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Contributor: Throwingawaysoon Throwingawaysoon
By "adults," I mean the freshly turned 18 year-olds and older. I'm just curious to see other's thoughts because I have my own opinions, and I get a lot of crap about them. With all the texting, IMing, facebooking, video gaming, etc. what is your opinion on the general young adult population?
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I want to smash their phone, SERIOUSLY! PUT THE FRIGGEN THING AWAY WHEN I'M TALKING TO YOU!
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They need to grow a brain. "Seriously?! Like, no way! That's SO cool, I never would've guessed water and oil don't mix! But, I don't understand! They mix when I make a cake!"
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They need to learn to use spell check and watch their caps lock key because I'm tired of seeing "OMG! LieK i wuz SOOO liek, freekd OUT! Teh guy i Hav LUVVVED 4like, EVAH!!! juts aksed MEOUT!!!!"
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They are there. It doesn't matter to me.
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They actually aren't as bad as most people see them. (Key words SEE THEM. Seriously, the good kids are usually the worst, they are just sneaky about it!)
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They actually aren't bad. They are quite friendly and enjoyable to be around.
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Depends on their maturity, not their age. Some act like their 12, yet some act like they're in their 30's.
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12/06/2010
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Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
I am in my younger twenties and most of the people my age drive me crazy, which is why I spend most of my time around adults.
12/06/2010
Contributor: Throwingawaysoon Throwingawaysoon
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Originally posted by Avant-garde
I am in my younger twenties and most of the people my age drive me crazy, which is why I spend most of my time around adults.
I agree with you! I mean, yeah, I know I'm 19, but I already have a wife and kid, I was able to finish high school in 3 years, and I'm going to be going into air force next month. I look around at people my own age, and I laugh hysterically at their immaturity, recklessness, and ignorance. It's kinda sad...
12/06/2010
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
Maybe I'm biased because I'm still pretty young (I'm 24) but I don't think you can generalize all 18 year olds like that, or that you can generalize everyone who plays videogames or texts as being an airhead. It's pretty much like when my grandparents would gripe at my parents when they were young "you damned kids and your rock and roll"

Every generation seems to think that the younger generation is leading things to hell.
12/06/2010
Contributor: ZenaidaMacroura ZenaidaMacroura
I love video games. I text a lot. I'm 22. Buuut, I don't consider myself to be immature. Sometimes, maybe, but not in general. And I try not to text while people are talking to me. That seriously drives me crazy. And I do think maybe people are becoming a bit too...shut in, I guess? Like, I know plenty of people who text all the time but can't stand the thought of picking up a phone and actually talking to someone. That kind of bothers me.
12/06/2010
Contributor: leela leela
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Originally posted by Taylor
Maybe I'm biased because I'm still pretty young (I'm 24) but I don't think you can generalize all 18 year olds like that, or that you can generalize everyone who plays videogames or texts as being an airhead. It's pretty much like ... more
What Taylor said. I don't like to generalize people either. When I was 18, I would have been pretty annoyed at anyone who tried to lump me into a category like this.
12/06/2010
Contributor: mariah mariah
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Originally posted by Throwingawaysoon
I agree with you! I mean, yeah, I know I'm 19, but I already have a wife and kid, I was able to finish high school in 3 years, and I'm going to be going into air force next month. I look around at people my own age, and I laugh hysterically ... more
a kid at 19? that doesnt sound mature that sounds like a mistake... and you just had to marry her becuase you had to,
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    This is unacceptable / Against the Expectations of Conduct
12/06/2010
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
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Originally posted by mariah
a kid at 19? that doesnt sound mature that sounds like a mistake... and you just had to marry her becuase you had to,
That was incredibly rude.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Throwingawaysoon Throwingawaysoon
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Originally posted by mariah
a kid at 19? that doesnt sound mature that sounds like a mistake... and you just had to marry her becuase you had to,
HAHAHA that's what so many people thought. And, I laugh again. Because 1, it wasn't a mistake. 2, I didn't marry her because I HAD to, I wanted to. We were going to be getting married WAY before we even found out she was prego. Don't assume.
12/07/2010
Contributor: mariah mariah
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Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
That was incredibly rude.
well this post was about me... he was rude to me in my post...
12/07/2010
Contributor: Throwingawaysoon Throwingawaysoon
It was about you? Didn't I just say don't assume? This is in general. It was never about you. EdenFantasys isn't the only social site I'm on. Hell, it could've been about someone completely different.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Mistress Kitty Mistress Kitty
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Originally posted by mariah
a kid at 19? that doesnt sound mature that sounds like a mistake... and you just had to marry her becuase you had to,
Mariah, you just offended a ton of people who happened to make the "mistake" of having a child at a young age.
12/07/2010
Contributor: rdytogo rdytogo
I always have a hard time believing I acted like that once. However, the phone always attached to the ear or fingers does get a little annoying every once in a while.
12/07/2010
Contributor: J's Alley J's Alley
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Originally posted by mariah
a kid at 19? that doesnt sound mature that sounds like a mistake... and you just had to marry her becuase you had to,
Sorry, but I am with Adriana here. This is really rude. I was 19 when I got pregnant and got married. You really did just insult an entire group of people here at EF.
12/07/2010
Contributor: darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
I'd definitely have to say it irritates me how younger adults can not put the cell phone down. I always want to slap people when I am stuck behind them in line and they are carrying on about how RUDE the cashier is because they cannot understand them. It's terribly rude to keep talking on the phone while trying to interact with someone else.

