This can apply to various types of things, including everything from sex or no sex before marriage to monogamy or polygamy. For this reason, adding comments would be helpful.
Which do you subscribe to more: traditional or non-traditional relationships?
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Traditional or Non-Traditional?
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03/05/2012
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I'm definitely a traditional girl when it comes to relationships
03/05/2012
I'm traditional, I suppose. I am a "date only one person" kind of girl and right now, I'm in a straight relationship (though I am essentially a lesbian otherwise). I did have sex before marriage, though. But I lost my virginity to my (current) boyfriend and I don't ever plan on dating or having sex with anyone else. Well, except maybe the occasional girl in a three-way or just me and her.
03/05/2012
Non-Traditional. I find myself queering as many things in my life as possible!
03/05/2012
Non-traditional.
03/05/2012
Well as far as I know D/s still isn't called traditional a bit... ^^
03/05/2012
I love being in a relationship.
03/05/2012
We're traditional and non-traditional in ways. Whatever works.
03/07/2012
Generally traditional, but I'd be open to trying out polyamory.
03/07/2012
I'd try out just about anytihng.
03/07/2012
Non-traditional just because we're both generally non-traditional people and that's what I think brought us together.
03/07/2012
traditional.
03/07/2012
Traditional is so weird for me, because I'm a pansexual FTM so it's just weird.
03/16/2012
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Highly non-traditional! We were miserable when we tried to do what everyone else expected and thought was right
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03/16/2012
middle ground is better for me.. i men, it doesint really work for a gay couple anyway, it untraditional in my culture to start with
03/18/2012
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That's a little vague to me right now, but I guess I'm more what you'd consider traditional. That is, if you mean traditional as in monogamous and all. My partner and I ONLY involve each other in our relationship and sex lives (when it comes to intimacy and sex stuff, not that we eliminate people from our lives in general, just in those ways) we don't do what couples these days consider normal. He's respectful and happy to be. He's a "gentleman" and happy to be, monogamous and happy. Sex before marriage? Uh... well... OK we done everything else right so I think we can let that one slide. Lol.
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03/18/2012
Well, I'm gay, so my relationships are automatically "non-traditional."
03/18/2012
I'm "traditional" in that I'm in a heterosexual monogamous relationship, but nontraditional in my bedroom behaviors.
03/18/2012
I would say I'm traditional in that I met someone, dated her through college before marrying (many years ago) and have remained faithful to her ever since. We probably do some untraditional things in the bedroom, but that's what keeps the relationship fun and alive all these years later.
03/18/2012
I guess traditional but with a lot more honesty and openness. (We read through an open relationship book together and really took away good things from that experience.)
03/24/2012
non i love to do what i want
03/27/2012
A little bit of traditional and non traditional. I had sex before I was married, like some non traditional things in teh bedroom, but I'm committed to my partner.
04/02/2012
"Traditional" means different things to different people. My husband and I certainly had sex before we were married, at one point we had an Open Relationship (which was then Closed when we got engaged)
But, we live a somewhat D/s relationship, with him as Alpha. We have a "traditional home life" I was home with kids (although I worked outside the home on an off, and now that the kids are older, I'm working outside the home again) we make many decisions together, but often he has more sway over the finances. We're monogamous, but have talked about playing with other couples (I kind of feel it isn't the greatest idea for us. My husband is more jealous than he lets on to.)
So, I'm not going to label it.
But, we live a somewhat D/s relationship, with him as Alpha. We have a "traditional home life" I was home with kids (although I worked outside the home on an off, and now that the kids are older, I'm working outside the home again) we make many decisions together, but often he has more sway over the finances. We're monogamous, but have talked about playing with other couples (I kind of feel it isn't the greatest idea for us. My husband is more jealous than he lets on to.)
So, I'm not going to label it.
04/02/2012
On the surface my partner and I have a very traditional looking relationship. We're married and have been together for a decade (since high school). That said, I'm trans identified, she's bi, and we've both explored sexually with others (with each other's blessing).
