Long-term relationship reactions

Long-term relationship reactions

HisLittleFiend HisLittleFiend 01/12/2013

We all know people express approval/disapproval almost instantly when you start dating somebody- but when it became a serious relationship, how did your friends and family see it?

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HisLittleFiend HisLittleFiend
Were they happy? Upset?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Ansley , doowop , lilyflower
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MissCandyland , solitudinarian , TheirPet , humblepie , damnbul12 , Inkkythesquid , captainsgirl , evie.amor , nova2014 , kanida , potstickers , AliMc
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deltalima , doowop , KayJay , AliMc
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MissCandyland , GONE! , darthkitt3n , brevado , nikki0668 , Gone (LD29) , Bignuf , Septimus , padmeamidala , SecretKinksters , married with children , LavenderSkies , epiphanyjayne , solitudinarian , PropertyOfPotter , DirtyAngel7 , mpfm , Ryuson , ginnyluvspotter , Boyfriend , Feisty , MsDrProfKitty , kkizzee05 , spiced , TrenchcoatHunters , XxFallenAngelxX , BrittaniMaree , Geogeo , Hummingbird , Missmarc , evie.amor , Stinkytofu10 , Hermosura21 , Becky Lee , karenm , Kitt Katt , mjtheprincess , Lavendar , SiNn , kkybf , Martiniman , EmeraldDawn , Cowgirl-Cutie , Mrs.Tee , AliMc , Munko
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Lickable Lollie , brevado , js250 , Bleu , K101 , DirtyAngel7 , Ryuson , Falsepast , noway , burtnuh , Incendiaire , srexom , chantalgiardina , cowgirl1130 , evie.amor , Rory , amazon , ToyBunny , falalena , dv8 , novanilla , SiNn , Rainbows , Mrs.Tee , SMichelle , AliMc
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Total votes: 91 (78 voters)
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MissCandyland MissCandyland
My mom really liked my boyfriend, whereas both of my sisters didn't like him. :/
01/12/2013
deltalima deltalima
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Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Were they happy? Upset?
I don't think they were too happy.
01/12/2013
Lickable Lollie Lickable Lollie
From the way I answered all three, I should find more people that DO care about my life lol
01/12/2013
brevado brevado
Always supportive
01/12/2013
nikki0668 nikki0668
They were happy for me.
01/12/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
They were happy.
01/12/2013
K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Were they happy? Upset?
How did they react to me having a boyfriend? Well, I've had a few. My parents reacted less than wonderfully when I was a teenager and had this really, really rude, disrespectful, negative, arrogant, asshole boyfriend who thought a girlfriend owed him something. They were right though to be concerned, although they never were strict or angry about it, but they did give me plenty of talks about how to watch out for myself.

My current partner and I have been together for 6 years & everyone reacted fine, I guess. Not really anybody else's business, unless the ones you care about are expressing concerns over a harmful relationship, otherwise I see no reason for them to have any reaction. Mine don't and never really did except for when they seen me getting treated badly.

My partner and I are actually very close with each other's families. His dad (his mom was not in his life, so I never met her and she died. He met her at 2 years old and I think that's it) and I are great together! We're a lot alike. Lol. We've always gotten along wonderfully with each other's parents. We're like a big family. His dad is really wonderful to me and my parents to him, and him to them. Lol.

As for friends, well I didn't really keep the same friends as I had when he & I first got together.
01/13/2013
DirtyAngel7 DirtyAngel7
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Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Were they happy? Upset?
Friends were happy, family didn't care too much, weren't all that pleased.
01/13/2013
ginnyluvspotter ginnyluvspotter
My mom was happy
01/13/2013
Boyfriend Boyfriend
happiness
01/13/2013
TheirPet TheirPet
The disapproval wasn't quiet quiet but it wasn't angry either.
01/13/2013
Feisty Feisty
With happiness
01/13/2013
MsDrProfKitty MsDrProfKitty
My dad was indifferent but my mom absolutely loved him right away. Even my brother likes him which is kind of a big deal lol
01/13/2013
damnbul12 damnbul12
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Were they happy? Upset?
With quiet disapproval
01/13/2013
kkizzee05 kkizzee05
Well... his and mine families go way back so most thought it was only a matter of time, but our uncles, who were brought up together and remain best friends, thought it was a terrible idea. Apparently if we were to break up it would ruin the years that our families have been best friends, but we all know that it would never come to that...
01/13/2013
Inkkythesquid Inkkythesquid
My Mom Doesn't Like My Boyfriend Simply Because I Wear His Collar.
01/13/2013
spiced spiced
My mom HATED all but one of my girlfriends before she met the woman who is now my wife. I have to say, she was spot on about each one.