I don't feel a lot of these things can be put on just younger adults, though. I do see a lot of middle aged people unable to use a hands-free device in the car, and either talk or text while driving. I also see a lot of kids around the age of 6 or so with their own brand-new Blackberry or something. They should have the Jitterbug phones or something that only allows them to call 911 or home..

I'm only 22, so I probably fit in this category of adults. I feel I am a mature, responsible person. I don't talk on my cell phone much, and I only text a couple of times a week, if even that. I don't have the best cell phone or all of the new video games.
12/07/2010
Contributor: onehotmomma onehotmomma
I live in a college town, and unfortunately the mentality of the kids that come out and make asses of themselves, and do stupid stuff is getting worse. This is the 2nd college town I've lived in, and they have both been competely different. Maybe it's the Washington way of life, I don't know, but I've lived here almost my whole life. I've worked in a grocery store close to campus, and it seems the kids are getting worse every year!
12/07/2010
Contributor: Danielle1220 Danielle1220
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Originally posted by mariah
a kid at 19? that doesnt sound mature that sounds like a mistake... and you just had to marry her becuase you had to,
Extremely wrong. That was really the wrong comment to make here. Just offended a whole bunch of people...lucky for me I don't get offended from people like you...I take it from where it comes...take that however you like
12/07/2010
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
Plenty of 30+ are ADDICTED to FB, Twitter, texting, etc... I fell in to a rut at one point but have FREED myself from social networking, etc.. There's enough incriminating crap on me already, I don't need to exacerbate it. HaHa!
12/07/2010
Contributor: Airekah Airekah
I believe there are some instances where a 'young adult' truly shows their age with ignorance, immaturity and general annoyance to everyone around; however, I have a tendency to be very mature for my age(22) and only associate myself with people who are of the same maturity. It really does depend on the individual. My 80 year old grandmother gets on the internet and "typs leik thys" where everything is spelled wrong and changed to internet phonics. SO, depending on the person, "Adults" in general are a nuisance sometimes.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I'm 28 and most people that age do get on my nerves. There definitely are some that are mature and responsible and can interact on a truly adult level, but they are not the majority. I was emancipated at 17 and have been on my own ever since so I have a hard time personally with that level of irresponsibility in anyone when I was able to keep a roof over my own head before I was out of high school. I do try to take people on a case-by-case basis, but in that age group I generally do not find people I get along well with.

And the spelling/capitalizatio n thing? Irritates me to no end. But sometimes it's not limited to people of a certain age.
12/07/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Throwingawaysoon
By "adults," I mean the freshly turned 18 year-olds and older. I'm just curious to see other's thoughts because I have my own opinions, and I get a lot of crap about them. With all the texting, IMing, facebooking, video gaming, etc. ... more
I don't think anyone can judge an entire population or age group as all having one personality.

It takes a long time to become an "Adult" in our society, we have a culture of extended adolescence, so things related to technology, socializing, gaming etc are a large part of a lot of young adults' lives.

Two of my children are in this age group, and I understand that they are young, naive and will eventually grow up. I am sure I was annoying when I was that age. My middle child is a highly intelligent young woman who is an English/Library Science major at a large University. She has some interesting insights into humanity, but is still "a kid" she spends a good deal of her time on her phone, texting friends, (we have a rule; NO texting during dinner) hanging out on Facebook, playing games like Wii (is that how you spell?) and Rock Star etc.

My older one is out on her own and has had to grow up, but from where I see it, of course, she still needs to grow up a lot. It's difficult being an adult.

But, I don't judge all people of an age group the same way. I wouldn't want people to put me in the same "group" as every other person my age.

Also, part of maturity is Tolerance.
12/07/2010
Contributor: joja joja
Seems to me that every generation has similar complaints about those younger than them. I think you'll find mature and immature people at pretty much any age.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
I definitely hate the behavior that this post is about; but like many others have already pointed out, this behavior is not limited to a particular age group. I am 27 and many of the people in my age group (late 20s or early 30s)are equally guilty of this crime.

I have at least one "friend" who will pick up the phone and call somebody to talk to in the middle of a visit at my place, or when she has invited me to hers. I feel like saying "Is this your way of telling me that you are bored and I should leave?"

