I agree with Tori. It could go either way. If a few texts, scared him off, is it possible that he has something to hide?

If he doesn't come around, move on!

Good luck.

So there's nothing I can do, the ball's in his court, right?

*sigh* No wonder I used to say "I'm SO glad I'm married." whenever I heard a dating friend talk about this stuff. Karma bit my ass.

hmm...give it time I guess. Focus on yourself and being back in school and I'm sure he'll come around in time.

Good luck!

I had been chatting online with a guy for weeks, waiting for him to come home from deployment to meet him and hang out. Once he made it home, he fell off the face of the earth and I haven't heard from him since. It royally pissed me off, actually. He maybe just wanted company while he was gone and now I'm not necessary anymore. Found someone like my ex that just got rid of me quicker. Bastard.

It's why I don't like the "talk online for a long time before meeting each other" thing. Cause it's easy to put it off and pretend it's not a real person on the other end. Better to meet as soon as you are comfortable to start the real connection.

My biggest advice piece for those new to dating or now dating again is to take it slow, especially online. Only take it day by day and make the effort even. You should only put the same amount of effort in that he is and not much more in the beginning. If you put in the huge effort and he doesn't meet you with much, don't continue to waste your effort, it's his turn. It can scare him off and at the rate that you were messaging, it would do so for many friends I have talked to who use the same services. If you contacted him, wait for him to respond. In a day or two, use a different medium, if you emailed, then text, but after that, let it go. You are a wonderful girl and don't deserve to chase anyone who isn't putting in an effort too. If he said he wanted to see you again, trust that. Doubting his words about work and continuing to message him can read as distrusting to him which is not a good thing obviously. Confidence is sexy and being confident enough to sit back and go on with your sexy self shows that you are an independent woman.

But, unfortunately people are ruder now. Rude is the new normal. Far less people find it important to return calls, messages, not to inform if you are going to be late or not show up etc. I blame the internet and what Darling Jen said about people appearing less real. It would be polite to respond but now adays if you make a big stink about someone not responding, it may backfire on you. Right? No. Unfortunate and backwards? Yes.

He could have lost his phone? Probably not though...I think at this point, it's his turn to get in touch with you if he wants to.

He defriended me at Facebook.

Excuse me, I'm going to go have a breakdown now.

Unfortunately most guys don't think or feel the same way some of us girls do. Things that we feel are important aren't so much to them. And a lot of guys prefer to do the chase so if you come on too strong with trying to make contact (fine to message him once and then leave it to him to respond), they can lose interest.
I'm affraid I tend to chase .... I find it somewhat of a turn off when a guy chases me too much.

It's easy for some to say just move on, but I know too well it's not all that black and white. Might be a breeze for some but some of us are more emotional.

There are a lot of dropkicks online - I have met a number of them. But sometimes ya will find a rose between the thorns. There are some great guys out here, unfortunately if you choose the net, ya have to weed out the assholes.
I know I never found any decent guys on dating sites. The ones I met up with were just left overs no one wanted. Sorry people, but it's true. Sure there may be some good ones but I didn't get to meet any.

I personally prefer to chat for awhile online before meeting anyone. I want to feel totally comfortable and want them to get to know me for me on here first. As much as I'm dying to meet my Master, I'm not rushing it.

My best advice when it comes to most guys - don't be too eager. Or at least don't show them that!
Totally sux that he deleted you.
Try not to let him get you down - but I understand how emotional it is!

(((HUGS)))

I just read the recent posts; so sorry...always better to find out about the jerks earlier then later. Good luck Hun....

It's better to know now that he is a jerk than to have wasted more time and figured it out later. You are smart, funny, loving, and have a lot to give. If he can't see that it's definitely his loss and it wasn't meant to be. Don't let him get to you because he's not worth your tears. Have a cup of tea, do something you enjoy, and stay positive. When the time is right, everything will come together.

Thank you, everyone. Apparently I fell harder than I thought because I'm still a mess. I'm going to try to spend the weekend with friends instead of staying cooped up in the house.

I'm currently not believing there's anyone 'out there' that wants me. I'm just so tired of the loneliness. I want to be held and loved, and I want to hold and love someone. For a long while today I regretted my divorce. My ex-husband may have been a bone idle slob without libido, but at least he cuddled me and I knew where I stood with him.

It's going to be a while until I try this again, and I don't think I'll use a dating site ever again.

I truly feel for you, Chilipepper. I wish there was something I could do for you. aside from sending my well-wishes.

Everyone else here is giving you great advice, and I don't really have much more to add. I kind of understand how you feel, in that I used to come on strong with women with respect to calling them repeatedly, making grand gestures at inopportune times (e.g., a dozen roses after a first date), etc. It took me a long time to learn how to, well, play hard to get. It was awfully hard because I wanted to be with someone so badly, but I forced myself to do it, and it made a ton of difference.

One last thing. The fact that he didn't call you back proves that he is a coward, and not a man. You can do a lot better.