Never gave a rat's ass what my dad thought.

My best friends have liked most of my girlfriends, except for the one who ended up screwing me over. In retrospect, I should have listened to them, and to my mom, about her.
01/14/2013
noway noway
If I'm happy, they're happy.
01/14/2013
burtnuh burtnuh
At first my friends were happy for me, because they knew how crazy I was for him, and my parents didn't like him, but now it's the opposite. My friends dislike it because I spend all my time with him, and they don't want to hang out with both of us, so I don't see them as much, and my family loves him. ha
01/14/2013
TrenchcoatHunters TrenchcoatHunters
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Were they happy? Upset?
They dont mind it
01/14/2013
captainsgirl captainsgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Were they happy? Upset?
it was a so so to them
01/15/2013
srexom srexom
didn't care too much
01/15/2013
Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Were they happy? Upset?
Ive only had one boyfriend so people were really excited (most of my family thought I was a lesbian beforehand), and some just liked to tease me since I always said I never wanted to date.
01/15/2013
Hummingbird Hummingbird
Everyone loved my final choice of man to marry, now all the previous ones and even some of my dates were met in a friendly manner but not approved of. In the long run and looking back now, my choice was a sound one.
01/15/2013
morgporg morgporg
They really liked him. They thought he was fun and very sweet.
01/15/2013
P'Gell P'Gell
When I started dating My Man I was only 16 years old. He's older than I am and my father (who was still married to my mother) was not happy. He tried to openly get me to leave My Man. He (mistakenly) seemed to think that it was easy for women to "ask men out" and tried to get me to ask out guys in my High School and even guys at the Uni where he worked. I rarely ever did.

Odd, because he and my mother got divorced when I was a senior in HS and he eventually hooked up with a woman not much older than I am! She's a lovely woman and I really love her, but he had problems with ME dating an older man. He said, "Older men expect certain things." Yeah, so do younger men.

