I'm very curious to know is anyone on EF would ever consider being a surrogate mother.
Would you be a Surrogate mother?
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Would you be a Surrogate mother?
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If you chose yes, would you want to be paid for it or would you do it for free?
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If you chose no, would you change your mind if someone close to you asked you to be a Surrogate mother for them?
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What would your spouse think about you becoming a Surrogate mother?
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I'm curious as to who on EF would be a Surrogate mother if the opportunity presented itself. Why or why not?
04/27/2012
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I don't think I personally could. Because I would have 10 months to bond with that child and that would make me want to keep it. I don't know anyone I would do this for, so most likely I would not be one.
04/27/2012
I am not interested in carrying a child that is biologically mine. It follows that I wouldn't do it for someone else, either.
04/27/2012
I couldn't do it. I tend to fall in love with them when they live in my womb. I admire women who can do this, but I'm not the woman for the job.
04/27/2012
Probably not. I don't plan on having kids so I don't think I'd put my body through that for someone else.
04/27/2012
Oh I forgot to make one thing clear in my OP. I'm talking about one of two different types of Surrogacy in my polls. Here are the two types:
1. "One form of surrogacy, traditional surrogacy, involves using artificial insemination to impregnate the surrogate mother. This technique is often used when a woman is physically unable to bear children, but she still wants to have children with her partner. In this case, the partner donates sperm, or sperm is secured from a third party if he is infertile as well, and the surrogate mother contributes half of the required genetic material. This type of surrogacy has been around for centuries, although it was not widely discussed until the twentieth century, since some women felt ashamed because they could not bear children."
2. "Modern surrogate arrangements usually involve gestational surrogacy. In gestational surrogacy, the couple commissioning the surrogate mother donate both eggs and sperm. The egg is fertilized in a test tube, and then implanted into the surrogate mother. In this case, the surrogate mother acts almost like an incubator, carrying the child to term for a woman who is unable to do so."
I'm referring to number 2 in my OP. Not 1. Sorry if I caused any confusion.
1. "One form of surrogacy, traditional surrogacy, involves using artificial insemination to impregnate the surrogate mother. This technique is often used when a woman is physically unable to bear children, but she still wants to have children with her partner. In this case, the partner donates sperm, or sperm is secured from a third party if he is infertile as well, and the surrogate mother contributes half of the required genetic material. This type of surrogacy has been around for centuries, although it was not widely discussed until the twentieth century, since some women felt ashamed because they could not bear children."
2. "Modern surrogate arrangements usually involve gestational surrogacy. In gestational surrogacy, the couple commissioning the surrogate mother donate both eggs and sperm. The egg is fertilized in a test tube, and then implanted into the surrogate mother. In this case, the surrogate mother acts almost like an incubator, carrying the child to term for a woman who is unable to do so."
I'm referring to number 2 in my OP. Not 1. Sorry if I caused any confusion.
04/27/2012
Yes I definitely would.
04/27/2012
I am terrified of pregnancy and find bellies super gross and have witnessed too many (3) births to want to go through it myself.
04/27/2012
I would not do it I be scared that I would get attached to the baby. I love kids and it would be hard to give the baby away. Also I am at a age that I don't want to have any more kids and am scared of the risk issues at my age.
04/27/2012
No. I have no intention of ever having kids for myself, so I wouldn't go through a pregnancy for someone else. Even if someone close to me asked, I still don't think I would do it.
04/27/2012
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Expecially if it was for a close friend or family member who could not have childern or whatever and I could I would absloutly help them make that dream come true. I know they'd do the same for me!
Originally posted by
xOhxSoxScandalousx
I'm curious as to who on EF would be a Surrogate mother if the opportunity presented itself. Why or why not?
04/27/2012
I don't think i could do it. Not because i don't think the idea is a great one but more because i am way to controlling and get attached very easily.
04/27/2012
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I feel the same way.
Originally posted by
chula101
I don't think i could do it. Not because i don't think the idea is a great one but more because i am way to controlling and get attached very easily.
04/27/2012
When I was younger, I did consider it for a friend who was in a 3rd marriage and unable to have a child with that husband, but she decided that the children she had with her first husband were enough.
04/27/2012
My ovaries and all mucked up, I don't think I would be able to be one...
But, if I were unable to concieve, I might try using a surrogate if adoption were out.
But, if I were unable to concieve, I might try using a surrogate if adoption were out.
