250
Did you grow up in a single parent household? Which parent were you raised by? What were the circumstances of the single parenthood?
I guess mine was pretty easy to answer Strange though that it may run in families. Never thought of that...
My older sister (we all have the same parents and were all raised in the house with both parents.) She is a single parent as is my twin sister. I'm the only one that isn't.
03/03/2012
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im happy to say i was raised with both my parents and me and my husband are togther raising our 2 kids.but i no alot that isnt this lucky
Originally posted by
js250
Did you grow up in a single parent household? Which parent were you raised by? What were the circumstances of the single parenthood?
03/21/2012
I was not.
03/21/2012
My brother & I were raised by our mom.
03/21/2012
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I was raised by two parents till I was 13, then from 13 to 15 I was raised by my dad only. I don't know if that really counts.
Originally posted by
js250
Did you grow up in a single parent household? Which parent were you raised by? What were the circumstances of the single parenthood?
04/11/2012
My parents got divorced when I was a teenager. So, I don't consider myself "raised" by a single parent. I was fairly "raised" by the time they broke up.
07/26/2012
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I was raised by a single parent who had me when she was 17 turning 18 so she took a long time to actually grow up, made for issues as I got older
Originally posted by
js250
Did you grow up in a single parent household? Which parent were you raised by? What were the circumstances of the single parenthood?
07/26/2012
yes i was.
07/26/2012
I was partially raised by a single father - my mother died when I was 5. My father re-married when I was 11, but I was pretty well formed by then.
My parents were older when I was born (45 and 40), and both had pretty high power jobs (high up military officer and college professor). My mother was diagnosed with malignant breast cancer when I was almost 3, so most of my memories of her involve her dying. My father couldn't be around much because of the huge responsibilities involved in his job, so we had live-in nannies.
My parents were older when I was born (45 and 40), and both had pretty high power jobs (high up military officer and college professor). My mother was diagnosed with malignant breast cancer when I was almost 3, so most of my memories of her involve her dying. My father couldn't be around much because of the huge responsibilities involved in his job, so we had live-in nannies.
07/26/2012
Total posts: 30
Unique posters: 29
I have already gone over my reasoning for this comparison and poll, please feel free to elaborate.
02/13/2012
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I was raised by my mom and step father.
02/13/2012
I was raised by both parents, technically, but separately. They divorced when I was 11, but were separated on and off since I was 5 or 6. Even when they were living under the same roof, I hardly ever saw them together anyway.
Honestly, though, the situation was so messed up. I ended up being raised more by my grandmother than either parent... And I ran away to live with her before I was of legal age. But the relationship between my grandfather and grandmother was just as bad, though not divorced (financial security, mostly, though I wish they had).
Honestly, though, the situation was so messed up. I ended up being raised more by my grandmother than either parent... And I ran away to live with her before I was of legal age. But the relationship between my grandfather and grandmother was just as bad, though not divorced (financial security, mostly, though I wish they had).
02/14/2012
I was raised by my mother-it was an unplanned pregnancy and my father left.
02/14/2012
I was raised by both parents though mom was a stay-at-home mom and dad worked to provide for us so I was around her more, but they were both there.
02/14/2012
My mother tried to raise me but later i went to live with my grandparents, i was unplanned but i know i am very loved. I am married and raising my two girls with my husband. He is stepfather to my older daughter but he treats her like his own. I am lucky to have a good relationship. He is my second husband i married my first daughters father and it didn't work out. we got divorced and i remarried he hasn't.
02/29/2012
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I was raised mostly by my mom, they divorced when I was a kid
Originally posted by
js250
I have already gone over my reasoning for this comparison and poll, please feel free to elaborate.
02/29/2012
I was kinda raised by my grandparents for about 8 years.
02/29/2012
My parents divorced when I was 16, but I was raised by both of them, I'd say.
02/29/2012
No, my parents were together from when they met till they passed away, first my dad, then my mom a few years later.
03/21/2012
Yes, I was raised by my mother only.
03/21/2012
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I was raised by my mother because my father was abusive, and they divorced.
Originally posted by
js250
I have already gone over my reasoning for this comparison and poll, please feel free to elaborate.
03/21/2012
I wasn't planned and my mom was 17 turning 18, she never got married to my father and he wasn't really around because she was caddy and he was kinda meek. Not a situation I recommend
07/26/2012
Total posts: 13
Unique posters: 13
Answer the questions and explain 'other' option if marked, please.
02/13/2012
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I am a single parent.
02/13/2012
No, I am not a parent at all at this point.
02/13/2012
no, it will never happen and even if it did it'd be aborted.
02/13/2012
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I am a single parent and I chose to be this way. my children's dad got into some bad stuff and I didnt want it around them.
Originally posted by
js250
Answer the questions and explain 'other' option if marked, please.
02/13/2012
I am not a single parent. nor do i plan on it.
02/14/2012
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I am co-parenting with two partners who are the fathers of my children. The total opposite of single parenting!
Originally posted by
js250
Answer the questions and explain 'other' option if marked, please.
