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Contributor: Two Loves Two Loves
So, we love to watch Entourage and during on episode Vince sleeps with a girl who is engaged but she said it's okay because he was on her list of celebrities that should could sleep with and it be okay. So this question is for those of you in monogamous relationships. Do you have a list and if so would you really be fine with it if your partner slept with someone on that list?

Also feel free to leave who is, or would be, on your list below in the comments.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
We have a list and I would be fine if my partner slept with someone on it.
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We have a list but I would not really be okay with it.
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19  (10%)
we do not have a list.
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Contributor: Two Loves Two Loves
So we figured we would start. We are both banking that neither one of us will ever meet, let alone get to sleep with someone on our list. The tops of our list are:
Hers: John Krasinski
His: Keira Knightley
02/22/2010
Contributor: Heather Shadrick Heather Shadrick
Top 2 on my list is Johnny Depp and Angelina Jolie. In my dreams it would be at the same time, lol. His would be Danielle Fox and/or Mickee James from WWE. Seeing as how this would NEVER happen, I don't see it being a problem. Although, we have tried having an 'open relationship' neither of us got jealous, it just made us realize we didn't need anyone else and everyone else was boring compared to each other. I am bisexual, so I have my girls, and if he was bi he could have his men(though he is far from it!), and he has never got jealous. He loves it! Even though he doesn't get to join in with some of the girls. Just the thought turns him on.
02/22/2010
Contributor: TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
We don't have a list, but we are open with including others in our play. We talk about what celebrities we would definitely no matter what be included in our play without question though...
02/22/2010
Contributor: Miss Jane Miss Jane
We have a 'list' but it's not really a physical, written down one. Like fyreflye mentioned, we both know it's probably never going to happen. But if it did, the sheer wow factor of it would be enough to be congratulatory about it instead of angry - so if I somehow gain the blessings of fate and get to finally bang Trent Reznor, he would cheer with me. If he got to sleep with some hot celebrity chick that he likes, I'd be pretty proud to say, "oh yeah, well my boyfriend shagged Eliza Duskhu!" or whomever, because I know it's a fantasy thing not a personal thing, and that he's coming home to me.

My list:
Trent Reznor
Johnny Depp
Robert Smith
Tony Head
Alan Rickman
Adam Lazzara
Amy Lee
Hugh Jackman (only dressed as Wolverine)
etc.etc.
02/22/2010
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
We don't have lists. Sometimes we joke about celebrities, but that would never really happen
02/22/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
I joke about sleeping with Johnny Depp, but he doesn't find it amusing...
02/23/2010
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
Quote:
Originally posted by Sammi
We don't have lists. Sometimes we joke about celebrities, but that would never really happen
Same here - no lists for us either, but of course we joke all the time.
02/23/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
We're not monogamous but I had to answer...

When my daughter was three she saw a taped Bon Jovi concert and with awe in her voice announced that she FINALLY knew what her Daddy did when he was at work...he sang on stage! I had to explain that though Jon and her Dad look very similar and they are both Jersey boys, her Dad worked in an office. She just looked at me like I was insane and asked him when he got home...Sigel wanted to know when I was going to sue for child support! LOL

Sigel and I joke about having a list but, again I doubt it'd happen. With Arch he wouldn't be terribly forgiving and doesn't find the thought appealing at all.

Interesting isn't it Fyreflye that when you do decide to open your relationship one of the things that can happen is you realize how much you like your partner and don't really need anyone else? Sigel found that after we opened ours...and he was always the acknowledged hornball!
02/23/2010
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
We don't really have a list but we both joke about Pauley Perette
02/23/2010
Contributor: seaofneptune seaofneptune
I joke about Ewan MacGregor, Katee Sackhoff, & Zooey Deschanel - but we don't really have a list and there is no way my boyfriend would let me be in bed with any of them. I wouldn't like it either if he did, so no list at all.
02/23/2010
Contributor: LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
We don't have a formal list either, but we have joked about Keira Knightly, Brooklyn Decker, and Jenna Fischer in the past.
02/25/2010
Contributor: ordinaryak ordinaryak
Sex is too big of a thing with me i wouldnt sleep with any cel just becuase they wanted me regardless of if i was or was not in a relationship. i made my boyfriend wait nearly two years before we did anything and if we ever broke up i would deffinatly make anyother man wait just as long. im to persoanl of a person to just have sex with someone. my sister is like that she has no problems sleeping with a guy just for sex i never could do it.
02/28/2010
Contributor: Gary Gary
Quote:
Originally posted by Victoria
Same here - no lists for us either, but of course we joke all the time.
Joking around is one thing, but a list is ridiculous. Especially since all of mine would be cartoon characters anyway.
03/16/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
I never had a list, and I will not. I do not find people attractive based simply off of looks. However, even if I did, I would not have a list with my partner. I personally find that to be inappropriate.
04/30/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
I never had a list, and I will not. I do not find people attractive based simply off of looks. However, even if I did, I would not have a list with my partner. I personally find that to be inappropriate.
Same here. For me sex is very emotionally connected to the rest of the relationship so I wouldn't be ok with me or him having sex with anyone else, even if it is a celebrity.
04/30/2010
Contributor: Elodie Elodie
No lists. In the highly unlikely event that it came up, we would talk about it then. I doubt I'd want to go beyond anything more than making out, though, and there's only one celebrity with whom I'd do even that.

