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Suicide Girls.... is it porn?

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Contributor: Tessa Taboo Tessa Taboo
So, in case you aren't familiar, here is the website for the Suicide Girls.

Here's my conundrum. About 5 years ago, I applied to be a Suicide Girl, and got accepted. Upon telling my new boyfriend this, at the time, he said he was really uncomfortable with it, and it wasn't really that important to me, so I didn't pursue it. Now, that boyfriend is my husband, and he's urging me to do it. He says it would help my self confidence, and it would be a turn on for him, and make him feel good to know that I'm wanted by so many other people.

I kind of want to do it, but back then, I had 2 young kids who didn't really have any social exposure. Now, I have an 8 year old boy, and 3 other kids, and before I know it, they will be in high school. I'm not sure how I feel about, or how they would feel about if one of their friends found me on there and showed them and stuff. Part of me says that it's not that bad even, but the other part of me says that, as a mom, I shouldn't be doing these things.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, it's porn
101
No, it's not porn
43
Yes, you should apply
46
No, you shouldn't apply
43
Total votes: 233 (152 voters)
Poll is closed
11/13/2011
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Contributor: chicken12 chicken12
I would classify it as porn.

If alluring pictures of naked people are being taken for the purpose of sexual gratification, I'd call it porn.

I said "no" you shouldn't apply only because I wish there had been an "other" option. Are you concerned about them discovering it accidentally? If so, then I would say no, because as they get older, they very well might stumble across it.

However, if that's not your concern, my opinion differs a little bit. Our culture does stigmatize people in the porn industry, but I don't believe someone should not do something just because they might be judged for it. I don't think you being a mom has anything to do without outside the scope of them or their friends finding out.
11/13/2011
Contributor: Tessa Taboo Tessa Taboo
Quote:
Originally posted by chicken12
I would classify it as porn.

If alluring pictures of naked people are being taken for the purpose of sexual gratification, I'd call it porn.

I said "no" you shouldn't apply only because I wish there had been an ... more
You don't have to have nudity in your pics, and I plan on (if I do it) doing very classy pics. No nipples showing, or anything like that. I'm not worried about them accidentally finding it, more about their friends giving them crap for it in a few years or so.... but then again, that is about 5 years away, so maybe I should just go for it now, while I still have a few years, and then who knows if I will be doing it by then??
11/13/2011
Contributor: poetprincess poetprincess
Quote:
Originally posted by Tessa Taboo
So, in case you aren't familiar, here is the website for the Suicide Girls.

Here's my conundrum. About 5 years ago, I applied to be a Suicide Girl, and got accepted. Upon telling my new boyfriend this, at the time, he said he was ... more
I say do whatever it is that makes you happy, of course I would wonder why your man didnt want you to do it then but does now!!
11/13/2011
Contributor: Tessa Taboo Tessa Taboo
Quote:
Originally posted by poetprincess
I say do whatever it is that makes you happy, of course I would wonder why your man didnt want you to do it then but does now!!
When we met, his last girlfriend was a chronic cheater, and I think that despite his best efforts not to carry that into our relationship, he was still very leery, and was a very jealous person. Now, he is very secure in our relationship, and takes it as a compliment instead of a threat when other people find me attractive.
11/13/2011
Contributor: Kkay Kkay
I would classify it as porn because it seems specifically aimed at sexual titillation. As for whether or not you should do it, it's up to you.

ETA: Looking through it, softcore, but still porn.
11/13/2011
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
It doesn't matter if it is porn or not. It's naked women. I also was in the final stages of being a suicide girl. I had a shoot set up and then I found out that SG keeps your pics no matter what. You can't even by them back and they will never be removed from their site. They just go into archive and can be searched but not shown in the "front lines". If you have so many questions about it, it's not the choice for you. Instead... how about you do a pin up shoot for your now husband . He can show his buddies if he wants. Whatever...

It's porn to me. Artsy and more tasteful, but it is pornographic. But, I don't really think that matters.
11/13/2011
Contributor: Cherrylane Cherrylane
I consider it more erotica than porn. I consider there to be a difference, though it may be small. Looking at vs models isn't porn, even though the photos basically show the same things. I wouldn't disagree with someone who wanted to call it softcore though.

As for whether or not you should do it, I think that just depends on what you want. You also have to consider the possibility of other parents finding out, which is something to think about if the idea of having it be something between an anonymous you, your husband, and the rest of the internet appeals to you. Honestly though, I think the idea of wanting to keep it hidden from your children and everyone kind of goes against the whole Suicide Girl thing. I thought they really stressed a message of transparency, like "this is who I am, regardless of size or skin tone or tattoos or piercings or hair color. I'm here, i'm beautiful and sexy and I'm not hiding it from anyone." Not at all that it's something you have to incorporate into your everyday life, but, figuring out your values on the matter and how meaningful this would really be for you is definitely something to consider.

I will say though that it's fairly likely your children would find out if you didn't tell them. I know I knew who the suicide girls were easily by the 7th grade, though that might have just been due to the particular scene I was in at the time (rebelrebelrebel) and myspace. It's possible that by the time your eldest was around the age where he might stumble across them your pictures wouldn't be as readily accessible.

