When you met your man . . .

Contributor: Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
My husband was pretty "domestic" when I met him, but he had a horrible habbit of never doing dishes! I know that doesn't sound like a big deal at all, but, the first time I went to his house there were literally stacks of dishes that moved out onto the table because he didn't have enough room in his sink.

On top of that, he would throw massive parties every weekend, and the stack would get worse and worse. He got to a point where he would only wash what he needed, when he needed it.

When I moved in with him, I decided to wash his dishes once as a surprise for when he got home. It took me SIX hours to do them all! It was disgusting! We went out and bought a tiny dishwasher for $200 and ever since the dishes have been a Hell of a lot more managable.

Now, we live in an apartment with a full sized dishwasher, which we run 24/7 (i swear!) and there always seems to be a dish or two in the sink. But really, that's not so bad. It's the piles that get to me.

I do most of the laundry and tidying, and he cooks. Only because whenever I cook he always "re-does" it! He's Italian, and very set in his cooking ways. Its kind of annoying to always have him criticise every meal I make, so I just let him do it. He enjoys cooking anyway.
06/10/2011
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
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Originally posted by Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
How 'domesticated' was he?

When I say 'domesticated', I mean he cleans up after himself, keeps a decent living space, takes care of himself, does his laundry/dishes, knows how to cook . . . etc.
he was in the navy before we met so he was utterly domesticated
06/11/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Mine is messy, but he cleans when he gets tired of looking at it. Or he has me clean it. I don't mind
06/12/2011
Contributor: Dawn (Lilac Distraction) Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
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Originally posted by SiNn
he was in the navy before we met so he was utterly domesticated
Again, I don't know what it is about military men. They're usually neater on average.
06/12/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
He knew how to keep himself alive, clean and feed. Now that we are living together he doesn't do anything lol
06/12/2011
Contributor: teeny <3 teeny <3
We don't live together, but he regularly volunteers to wash my dishes. Sometimes he'll try to make the bed if he sleeps in later than I do. It's never even close to how I'd do it. But at least all the sheets and blankets are off the floor and sort of paralell on the bed with the pillows piled toward one end. I guess it's the thought that counts.
06/12/2011
Contributor: newfoundlust newfoundlust
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Originally posted by Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
How 'domesticated' was he?

When I say 'domesticated', I mean he cleans up after himself, keeps a decent living space, takes care of himself, does his laundry/dishes, knows how to cook . . . etc.
Ms Lust her. Mr Lust was sort of domesticated. He did know how to do all this, just didnt always do it.
06/12/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
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Originally posted by Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
How 'domesticated' was he?

When I say 'domesticated', I mean he cleans up after himself, keeps a decent living space, takes care of himself, does his laundry/dishes, knows how to cook . . . etc.
We both own businesses and if the housework was getting done, we would both do it. Works great.
06/12/2011
Contributor: Shyness Shyness
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Originally posted by Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
How 'domesticated' was he?

When I say 'domesticated', I mean he cleans up after himself, keeps a decent living space, takes care of himself, does his laundry/dishes, knows how to cook . . . etc.
Mine used to cook clean do laundry, all of those things.Had kids now all he does is go to work . We are going on year seven.So I'd say he's lost some of the domestication.
06/13/2011
Contributor: IrishLassie IrishLassie
I said he was mostly "domesticated" as he could do everything but cook, which can be annoying sometimes becaues there are days I dont want to cook and I dont want fast food (because he cant cook). But his mother was......I cant finish that. She was a neat freak, so he is a neat freak. And when I met my husband, you almost never knew if he was even living in his apartment because it was so clean and sparce (due to being a batchlor). We share cleaning responsibilities. I dont like the way he does laundry so he doesnt do it, and I HATE vaccuming so those are two chores that we are solely responsible for. Oh and I do all the cooking.
06/29/2011
Contributor: CAKES CAKES
My man is kinda messy. It really bugs me sometimes!
06/29/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
How 'domesticated' was he?

When I say 'domesticated', I mean he cleans up after himself, keeps a decent living space, takes care of himself, does his laundry/dishes, knows how to cook . . . etc.
My man has always participated fully in home life...except he is NOT allowed in my kitchen. The poor guy can't boil an egg! It's okay however,,,he is a great gardener, and I don't do "outdoors", but I love to cook!
06/29/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
Offer to do some of his! I'm sure he'd appreciate the help.
Guys don't often ask or say it...but you are SO right.
06/29/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by AOutrajus
we're married now and he still isn't lol
Well...obviously not what you married him or...eh? Long as you're both happy
06/29/2011
Contributor: thebest thebest
He had never been married and he was sort of domesticated.
07/09/2011
Contributor: LilLostLenore LilLostLenore
hes great at everything except cooking he cant cook to save his life.
11/27/2011
Contributor: Darklyvan Darklyvan
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Originally posted by Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
How 'domesticated' was he?

