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Contributor: RememberMe RememberMe 11/11/2012

Polyamory Vs. Monogamy: Which is more cost-effective?

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Polyamory Vs. Monogamy: Which is more cost-effective? (33 posts)
Contributor: RememberMe RememberMe
Polyamory Vs. Monogamy: Which is more cost-effective?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
panthercat23 , SiNn , candice8284 , BlooJay , Breas , padmeamidala , Cynoc , null , Eugler , Genderfree
10  (14%)
Terri69 , Bignuf , damnbul12 , freud13 , mpfm , Gluesnffr , Missmarc , MissCandyland , Falsepast , shorejen9 , apryls , Howells , Stagger13 , edeneve , HarlequinBunnie , Stinkytofu10 , The Mother of a SiNner , Xarien , sXeVegan90 , kitty1949 , GONE! , PropertyOfPotter , dv8 , puglove , burtnuh , potstickers , Lildrummrgurl7 , EdenG , hhh , Rraine , lovebites , falalena , ARPKasso , xOhxSoxScandalousx , BrittaniMaree , ginnyluvspotter , EdenUser , talkless , Gunsmoke , LavenderSkies , evie.amor , guppiefish , butts , roskat , sillylilkitten , Incendiaire , captainsgirl , nova2014 , souviet , Hummingbird , petlove0311 , Katelyn , karenm , tunacan75 , KayJay , Martiniman , SecretKinksters , chantalgiardina , lilyflower , JoshJosh123
60  (86%)
Total votes: 70
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Contributor: Terri69 Terri69
I am a STRONG believer in monogamy
11/11/2012
Contributor: panthercat23 panthercat23
It depends... are you talking about affording kids and other items or what do you mean by cost effective. Because the more individuals who are working ie. adults, the more money the family would have.
11/11/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by RememberMe
Polyamory Vs. Monogamy: Which is more cost-effective?
Sorry..math is math. Seconds, thirds and fourths may be less expensive per person, but it still adds up to more then just two. Basic math, people.
11/11/2012
Contributor: damnbul12 damnbul12
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Polyamory Vs. Monogamy: Which is more cost-effective?
Monogamy
11/11/2012
Contributor: freud13 freud13
Monogamy.
11/11/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Polyamory Vs. Monogamy: Which is more cost-effective?
Monogamy
11/11/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
Quote:
Originally posted by panthercat23
It depends... are you talking about affording kids and other items or what do you mean by cost effective. Because the more individuals who are working ie. adults, the more money the family would have.
Yea, it depends on who is working and your type of lifestyle.
11/12/2012
Contributor: Voir Voir
Really this can't exactly be answered. As a monogamous relationship with two well pained, organized and frugal spenders would be more effective than a poly relationship with individuals who splurge on money.
The opposite can also be true - so it just depends on the individuals in the relationship, how they decide to spend money and split it w/e
11/12/2012
Contributor: shorejen9 shorejen9
Monogamy...two is always less expensive then 3 or more!
11/12/2012
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Polyamory Vs. Monogamy: Which is more cost-effective?
Monogamy I think.
11/12/2012
Contributor: HarlequinBunnie HarlequinBunnie
Monogamy. The "cost" emotionally is too high in multiple wives/ husbands. How many of you have ever watched "Sister Wives"? The children suffer as well as the individual. One seems to get more attention then the others i.e. wife #1 hurts because the newest wife gets paid more attention. Three (3) different households and all that entails as well as a butt load of children who get very little time one on one with "Dad". No thank you, one is enough for me.
11/12/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Polyamory Vs. Monogamy: Which is more cost-effective?
Monogamy
11/12/2012
Contributor: The Mother of a SiNner The Mother of a SiNner
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Polyamory Vs. Monogamy: Which is more cost-effective?
im a strong believer for monogamy
11/12/2012
Contributor: Roz W Roz W
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Sorry..math is math. Seconds, thirds and fourths may be less expensive per person, but it still adds up to more then just two. Basic math, people.
Oh yeah, it's sooooo obvious when absolutely nobody is talking about what variables are being measured.

Are you talking about a bunch of adults living under one roof? Not everybody does that. Maybe two people afford one home and one of them has a long-distance lover on the weekends and they have to factor in the cost of gas.

But maybe a monogamous couple has one spouse that does a shitton of traveling for their high-powered job, and the other spouse having someone to share dinners with on the weekends is more cost-effective.

Are you talking about kids, about travel, about mental health, about any number of factors...

This conversation is useless until you get specific.

