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Contributor: chantalgiardina chantalgiardina
which do you consider to be more important
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
looks
edeneve
1
trust
ToyTimeTim , SMichelle , funluvinmama , ejrbrndps , Badass , puppylove , unfulfilled , Hallmar82 , underHim , Love Obsessed , Lilith Bealove , padmeamidala , TransMarc , Falsepast , js250 , Rossie , curious kitten , Raigne , Greenleaf , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , LovesAPoet , Arch600 , Nora , ksparkles16 , VelvetDragon , MissCandyland , ghalik , Mistress Sassy , Various , married with children , *Camoprincess* , pitona , hro789 , gsfanatic , TdotY , M.O.'s Girl , CadmiumKitty , CherryGryffon , LavenderSkies , bayosgirl , lustylusty , treefrog88 , Cheluh10 , Pinkhare , panthercat23 , nova2014 , libbyv , aluminummm , Alyona , edeneve , mjtheprincess , Firemenlafd2 , sweet&lush , ToyBunny , Septimus , MrWood , novanilla , llellsee , SF , elli , InnocentIchigo , GONE! , hmb12 , jive.9 , falalena , table38792
66
communication
ToyTimeTim , SMichelle , funluvinmama , ejrbrndps , puppylove , unfulfilled , underHim , Love Obsessed , Lilith Bealove , padmeamidala , Rossie , curious kitten , Raigne , RonLee , Greenleaf , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , LovesAPoet , Arch600 , Nora , ksparkles16 , VelvetDragon , MissCandyland , ghalik , Mistress Sassy , Mew , Taylor , Various , married with children , *Camoprincess* , Airen Wolf , hro789 , Sohotdinosaur , gsfanatic , TdotY , M.O.'s Girl , CadmiumKitty , CherryGryffon , LavenderSkies , bayosgirl , lustylusty , thisisadeletedaccount , TheHardOne , treefrog88 , Cheluh10 , libbyv , tunacan75 , evie.amor , aluminummm , edeneve , mjtheprincess , ToyBunny , Septimus , novanilla , SF , elli , InnocentIchigo , GONE! , doowop , hillys , falalena
60
sex
Nora , *Camoprincess* , lustylusty , aluminummm , edeneve , novanilla
6
attraction
Badass , unfulfilled , Hallmar82 , Lilith Bealove , padmeamidala , Rossie , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , Nora , pootpootpoot , MissCandyland , ghalik , married with children , *Camoprincess* , treefrog88 , Cheluh10 , edeneve , elli , doowop
18
money
edeneve , SF
2
other
ghalik , Mistress Sassy , Allison.Wilder , Sir , SF , table38792
6
Total votes: 159 (80 voters)
Poll is closed
04/26/2012
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Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
While things like looks and attraction are what brought us together, trust and communication are that things that have keep our relationship strong over these last 23 years. It's also what will keep it together until we die.
04/26/2012
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
ToyTimeTim had an excellent answer.

In my current relationship... I have to admit it was looks, and sexual attraction/similar sexual interests that brought he and I together. Now it's all about trust and communication. Sure, I still think he's gorgeous, but without trust and good communication? We'd fall apart.
04/26/2012
Contributor: funluvinmama funluvinmama
I agree, you all said it best.
04/26/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
Chemistry and trust are the ground stones for any relationship in my opinion.
04/26/2012
Contributor: puppylove puppylove
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
While things like looks and attraction are what brought us together, trust and communication are that things that have keep our relationship strong over these last 23 years. It's also what will keep it together until we die.
This 100% the other stuff may spark a relationship but without trust an communication it will not succeed long term
04/26/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Trust is very important.
04/26/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
All are important, but I would say someone who complements you is best.
04/26/2012
Contributor: underHim underHim
I would stay if we were not having sex, but not if for some reason he no longer deserved my trust and love.
04/26/2012
Contributor: Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
Trust and communication are important to me.
04/26/2012
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
Quote:
Originally posted by Love Obsessed
Trust and communication are important to me.
I'm with Love Obsessed on this one. My parents (and my in laws) have spent most of my and my husband's) lifes(ves) hiding stuff from each other, lying, not talking through their problems, and while they appear happy and normal on the inside my husband and I have seen first hand what no communication and no trust can do to a relationship. The only thing I have hidden from my husband is his surprise party and that was HARD! I don't think you can love someone without trust and I don't think you can make a relationship work with out communication.
04/26/2012
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by chantalgiardina
which do you consider to be more important
Trust and communication is very important. I also think attraction is important too. I am very attracted to Anakin and can't get enough of Him.
04/26/2012
Contributor: TransMarc TransMarc
I only voted trust but then realized it could be broken by bad communication... Also, respect of boundaries. Shh, I can't take back my vote
04/26/2012
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
Always trust
04/26/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
Trust, communication, respect and love.
04/26/2012
Contributor: curious kitten curious kitten
Trust and communication are always number one. Support and encouragement in each others choices in life, is second. And third the simple satisfaction of knowing you are there for each other.
04/26/2012
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
There are so many factors competing for "most important" that it's difficult to determine.
04/26/2012
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
Trust, communication, respect and love.
I agree, trust, communication, respect and love. However if you have all of that and the sex isn't satisfying, long-term just won't work. Of course great sex alone won't do it either.
04/26/2012
Contributor: Greenleaf Greenleaf
Trust and communication! If those are great, everything else can be fixed or will fall into place. If they're lacking, none of the others will make up for it.
04/26/2012
Contributor: Arch600 Arch600
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
While things like looks and attraction are what brought us together, trust and communication are that things that have keep our relationship strong over these last 23 years. It's also what will keep it together until we die.
I couldn't possibly say it better than this.
04/26/2012
Contributor: ksparkles16 ksparkles16
trust and communication for sure
04/27/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
Trust, communication, and attraction.
04/27/2012
Contributor: quinceykay quinceykay
Trust and communication - though without attraction as well, it's not really a relationship.
04/27/2012
Contributor: Various Various
Trust and communication are the most important to me.
04/27/2012
Contributor: married with children married with children
you have to be able to trust each other and communicate with each other about problems or worries.
04/29/2012
Contributor: pitona pitona
I can not be in a relationship with someone I don't trust.
05/02/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
While things like looks and attraction are what brought us together, trust and communication are that things that have keep our relationship strong over these last 23 years. It's also what will keep it together until we die.
~nods of all the things listed trust and good solid communication skills are essential, the rest can be worked on!
05/02/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Trust and communication are essential, the rest tend to grow from that. Attraction is a close second though, helps to find your partner appealing.
05/14/2012
Contributor: Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder
Sense of humor is what draws me in. I can't even begin to think about anything else if they don't have that quality.
05/14/2012
Contributor: CadmiumKitty CadmiumKitty
nothing works without good communication
05/21/2012