So...we're probably more on the non-traditional side.
So...we're probably more on the non-traditional side.
04/02/2012
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I have a bit of a probing question (and it's really only to make you think ) You said about pre-marital sex, Uh... well... OK we done everything else right so I think we can let that one slide. Lol. Does that mean you ] consider your sexual life before marriage "wrong?" Did the two of you enjoy it? Did it strengthen your love? Are you glad you got to know each other's sexual needs before you actually took the plunge to a lifelong commitment? If so, then HOW could your premarital sex have been "wrong?" (As you said you did "everything else right." What constitutes "right" ?
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K101
That's a little vague to me right now, but I guess I'm more what you'd consider traditional. That is, if you mean traditional as in monogamous and all. My partner and I ONLY involve each other in our relationship and sex lives (when it
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That's a little vague to me right now, but I guess I'm more what you'd consider traditional. That is, if you mean traditional as in monogamous and all. My partner and I ONLY involve each other in our relationship and sex lives (when it comes to intimacy and sex stuff, not that we eliminate people from our lives in general, just in those ways) we don't do what couples these days consider normal. He's respectful and happy to be. He's a "gentleman" and happy to be, monogamous and happy. Sex before marriage? Uh... well... OK we done everything else right so I think we can let that one slide. Lol.
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Think about it. The two of you are in love. Making love is not wrong, whether you have that piece of paper or not.
I think the choice to make love before marriage was more "right" than you think it was.
04/02/2012
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Sorry. Double post.
Originally posted by
K101
That's a little vague to me right now, but I guess I'm more what you'd consider traditional. That is, if you mean traditional as in monogamous and all. My partner and I ONLY involve each other in our relationship and sex lives (when it
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That's a little vague to me right now, but I guess I'm more what you'd consider traditional. That is, if you mean traditional as in monogamous and all. My partner and I ONLY involve each other in our relationship and sex lives (when it comes to intimacy and sex stuff, not that we eliminate people from our lives in general, just in those ways) we don't do what couples these days consider normal. He's respectful and happy to be. He's a "gentleman" and happy to be, monogamous and happy. Sex before marriage? Uh... well... OK we done everything else right so I think we can let that one slide. Lol.
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04/02/2012
traditional, for sure. I just feel most comfortable with monogamy and I currently want to wait till marriage to have sex, but I wouldn't be surprised if that changes in a few years.
I would've considered pre-maritial sex to be more deviant as a teenager, but I don't think our culture, even christians (as I know very few who are still virgins at this point) view sex in 20's and up as necessarily deviant.
I would've considered pre-maritial sex to be more deviant as a teenager, but I don't think our culture, even christians (as I know very few who are still virgins at this point) view sex in 20's and up as necessarily deviant.
04/02/2012
Traditional
04/02/2012
Non traditional.
04/10/2012
I'm traditional on monogamy and the heterosexuality, not the premarital sex. It's not that they're bad, there's just no appeal to me.
04/21/2012
What's the current interpretation of "traditional"?
How much you want to be the definition will change by the end of the week?
I probably am traditional - I tend to be fiercely monogamous and want exclusivity on his part as well. Although we don't have to be married for it. Perhaps wanting emotional intimacy is considered nontraditional now. *shrug*
How much you want to be the definition will change by the end of the week?
I probably am traditional - I tend to be fiercely monogamous and want exclusivity on his part as well. Although we don't have to be married for it. Perhaps wanting emotional intimacy is considered nontraditional now. *shrug*
04/21/2012
Personally I'm non-traditional, though I haven't experimented very much with poly or same-sex because I just happen to be in a relationship with a man who is very traditional.
04/21/2012
Definitely non-traditional here.
04/21/2012
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non traditional- interracial- my parents dont approve. etc
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04/26/2012
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In some sense of the word my relationship is traditional. We've talked about kids in the future but I've stated I want to be married before kids. But we are also swingers. So, we are both traditional and non-traditional.
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04/26/2012
traditional
05/04/2012
I love everything
05/04/2012
My partner and I tend to be very traditional. We didn't sleep together until we were in an monogamous relationship. We want a traditional life together...
