The Courtesy Follow

Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
I was reading another thread today where someone mentioned "the courtesy follow" - meaning they follow those who follow them as a courtesy. It got me wondering how many people do this. Do you? Don't you? How come?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I do courtesy follows
82  (52%)
I do not do courtesy follows
73  (46%)
I wish you would not make any more polls, you weirdo
3  (2%)
Total votes: 158
Poll is closed
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Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Looking at my lists, I follow almost half that follow me. I don't follow people just because they follow me. I follow them because I think their contribution to my wall feed is worth seeing everyday. It would be waaaayyyyy too much stuff on the wall feed and too hard to sift through if I did courtesy follows. Plus a lot of people go inactive at times and what's the point of following inactive people? I don't get offended if someone doesn't follow me if I follow them and I hope people don't get offended if I do the same.

I'm curious to see the results of this.
10/07/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
I have in the past though I didn't really think of it in that way, I just figured that they deemed me worthwhile enough to follow that I'd do the same and follow them, but like Lauren said that makes the wall hard to read..and so I stopped doing that.
10/07/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Need the sometimes yes and sometimes no option. If the comment is personal enough or asks a question I will respond. But general 'nice review' comments, I typically do not respond to.
10/07/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Need the sometimes yes and sometimes no option. If the comment is personal enough or asks a question I will respond. But general 'nice review' comments, I typically do not respond to.
Following means when the person goes to your profile and chooses "follow". So, the question means when that happens do you go and choose "follow" on their profiles since they followed you.
10/07/2010
Contributor: Rockin' Rockin'
I don't use my profile's wall that much in the first place. I like when people follow me, but I usually only follow back if I've seen them around, read their reviews, etc. I don't think following (or not following) someone is that big of a deal. (Watch me lose a bunch of followers after this, hehehe)
10/07/2010
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
When I follow people, I really do not want them feeling like they "have" to follow me out of courtesy. I appreciate anyone who follows me, but I do not want them to feel they have to.
10/07/2010
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
Quote:
Originally posted by Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
When I follow people, I really do not want them feeling like they "have" to follow me out of courtesy. I appreciate anyone who follows me, but I do not want them to feel they have to.
Same here.
10/07/2010
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
It's not a big deal to me if someone doesn't follow back when I follow them. But when someone follows me, I will usually do a follow-back. I don't do so because I feel I "have" to though. And I don't want anyone I follow to feel like they "need" to follow me either.

When following someone, I usually set an alert to receive an e-mail notification when they've released a new review because the reviews that I read are only from people that I follow. I used to only set alerts for people who write reviews that I enjoy, but I figured it would be helpful to provide feedback to others who are working on improving, too. (Of course, we are all continuously striving toward improvement!)

By following a variety of people, I have a greater variety of reviews from which to choose in my e-mail inbox. While I do realize I can just go to the Community News page to see the most recently released reviews, sometimes reviews that I want to read "fall off" the list before I can get around to reading them. On the other hand, I can flag the reviews that I eventually want to read in my e-mail in-box. I just figure if someone goes to the trouble of following me and possibly reading my reviews, I'd try to return the favor as often as I can. I can't always read every review, but will do my best to read as many as I can.

The ONLY thing that annoys me about the follow function is for someone to follow you simply for one little point, only to immediately unfollow.
10/07/2010
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
Quote:
Originally posted by Rockin'
I don't use my profile's wall that much in the first place. I like when people follow me, but I usually only follow back if I've seen them around, read their reviews, etc. I don't think following (or not following) someone is that big ... more
I'm of a similar mind, but I respond differently as a result. I don't use my wall that much so I don't think follows are a big deal as a result. However, I get around to following every person that follows me just as a courtesy. I'll probably never talk to them but it's my way of being like "Hey, appreciate you stopping by, looking at your page too."
10/07/2010
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Quote:
Originally posted by Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
When I follow people, I really do not want them feeling like they "have" to follow me out of courtesy. I appreciate anyone who follows me, but I do not want them to feel they have to.
Ditto.

