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Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
The last guy I dated was generally pretty sweet, but he had a tendency to ask, "Do girls like ____?" questions a lot. (Fill in that blank with things like video games and horror movies for my particular situation.) I told him, several times, that it really depends on which particular girl you're asking before giving my own answer, but he still did it frequently.

It really annoyed me. I wouldn't have minded if he was always asking, "Do you like ____?" instead. As it was, I just wanted to grab him and shout, "I can't answer for every woman!" (Before anyone asks, this wasn't the reason we broke up. )

Am I the only person who gets annoyed by this?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yeah, it bothers me a lot!
12  (17%)
It kind of bugs me, but it's not worth thinking about.
43  (62%)
Doesn't really bother me at all.
12  (17%)
Other.
2  (3%)
Total votes: 69
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Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Some people just cannot get away from an affinity for stereotyping.
07/26/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
After the first or second time someone asks me that, I always say "I don't know, why don't you ask them?" The third time I get up and ask the first guy/girl I see "My friend wants to know..." They pretty much quit asking me about then. lol
07/26/2011
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
After the first or second time someone asks me that, I always say "I don't know, why don't you ask them?" The third time I get up and ask the first guy/girl I see "My friend wants to know..." They pretty much quit asking me about then. lol
Haha, that's an awesome idea! Wish I'd thought of that!
07/26/2011
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
Quote:
Originally posted by RonLee
Some people just cannot get away from an affinity for stereotyping.
Stereotyping in general annoys me. A former coworker of mine always used to do that eye-roll and dismissively say "Men!" whenever she talked about her old boyfriend. It really bugged me.
07/26/2011
Contributor: Ghost Ghost
I do find it annoying, especially since almost none of my interests fall into the category of "things girls are supposed to like".
07/27/2011
Contributor: themaddhatter themaddhatter
doesnt really bother me
07/27/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
Wouldn't bother me too much
07/27/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
I don't find them annoying but there really isn't much of a point when everyone is a unique individual with different likes and dislikes.
07/27/2011
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I'm so unusual/ weird/ unique/ creative/ odd that I'm never asked such questions. They know my answer isn't going to be like anyone else's.
07/27/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I think its cute when My Man asks me to speak for womankind!

A few months ago, he asked me, "Can women actually make their butts wiggle more when they walk on purpose? Or is it just the woman?" He had commented on how a woman he works with really "works it" when she walks by him in the lunchroom or the hallway and wanted to know the walk was just her or if she could alter it consciously.

I asked him if he ever noticed the way I walk and he laughed and said some nice things about my wiggle. I then demonstrated how easy it was so wiggle more if you wanted attention from a guy or just walk to mean business. (Why he had never noticed before startled me a little.) I then explained that because women have hips that are wide for child birth, the femurs are farther apart than mens' AND at a strange angle and it causes a wiggle. But, that we can change it to signal interest etc.

He's done this about a lot of things pertaining to women, from orgasms to the way women say goodbye to people (Usually take a LOT longer than men do, even if they are going to see each other 30 minutes later.)

I take it as a compliment.
07/27/2011
Contributor: Envy Envy
I think it depends. I'm not really feminine, but I've had guys ask me before about things such as periods, PMS, why do girls sometimes do this and that, etc. I guess guys feel more comfy asking me because I hang with men a lot and am just a lot more open. They see me as a 'bridge' I suppose, and I try to give honest answers. It only annoys me, though when something is asked and then I'm also asked why I'm not like this or that if that's how women are. Or when they don't like hearing what i have to say and they blow it off.
07/27/2011
Contributor: ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
If someone seems generally interested in the opposite sex, then it doesn't bother me. But if it's just an awkward filler and the person seems to be searching the room for things to say ("Do girls like salt? Do girls like kitchen tables? Do girls like TV?"), then I'm going to get annoyed.

It also depends on the responses. If the person is taking what I'm saying and then making a sexist joke of it, then you better believe I'll get fired up!
07/27/2011
Contributor: lanky lanky
never really thought about it
07/27/2011
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
Depends, if it is a generalization that shows regard for the exceptions or implies that It is black and white with no gray area. Stereotypes I try to stay clear of because they serve no good and really piss me off!!!
07/27/2011
Contributor: thebest thebest
not really
07/28/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
The last guy I dated was generally pretty sweet, but he had a tendency to ask, "Do girls like ____?" questions a lot. (Fill in that blank with things like video games and horror movies for my particular situation.) I told him, several ... more
My husband will ask questions like this sometimes and it is seriously annoying. I don't know what 'women' like, just what this woman likes. What is the point anyways?
07/28/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i can see how that could get old really quick. yeah, to be honest, i really wouldn't appreciate that after a while. one woman can't answer for all women lol
07/28/2011
Contributor: southern woman southern woman
I've noticed that My husband and I both do this to each other when talking about certain things.. I always feel awkward when answering cuz most the time I honestly dont know... Most of my friends or even just girls I knew acted completely different than me and had different morals, wants, likings, etc.. so most the time I dont really know how to answer them except from my perspective.. If its something I've never encountered myself then I just tell him "I dunno cuz Im not that kind of girl"
07/28/2011
Contributor: southern woman southern woman
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I think its cute when My Man asks me to speak for womankind!

A few months ago, he asked me, "Can women actually make their butts wiggle more when they walk on purpose? Or is it just the woman?" He had commented on how a woman he ... more
OMG! yes my husband has asked this same question! lol I think sometimes, depending on the question, it can be really funny.
08/01/2011
Contributor: Kkay Kkay
I hate it. Always.
08/01/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I bugs me a little bit, but I don't really care.
08/01/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
No, it doesn't bug me. Just more points for me
08/01/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
The last guy I dated was generally pretty sweet, but he had a tendency to ask, "Do girls like ____?" questions a lot. (Fill in that blank with things like video games and horror movies for my particular situation.) I told him, several ... more
I dont really get annoyed with this
08/02/2011
Contributor: Cherrylane Cherrylane
It doesn't really annoy me, per se, but I suppose it is a little frustrating and/or silly, because it seems like 99% of the time the general response is something like "it depends on the person."

One might think, after some time reading the responses to similarly phrased questions, that you should be able to predict what sort of answer you'll get.

Curiosity rules though. And alas, so do points for posting polls and discussions...
10/29/2011
Contributor: Apirka Apirka
I kind of annoys me a little. I would much rather be asked if *I* like something because I can't speak for the rest of the female population.
03/23/2012
Contributor: Azule Azule
it bugs me a little, but overall since I know he's just curious about pretty much everything he doesn't have a full understanding of, I humor him. I mean at least he's trying to learn about new things.
03/23/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
The last guy I dated was generally pretty sweet, but he had a tendency to ask, "Do girls like ____?" questions a lot. (Fill in that blank with things like video games and horror movies for my particular situation.) I told him, several ... more
Eh, it depends on why and what they are asking about... maybe he was just shy and was trying to learn stuff about you.
03/24/2012
Contributor: Lizzy Lizzy
Doesn't bother me
03/31/2012
Contributor: wildorchid wildorchid
Doesn't really bug me. I usually answer for myself and then tell them; "But I'm not every woman, so keep that in mind".
04/01/2012