04/27/2012
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Well that is a good question and a very hard one. I have been pregnant twice, lost both and am unable to carry a child full term. I supposedly "can't get pregnant," but I think miracles happen so in my mind it's still somewhat possible, but it's very unlikely that I could carry full term--health reasons.
Originally posted by
xOhxSoxScandalousx
I'm curious as to who on EF would be a Surrogate mother if the opportunity presented itself. Why or why not?
Because of losing my own two, that would make it hard for me to just give up one if I were able to suddenly carry a healthy baby to full term.Say I was able to give someone a baby... Now that we have kids -- not ours biologically, but still ours all the same, and further down the road maybe! If it were a sister or someone I loved that truly wanted a baby.
OK, the more I've thought about it since I began typing my response, I don't think I'd do it! Lol. Sudden change of heart? I don't know. I would at least try to consider it if it were for someone I loved I suppose and if I could still be in my child's life. After losing my own though, if a baby ever miraculously did happen to me, no way I'd give it up.
04/27/2012
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I am so sorry for your loss. I believe in miracles too so never give up hope. I understand why you wouldn't be a Surrogate but it's very nice of you to consider doing it for someone you love.
Originally posted by
K101
Well that is a good question and a very hard one. I have been pregnant twice, lost both and am unable to carry a child full term. I supposedly "can't get pregnant," but I think miracles happen so in my mind it's still somewhat
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Well that is a good question and a very hard one. I have been pregnant twice, lost both and am unable to carry a child full term. I supposedly "can't get pregnant," but I think miracles happen so in my mind it's still somewhat possible, but it's very unlikely that I could carry full term--health reasons.
Because of losing my own two, that would make it hard for me to just give up one if I were able to suddenly carry a healthy baby to full term.Say I was able to give someone a baby... Now that we have kids -- not ours biologically, but still ours all the same, and further down the road maybe! If it were a sister or someone I loved that truly wanted a baby.
OK, the more I've thought about it since I began typing my response, I don't think I'd do it! Lol. Sudden change of heart? I don't know. I would at least try to consider it if it were for someone I loved I suppose and if I could still be in my child's life. After losing my own though, if a baby ever miraculously did happen to me, no way I'd give it up. less
Because of losing my own two, that would make it hard for me to just give up one if I were able to suddenly carry a healthy baby to full term.Say I was able to give someone a baby... Now that we have kids -- not ours biologically, but still ours all the same, and further down the road maybe! If it were a sister or someone I loved that truly wanted a baby.
OK, the more I've thought about it since I began typing my response, I don't think I'd do it! Lol. Sudden change of heart? I don't know. I would at least try to consider it if it were for someone I loved I suppose and if I could still be in my child's life. After losing my own though, if a baby ever miraculously did happen to me, no way I'd give it up. less
04/27/2012
Nope
04/27/2012
maybe
04/27/2012
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Yes! I'd love to be pregnant again if it wasnt for that horrid little side effect of infant/toddler (kidding! love my babies)
Originally posted by
xOhxSoxScandalousx
I'm curious as to who on EF would be a Surrogate mother if the opportunity presented itself. Why or why not?
04/27/2012
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I would, it pays well
Originally posted by
xOhxSoxScandalousx
I'm curious as to who on EF would be a Surrogate mother if the opportunity presented itself. Why or why not?
04/27/2012
I think it's an amazing thing that some women can do this...but I can't imagine having a baby inside me fore 9 months and then having to see it go. Even though it isn't biologically yours, it's lived in you like your own child. That would be too hard for me
04/28/2012
Don't really think so. Its a lot to get into.
04/28/2012
I'll be succinct: Helllllll no.
04/28/2012
I don't think I could be one.
04/28/2012
No way-I want my own baby, not anyone else's
04/28/2012
I couldn't give up nine months of my life with all the side-effects unless I really loved the person in need - so, yeah, probably not.
Or unless I was paid obscene amounts of money and didn't have to work, I'd consider it.
Or unless I was paid obscene amounts of money and didn't have to work, I'd consider it.
04/28/2012
I don't know if I could do it. When I was working in the health food industry, I had a person that came into my store and she was a surrugate.
04/28/2012
no way
04/28/2012
I have very controversial views on surrogacy, IVF and other methods of conceiving children through science. I would never be a surrogate for someone based on the fact that I have no desire to experience full-term pregnancy and all of the things that go with it.
I understand some women have such an intensely burning desire to be bio-mothers to their children that they'll go through anything to achieve it, but I can't help but think about all of the children all over the world aching and yearning for a loving home.
