That is an amazing idea. Lelo toys are a great choice, since they come in sexy boxes. Then you can slowly remove the toy from its box and look all suave.

A glass toy would be nice, just because glass is impressive. Perhaps not a big one, as people seem to get freaked out at the idea of a glass dildo at first ("OMG IT WILL BREAK!").

I would also highly recommend the Tantus Alumina Motion. The small end is just amazing... I've been using it for preliminary penetration almost every time I masturbate because it's the perfect size. The aluminum is really stunning in person and holds temperature incredibly well.

And definitely pick up some sort of arousal cream/gel. Cleopatra's Secret is cheap and works but it LOOKS very cheap and is colored (mine is pink), which is pretty tacky. I like Shunga Secret Garden as it comes in a much classier bottle and is clear, like lube.

Honestly, I would probably opt for something a lot cheaper. While those toys are both quality, dildos are not as universally loved as vibrators and the Gigi isn't necessarily meant for clit stimulation (which is where I would focus). I think that this is a nice idea but all of us ladies like something different.

I would get the Xtreme G-spot bullet. While most people can't use it for g-spot stimulation, it has a HUGE range of vibration patterns & strengths. You can tie a condom around it for safety and it has a nice long cord. It isn't intimidating and most people report they like the purple/green color combo. It has been a "screaming" success with my female partners.

I second the Xtreme G-spot bullet. There's something for everyone in that little machine and you could use it during sex as well. Plus with the Ella or Gigi, not everyone enjoys g-spot stimulation the same. Like for me, I got the Ella a couple months ago and still can't figure out how to get it to feel good... Le sigh...

Anyway, the Xtreme is my recommendation.

The Ella isn't THAT expensive. I would recommend it over the Gigi any day. Then get the Xtreme Pack and use that for clit action.

Not sure about the bullets. sanitization is HUGE factor to me, and I find external cord to awkward.

I have had great success using vibrators for clitoral stimulation on my previous partner as well as those before, but yes every woman is different.

I am definitely looking for class, over cheap. Cost is really not a deciding factor, quality over quantity. What about some of the other LELO products?

It seems like the Liv and the Mia could make for a well rounded non intimidating experience.

Oh, and for the record I think the Ella is one hell of a bargain for what you get. I guess I also like that is double ended without looking trashy so it can do more standard penetration as well as G-spot.

Glass!

I dated a man once who actually used to make glass dildos and would show them off to me, very impressive.

Girls may think it's creepy you have sex toys that someone else has used, especially if they have electronic parts.

BUT I think the Rainbow Mega Nubby is too gorgeous and too cheap to pass up. link It's also highly textured, so you could be like hey- look what I picked up on one of my travels, they'd probably be so intrigued that they'd want to give it a whirl... Tell them you can boil it, etc. etc.

If I was dating a guy that already had toys at his out I would not use them at all. No matter how good they were cleaned. I would personally wait till you discuss toys with a person and choose one together so the girl isn't freaked out really soon in the relationship.

Well, you would have to be honest. And know when to bring it up.

But I guess you probably should wait until you find someone, then suggest certain toys and ask if you could buy them to play with with her.

Great points above: Really I wouldn't want to use toys that someone had already purchased (and potentially used), even if I understood enough about the toy to know it could be sterilized and I watched it boil myself. Here's the conversation I imagine (using the Ella as an example):

You: Did I tell you I'm a reviewer for EF? ... Oh you like sex toys? Awesome! Look at what I've got...

Her: What the hell is wrong with you? Why would I want to use a toy someone else has used?

You: But the Ella is 100% silicone and has been sterilized. We can even boil it first if you would like.

Her: Yeah right. Maybe that line works on some, but not me!



Well, this is how I imagine I would react anyway.

Why not a flogger? Maybe some fun cuffs? Or a throe? Liberator shapes? Have some flavored lubricants on hand.

If a guy tried to use a toy on me he used on someone else, I'd be creeped out as I said before.. but that's just me. If you boiled a toy in front of me though, that would help to put my mind at ease.

I would be hesitant about flavored lubes too, because of allergies etc. Plus if I am with a guy and he is getting ready to go down on me and pulls out a half used bottle of O'my I would be like...o.k. he is such a ho. Just me.

