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Contributor: paralax paralax
whats the best way for you to get in the mood? i know there are a lot of different thing for different people but from this list, what do you prefer? if you choose other please tell what it is if you dont mind.
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dirty talk
Serendipity , Sir , PurpleBerry , petite-n-sweet , Bigtitts , sexysweetieshan , Coralbell , trios , wondertoes , mm4sa , Fun Lover , Viktor Vysheslav Malkin , Adriana Ravenlust , VampKitty , Lady Venus , Alegria , TheSexista , ZenaidaMacroura , Sebmissive , Hallmar82 , Trashley , sasweetheart89 , Kimbertrees , Shellz31 , UnknownGirl , Tart , Miss Morphine , ellejay , Redboxbaby , C4ss , potstickers , VenusianThunder , indiglo , Angel deSanguine , LavenderSkies , Lucidity , RonLee , toxie m , jankit , Miss T , Lady Marmelade , jcprice02 , mariedoll , MaryExy , ToyGurl , Apirka , Lucky21 , SadoMas , TheirPet , Robespierrethecat , Supervixen , Gluesnffr , Feisty , Amber Sweet , Ayogirl230 , chicmichiw , table38792
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massage
buzzvibe , ToyTimeTim , Jenniae09 , Gunsmoke , OhMy! , ScottA , Gatita , Blow Baby , Sir , FVWhitechapel , petite-n-sweet , sexysweetieshan , SexyySarah , Hannah Savage , izzie , Miss Naughty Kitty , trios , Yiggi , Viktor Vysheslav Malkin , Adriana Ravenlust , VampKitty , Hot'n'Bothered , Lady Venus , SexyTabby , Alegria , lovehurts , lilly555 , darthkitt3n , Lummox , sasweetheart89 , Kimbertrees , sbon , leatherlover , lizzy408 , fghjkl , Miss Morphine , ellejay , Redboxbaby , MasterBlaster , indiglo , LavenderSkies , Lucidity , RonLee , vanillaSpice , Hadespark , Moein , AZNYcouple15 , Miss T , Lady Marmelade , mariedoll , ToyGurl , N&M , Apirka , Daemonin , Kitka , Lucky21 , ninja250 , Howells , Harpina is gone , SadoMas , EastCoast36 , TheirPet , Supervixen , MrWood , Bethy Cassatt , nikki0668 , Amber Sweet , Missy27 , Ayogirl230 , falalena , chicmichiw , table38792
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oral
Waterfall , ToyTimeTim , Gunsmoke , Liz2 , OhMy! , Liz , Kindred , DeliciousSurprise , LikeSunshineDust , ScottA , deadpoet , Sir , FVWhitechapel , JPito , Coralbell , jakjak , SexyySarah , Hannah Savage , Miss Naughty Kitty , trios , wondertoes , Fun Lover , Viktor Vysheslav Malkin , Adriana Ravenlust , VampKitty , Lady Venus , Alegria , lovehurts , lilly555 , ZenaidaMacroura , Sebmissive , liljeepr , Lummox , Trashley , sasweetheart89 , Kimbertrees , sbon , Shellz31 , lamira , null , UnknownGirl , fghjkl , ellejay , Jessica Elizabeth , Redboxbaby , MasterBlaster , C4ss , Airekah , gehuwd , Yoda , cheeky minx , VenusianThunder , indiglo , Beaners , LavenderSkies , Lucidity , toxie m , dbtracy , kittychilla , Moein , jankit , Miss T , jcprice02 , mariedoll , CAKES , ToyGurl , N&M , Apirka , Daemonin , Kitka , ninja250 , Howells , Kabachu , Harpina is gone , SadoMas , EastCoast36 , TheirPet , Kipperanne , Robespierrethecat , Supervixen , Jenyana , cutesouple0812 , Feisty , MrWood , Bethy Cassatt , nikki0668 , Amber Sweet , Missy27 , Ayogirl230 , XxFallenAngelxX , falalena , chicmichiw
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kissing
Waterfall , buzzvibe , ToyTimeTim , Jenniae09 , Gunsmoke , Liz2 , OhMy! , Liz , Darling Jen , Kindred , DeliciousSurprise , LikeSunshineDust , ScottA , Serendipity , Gatita , deadpoet , Sir , FVWhitechapel , JPito , sexysweetieshan , Coralbell , jakjak , SexyySarah , Hannah Savage , izzie , Miss Naughty Kitty , EmberPetals , trios , wondertoes , Yiggi , Fun Lover , CutiePatootie , Viktor Vysheslav Malkin , Adriana Ravenlust , Danielle1220 , VampKitty , Lady Venus , SexyTabby , Alegria , lovehurts , ZenaidaMacroura , newbern2004 , Sebmissive , darthkitt3n , liljeepr , Lummox , Faith , Trashley , sasweetheart89 , Destri , Kimbertrees , mrs.mckrakn , sbon , leatherlover , meganthomas , Shellz31 , lamira , kinkpink , null , UnknownGirl , fghjkl , Tart , Miss Morphine , ellejay , Jessica Elizabeth , Redboxbaby , maskineri , PropertyOfPotter , *HisMrs* , C4ss , Airekah , Taylor , potstickers , cheeky minx , Kiwi , KatPawz2003 , indiglo , Angel deSanguine , Beaners , LavenderSkies , Lucidity , RonLee , vanillaSpice , toxie m , KaliLeanne , Hadespark , Moein , jankit , Lily Night , cobiffle , Miss T , Lady Marmelade , mariedoll , MaryExy , ToyGurl , Apirka , Daemonin , Kitka , Lucky21 , MakeMePurr , ninja250 , Howells , Kabachu , Harpina is gone , SadoMas , EastCoast36 , TheirPet , lainebug , Robespierrethecat , Supervixen , Gluesnffr , Feisty , MrWood , Bethy Cassatt , nikki0668 , Amber Sweet , karenm , Missy27 , featherhead , Ayogirl230 , XxFallenAngelxX , falalena , chicmichiw , table38792
124
porn
OhMy! , Blow Baby , petite-n-sweet , sexysweetieshan , SexyySarah , trios , Fun Lover , Viktor Vysheslav Malkin , sasweetheart89 , Shellz31 , alistair , ellejay , Redboxbaby , maskineri , potstickers , indiglo , RonLee , Miss T , N&M , Apirka , Kitka , Lucky21 , EastCoast36 , Robespierrethecat , Supervixen , Gluesnffr , Feisty , Amber Sweet
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fear of getting caught
deadpoet , bleedingthoughtsofyou , sexysweetieshan , SexyySarah , Viktor Vysheslav Malkin , socceras , ZenaidaMacroura , Kimbertrees , Shellz31 , UnknownGirl , maskineri , LavenderSkies , MaryExy , Daemonin , SadoMas , TheirPet , Supervixen
17
none, get to it!
Blinker , Sir , JPito , Trashley , Naughty Student , Selective Sensualist , cnspots , MaryExy , Jennifer87 , Ayogirl230
10
other...
Airen Wolf , Waterfall , Alicia , Liz2 , DeliciousSurprise , LikeSunshineDust , ScottA , Serendipity , Sir , Alan & Michele , PurpleBerry , JPito , jakjak , Hannah Savage , Riccio , EmberPetals , trios , wondertoes , UrNaughtyaAngel , Adriana Ravenlust , Lady Venus , GeekWife , lilly555 , Faith , VanillaFreeSex , Redboxbaby , Angel deSanguine , LavenderSkies , jdloelo , A Good Girl , Lucidity , vanillaSpice , Kaltir , Lady Marmelade , Apirka , Kitka , Lucky21 , Robespierrethecat , Supervixen , Feisty , shorejen9 , Ayogirl230 , table38792
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Total votes: 443 (166 voters)
Poll is closed
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Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by paralax
whats the best way for you to get in the mood? i know there are a lot of different thing for different people but from this list, what do you prefer? if you choose other please tell what it is if you dont mind.
All of the above and more! We generally go with whatever works with the amount of time and privacy we have.
09/11/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
We do a lot of massage to go from releasing the days tension - to getting ready for intimacy. For us it's a particularly useful way to get into the mood. I checked oral as well - but I don't consider that foreplay - for me that's part of the main sexual encounter - in fact it may be the only sexual activity in some cases.
09/11/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
Well for me to get in the mood we often will tell each other during the day how much we're wanting each other. I guess you could maybe consider that "dirty talk" but I personally consider dirty talk to be more of the talk we do during sex itself. During the day we're working, have kids to take care of, etc. and so we can't just stop everything and go at it..so it builds up anticipation. We also will kiss and "grope" a little when we pass during the day (we work at home but work in different areas of the home so when we see each other we have little mini makeout sessions LOL)