And personally, I don't really think I have a choice, in terms of how I want to live. It's like pointing out that women who marry women often get a more cost-effective deal (more even distribution of household labor). It's irrelevant to a lot of people.
11/12/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
Financially, I would think polyamory because it would be like having a lot of roommates and everyone splitting the costs of bills.
11/12/2012
Contributor: Breas Breas
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Originally posted by BlooJay
Financially, I would think polyamory because it would be like having a lot of roommates and everyone splitting the costs of bills.
This! Except I'm not entirely sure if that is what this poll was for. It's pretty vague.
11/13/2012
Contributor: EdenG EdenG
Quote:
Originally posted by HarlequinBunnie
Monogamy. The "cost" emotionally is too high in multiple wives/ husbands. How many of you have ever watched "Sister Wives"? The children suffer as well as the individual. One seems to get more attention then the others i.e. wife ... more
Yeah I would think monogamy! Haven't we all seen Big Love? That guy was STRESSED OUT trying to be the bread winner for 3 wives and a ton of kids, not to mention the mortgage on 3 houses that were all connected.
12/07/2012
Contributor: Rraine Rraine
Monogamy
12/07/2012
Contributor: Cynoc Cynoc
I pay pretty cheap rent living with more people than only my spouse. So I think polyamory can be cheaper per person in some situations.
12/18/2012
Contributor: ginnyluvspotter ginnyluvspotter
Monogamy
12/18/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Polyamory Vs. Monogamy: Which is more cost-effective?
While a second spouse, second child, second pet, second anything, is never as expensive as the first, since certain basics are met (there is already a roof over the head, or chairs there...etc), it is still one more full set of needs and that simply will cost more. There is no way for it not to. If you could "cut" cost by adding spouses, then those guys with 100 wife harems would be doing so virtually for free..eh?

This is basic math. Three burgers cost more then two. Period. Three sets of sheets cost more then two. No way around it..ever.
12/18/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Sorry..math is math. Seconds, thirds and fourths may be less expensive per person, but it still adds up to more then just two. Basic math, people.
TOO FUNNY. This was hubbys post (Mr. Bignuf), where I posted later, not knowing he did earlier. However, we ended up saying about the same thing! Been married a long, long time, I guess.
12/18/2012
Contributor: Cynoc Cynoc
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
While a second spouse, second child, second pet, second anything, is never as expensive as the first, since certain basics are met (there is already a roof over the head, or chairs there...etc), it is still one more full set of needs and that simply ... more
This is basic math yes, for methe question is just not clear enough. If by cost efficiency we are talking about total cost, then yeah, obviously 3 or more people are going to cost mor than just 2. If we are talking about average cost per person, then it's a bit different.
No?
12/18/2012
Contributor: EdenUser EdenUser
Monogomy.
12/18/2012
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Polyamory Vs. Monogamy: Which is more cost-effective?
I believe in monogamy.
01/05/2013
Contributor: butts butts
cost effective? Depends on if there's kids involved. Dating is expensive though, so I voted monogamy

Also what's with all of the people saying they "believe in monogamy"? That's NOT the question lol, this has nothing to do with what you believe is morally right!
01/08/2013
Contributor: petlove0311 petlove0311
monogamy
01/17/2013
Contributor: Eugler Eugler
Quote:
Originally posted by Cynoc
This is basic math yes, for methe question is just not clear enough. If by cost efficiency we are talking about total cost, then yeah, obviously 3 or more people are going to cost mor than just 2. If we are talking about average cost per person, ... more
Yes. And of course it's not clear which kind of Polyamory we are talking about.
If you are a sheikh with 4 wifes who do not work then of course Poly is more expensive (for the sheikh, but also not in the average).

If you are 4 Students who share their lives and a city flat then of course Poly is less expensive for everyone.

Anyway.

I belive in Polyamorie!
01/17/2013
Contributor: karenm karenm
Monogamy.
01/21/2013
Contributor: travelnurse travelnurse
In the current economy, if every one is working it would be a great help to have an extra wage earner.
01/21/2013
Contributor: Genderfree Genderfree
Polygamy... then we'd be like a big colony, right? Don't have to worry about formal weddings or anything, and you can split the costs like a big family that anyone can walk in or out of.

Of course, I don't know anyone that can actually be in a relationship like that that would end up being cost effective. But honestly, monogamy involved all of those "sharing" things that when you break up, end up costing each other lots of money... and grief! Then you have to pay for divorce, and afterwards, what about counseling?
02/10/2013
Contributor: chantalgiardina chantalgiardina
Quote:
Originally posted by RememberMe
Polyamory Vs. Monogamy: Which is more cost-effective?
Monogamy of course
02/23/2013