05/05/2012
non-traditional
07/13/2012
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A little of both.
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petname
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07/14/2012
traditional
07/14/2012
Non-traditional
07/15/2012
I'm queer, trans*, kinky, and polyamorous, so I'm gonna go with non-traditional.
07/16/2012
im a pretty traditional kind of gal
07/23/2012
A little of both. We had sex before marriage and have an occasional (but certainly not regular) 3 or 4some
08/11/2012
Traditional for the most part.
08/12/2012
I consider myself pretty traditional and old fashioned... mind you obviously there are certain aspects of my relationship that arent exactly traditional, like that we're not married yet but that we have a very active sex life... but other than probably that I'm very traditional... the only reason we do live together and all is that I KNOW were getting married, just not quite yet
08/12/2012
I'm pretty traditional except for the whole "no sex before marriage" thing. It's not that I don't approve of non-traditional relationships, its just not who I fell in love with.
08/12/2012
I'm always open to new things, so I'd say non traditional.
12/05/2012
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Non traditional
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12/05/2012
Traditional
12/05/2012
Non-traditional, I'm in a poly relationship and I'm queer.
12/28/2012
My relationships tend to be more traditionally structured (serially monogamous), but I date outside the "traditional" in terms of genders.
12/28/2012
I subscribe to whatever works between both parties in my relationships. I mean, I often date people of the same sex, and of course and I'm into some kinky things, but generally speaking, I feel a lot of the everyday aspects of dealing with relationships for even the most non-vanilla people tends to be "traditional" in the sense of being the same throughout the ages.
12/28/2012
I'm queer, but my partner is a straight male, an alpha male gone liberal would be the best I could explain him, so we've queered our relationship in a way that makes it a bit different from typical straight ones. We seem really hetero and traditional but we discuss things like what we can do with other people in really flexible and open ways. I also am not sure I want to get married. I am really interested in something like a triad, as well. However, there are many ways that I'm traditional. I'm a feminine woman and I typically am attracted to butch, soft butch, gender queer, or trans* people with female parts and I prefer to be treated a certain way (brought flowers occasionally, etc) and that has translated into the relationship I'm in now also.
12/31/2012
traditional and old fashion
01/08/2013
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Traditional in marriage. Coming up on our TwentyFifth!
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01/08/2013
completely Traditional
01/15/2013
Used to be traditional, but now am not quite sure.
01/15/2013
I prefer traditional but I don't object to non. At least 50% of my friends are non traditional.
01/15/2013
I feel like I am definitely a traditional person, I want a wedding, I want it to be in a church, I want a white dress, I want to feel protected and I want him to be a confident in charge guy
02/10/2013
Definitely traditional. We want to get married, maintain a monogamous relationship and have kids. Most of my friends are non-traditional.
02/11/2013
i happen to practice monogamy, and the majority of my relationships can be perceived as being hetronormative.
02/11/2013
Traditional I suppose. Atleast in the sense that we're straight (well, he is) and monogamous. But we moved in together after a very short amount of time, still 8 years later engaged but not married, had a (planned) baby last year...so in that sense I guess we're not as we did everything "backwards" to what's traditional.
03/03/2013
On the surface we look very traditional. I'm a stay at home mom living in a nice neighborhood. I'm married, which is the traditional thing to do.. but I date and play with others (both men and women) outside of my primary relationship and am into some serious kink.
03/07/2013
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Traditional for me
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petname
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03/14/2020
I'm more traditional I guess--in that I'm hetero and monogamous. But as far as premarital sex, non-traditional. I gave my virginity away at 16 to a guy I was in a serious relationship with (yes, at 16. We dated for 4 years and had planned to get married). I feel like that was a good choice for me though. I would not want to get married to someone, not ever having sex before (with that person or anyone else). I feel like it's better to experience it and get to know yourself--your preferences and dislikes, issues, etc before you commit to something as important as marriage. But that's my opinion!!
03/22/2020
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