02/14/2012
I'm not a single parent. My husband and I are still married and we have 2 boys.
02/14/2012
yes, I raised 2 sons after divorce.
03/21/2012
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I am not a parent
Originally posted by
js250
Answer the questions and explain 'other' option if marked, please.
04/11/2012
I got married when I was about 3 or 4 months pregnant with our first child. We have already planned to get married, bought a house, and wanted children badly. Our first baby was a surprise, but was totally wanted.
We got married a few months after I found out. We've been together a long time and had two more children and are still together. He's a good dad.
We got married a few months after I found out. We've been together a long time and had two more children and are still together. He's a good dad.
07/26/2012
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No kids yet! Maybe in the next few years
Originally posted by
js250
Answer the questions and explain 'other' option if marked, please.
07/26/2012
Total posts: 12
Unique posters: 12
Please answer the same as the previous poll.
02/13/2012
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I am a single parent because I choose to be. I was with my kids father's for a couple of years and it did not work out, I gave them the option to change their ways on what they were doing and they did not want to listen. Both were alcoholics and one was a cheater and I draw the line when it comes to that stuff.
02/13/2012
I'm not a parent at all. That didn't seem to be an option here.
02/14/2012
Yeah, Same as Silverdrop.
02/14/2012
I'm a mother of two sons, and I'm not a single parent. I'm still married to the boys father.
02/14/2012
I act as a parent to a former partner's child and have a joint custody type arrangement, though there is no biological relationship and the child was conceived long before I met my former partner. I stay in the child's life by choice.
02/29/2012
No. I live with and love the father of all my children. It's hard work, some of the hardest work I've ever done. But, I was careful when choosing him, as he was with choosing me, and we made sure as much as we could that we were right for each other before going further.
IMO, careful choosing of a life partner , including finding out if the two of you are sexually compatible or not is a good percentage of the equation. The rest of the equation is hard work, love and doing whatever you need to do to get along with that person.
IMO, careful choosing of a life partner , including finding out if the two of you are sexually compatible or not is a good percentage of the equation. The rest of the equation is hard work, love and doing whatever you need to do to get along with that person.
03/02/2012
No, I don't have any kids.
03/21/2012
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I am a single parent. I was never married to her father. He refused to grow up.
Originally posted by
js250
Please answer the same as the previous poll.
03/21/2012
Total posts: 9
Unique posters: 9
If your child does not fit into this poll, please mark other and explain. Thank you, this should be interesting when we start getting some results.
02/13/2012
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My kids are still young.
02/13/2012
no children and if i ever had them i'd tweak their personalities to make them socially unacceptable and virgins for life.
02/13/2012
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LOL! Oh wow. No. I don't have children yet, so i won't have to worry about that for years.
Originally posted by
T&A1987
no children and if i ever had them i'd tweak their personalities to make them socially unacceptable and virgins for life.
02/14/2012
My children are too young to be reproducing.
02/14/2012
One of my kids is too young to have kids. The other two do not want them at this point. One is in Grad School and wants to get her career started and on track first, and the other doesn't want kids until her partner can make enough money so she can stay home with the children.
So, no grandbabies for me. Although my best friend is about to become a grandmother today ! Her teenage son and his teen age girlfriend are having their baby today. They are, however, married.
So, no grandbabies for me. Although my best friend is about to become a grandmother today ! Her teenage son and his teen age girlfriend are having their baby today. They are, however, married.
07/26/2012
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You can't. I have three kids with three completely different personalities. There is little or nothing you can do, short of abuse, to change a child's basic personality. Temperament is inborn, and it is the basis of personality.
Originally posted by
T&A1987
no children and if i ever had them i'd tweak their personalities to make them socially unacceptable and virgins for life.
Personally, I want my children happy and social. However, one of my kids has Asperger's and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I can't imagine her with a boyfriend, but I'm hoping someday. (She's only 12, but not the most social child. Imagine Sheldon from Big Bang Theory in a 12 year old girl's body. *sigh* Not as fun as it sounds, really.)
07/26/2012
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Same as before, guys!!
02/13/2012
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I was adopted, but I wouldn't be a single parent. It sounds so hard :/
02/13/2012
I don't have any children, either.
02/14/2012
My boys are too young to have children.
02/14/2012
No lil ones so far...
02/15/2012
I was a single parent for 2 years, following a divorce and before I remarried. My youngest son is a single parent, he has custody of his teenage son. He was never married to the mother, and she raised him until he reached 16. Then she and her husband were just constantly butting heads with him, and my son took custody. They do fine together.
02/29/2012
I was raised by my mother after my parents divorced when I was 13. I'll be curious to see whether I end up a single parent as well. I have no children yet, thank goodness (I'm a bit young for that).
03/21/2012
No kids.
03/21/2012
My mom raised me because My dad ran away with another man leaving my mom at the alter when the night before she was pregnant with me.
I am married with a 4 year old
I am married with a 4 year old
07/26/2012
Divorced and both remarried.
07/26/2012
Total posts: 10
Unique posters: 10