When is it suitable for a person to consider marrying the person they are dating? I've been with my partner for three years, and eventually we want to get married, but no where in the near future. Not because of moral reasons or anything, we're just not ready. What do you think?
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03/22/2012
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I voted "At least a year" but this needed an "Other" option or a "Whenever it's right for the couple" option because some may want to get married earlier and they may be fine in the future. It just depends. Everyone's different.
03/22/2012
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Yeah, an other would have made more sense, for sure. lol.
Originally posted by
Nazaress
I voted "At least a year" but this needed an "Other" option or a "Whenever it's right for the couple" option because some may want to get married earlier and they may be fine in the future. It just depends. Everyone's different.
03/22/2012
You left out other. It depends on the relationship!
03/22/2012
It all depends on the relationship and the people, but generally around it takes around 6-12 months for a couple to start thinking about getting married.
03/22/2012
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Exactly! ^^
Originally posted by
Master DarkWolf
You left out other. It depends on the relationship!
03/22/2012
Yeah, I'm sorry guys. I left out other. I knew I was forgetting something.
03/23/2012
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I can agree with that. I have a friend who wants to get married really soon, and it would work out for them, but I don't think I could do it.
Originally posted by
sexystuffeve
It all depends on the relationship and the people, but generally around it takes around 6-12 months for a couple to start thinking about getting married.
03/23/2012
It's going to vary from relationship to relationship.
03/23/2012
I agree with previous posters who say it depends on the relationship. What may work for some, may not work for others. It all really depends.
03/23/2012
It really will vary from relationship to relationship. I know people who were married within 2 months of meeting and are still ridiculously happy years and years later, and I know people who dated for 6 years, got married, and the marriage lasted weeks. As my husband likes to put it, "marriage is like tofu, it's not for everybody, and there's nothing wrong with that."
03/23/2012
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What Nazaress said. Every couple is different. My husband and I were together obviously more than a year, because I was only 16 when we met. But, each couple is different.
Originally posted by
Nazaress
I voted "At least a year" but this needed an "Other" option or a "Whenever it's right for the couple" option because some may want to get married earlier and they may be fine in the future. It just depends. Everyone's different.
03/23/2012
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Agreed. I'm not comfortable choosing any one of these options. It really depends on the couple.
Originally posted by
Nazaress
I voted "At least a year" but this needed an "Other" option or a "Whenever it's right for the couple" option because some may want to get married earlier and they may be fine in the future. It just depends. Everyone's different.
03/23/2012
I think it just depends on the relationship.
My husband I were married two years to the day we started dating. We were young and I'm sure most people thought we were making a mistake, but we're still going strong, 8 years married and 10 years together later.
My husband I were married two years to the day we started dating. We were young and I'm sure most people thought we were making a mistake, but we're still going strong, 8 years married and 10 years together later.
03/23/2012
My husband and I got engaged at six months and married six months later. However, we were best friends for about five years prior to ever dating. For us, we didn't need a lot of time to get to know each other - we already did!
Other relationships I had were 1-4 years long and marriage was the last thing on my mind.
I agree with previous posters - it depends on the relationship and people in it. I know one girl who has been with a guy for five years with no proposal. She's not happy about it. I know some people who got married after years of dating only to end up unhappy and some that got married quickly and are still happy. Sometimes you can think you're ready and you're not. Other times you may think you're not ready but you may be. Marriage is tricky like that. You never know what a lifetime with someone will be until it happens.
Other relationships I had were 1-4 years long and marriage was the last thing on my mind.
I agree with previous posters - it depends on the relationship and people in it. I know one girl who has been with a guy for five years with no proposal. She's not happy about it. I know some people who got married after years of dating only to end up unhappy and some that got married quickly and are still happy. Sometimes you can think you're ready and you're not. Other times you may think you're not ready but you may be. Marriage is tricky like that. You never know what a lifetime with someone will be until it happens.
03/23/2012
It absolutely depends. My sister and I each met our current husbands a few weeks apart. While I was engaged to my husband on our second date, my sister waited a few years. We're both still married now 27 years later.
Normally I wouldn't think that a couple engaged on their second date stood a chance, but apparently sometimes they do.
Normally I wouldn't think that a couple engaged on their second date stood a chance, but apparently sometimes they do.
03/23/2012
It doesn't take years and years to find out whether or not you want to be married to a person. Within six months of dating, you'll know if you want to or not. Whether or not you CAN get married due to finances or careers, then that's a whole other story.
03/23/2012
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Agreed! It depends on the couple and their situation -- a lot of factors really.
Originally posted by
Nazaress
I voted "At least a year" but this needed an "Other" option or a "Whenever it's right for the couple" option because some may want to get married earlier and they may be fine in the future. It just depends. Everyone's different.
03/24/2012
Some couples can tell right away they will work and others it takes time. Then again others may want to wait for different times because of their current situations.
03/24/2012
After a year, you should know if you want to marry them or not. Why waste time when there could be someone who you really could live happily ever after with?
04/09/2012
I think at least a year!
04/10/2012
Beyond a year. People (both women and men) sometimes take a while to show you their true nature. We're talking about the rest of your life, here. Why rush things? Make sure that both partners are capable, willing, and ready to make that type of commitment. Why do half of all modern marriages end in divorce? My opine: they rush it.
04/12/2012
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been there done that i ike being married but he was an ass and it got so bad i had to leave
Originally posted by
J Peach
When is it suitable for a person to consider marrying the person they are dating? I've been with my partner for three years, and eventually we want to get married, but no where in the near future. Not because of moral reasons or anything,
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When is it suitable for a person to consider marrying the person they are dating? I've been with my partner for three years, and eventually we want to get married, but no where in the near future. Not because of moral reasons or anything, we're just not ready. What do you think?
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04/14/2012
My husband and I were engaged after 4 months of dating, but took us 4 years to get married. (I wanted to finish college)
04/14/2012
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Agreed. I voted "right away," but that is not the right answer for everyone. Sometimes though, people can meet, fall in love, get married, and live happily ever after without waiting a significant amount of time. It's rare, but it does happen. All couples are different, and there is no one time that is right.
Originally posted by
Master DarkWolf
You left out other. It depends on the relationship!
04/14/2012
Thanks everyone!
04/15/2012
At least a year imo. In my experiences, the initial 'honeymoon phase' would die down after that and I really got to know the 'real' side of them.
04/15/2012
I would say at least a couple of years. But it depends on the couple.
04/15/2012
It's going to vary a lot based on the relationship, but personally I don't think I would probably consider actually getting married to someone less than a year into a relationship. Engaged, maybe, but I'd prefer to take things slowly. No fear of commitment here, but I just want to make sure the relationship has a really good base before jumping into those things. My partner and I dated for a long while before getting engaged, and then were engaged for two years before getting married (though admittedly that was to wait until we were both done with college).
04/15/2012
In most cases, I think at least 4-6 months... just because if you are planning to spend the rest of your life together, you can manage to wait a few more months to be sure. Everyone I know who has gotten married in a hurry has ended up splitting within a few years.
05/07/2012
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