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How long did you wait to have sex in your last relationship (if you are single) or your current relationship (if you are involved with someone).

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Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
Sex and new relationships: How long did you wait to have sex in your last relationship (if you are single) or your current relationship (if you are involved with someone).



First date: Why wait if you are compatible?

Two or three dates: I didn't want to seem TOO eager!

Two weeks to a month: I like to take my time.

From one to three months: I choose to let the relationship develop first.

Three months or more. I am not crazy about premarital sex.
10/13/2010
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Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Last one - we waited until we were married.
10/13/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
Current relationship-I tried to restrain myself but we did it after one week of officially going out (we had been dating 3 weeks)
10/14/2010
Contributor: butterflykisses butterflykisses
Waiting till we get married
10/17/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
In the past my relationships had differed..there was one I slept with on the first date, some where we were "just friends" until we ended up sleeping together and that started off our relationship, some that were a few weeks, some a few months...it all just depended on the relationship and the chemistry we were feeling.

With my husband we waited about 5 weeks from our first date. We actually waited until about 4 weeks after our first date to even kiss. The same night we shared our first kiss we ended up half naked and doing everything but oral and sex. It was a little less than a week from that point that we had sex for the first time.
10/17/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
2 years, but then again, long distance relationship. We cybered before that of course, but waited 4 months before doing that. I always like to wait, i want to make sure things will be working out lest I live with regret. Also helps me judge if the guy is into me only for sex or not.
10/17/2010
Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
Quote:
Originally posted by butterflykisses
Waiting till we get married
Thats awesome
10/17/2010
Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
Quote:
Originally posted by Envy
2 years, but then again, long distance relationship. We cybered before that of course, but waited 4 months before doing that. I always like to wait, i want to make sure things will be working out lest I live with regret. Also helps me judge if the ... more
I agree! Waiting is the best. I waited for about a year before I had sexual intercourse with my boyfriend , oral sex 6 months. I think its better to wait, I knew he was with me for the right reasons.
10/17/2010
Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
Quote:
Originally posted by butterflykisses
Waiting till we get married
awesome I thank this is the way to go, even though a lot of people cant wait! lol.. im happy to see people still do this today!
10/17/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
We didn't wait long at all. We both were clean, had physicals and everything. Maybe.. a week or so.
10/19/2010
Contributor: ZenaidaMacroura ZenaidaMacroura
With my current boyfriend, we started out as just friends until we got drunk one night and had sex. Haha. That kinda started the relationship.
10/19/2010
Contributor: sweet sally sweet sally
Current relationship...1st "date" if that's what you want to call it. lol We knew each other for 10 yrs prior.

Last relationship (ex husband)we waited about a year. We were teenagers when we met.
10/19/2010
Contributor: Phoenix77 Phoenix77
Hah, I've been "dating" this guy for a couple months, and sleeping with him for closer to six. We had sex the third(?) time we met...
10/20/2010
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
My husband and I dated for over two years first. We had been living together for several months when we first had sex (though we had "messed around" in other ways before that). At the time, we had finally decided to get married. My husband had wanted to elope right away, but I wanted to wait to get married so I could plan a wedding with family in attendance.
10/20/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
Generally, second date. I waited a long time in my first marriage, and our remarkable sexual incompatibility was a large part of why we failed - I know it's not the way everyone looks at it, but for me, I'm not going to spend months getting to know someone, and possibly falling in love, just to find out our bodies and hormones will never mesh.
10/20/2010
Contributor: Raggedy Andie Raggedy Andie
Quote:
Originally posted by ZenaidaMacroura
With my current boyfriend, we started out as just friends until we got drunk one night and had sex. Haha. That kinda started the relationship.
LOL same here...

..except now we are married

I have done both the waiting and not waiting thing and I guess it just really comes down to whether you are a great match for each other or not.
10/20/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
About a month of hangout/dates almost every day before we had sex. It was a complicated situation and I was on a I hate men and love Lauren kick. I was also not wanting to date anyone for a while but I practically was and felt like it anyways. At two months, we became exclusive. That's actually what hooked him...that he had to wait and I didn't just give in first chance we got. There were a lot of heavy clothes on- 1/2 off play and honestly, it was the hottest build up to sex ever!
10/20/2010
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
About three weeks. One night about two weeks into our relationship, we came back from the bar pretty drunk and things started getting hot and heavy. Most of my clothes were off and I was in the process of getting the rest of his off. And then,in a very rare move for my younger self, I totally slammed on the breaks and showed some restraint. To this day I'll never know why. I gave him some lame line about wanting him to respect me, etc. Probably gave him the worst case of blue balls in his life. Not that he had to wait much longer. I realized I was just kidding myself and probably ended up equally as sexually frustrated as him. The following weekend we had sex for the first time, and so began my sexual education.
12/24/2010
Contributor: Persephone's Addiction Persephone's Addiction
4 days after meeting him... hehehe
12/24/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Quote:
Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
Sex and new relationships: How long did you wait to have sex in your last relationship (if you are single) or your current relationship (if you are involved with someone).



First date: Why wait if you are compatible?

Two or ... more
I made my husband wait 1 full year of dating before we had sex, I made my life partner wait 3 years. I am not at all crazy about adding sex to a relationship I want longterm too quickly.
12/25/2010
Contributor: Jessica Elizabeth Jessica Elizabeth
We made out on our first date, but didn't have sex 'till our second date: the next day LOL

My current relationship.
12/25/2010
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
We're waiting until after my twenty first birthday, so that will have been about a year and a half. I wasn't planning on having premarital sex and neither was my partner, but we changed our minds
12/25/2010
Contributor: RubenesqueAna RubenesqueAna
Hah, I tend to have sex the same day I meet people. I'm a bit of a floozy, though.
12/25/2010
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
We waited a few months. Attraction/chemistry was the least of our concern. There were other people involved.
12/25/2010
Contributor: leatherlover leatherlover
My wife and I waited about 9 months. We were going to wait until marriage, but changed our mind as well. I just couldn't wait any longer.
12/25/2010
Contributor: KnK KnK
I'm going to use the last boy as a reference point. I never officially had intercourse with him...Just foreplay. That lasted....2 months? We didn't kiss until maybe the third date...? I'm foggy on details. We didn't start fooling around until about 3 weeks in. It was so good that I wanted to bag that and we became official for oh so very briefly.
12/25/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
My motto - try before ya buy!
Honestly, some guys absolutely SUCK at sex and not in a good way so I wont marry someone without sleeping with them first. But thats me and my past experiences.
Last time was a 3 week wait. I do take my time and only sleep with someone when I know for sure its the right move. I don't like having regrets!
12/26/2010
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
My father always told me to test drive the car before you buy it and I apply that to several aspects in my life - sex being one. For me, it was important to make sure we were compatible in every way. I think we waited 2 weeks or so. The sex was amazing from day one. I would have never guessed that 17 years later it could only getting better!
12/26/2010
Contributor: Danielle1220 Danielle1220
First date!
12/29/2010
Contributor: Beaners Beaners
My boyfriend and I didn't really "date". We hung out in a group of friends when he was in town one weekend, and did everything but having sex. A week and a half later I stayed at his apartment while I was up in his state for a test, and it went down. I'm with Redboxbaby, the sex was amazing right off the bat, neither he nor I could believe it. That was my first sign that he was the one I wanted to stick with.
12/29/2010