Is oral sex really considered cheating?

Contributor: cowboywill87 cowboywill87
Many people think that oral isn't cheating, because there isn't insertion penetration of any form, shape or way. One part is in relationship, and decides they wanna eat someone else pussy.
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YES any form of sex outside of a relationship is considered cheating.
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NO oral sex outside of the relationship is not considered cheating long as there is no penetration of any kind involved.
BOTH this can be be considered cheating cause she don't know, but yet there is no penetration involved. Enjoy your desert!
Total votes: 109
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Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Cowboywill87, if you and your partner have discussed this and decided that oral activity outside of your relationship is OK, then it is not cheating. However, if you have NOT talked about it and not gotten "permission" , well yes it would be cheating.
04/10/2013
Contributor: cowboywill87 cowboywill87
Quote:
Originally posted by RonLee
Cowboywill87, if you and your partner have discussed this and decided that oral activity outside of your relationship is OK, then it is not cheating. However, if you have NOT talked about it and not gotten "permission" , well yes it would ... more
This was a random post since I hear many people talk bout this. This doesn't reflect on my partner and I, and I fully agree with you! Just like to see the votes and people thoughts.
04/10/2013
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by cowboywill87
Many people think that oral isn't cheating, because there isn't insertion penetration of any form, shape or way. One part is in relationship, and decides they wanna eat someone else pussy.
I believe it is.
04/10/2013
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
Definitely.

I hate the focus on penetration in our society as THE way to have sex. Even with a male partner sometimes we don't have penetrative sex and it is just as intimate if not more so. Penetration is a really male centered way to view sex. Unless engaging with both at the same time (like my partner does! weeee!) it leaves out the clitoris and also can leave out many of the ways that lesbians have sex, particularly those that cannot afford strap ons and harnesses or were alive before they were available.

So basically, it's all sex!
04/10/2013
Contributor: Jenny Swallows Jenny Swallows
It may not involve penetration, but if my bf came home and announced he'd just had his cock sucked by someone that wasn't me, he'd be looking for a new home. And I'd hope that he feels the same way.
04/10/2013
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
I believe it's cheating if you are being intimate with someone outside your relationship whether it be kissing,foreplay,oral, sex or the likes to me its cheating. If you and your partner has discussed that you can engage in such activities outside of the relationship then more power to you. I don't share and I don't like being shared
04/10/2013
Contributor: Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
Yes it is cheating.
04/10/2013
Contributor: hillys hillys
It is cheating unless your in a relationship where sex is ok with other people (cuz some people have open relationships) but I think kissing someone else would be cheating unless your open.
04/10/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
Yes. My wife and I actually had an after-sex discussion about this last year. She told me that she'd recently had a dream about a woman going down on her, and she LOVED it. I told her if she ever wanted to try in in real life, I'd be OK with it. She said she didn't ever want to try it, and I felt relieved!

Then she asked me if I'd ever want to give a guy head again (she knows I used to love giving blowjobs to my best friend, and is frequently amazed at my deepthroat abilities when she's wearing a strapon). I said I WOULD like to do it, but I would never want to cheat on her. She then amazed me by saying it would be OK if I wanted to do it again!

I actually explored the possibility online for a couple of months, and had even found a couple of guys nearby who wanted me to do it to them — but then I searched my heart and decided it would feel too much like cheating. When I told my wife I wasn't going through with it, her obvious relief told me everything I needed to know!
04/10/2013
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
I'd say yes.
04/10/2013
Contributor: Chastity Darling Chastity Darling
Any form of intimacy outside of a relationship is cheating to me. Kissing, sensual massage, and even sharing of personal secrets (emotional cheating) is cheating to me.

It is my "job" to please my husband and his "job" to please me. If he is looking outside of our relationship (without expressed consent) to fulfill any of his emotional or physical needs then there is something wrong...

If there is an arrangement for an open marriage, swinging lifestyle, or other consensual contract between partners, that is, obviously, a different story.
04/10/2013
Contributor: Lioncub Lioncub
For us that would still be considered cheating. Even at swinging parties we still confirm with each other before anything happens.
04/10/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
It's absolutely cheating, without question! Unless you and your partner have a true understanding and have agreed that it's okay. In that case, as long as you and your partner are open and honest with each other, that's a different story. If they don't know about it, and you're trying to hide it, etc. it's doing wrong by your partner.
04/10/2013
Contributor: Hummingbird Hummingbird
I would consider cheating. Any intimate physical touching without your SO's knowledge and consent to me would be considered as such. If you are both open to it, that's another story.
04/10/2013
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by cowboywill87
Many people think that oral isn't cheating, because there isn't insertion penetration of any form, shape or way. One part is in relationship, and decides they wanna eat someone else pussy.
of coarse it's cheating
04/10/2013
Contributor: wwwww wwwww
I think cheating varies for every couple. For some it's as simple as kissing another person for other's anything is fine so long as you keep them informed. But if your partner clearly states they consider oral sex cheating and you go ahead and do it anyways then yes, you are cheating on them.
04/10/2013
Contributor: srexom srexom
cheating anyway you cut it.
04/10/2013
Contributor: Gdom Gdom
First and foremost, oral sex performed on a man most certainly DOES involve penetration even if it's not PIV. As for whether or not it's cheating, that completely depends on the boundaries of the relationship. Generally speaking, if the relationship is otherwise monogamous and you haven't discussed it with your partner beforehand, then oral sex (and probably all other intimate touching) is going to be cheating.
04/10/2013
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
It's definitely considered as cheating.
04/10/2013
Contributor: melissa1973 melissa1973
I would say yes unless the two of you have an understanding and open relationship. However, if he or you did have oral with another partner and failed to mention said indiscretion then I would say yes. If you're going to do it in an open relationship then you should be tell the partner so that the other person in the party doesn't have anything to hold over your head further down the road.
04/10/2013
Contributor: The Vixen The Vixen
I consider any form of physical intimacy with anyone who is not your partner cheating (unless there's some sort of arrangement that's been made.) Whether it be kissing, touching, sex, oral, etc.
04/10/2013
Contributor: js250 js250
It is called oral SEX for a reason--it is a sexual act. Yes, it is cheating.
04/10/2013
Contributor: Adnerbmw Adnerbmw
Even kissing is cheating. Oral is totally cheating.
04/10/2013
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Yep, although it can vary somewhat from couple to couple
04/10/2013
Contributor: married with children married with children
there does not need to be penetration to be considered cheating.
04/10/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
Quote:
Originally posted by Adnerbmw
Even kissing is cheating. Oral is totally cheating.
I think I'd be more upset about kissing than I would about oral sex without kissing. Kissing, to me at least, is about as intimate as it gets.
04/11/2013
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Is this the Bill Clinton school of semantics?
04/11/2013
Contributor: twelve13 twelve13
Unless you have both agreed that it's okay, it's cheating. Hell, I consider kissing cheating. Some people might consider grinding cheating.
04/11/2013