Either way, as mentioned before, if it's something you're considering, I'd evaluate why it's appealing to you and how strong that appeal is. Is it something you would be comfortable explaining and potentially defending to your children or even other parents? If not, then I might suggest trying to find another way to feel sexy and rev up your man.
11/13/2011
Contributor: Tessa Taboo Tessa Taboo
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
It doesn't matter if it is porn or not. It's naked women. I also was in the final stages of being a suicide girl. I had a shoot set up and then I found out that SG keeps your pics no matter what. You can't even by them back and they will ... more
Wow... I had no idea about that. That kind of puts a twist on things. Hmmm.....
11/13/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Quote:
Originally posted by Tessa Taboo
You don't have to have nudity in your pics, and I plan on (if I do it) doing very classy pics. No nipples showing, or anything like that. I'm not worried about them accidentally finding it, more about their friends giving them crap for it ... more
Kids are going to pick on your children, or vice versa, for any number of reasons. You being a Suicide Girl would move you up to MILF status and you'll probably be the most popular house on the block. That being said, I don't think it's the kids you need to worry about, but their conservative and judgmental parents.

Almost all of the Playboy models were mothers or became mothers at some point in their lives. A wig and heavy makeup would make you virtually unrecognizable, unless you have very unique visible tattoos.

You were accepted once and I think it would be nice for you to fulfill that dream. And this is just me personally, but I'd totally be side-eyeing my husband's about-face on the matter.
11/13/2011
Contributor: Rarity Rarity
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
It doesn't matter if it is porn or not. It's naked women. I also was in the final stages of being a suicide girl. I had a shoot set up and then I found out that SG keeps your pics no matter what. You can't even by them back and they will ... more
A private photo shoot sounds like a great idea!

Some of my friends have also applied to be suicide girls but from what they have told me, it doesn't sound like the best place to work. That, on top of concerns over your children, have made me vote no. This is something you should discuss to great length with your partner. The internet is really scary in the fact that once something is posted up, it can't really be completely removed.
11/13/2011
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
Yes it is porn, and yes you should apply.
11/13/2011
Contributor: allybee allybee
no...
11/13/2011
Contributor: null null
Yes it is porn, or at least the kind of thing that could get you in hot water if found by the wrong people. However, I think if you understand the risks and can handle them you should go for it. If you can't, a private photo shoot could be a lot of fun!
11/13/2011
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
It is, but a softer porn. I see no problem in posing for risque photographs, as long as it's just that. Anything more would take it out of that class.
11/15/2011
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
I'd call it soft soft soft core porn. SG aren't really my thing, but to each their own.

Follow your heart, whether that's inside or tattooed on the outside, that's up to you.
11/15/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by chicken12
I would classify it as porn.

If alluring pictures of naked people are being taken for the purpose of sexual gratification, I'd call it porn.

I said "no" you shouldn't apply only because I wish there had been an ... more
I agree.
11/16/2011
Contributor: MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
I don't consider it porn just because the simple fact I have not watched any movies where the girls are having sex. More of an art form in my mind. I have 'A Guide to Living' on my DVR that I watch from time to time. OMG, there are some BEAUTIFUL woman on that one!!!! Usually gets me going and wanting more.
12/03/2011
Contributor: Collogue Collogue
I definitely consider Suicide Girls porn, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't do it! I love their art aesthetic, and I think there are some models that are styled more like pornography than others.
12/13/2011
Contributor: mandaj mandaj
i said yes its porn but u should do it, who says u gotta get naked and show off ur boobs n butt??? like u said u want to be classy and be sexy...so do it girl, if it makes u feel good and ur hubby approves. only one person can juge u...so dnt worry bout what they say....just maybe when ur kids come of age like 18 maybe mention it so cause they might stumble apon it. tht way they wont be shocked.
01/07/2012
Contributor: switzerland switzerland
it definitely a type of porn. they are erotic photographs.

ultimately, it is up to you and how comfortable you feel. obviously you are doubting whether or not you should. i've come to realize in life that if i ever doubt or question anything, i probably shouldn't do it.
01/15/2012
Contributor: dks210 dks210
Yes, it's definitely porn. If I were you, I wouldn't do it because I know tons of teenage boys who look at it. If you want to save your kids the embarrassment, don't do it.
01/19/2012
Contributor: samanthalynn samanthalynn
i agree
01/28/2012
Contributor: MGDavicnigirl MGDavicnigirl
I said yes, and yes.

Do what makes you feel good, ultimately, how will you feel if you child ever finds that photo? How about 20 years from now?
02/02/2012
Contributor: Graniteal Graniteal
I wouldn't do it
02/03/2012
Contributor: PDXlady PDXlady
I think yes it is porn, but I also said yes you should apply. I personally think that the best way to go about it would be to have an honest discussion with your kids about it once you feel it's the right time so that they can understand it and hear it from you instead of possibly someone at school.
02/12/2012
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
Personally I don't think it's porn. But I'm not gonna tell you that you should or shouldn't do it. It's your body, and your life, and your children. They might think it's cool, they might think it's weird, they might tell their friends. You never know. The question is, do you want to wonder?
02/12/2012
Contributor: geliebt geliebt
I look at it more like erotic pinups, or sexual nudes. It could definitely be seen as porn but for me, it's not quite there yet (of course, I like my porn really hardcore).
If you're interested, go for it! There's nothing wrong with being a suicide girl
02/12/2012
Contributor: sweetcuppincakes sweetcuppincakes
I think enough people view it as porn to consider it porn. But either way, if you're concerned about people you know seeing your photo spreads, don't do it.
02/14/2012
Contributor: callsignhusker callsignhusker
it is, certainly!
02/15/2012