Would you change yourself, cosmetically speaking, for your partner?

Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
IE: hair color, colored contacts, losing weight etc?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes
12  (24%)
No
17  (33%)
Maybe
22  (43%)
Total votes: 51
Poll is closed
02/23/2011
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Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Those minor changes? Sure. They could be fun
02/23/2011
Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
Not just no, HELL no.

If my partner wants me to "change" for them, I'm going to change directions and walk my way out.
02/23/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
It really depends on what it is. If I were overweight and he wanted me to lose some for my own health, I'd do it. If I'm just a little plushy and he wants me to lose weight just to be nicer to look at, then he's kind of an ass.

That's honestly the only thing I could see him asking me to change, if I were overweight and needed to lose some. And quitting smoking. I know he'd like me to do it, but I don't smoke much to begin with, so he doesn't hassle me about it.

Things like hair color and colored contacts? I do that all on my own for fun. I'm out of colored contacts but I like the ones for astigmatism better, my vision is a lot crisper and clearer. And my hair, well, right now my hair is a gorgeous shade of purple that he absolutely loves. I've been with the guy that wanted me to keep it brown, I left him. Not over that specifically, but that was part of it.
02/23/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
Hair color, or contacts, sure. As long as it was for fun and being different rather than pushing me to do it. Anything that is forced or demanded, I wouldn't do. I couldn't handle that.
02/23/2011
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
The only thing I might change for him is my hair, and I'd only do it if I agreed that what he wanted would look nice on me.
02/23/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Interesting results so far, I look forward to more
02/24/2011
Contributor: zeebot zeebot
Only if it was health-related.
02/24/2011
Contributor: potstickers potstickers
Only health-related. Or if he wanted me to dye my hair pink. I'd do that again.
02/24/2011
Contributor: Linga Linga
It depends what it is. I would never get a boob job for anyone, as in make them bigger (they are big enough already!). But I would consider something like a lift.
02/24/2011
Contributor: lezergirl lezergirl
yes, although my gf would never ask
02/24/2011
Contributor: ColorSplash ColorSplash
I would but depending on what it is and how far it is.
02/25/2011
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
It would depend on the why and the specifics of the what. The minor stuff I might do depending on what it is, I might dye my hair a natural color but not something like hot pink. Major stuff, no.
02/25/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
He can make suggestions but it doesn't mean I will follow them.
04/03/2011
Contributor: funforall7 funforall7
I'm in a FWB situation right now, so definitely not, I'm not that committed, but if it were a more serious relationship then maybe.
06/11/2012
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Eh, yes and no really. Little things I'd be happy to change if it would make him happier, but if he wants me to turn myself into a whole different person it's not happening.
Stuff like colored contacts and hair color I enjoy changing up just for fun anyway.
I'm pretty damn lucky right now though, I'm with a wonderful guy that thinks I'm gorgeous no matter what. ^_^
06/11/2012
Contributor: AU AU
My partner would probably be sad if I changed much. I might change some things very slightly just to feel more confident, which he might like.
06/11/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
Depends on the circumstances. If it was just hinted at or I knew it was something they would never say outright but would like, I might. If they told me to, I would not want to.
06/11/2012
Contributor: Real or memorex Real or memorex
Absolutely not. Not even if requested nicely or hinted at. I'm WYSIWYG.

(Just thought of the one exception, though: I take partner requests for pubic hair trimming level. He's down there and I am not, so I'll go with what he likes.)
02/15/2013
Contributor: ImaGodiva ImaGodiva
I would only change if it was for me.
02/15/2013
Contributor: SecondStory SecondStory
I wouldn't change things like that for someone else.
02/15/2013
Contributor: misterazor misterazor
Quote:
Originally posted by LavenderSkies
IE: hair color, colored contacts, losing weight etc?
i would like if she would want to change for her.
small things to please a person is not a bad thing. hair color is fine, contacts...maybe.
weight is a touchy issue.
i would, as a man, try some things if my wife wanted me to. and, if she was not so thrilled about my weight, well, i think i would take that to heart...considering how difficult it likely was for her to bring it up.
blah, blah.
02/16/2013
Contributor: EmuLove EmuLove
Nope! I love him exactly the way he is!
02/16/2013
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
Quote:
Originally posted by LavenderSkies
IE: hair color, colored contacts, losing weight etc?
No!!
Take me as I am or don't take me at all.
My current partner keeps telling me every time I make a comment about loosing weight or changing something I am told to stay the way I am. He fell for me the way I am and loves me the way I am. When I have mentioned wanting to be smaller he told me my weight doesn't bother him.
02/16/2013
Contributor: sillylilkitten sillylilkitten
If he pushed me to change, I probably wouldn't do it. But if I expressed an interest in doing something to change and he encouraged me, then I'd do it. Plus just little things I know he likes, like keeping my hair short and wearing certain clothes, are things I already happily do for him.
02/16/2013
Contributor: Living Doll Living Doll
I take into consideration the things my boyfriend likes as far as hairstyle, makeup and fashion, but I wouldn't change myself dramatically.
02/16/2013
Contributor: tortilla tortilla
i might depending on what it is
02/16/2013
Contributor: dks210 dks210
Sure, as long as we're both into it. He wouldn't want me to change myself if it made me unhappy, because that would make him unhappy too.
02/16/2013
Contributor: sunflower sunflower
Maybe minor things if they stated it in a kind or playful and encouraging way. If it was something like dying my hair, it would be fun if they were willing to change too and we could do it together. You can't expect me to change my appearance for you and not give anything yourself.
02/16/2013
Contributor: Happyinmypants Happyinmypants
Yeah, why not! Only if he pays!
02/16/2013