Foreplay we'll sometimes do massages or kissing and caressing, sometimes shower together...that's usually how we start the "engines running" I guess. By the time it gets to oral I no longer consider that just foreplay..it's kind of the gateway between foreplay and sex I guess.
09/11/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Foreplay for us also involves toys as I almost need an orgasm prior to penetration.
09/11/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Liz2
Foreplay for us also involves toys as I almost need an orgasm prior to penetration.
Yep - that's true for us as well. I typically go for at least 2 orgasms for her before we contemplate penetration (by me).
09/11/2010
Contributor: Liz Liz
Kissing usually is enough to do it for me, but even when I'm really not in the mood, oral is always enough to get me there.
09/11/2010
Contributor: LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
We do the standard kissing then add touching then go to oral.
09/12/2010
Contributor: Blinker Blinker
I hate foreplay.
09/12/2010
Contributor: Serendipity Serendipity
I'm like a lot of rough play so hair pulling and biting are tops for me. Actually, if that gets thrown in, we might not get past foreplay LOL. Thanks for asking a fun question.
09/12/2010
Contributor: FVWhitechapel FVWhitechapel
Quote:
Originally posted by Serendipity
I'm like a lot of rough play so hair pulling and biting are tops for me. Actually, if that gets thrown in, we might not get past foreplay LOL. Thanks for asking a fun question.
I agree with this, though! Nibbling is faaaabulous.
09/13/2010
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
All of the above and more! We generally go with whatever works with the amount of time and privacy we have.
Same here! And the poll forgot "role playing" too
09/13/2010
Contributor: PurpleBerry PurpleBerry
Talking dirty with a little role play.
09/13/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Blinker
I hate foreplay.
Never heard this from a woman - so he just pulls it out and your lubricated and ready to go? Well - no sense wasting any time - just get'r done!
09/13/2010
Contributor: JPito JPito
Kissing, touching, biting, groping, pretty standard foreplay stuff does it for me. With some domination thrown in, too (pulling my hair, holding me down, grabbing my wrists, grabbing my throat). And fingering! Gotta love fingering.