I would suggest the throe too if you are set on buying something cool for future partners. It would work for just about everyone and can double as just part of the decor.

I think the suggestions in this thread are great - and in the right direction. I'd say go with small things: accessories like the throe, some nice ropes (if you're into that), candles, single use vibrating cock rings.

Honestly, I think it'd be way more fun to surprise a girl after you get to know her and discuss it though. Ease into toys and kink because you want whoever you date to feel comfortable, not forced or awkward. I know you're excited and you're trying to be positive about dating, but go easy on yourself - no need to rush. Please her with conversation, by being good company first...the bedroom stuff will come more naturally once you have a rapport with each other.

Good luck.

errrrr..... Not to dismiss anyones opinions, but in the college town I live in, I know some straight up FREAKS and ALL they do is play in the sheets.

I would have a hard time convincing some of them NOT to use a toy that has been shared, no matter what it was made out of. Seriously I feel like I give sex-ed classes for free half the time.

Not that I'm trying to play a bunch women as ho's, It's just that I will need a "rebound" or two before moving on to more committed things, and if someone is not open enough to talk about sexuality and toys from word one, I usually don't get any farther than that. I play thing totally open and honest. So I wouldn't just surprise a girl with a toy if she didn't know it was coming.

Like I said I live in what you would call a "liberal" environment, most people I know have a fairly open mind.

I understand The emotional issue with sex toys, how many people eat of off stainless steel dinnerware at a restaurant? I can guarantee you my Gear Essential Stainless steel cock rings are WAY more sanitary than anything you would dine on.

thanks for the opinions

Don't worry I'm not rushing into anything, I'm still sorting out my current situation day by day. It's just a nice distraction to think ahead.

I'm also a lampworker, never made any dildos, I did do a couple of plugs on request, it's just to dam easy, I find no artistic challenge in it. Maybe I should give it a try and just treat each one as disposable. I cant believe the prices some of that stuff goes for. I'll spend 20+ plus hrs on some art work, dichro, inside out, fuming, lattice canework, vortex marbles, millfiorie, wig-wags, reversals, and windows, all using name brand pyrex. and high quality northstar, or Momka color, you name it and I still don't sell for what I see some of these "crude" dongs going for.

so after posting this thread I decided not to get anything for "others" just to keep around the house. since then I have had two partners both of whom were aware of toys and silicone and other "safe" materials. When I talked about my male toys they both begged to see them and of course I obliged. After showing them my collection of metal rings, silicone rings, sleeves and prostate massagers it was followed by the " how come theirs nothing in that box for me?", so it seems that I am back at my original problem. (looking for a safe vibe, or dill mainly to give the ladies and extra thrill.)

I agree with most of the women on this thread, there's absolutely *no* way that I would use a toy that someone else used. It's not sanitary and it certainly doesn't make you feel special. But hey, you've got to do what's right for you I guess.

I would use a new lover's toys if they could be sanitized, but then again, I know all about material safety. And of course, I'd personally sanitize them before we used them.

not that I'm trying to start a ruckuss...@spciywife "It's not sanitary and it certainly doesn't make you feel special" Silicone, Stainless steel, and pyrex ARE sanitary, if properly sanatized and I believe you may have intended to write it doesn't make *me* feel special as one has no way to generalize what makes others feel special.

@backseat ... this is exactly my point, they both requested something to use and were familiar with material safety and would have had the options of bleach, boil, and condom... If only I had something for them to use.

@tantric

No I meant to say that "it certainly doesn't make you feel special" because I was trying to get the point across that it doesn't make some women feel special. It was a generalized statement. But, it wouldn't make me feel special either. I still don't believe it's sanitary unless maybe it's boiled......... five times and then six more

I think using a condom on some might be good, especially if the girl would feel more comfortable. Again, I'm just saying that *I* don't feel it's sanitary, no matter how many times you sterilize. It's not sanitary in my mind, if you get what I mean. It just doesn't seem right to *me*

you'll have to say more than that to start a ruckus, at least with me. We're all entitled to our opinions and I try not to make people feel bad about them. I just thought voicing my opinion might help you consider to be safer about sharing toys, but it sounds like you've got the basics already anyways.

But I think that most girls who want a long-term relationship wouldn't like the idea of using a toy that was used on someone else, though again it sounds like you're not searching for that at this point.