My fantasies are nearly all about people I make up, anyway.
04/30/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Two Loves
So, we love to watch Entourage and during on episode Vince sleeps with a girl who is engaged but she said it's okay because he was on her list of celebrities that should could sleep with and it be okay. So this question is for those of you in ... more
I'm not at all into pop culture - I don't find someone attractive because they appear on a screen - large or small. As for my wife - she may have a list but I don't know about it and don't care because she'd never act on it even if she had the chance.

That's what trust is about.
05/01/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Nope, would not be okay with it and I would not be okay with having a list. When you are with someone, it is my feeling that if you are truly committed to them, you don't fantasize about other things. My partner has the same feeling. Fantasies can turn into more. No reason to even have a list. I don't share lol.

I find other people attractive of course, but I don't fantasize about doing anything with them. Celebrity or not.
05/01/2010
Contributor: Holly (Woman Tribune) Holly (Woman Tribune)
We don't have a list but I have joked around bringing the concept of "The List" up and have on more than one occasion stated that the best three-some ever would be Rob Zombie and Sheri Moon. He, of course, disagrees.
05/01/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
Nope, would not be okay with it and I would not be okay with having a list. When you are with someone, it is my feeling that if you are truly committed to them, you don't fantasize about other things. My partner has the same feeling. Fantasies ... more
Good response. I feel the same way.
05/01/2010
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
Nope, would not be okay with it and I would not be okay with having a list. When you are with someone, it is my feeling that if you are truly committed to them, you don't fantasize about other things. My partner has the same feeling. Fantasies ... more
Agreed!
05/01/2010
Contributor: Gardenvy Gardenvy
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
Good response. I feel the same way.
Me too! No list here.
05/01/2010
Contributor: Gardenvy Gardenvy
Quote:
Originally posted by Two Loves
So, we love to watch Entourage and during on episode Vince sleeps with a girl who is engaged but she said it's okay because he was on her list of celebrities that should could sleep with and it be okay. So this question is for those of you in ... more
What I think is pretty funny, is that chick had a fool from entourage on her "list"...
05/01/2010
Contributor: Elodie Elodie
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
Nope, would not be okay with it and I would not be okay with having a list. When you are with someone, it is my feeling that if you are truly committed to them, you don't fantasize about other things. My partner has the same feeling. Fantasies ... more
I actually disagree with the "no fantasies" thing pretty strenuously. Fantasies are a healthy part of life, and if I were not allowed to use my imagination, I'd wither and die. Okay, more likely I'd end up in a mental institution.

I have my fantasies, my boyfriend has his: some are about each other, others aren't. Some we share, others we don't. Fantasizing doesn't make one any more or less likely to cheat. But trying to put a hold on anyone else's mind is a no-win situation.
05/01/2010
Contributor: Persephone's Addiction Persephone's Addiction
Quote:
Originally posted by Two Loves
So, we love to watch Entourage and during on episode Vince sleeps with a girl who is engaged but she said it's okay because he was on her list of celebrities that should could sleep with and it be okay. So this question is for those of you in ... more
We don't really have a "list" but we sometimes say "If you die, or move to Bolivia, I would totally be with..." (The Bolivia thing is his...He tells me I'm Bolivian.)
Most recently he said it would have to be a hairdresser because he really liked the shampoo/head massage. lol So I said, "Fine, then if you die, I get Dhani Jones" (NFL linebacker...has a TV show) He's hot.
05/20/2010
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
We don't have a list, but there aren't many people I'd be upset if M slept with them.
05/20/2010
Contributor: Gary Gary
Quote:
Originally posted by Victoria
Same here - no lists for us either, but of course we joke all the time.
Oh yeah... Well what about Laurence Tureaud? You are always going on and on about getting it on with him.
05/20/2010
Contributor: *Ashley* *Ashley*
I do have a list and Johnny Depp has been number one on my list from the start! Others are Paul Walker.. Orlando Bloom.. I could go on, but I guess those would be my top 3.

I’m sure my man has a list too, he's named a few but I cant recall who they where at the moment, gorgeous women though of cores.. I remember thinking "If I was a man that would be my list too.." lol

But if it really came down to it, I'd be pissed if he slept with them/her. Its that list that starts out 'If I was single and...' But as far as being in a relationship.. that shit would not fly with me or him either.
05/20/2010
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
Quote:
Originally posted by Gary
Oh yeah... Well what about Laurence Tureaud? You are always going on and on about getting it on with him.
Ew, Gary. I pity the fool who believes that I'd sleep with him. His beard is weak.
05/20/2010