Tickling can also turn me on a lot. I'm very ticklish and my boyfriend likes to randomly exploit this weakness of mine throughout the day. It rarely actually leads to anything sexual; it's just us having fun. But sometimes he pins me down so I can't get away or move my arms or legs and just goes to town on me. It's him being so close and me being totally helpless, him having complete control over me, that turns me on. And the noises I make and my struggling to get away turns him on, so the few times it has led to sex have been fantastic.
09/13/2010
Contributor: bleedingthoughtsofyou bleedingthoughtsofyou
Quote:
Originally posted by paralax
whats the best way for you to get in the mood? i know there are a lot of different thing for different people but from this list, what do you prefer? if you choose other please tell what it is if you dont mind.
whats yours?
09/14/2010
Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
You have to "help" me get in the mood, so it's almost all of the above lol!
09/18/2010
Contributor: Hannah Savage Hannah Savage
The best way to get me turned on is a really great makeout session. Nothing better than that.
09/18/2010
Contributor: Miss Naughty Kitty Miss Naughty Kitty
Massages are a guaranteed way to get into my pants, if I'm even wearing any

Kissing always gets me in the mood, and I love oral before sex.
10/04/2010
Contributor: Riccio Riccio
Foreplay implies that the goal is penetrative intercourse. We have decided that we will make love in any way that satisfies us at the moment. We have no program and no pressure to have orgasms. (Okay, we have a lot of orgasms, but it is important on a philosophical level.)

We may go from penetrative intercourse to masturbation, oral sex, anal play, kissing, sweet talk or whatever in no sequence and without any other purpose than giving and receiving pleasure.

Our lovemaking is all play, with no distinction between "fore," "during" and "after."
10/04/2010
Contributor: EmberPetals EmberPetals
Dirty talk has never really been my thing... I always end up laughing or giggling hysterically and totally kill the mood unless of course that dirty talk occurs during a little roleplay session... Why that makes such a difference I'm not sure, but eh I guess we all have our quirks. I'm more of a burst through the door, rip my clothes, and ravish me kind of girl though... so neck biting, hair pulling etc = Sizzle in my department.
10/04/2010
Contributor: EmberPetals EmberPetals
Quote:
Originally posted by Serendipity
I'm like a lot of rough play so hair pulling and biting are tops for me. Actually, if that gets thrown in, we might not get past foreplay LOL. Thanks for asking a fun question.
Haha I'm the same way! Love lip biting too
10/04/2010
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
Quote:
Originally posted by paralax
whats the best way for you to get in the mood? i know there are a lot of different thing for different people but from this list, what do you prefer? if you choose other please tell what it is if you dont mind.
They all sound good determining on the circumstances.
10/17/2010
Contributor: Danielle1220 Danielle1220
Kissing is what starts everything off for us. The act of kissing eachother alone turns us both on, then that leads to oral, touching, then we will sometimes have sex, we don't have to have the actual act of sex to get us off though...
10/19/2010
Contributor: GeekWife GeekWife
Honestly, reading erotica does it for me. Some of the "fantasies" on EF get me going pretty good without any touching of myself or by GeekHubbs. Pretty much all of the other options are "during" for us
10/19/2010
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Like Airen, it's hard to pick just one. I said talking dirty, but it'd be odd to just talk about it and not do anything. Of course we're going to be going at it while talking dirty...unless of course, one of us is tied up!
11/12/2010
Contributor: Trashley Trashley
Quote:
Originally posted by Blinker
I hate foreplay.
As we've established many times over, I am Blinker just in a different city, so we'll just go with this as my response.
11/12/2010
Contributor: Destri Destri
I like long, slow, deep, wet kisses....
11/12/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
We usually just get to the penetration part...but on special occasions I get oral sex, lol. I have to be completely shaved bcs if I leave some pubes on the pubis it irritates my man's nose, lol.
11/12/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
i love kissing!! love it.
11/12/2010