I also really dislike the whole FML deal. Most of the time when people say FML they are upset about something that, though it might be disheartening momentarily is not of any consequence. For instance "dropped my phone in the sink. FML." or "Just spilled coffee all over my lap. FML" (Oh, but aren't you at home? And don't you have a clean pair of pants in a drawer 20 ft from you? I'm sorry but I am not throwing you a fucking pity party because you cant text until your phone dries out or because you have to walk 20 ft and change. I think the reason it really drives me nuts is because it is more indicative of a mindset that is incredibly common these days. "I'm important. People should think so. People owe me. My life should be easy." Sorry but life isn't easy, it's hard. And if you want to be important DO something with yourself, MAKE yourself important. Even if it is just to a few select people, do something that effects somebody other than yourself in a positive way. You want an FML situation? Visit a 3rd world country!

Sorry about that rant. I am finished now. I really hope I haven't offended anybody.
12/07/2010
Contributor: J's Alley J's Alley
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
I definitely hate the behavior that this post is about; but like many others have already pointed out, this behavior is not limited to a particular age group. I am 27 and many of the people in my age group (late 20s or early 30s)are equally guilty of ... more
Oh lord, I have a friend who will come over to my house or our other best friend's house and spends the WHOLE time texting. Now, I do love her dearly, but she also has this very sad need to be in a relationship (like she's 13 or something)...unfortuna tely she is separated and has two kids. When her husband left (for good reason, I assure you), she immediately ran out to find a new man because "people who are alone are just alone because they can't find someone." Umm...what the fuck...ok.

Also, I work retail: People...PUT THE PHONE DOWN FOR 30 SECONDS. For the love of God (and this goes MOSTLY to 27-35 year old women) call the person back because you're being RUDE. Same for people in a restaurant, I have no desire to know what Kyle and Katie did last night.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by J's Alley
Oh lord, I have a friend who will come over to my house or our other best friend's house and spends the WHOLE time texting. Now, I do love her dearly, but she also has this very sad need to be in a relationship (like she's 13 or ... more
Yep. It's awful when you are stuck beside somebody in line or in a restaurant and they are blathering on about not only the most retarded thing they can seem to think of but also often the most offensive. I feel like saying "Do you not own a fucking home phone?!?!?! There are places for conversations like that and they are NOT in front of my 2 yr old you Jackass!"
12/07/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
I definitely hate the behavior that this post is about; but like many others have already pointed out, this behavior is not limited to a particular age group. I am 27 and many of the people in my age group (late 20s or early 30s)are equally guilty of ... more
GWF, I have a friend in her 40s who takes and even makes very LONG phone calls when she has company. She uses the "it's long distance and I promised (whoever) I'd call them back and it's getting late." I was once there and her SIL called 3 or more times, about something that could wait until morning, but she took every call with the excuse, "She gets upset if I don't talk to her right away." So? Her SIL is also in her 40s, and a self absorbed twit. Once when I was over at my friend's house, the SIL kept calling and seemed upset that my friend was having dinner guests (the SIL lives 1000 or more miles away) and wanted to spend time with them. If it were me, I'd let the SIL know that bothering people when you know they are entertaining is an extreme social error. It's also rude to take calls when you have guests. I swear nearly every time I am over there, she takes a 20 or 30 minute long phone call, all of which could wait until later. What ever happened to, "I am busy. This isn't a good time. Let me know a good time to call you."

I think when you have guests over, you make any incoming calls short and sweet and make it clear, "I have guests over, I'll call you back." IMO, making phone calls, when someone is visiting is simply rude.

But, it is not a problem reserved for the very young.
12/07/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by J's Alley
Oh lord, I have a friend who will come over to my house or our other best friend's house and spends the WHOLE time texting. Now, I do love her dearly, but she also has this very sad need to be in a relationship (like she's 13 or ... more
I was once "shushed" and given an "I'm on the phone." look, in a store standing in line by a woman who was on her cell phone. Excuse me, I'm in PUBLIC, if you need privacy and silence for your oh-so-important phone calls.....make them at home.

What is "FML?"
12/07/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by P'Gell
I was once "shushed" and given an "I'm on the phone." look, in a store standing in line by a woman who was on her cell phone. Excuse me, I'm in PUBLIC, if you need privacy and silence for your oh-so-important phone ... more
FML stands for fuck my life.
12/07/2010
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
Every generation has it's issues. With the boomers it was free love, drugs and rebellion against the man. In the 80's it was terrible fashion and hair styles and cocaine. In the 90's it was cool to not take a bath and wear the same clothing for two weeks before washing and it had to be plaid or black.

Now, in the naughts it's electronic devices. It's unbelievable the advances the last ten years have afforded as far as technology is concerned. Everything is shiny and expensive and quickly becoming status symbols. In every industry there is a plateau, we just haven't hit it yet.

As far as 18-26 year olds blathering away through text, twitter, email, ims and phone calls is concerned - that's poor parenting. I consider it akin to being a customer standing in a store needing help versus one calling and needing help. *I* came all the way down here, my needs take priority and the same respect should be given in social settings.
12/07/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
FML stands for fuck my life.
"Fuck my life?" Similar to "Woe is me?"

12/07/2010