My partner, definitely. I almost never turn down sex, unless I'm SUPER depressed or sick or something. He turns it down...a lot. I've gotten to the point that I don't even try anymore. If we have sex, it's because he initiated it. We've been together for over a year, and every time (except for once, maybe) I have tried to initiate it, I've been rejected. It's actually become quite a problem. He says I always try at the wrong time, i.e. when he's tired, about to go to work, etc. But those haven't been the only times I've tried, and I still am turned down. Sigh.