Would you rather be considered sexy for your looks or your intelligence?

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Would you rather be considered sexy for your looks or your intelligence?

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Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
This thread made me confused cuz it seems to be asking 2 different questions.

1. Would you rather be considered sexy for your looks or your intelligence?
2. What do you think is more important, looks or intelligence?

I think intelligence is far more important than looks and I'd rather be considered smart than sexy by most people -- but I'd rather be considered sexy because of my looks by those I want to find me sexy.

That totally makes sense to me.
05/07/2013
Contributor: DolphinGirl DolphinGirl
Looks are fun short-term, but brains is what endures long-term
05/07/2013
Contributor: Fluke Fluke
I agree with carrie ann, this thread is a bit confusing. I think the inside matters more but what is inside someone is more than intelligence. If someone was a great person, attractive, attentive and caring and all that but really dumb why is that bad. A lot of good traits come together with intelligence but intelligence by itself really isn't much.

I vote for looks, people who are attractive just have an easier time through life and being less intelligent doesn't phase them at all, see example ryan lochte
05/07/2013
Contributor: XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
I agree, funny and intelligent is a total package!
05/07/2013
Contributor: mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
My brain. Because someone who values my brain would use their brain to determine that my looks are pretty damn good too
05/08/2013
Contributor: MizzMistress MizzMistress
A mix of both, He has to have a great personality and intelligence, but hes gotta look good too
05/08/2013
Contributor: pixiedustVixen pixiedustVixen
i have had a lot of good looking boyfriends that were just dumb dumb and more dumb to put it nicely and honestly i hated them mostly for that reason so looks is not a HUGE issue its mostly about goals and ambition and wanting to be a real man thats the most attractive... wanting to provide for your girl is the most attractive thing ANY man can do!
05/08/2013
Contributor: apple4me apple4me
I'd love for someone to tell me I have a sexy brain!
05/09/2013
Contributor: SelectZen SelectZen
My mind/intelligence.
05/09/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
I hope I'm not considered hopelessly shallow for this, but I find it impossible to be sexually attracted to someone whose looks I don't find attractive, regardless of their intelligence, wit, or personality. Likewise, no matter how physically attractive someone is, a lack of brains, sense of humor, or empathy can kill the deal.

I don't really CARE why someone is attracted to me, only that, if I'm attracted to them, that they're attracted to me, too.
05/09/2013
Contributor: sweetiejo sweetiejo
This is a hard one, I really would prefer both to be an all around package for a guy, but I find I would prefer brains over looks, just because looks can and most likely will fade over time. The cliché that brains will last is a much closer reality then looks.
05/09/2013
Contributor: married with children married with children
I would have to say alittle bit of both would be good.
05/10/2013
Contributor: beans19 beans19
Both... What's one with out the other..??
05/10/2013
Contributor: Rawr4483 Rawr4483
Can't we have both?
05/10/2013
Contributor: wicked48 wicked48
Definitely brains!
05/10/2013
Contributor: Heartthrob Heartthrob
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
To me, intelligence is extremely hot. It's good to have a complete package, but a man's brain is more important to me. And I would hope men find me attractive for my brain, too. What do you think is more important?
For me it's intelligence all the way. I look nice but I'm not my looks, who I am is inside.
05/11/2013
Contributor: ChaiMocha ChaiMocha
Intelligence, looks fade far more quickly and I hate when people are obviously only interested in me because of them anyway. Personally I find a great personality much more appealing than any physical appearance.
05/11/2013
Contributor: evie.amor evie.amor
Quote:
Originally posted by K101
This is hard! I've talked about this with my partner before & I definitely love my brain & don't want to be only noticed because of what's on the outside, but if I'm going to be honest, well, when it comes to my partner, I ... more
I agree with Kendra 100%. In a perfect world looks wouldn't matter and it would only be about what is on the inside, but we are NOT living in a perfect world and looks do matter to people. So, while a relationship would not work if there was no attraction on a mental, intellectual level.. if a man doesn't find you physically attractive there will not likely be a relationship to begin with.
05/11/2013
Contributor: A&M A&M
intelligence that is an easy one. Though looks are good too.
05/11/2013
Contributor: Kitten has left the site Kitten has left the site
My hubby and I both said neither!
05/11/2013
Contributor: Ace <3 Ace <3
Can I say both? But my partner loves me for my brains (or so she says) I sure hope that she loves me enough after she sees the zeros behind my medical school loans!
05/11/2013
Contributor: Soulsekrou Soulsekrou
A girl could be completely stunning but if she's dumb as a box of rocks and can't have one little intelligent conversation with her then it is a MAJOR, MAJOR turn off.
05/11/2013
Contributor: CutiePatootie CutiePatootie
Mostly intelligence. I think now that I'm married, I don't mind either/or. I think I'm attractive to guys, but they really tend to like my personality (not exactly intelligence). I've had a few guys ask me if I have a twin that they can date.
05/12/2013
Contributor: angel42539 angel42539
by my brain
05/12/2013
Contributor: Katelyn Katelyn
Why can't we have both?
I would rather date or be with someone intelligent, but I don't mind having sex with people that aren't too smart ; )
05/12/2013
Contributor: sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
Personally, I have to go with intelligence. I am not attractive by any means, at least I do not think I am. I'd rather someone be attracted to my intelligence rather than my looks because I believe it is very shallow to judge a book by it's cover. Sure, we're animals by nature, and seek out a partner visually, but I have to think there is some hope for me as an intellectual person.
05/13/2013
Contributor: dawnkye dawnkye
If I had to choose one, I would definitely say intelligence over appearance. But I want my partner to find me irresistible in all ways!
05/13/2013
Contributor: alliegator alliegator
While I think intelligence is more important, being considered beautiful by superficial standards would be really nice, especially being someone who never really has been.
05/13/2013
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
Intelligence most definitely.
05/13/2013
Contributor: Pandwhora Pandwhora
Both.
05/14/2013