When I say 'domesticated', I mean he cleans up after himself, keeps a decent living space, takes care of himself, does his laundry/dishes, knows how to cook . . . etc.
I am voting on behalf of myself, the male. Compared to me my wife is a bit of a slob
11/28/2011
Contributor: mandaj mandaj
i meet my husbanbd in 10th grade of high school....lol so he was just kinda startin to take care of him self
11/30/2011
Contributor: T&A1987 T&A1987
I'm sorry, but i can't help but feel this is painting with a broad brush. It makes it seem that one, women are inherently more cleanly and two that without women all, or most men would only eat frozen food and never bath or clean.
11/30/2011
Contributor: Lucky21 Lucky21
Totally answering for myself... I was relatively domesticated. I'm no neat freak by any stretch of the imagination, but I do my chores, clean laundry, cook and the like.
11/30/2011
Contributor: onehotmomma onehotmomma
He was sort of domesticated, lol. I feel like it has gotten worse over the years since he's had me around, and I'm a neat freak.
12/02/2011
Contributor: Daemonin Daemonin
We met in high school, so figure that. He was clean sometimes and messy other times. He's actually a lot cleaner than I am, though.
12/03/2011
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Ex-husband, despite having been in the military, was the slobbiest person I've ever known. Since he could hardly hold onto a job, I was usually working, and he either never did any chores or only half-assed did them. So, I was exhausted from work and still had to clean the house and/or clean over what he had done. He could hardly take care of himself, too. Ugh, surprised I stayed so long with him. He could cook, but he cooked like a 'southern bachelor' - everything was fried and smothered in gravy.

From what I understand, Master is an average 'domesticated male'. He's in his mid-40's, married briefly, but spent most of his adult life as a bachelor who had to take care of his own place and upkeep. About the worst I hear out of him about his cleaning is that he hates dusting and he tends to dump his clean clothes in his bed so he can remember to iron them. He's also currently improving his cooking abilities.

He had said that when(!) our situation becomes permanent, he expects everything to be shared equally and nobody is going to be exclusively in charge of keeping house. Although I may need to take over laundry duty so his clothes won't wrinkle so much ... I hate ironing.
12/07/2011
Contributor: Paula Paula
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Originally posted by Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
How 'domesticated' was he?

When I say 'domesticated', I mean he cleans up after himself, keeps a decent living space, takes care of himself, does his laundry/dishes, knows how to cook . . . etc.
We met at 18, he lived with his parents and his mom absolutely did everything for him! Almost 6 years alter he's getting much better but he still lives off cereal if I leave him alone....
12/08/2011
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
Neither of us have ever been married. He's had three other girlfriends, but he's my first everything.

He was pretty domesticated. He has his wild moments though, when he's a bit more animistic.
12/10/2011
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
He's good enough at taking care of himself and his living space and cooking but I prefer doing it for him. (we aren't married or engaged yet and neither one of us ever has been)
I'm pretty traditional in that way.
01/05/2012
Contributor: Sapphires13 Sapphires13
He's metrosexual. More feminine than me sometimes. I'm kind of the slob in the relationship, lol.
01/06/2012
Contributor: Teacookie Teacookie
raising your boyfrined sucks!! I love mine he's my best friend but is still not husband material after 5 years. The ambilical cord has not been cut. He lives with me yet he goes down once a months to spend a week or more with his mom. Not only that but his mom never taught him about buying presents for others or how to cook. He didn't even no how to clean messes that envoled in depth cleaning. He tells me he wants to help but then he puts things off and if I meantion them he says I nag or i upset him so he won't do it. He has aspburgers but still LAZY absent minded professor type. He won't put clean dishes away and he won't fold luandry.

"I told you so" is an excellent way to describe his lack of knowledge. I make sugestion and tell him how most people handle life situation like finding a job or going to school. Takes him a year or more for the idea to come around and "Honey I just had an awesome idea." even his mom does that.
I finally had enough and my friends love him so have interveined to save our relationship or make sure that he will move in with them and remian my friend. They are here for 3 weeks rearranging, organizing and cleaning my home while communicating between the two of us to make sure we will continure with the upkeeep,
01/06/2012
Contributor: GS28 GS28
He's neater than I am! I'm so lucky that he already knew how to do the laundry and hates for dishes to sit in the sink. He could cook but needed lessons in meal planning...but that was a minor issue.
02/13/2012
Contributor: Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
couldn't even cook rice
02/13/2012