I understand some women have such an intensely burning desire to be bio-mothers to their children that they'll go through anything to achieve it, but I can't help but think about all of the children all over the world aching and yearning for a loving home.
04/28/2012
No I wouldn't be a surrogate Mother.
04/28/2012
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The problem with adoption is that it is a super long process and is very expensive. I would love to adopt later in the future.
Originally posted by
Ansley
I have very controversial views on surrogacy, IVF and other methods of conceiving children through science. I would never be a surrogate for someone based on the fact that I have no desire to experience full-term pregnancy and all of the things that
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I have very controversial views on surrogacy, IVF and other methods of conceiving children through science. I would never be a surrogate for someone based on the fact that I have no desire to experience full-term pregnancy and all of the things that go with it.
I understand some women have such an intensely burning desire to be bio-mothers to their children that they'll go through anything to achieve it, but I can't help but think about all of the children all over the world aching and yearning for a loving home. less
I understand some women have such an intensely burning desire to be bio-mothers to their children that they'll go through anything to achieve it, but I can't help but think about all of the children all over the world aching and yearning for a loving home. less
04/28/2012
My daughter's boyfriend's mother is a surrogacy attorney - all I can say is there must be a lot of money in it - she does very well cash-wise.
04/29/2012
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This is true, but there are ways around it. (But, as I said my views are quite controversial on the matter so... )
Originally posted by
xOhxSoxScandalousx
The problem with adoption is that it is a super long process and is very expensive. I would love to adopt later in the future.
04/29/2012
I love the idea of doing it. In reality, I know I would have too difficult a time giving the baby away. I don't think I could do it. I felt like I bonded with my son the instant I knew he was in there.
04/29/2012
Nope.
04/29/2012
I would love to say that I would be a surrogate mother, because I know that is a route so many people would love to take... unfortunately, I think I would be too attached to the baby to give it up for adoption. I can only imagine it if I were carrying for someone I'm close to and would still be able to see the child, as its surrogate. I'm all for open "families" like that.
05/07/2012
Depending who it was for especially after having my lil girl and watching her grow I would defiantly be willing to help someone in my life who couldn't carry a child
05/23/2012
for family i would def do it... and for a couple i didn't know i would still do it but for the right price.
05/24/2012
I would do it for my family hands down, mainly since I will probably need one eventually. If it were for another couple I don't think I could.
05/24/2012
I don't really think I could handle being a surrogate mother and going through all that time carrying a baby only to give it up later, even if it wasn't my child to have. I know myself well enough that when I do have kids I will probably bond very deeply/tightly to my own children, so.. I think it'd be unwise for me to be a surrogate to anyone. I'd be far too attached. :c
05/24/2012
I wouldn't be able to considering I am having a hard enough time getting pregnant myself
05/29/2012
I would if I could.
I have some medical issues and should not become pregnant again (its actually not possible anymore because of it).
I have some medical issues and should not become pregnant again (its actually not possible anymore because of it).
05/29/2012
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No, I wouldn't be.
Originally posted by
xOhxSoxScandalousx
I'm curious as to who on EF would be a Surrogate mother if the opportunity presented itself. Why or why not?
05/29/2012
No, absolutely not ever. I have terrible genetic health problems that run in my family that I also have. I would not want to bring a child in to the world that has a very high possibility of having the same disorders.
05/29/2012
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I couldn't be, after carrying a baby for 8-9 months... I don't think I could ever give it up.
Originally posted by
xOhxSoxScandalousx
I'm curious as to who on EF would be a Surrogate mother if the opportunity presented itself. Why or why not?
05/29/2012
I used to think I could, and then I had three beautiful babies! If it was someone extremely near and dear to me that couldn't, I would consider it...but it would be very difficult!
05/29/2012
I probably wouldn't be one.
05/29/2012
I would love to, but because my youngest has a neurological disorder I am not qualified.
05/29/2012
i could not i would get to attached
05/31/2012
I would under one condition if i had a close friend that could not have a kid and she asked me to i would because I know I would get attached and I know my close friends would let me see the the child whenever.so I would still be apart of his or her life and I wold help a women become a mother.Otherwise nope.
05/31/2012
As a male, I don't know if I could be a surrogate father let alone how woman could be a surrogate mother. Too many emotions. I guess mayby if it would a close family member.
05/31/2012
I don't think I could be a surrogate because I'd miss my child too much, I wouldn't be able to let them go even if they were going to a close friend
02/07/2013
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