Are you picky about your partner's sexual orientation?

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Peggi

I read Lauren's really interesting poll here and it refers to dating specific types of people based on their orientation. While her poll relates to those who date only those who are homosexual or straight in an attempt to CHANGE their sexual orientation, mine refers to whether or not you will only date someone of a specific sexual orientation just as preference.

For example, some women will only date a lesbian and not someone who is bisexual, some men will only date women who are bisexual, some people only want a heterosexual partner!

Personally, I've never dated someone who was straight, and for some reason, it would seem so strange to me! I had this conversation with my hubby when we first met, and at the time thought that he was straight, and that it was a bit odd to me, but then he explained that while he tends to list himself as straight to avoid weird guys from hitting on him, that he was actually bisexual. So, even when I make an exception, I seem to just become more attracted to bisexual men and women.

I've never dated a straight man, and never dated a lesbian.

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Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):

I have a preference

DeliciousSurprise , LovesAPoet , Geogeo , Masokisti , Vanille , OhMy! , Rossie , Sammi , ghalik , Zombirella , K101 , thisisadeletedaccount , HisOneAndOnly , lecanis , FHeemz , married with children , mpfm , Femme Mystique , Sohotdinosaur , KinkyNicki92 , GONE! , Missmarc , AliMc , Feisty , Gluesnffr

25 (53%)

I do not have a preference

Beck , KrissyNovacaine , CadmiumKitty , Ghost , Talena , gsfanatic , solitudinarian , JennSenn , Girly Juice , Stark , Scrawberry78 , Rawr4483 , Kitka , WhoopieDoo , Lildrummrgurl7 , novanilla , VanillaFreeSex

17 (36%)

I've never really asked/paid attention to know the orientation of my partner(s)

panda555 , Vaginas

2 (4%)

Other

CoffeeCup , Chilipepper , Airen Wolf

3 (6%)

Total votes: 47

Poll is closed

06/25/2012

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CoffeeCup

It certainly is not a mandatory criteria and it's not even important enough for me to really ask about, but I am always excited if I find out a guy is "flexible".

06/25/2012

KrissyNovacaine

I don't care. I am bi, but the people I like just have to like me.

06/25/2012

Chilipepper

As long as they're attracted back to me, I don't really care about their orientation (for the record, I'm attracted to and prefer men). Although all the bisexual men I know don't care for my "type" (Earth Goddess in body and soul), so the guys I end up involved with tend to be straight.

06/25/2012

Geogeo

I only date straight men. For one reason, I prefer manlier men and flexible or bisexual men tend to be more feminine. The other reason is that if I sleep with a man that has had sex with another man, even once, I can't donate blood anymore, so I avoid those men.

06/25/2012

CadmiumKitty

I dont have a preference

06/25/2012

panda555

I have been told but as long as am with them I got the Meh lol

06/25/2012

Airen Wolf

(EF Review Program Mentor)

Quote:

Originally posted by Peggi

I have only ever dated two men and both were hetero, but if I met a man who was interested in me, and I was interested in him, then I don't think I would care if he was bisexual. It would just be another quirk of a man I love!

06/25/2012

Talena

I have no preference.

06/25/2012

Rossie

I've only dated straight guys...just happened that way.

06/25/2012

pasdechat

I'm extremely picky about who I date--I really need to feel something "click"--but orientation doesn't play a role. My first boyfriend was bi and the second straight.

06/25/2012

ghalik

Um, don't spew the hate but I am a tad biphobic. So I prefer lesbian/homosexual.

06/25/2012

Zombirella

Nothing against gay/lesbian/bi people but I will only date a straight guy.

06/26/2012

K101

Quote:

Originally posted by Peggi

It'd be really complicated for me, as a straight female to be with a male who was not straight. I do have a preference and it's straight. I'm straight so I don't think a straight person can 100% understand a partner that isn't. Not that you can't love or care about someone who isn't of the same preference as you, but less likely to truly "get it."

I don't know any males who are bi. I only know full-blown gays or full-blown straights. My partner's straight so I can't really see myself being interested in anybody else but him.

06/26/2012

thisisadeletedaccount

I prefer being with other people who identify somewhere on the queer spectrum, though I don't really care where. The one time I dated a straight guy it was way too easy for me to get clicked into stereotypical assumptions about what I had to do to make sure he liked me, and it was weird and stressful. I'd like to avoid that. Also, I'm genderqueer, so I prefer to date people who are comfy being attracted to people of my gender identity, and that favors queer folks.

06/26/2012

gsfanatic

As long as they were are interested in me, I don't care if they're straight or bisexual.

06/26/2012

Beck

I don't care. It doesn't bother me. They can be what they want.

06/26/2012

HisOneAndOnly

I am straight, and to be honest I wouldn't consider changing my sexual orientation. My husband and I have discussed this recently and it pleased me to find out that he wasn't into threesomes, as I am not honestly into trying it out. I prefer the male anatomy over anything else!

06/26/2012

lecanis

I prefer to date people who identify as some level of queer. I wouldn't choose not to date a straight person solely for being straight, but as of yet I haven't dated any straight people because they've all lost interest fairly quickly once we got started talking about various sexual issues.

If I met a straight person who wouldn't be bored to tears listening to me go on about sexuality and gender issues and wouldn't be bothered by my gender-fluidity, I'd certainly date them!

That gender-fluidity is kind of a big part of the issue though. When you don't actually completely identify as male or female, it becomes a little complicated in terms of how partners feel that affects their sexuality.

06/26/2012

solitudinarian

I'm a straight female. As long as they are attracted to me and they don't feel incomplete due to not having a same sex partner in addition to me (I know not every bisexual person is poly, but it does happen), I don't care.

06/28/2012

JennSenn

As long as they like me it's fine. I've actually never asked outright though. It never occurred to me to do so.

06/28/2012

Girly Juice

It doesn't matter as long as they're attractive and wonderful. Anyone I date HAS to be queer-friendly and in support of queer rights - that's mandatory - but that doesn't mean they necessarily have to be queer, themselves.

06/28/2012

Femme Mystique

I prefer for them to be lesbians or at least very secure in what they are looking for. I married a woman who decided a year later that she needed to be with a man. After that, I'm a little more gun shy about dating bisexual women or women who are only recently out as lesbians.

07/02/2012

Kitka

I'm pansexual so don't really have a preference.

07/02/2012

nova2014

I'd rather he only liked females

12/08/2012

KinkyNicki92

i prefer him to be straight

12/08/2012

WhoopieDoo

I don't really have a preference but it's a turn on for me when people are non-hetero.

12/08/2012

Lildrummrgurl7

I've only dated straight men (as far as I know) but I wouldn't be opposed to or upset about a partner's sexual orientation as long as they were faithful and honestly attracted to me.

12/08/2012

Missmarc

Quote:

Originally posted by Peggi

I have a preference

12/09/2012

Feisty

I have a preference.

12/09/2012

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