Anyway, they get along now. I got together with My Man a LONG time ago, we went through a time with an Open Relationship, and my father fell "in love" with an Italian guy I dated. (He's Italian.) He kept talking about this guy, long after it was over and I finally said, "Why don't YOU ask Carlo out, if you like him so much?" That ended that discussion.
01/15/2013
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
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Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Were they happy? Upset?
With happiness
01/15/2013
Hermosura21 Hermosura21
They were fine.with it
01/15/2013
Rory Rory
None of my friends cared either way.
01/15/2013
ToyBunny ToyBunny
I'm still pretty young so my parents see it as a phase or something to not read too much into which is understandable.
01/16/2013
mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
I brought a felon home once, oh, he was also a pro poker player...needless to say, my parents were pleased with just about everyone after him =) haha
01/21/2013
Lavendar Lavendar
happy
01/21/2013
falalena falalena
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Were they happy? Upset?
they didnt really care.
01/22/2013
doowop doowop
My parents were only unhappy because most of my relationships have been with women.
01/29/2013
kkybf kkybf
My mom likes that he gets me out of the house
02/07/2013
Mrs.Tee Mrs.Tee
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Were they happy? Upset?
As long as im happy they are happy. I dont have the type of family where they want to drill the person that I am with or try and ask them a million questions.
02/18/2013
karenm karenm
They were thrilled, but that is partially because they hated my ex-boyfriend (who was directionless and didn't treat me very well).
02/25/2013
Munko Munko
My fiance fits right in with my family, it's like he's always just been there - so of course they were thrilled when things got serious between us (which didn't take long). I'm not sure his family feels the same way.....but they don't seem to be too happy with anything he does so, I try not to be offended. We're happy, so screw em!
02/26/2013
Total posts: 39
Unique posters: 39
HisLittleFiend HisLittleFiend
Was it any different? Did it influence your decision at all?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
mjtheprincess
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MissCandyland , deltalima , PropertyOfPotter , humblepie , Ansley , Rainbows , lilyflower
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deltalima , lilyflower
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GONE! , darthkitt3n , brevado , SecretKinksters , solitudinarian , mpfm , ginnyluvspotter , TheirPet , Feisty , MsDrProfKitty , BrittaniMaree , evie.amor , Martiniman , karenm
14
Lickable Lollie , brevado , nikki0668 , SecretKinksters , epiphanyjayne , humblepie , Falsepast , spiced , noway , Incendiaire , srexom , chantalgiardina , Missmarc , evie.amor , Stinkytofu10 , Rory , amazon , nova2014 , Kitt Katt , falalena , dv8 , novanilla , SiNn , Rainbows , kanida , EmeraldDawn , potstickers , SMichelle , AliMc
29
Total votes: 53 (46 voters)
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Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
Other - I don't have any siblings.
01/12/2013
TheirPet TheirPet
My sister was happy.
01/13/2013
Feisty Feisty
With happiness
01/13/2013
noway noway
Same as parents. If I'm happy, they're happy.
01/14/2013
srexom srexom
didn't care too much
01/15/2013
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Was it any different? Did it influence your decision at all?
They didn't care too much.
01/15/2013
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Was it any different? Did it influence your decision at all?
They didn't care too much.
01/15/2013
Rory Rory
Mom didn't care but my brothers weren't happy.
01/15/2013
amazon amazon
Depends on the other person
01/16/2013
mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
My sister hates my boyfriend because I am probably going to get married before her She's got some weird jealousy stuff going on.
01/21/2013
falalena falalena
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Was it any different? Did it influence your decision at all?
they really didnt care.
01/22/2013
karenm karenm
They were happy for me. They'd been wanting us to get together for a while.
02/25/2013
Total posts: 13
Unique posters: 13
HisLittleFiend HisLittleFiend
Mixed reactions? Positive? Negative? Neutral? Do you know why? Did their opinion ever change?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
js250 , ginnyluvspotter , humblepie
3
GONE! , kanida
2
js250 , solitudinarian , humblepie , Ansley , potstickers
5
js250 , solitudinarian , nova2014 , novanilla
4
darthkitt3n , nikki0668 , Gone (LD29) , SecretKinksters , solitudinarian , PropertyOfPotter , Feisty , BrittaniMaree , evie.amor , nova2014 , mjtheprincess , falalena , doowop , novanilla , Rainbows , kanida , Martiniman , karenm
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deltalima , MissCandyland , GONE! , Lickable Lollie , brevado , LavenderSkies , Bleu , epiphanyjayne , mpfm , Falsepast , spiced , noway , Incendiaire , TrenchcoatHunters , chantalgiardina , Missmarc , evie.amor , Stinkytofu10 , amazon , Kitt Katt , falalena , dv8 , doowop , SiNn , EmeraldDawn , SMichelle , lilyflower
27
Total votes: 59 (47 voters)
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deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Mixed reactions? Positive? Negative? Neutral? Do you know why? Did their opinion ever change?
The ones I told didn't care much.
01/12/2013
brevado brevado
Can't say they cared one way or the other
01/12/2013
Feisty Feisty
They were happy for me.
01/13/2013
noway noway
Same again...if I'm happy, they're happy.
01/14/2013
TrenchcoatHunters TrenchcoatHunters
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Mixed reactions? Positive? Negative? Neutral? Do you know why? Did their opinion ever change?
They dont care to much.
01/14/2013
chantalgiardina chantalgiardina
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Mixed reactions? Positive? Negative? Neutral? Do you know why? Did their opinion ever change?
nobody really cared much at all.
01/15/2013
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Mixed reactions? Positive? Negative? Neutral? Do you know why? Did their opinion ever change?
They didn't care too much.
01/15/2013
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Mixed reactions? Positive? Negative? Neutral? Do you know why? Did their opinion ever change?
They didn't care too much.
01/15/2013
amazon amazon
Pretty supportive
01/16/2013
mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
My friends all want in my boyfriends pants...in fact, one time, one of them had a couple of drinks and straight up told me she'd like to "practice" blow jobs on my man....haha
01/21/2013
falalena falalena
Quote:
Originally posted by HisLittleFiend
Mixed reactions? Positive? Negative? Neutral? Do you know why? Did their opinion ever change?
they were either happy or didnt care.
01/22/2013
Total posts: 12
Unique posters: 12