If they do I hope it is for the same reasons I follow them, not just a courtesy.
10/07/2010
Contributor: twistedheartsx twistedheartsx
Nope, I don't follow people who follow me. I always thank them and take a look at their reviews. If there reviews interest me, then I'll follow, but other than that, I just thank them and move on
10/07/2010
Contributor: gone77 gone77
I voted no because while I do follow back people who follow me, I don't think of it as a courtesy. I do it because I like to get to know people and if someone thinks I'm interesting enough to follow, then I follow them back to see if they're interesting, too. Having said that, I do stop following people who have gone MIA. I would hope people follow me out of interest and not as a courtesy.
10/07/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
I was reading another thread today where someone mentioned "the courtesy follow" - meaning they follow those who follow them as a courtesy. It got me wondering how many people do this. Do you? Don't you? How come?
OK I had to call you a weirdo...it's just the evil streak in me. Personally, I have to agree with Kristi. I will follow people who follow me but if they go byebye or it looks like they are following people to pump up their points I'll drop them. I read a bit about the person as well to sort of get to know them.
10/07/2010
Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
I don't do it. I did for awhile, felt obligated to when someone (who will remain nameless) complained that I was rude and ignoring them because I didn't follow back. The reality is I just can't keep up with every person who follows me and don't use my wall as it is - adding to it would make it utterly useless.

I do feel bad sometimes, though, like cuz I work here I "should" follow everyone. Such a conundrum.
10/07/2010
Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
OK I had to call you a weirdo...it's just the evil streak in me. Personally, I have to agree with Kristi. I will follow people who follow me but if they go byebye or it looks like they are following people to pump up their points I'll drop ... more
My heart is broken!!!!!!!!!
10/07/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I don't do it, for logical reasons. If I follow everyone back, it will be harder to find the things I'm looking for on my wall.
10/07/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
I only follow people that I'm genuinely interested in seeing more from really. I'm not offended when people don't follow me back, and occasionally I do a follow back on some who follows me if something catches my eye.
10/07/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
If I know the person I will follow then as soon as I get a reminder, or initiate it. But, sometimes I wait a day or two, if it's someone I don't know well. I do kind of "Courtesy Follow." I think it's either my Catholic upbringing or some latent Subbiness bleeding through.

Sometimes there are people I have talked to frequently, and suddenly realize neither of us initiated a follow (this has happened to 3 people in the last week or two) so then I'm like "Why the hell wasn't I following you before?" Other times, I get a reminder that someone is following me, and I'm busy and it goes down on my email list and then I forget.

I kind of wish there was more than 7 or 8 pages of stuff on our page, because I sometimes miss reviews and things from my friends and then I feel bad. I have a LOT of guilt about shit.

Nina Hartley hasn't returned my Follow. (I'm not upset. I'm sure she's busy and has NO idea who I am.)
10/07/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. Depends.
10/07/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
Quote:
Originally posted by Rockin'
I don't use my profile's wall that much in the first place. I like when people follow me, but I usually only follow back if I've seen them around, read their reviews, etc. I don't think following (or not following) someone is that big ... more
Same here!
10/07/2010
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
I typically return the follows I get, but I guess I don't get the whole purpose of the wall, except that it's there in the profile .
10/07/2010
Contributor: Kimmie1980ca Kimmie1980ca
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
I was reading another thread today where someone mentioned "the courtesy follow" - meaning they follow those who follow them as a courtesy. It got me wondering how many people do this. Do you? Don't you? How come?
If someone adds me, I always follow back. I dont know... it's just the nice thing to do and it helps with your stats.
10/07/2010
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
If I know the person I will follow then as soon as I get a reminder, or initiate it. But, sometimes I wait a day or two, if it's someone I don't know well. I do kind of "Courtesy Follow." I think it's either my Catholic ... more
+15 points for residual Catholic guilt Hooray slightly traumatic religious upbringings? I split my youth between Catholicism and evangelical Christianity so I empathize!
10/07/2010
Contributor: SoSexxxay SoSexxxay
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
I was reading another thread today where someone mentioned "the courtesy follow" - meaning they follow those who follow them as a courtesy. It got me wondering how many people do this. Do you? Don't you? How come?
I do, but it's because I'm so freakin' new, I get totally chuffed that anyone has even read my sole little review xD
10/07/2010
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
Nobody be offended if I don't follow back! I'm socially inept it would seem. You're supposed to thank people for following you? I didn't know. I haven't followed anyone yet. I plan to someday. But I want to change my banner image first. Haven't even done that. Apparently I'm going for a wall laziness award.
10/07/2010
Contributor: Pleasure Piratess Pleasure Piratess
Hmmm... I guess I didn't even know what it really meant before. I never look at my wall, better go see whats on there!!
10/07/2010
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I never pay attention to my wall feed, so it's merely out of laziness that I haven't followed anyone. Apologies - it's not you, it really is me.
10/07/2010
Contributor: lamira lamira
Me either. I don't visit my profile too often, so I honestly don't know what's going on.
10/08/2010
Contributor: Trashley Trashley
Quote:
Originally posted by Owl Identified
+15 points for residual Catholic guilt Hooray slightly traumatic religious upbringings? I split my youth between Catholicism and evangelical Christianity so I empathize!
HAHAHAHA omg this. this. this!
10/08/2010