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it was okay would you have sex with someone else while they watched
08/02/2012
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Gracie Gracie
Ultimately I don't think I could handle it, but I would use the opprotunity to talk about what it would mean to him emotionally, how would it meet his needs sexually in ways that might not be getting met for him now? Even if initally my feeling were hurt I would hope I could use the situation to spark meaninful conversation that would draw us closer and then see where it goes from there even if in the end I said no thank you.
08/02/2012
Phosphorous Tick Phosphorous Tick
maybe it would all depend on the who and the where
08/02/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
Yep, have done that several times and loved it. Our play has developed into a polyamorous relationship, though, so at this point us having sex in front of each other involves a different sort of sexual and romantic dynamic than you're probably intending with this question.
08/03/2012
SexyStuff SexyStuff
I'm not into it personally, but I can see and understand the appeal.
08/03/2012
<3BF <3BF
not in this dimension but maybe in some parallel world it would be ok
08/03/2012
js250 js250
Have sex...no. Watch each other masturbate, yes. We have talked about this and while my husband said once that I could do the hand job if I wanted--no. It just did not feel right in my thoughts and while I appreciate the gesture, I also know he would regret the open offer eventually. He has since admitted that maybe he would not be comfortable with touching and we should just continue as we are--happy watching and being watched with no personal, physical contact.
08/03/2012
Layenna Layenna
I think getting someone else in the mix makes it interesting.
08/03/2012
K101 K101
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Originally posted by sexykiss
it was okay would you have sex with someone else while they watched
I wouldn't even dream of it. I love my partner so it doesn't matter if he says it's "OK." It's not. I wouldn't ever even think of sex with another person and if I did, I'd have to do some serious thinking. I consider that cheating, even if he didn't care.

However, if he did say "hey, wanna sex someone else? I don't mind." I'd be real concerned. That's not my definition of love.
08/03/2012
Ganconagh Ganconagh
Nah, it is something we like to talk about in an erotic way, but neither of us is interested in actually doing it.
08/03/2012
SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
Nope. Not at all. I feel happy with my husband only and really feel like I would deeply regret it if I tried this, regardless of whether or not he was OK with it. I also think that he would regret it eventually, too. He doesn't even like sharing his pen. In my mind, sex should be an extension of love (I know not everyone feels this way).
08/03/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
Nope. Even if I knew he was okay with it, I'd still feel like I cheated. I'd have that guilt even if he never regretted the decision. That said, we had discussed things like this at one time and he said he thinks he would end up regretting it if we did it.
08/03/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
Nope. Maybe a threesome, but for me personally I wouldnt want to have sex with another person. I would want my partner to be involved.
08/03/2012
AndroAngel AndroAngel
I wouldn't be interested. I'm demi, so I think it'd be downright unpleasant for me to go against my nature like that. Now, if it was a in polyfidelous relationship, I could see it being a ton of fun.
08/03/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I'm 110% faithful to my husband. I don't think I could do it, even if he asked me to. I want to ultimately please my husband more than anything, but I still have my boundaries and I would worry that it would cause a great deal of harm in our relationship in the long run, even if it didn't at first.
08/03/2012
Trysexual Trysexual
Done this in a past relationship and it went well and visa versa. I don't think that will ever happen with my current lover and that is ok too.
08/03/2012
lilgrump lilgrump
We've talked about it and its something that turns us both on. We haven't ever acted on it though because we haven't really found the "right" one. Nothing we are rushing to do, and if it never happens, that's fine as well.
08/03/2012
VictoriaDaniel1 VictoriaDaniel1
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Originally posted by sexykiss
it was okay would you have sex with someone else while they watched
I did this once. He wanted my best friend so I let him have her except they wouldn't let me leave the room and I didn't want to watch. I got my feelings hurt bc of this so comunication is key.
08/03/2012
Undecided Undecided
My ex actually wanted to do this he wanted to watch my ex fiance fuck me! I wasn't for it cause that isn't my thing I prefer it just be me and the other person in the room, not to mention it would have probably hurt my "bf" at the time consider my ex fiance was bigger and better in bed then he was.
08/03/2012
ejrbrndps ejrbrndps
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Originally posted by Ganconagh
Nah, it is something we like to talk about in an erotic way, but neither of us is interested in actually doing it.
I think that for us too
08/05/2012
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
It would depend on who precisely I'd be doing, but yeah, I'd be game for that. I don't see any problem with it so long as everybody involved was cool with it.
08/05/2012
freshbananas freshbananas
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Originally posted by sexykiss
it was okay would you have sex with someone else while they watched
I donno, prolly not
08/05/2012
HusbandandWife HusbandandWife
It has been a fantasy that we have talked about but it probably will not happen anytime soon...ever. I love to watch my wife perform oral on me. The thought of watching her do it to someone else is very exciting, but no way would I want to sit back and just watch. I would have to be part of the action.
08/05/2012
LittleA LittleA
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Originally posted by sexykiss
it was okay would you have sex with someone else while they watched
I have and it was great, and he loved it (the watcher).
08/05/2012
Beck Beck
I sure would. And love every minute of it.
08/05/2012
xOhxSoxScandalousx xOhxSoxScandalousx
Not at all. That would be super inappropriate and wrong of him to suggest such a thing to me.
08/05/2012
Pinkshirt Pinkshirt
Don't think so.
08/05/2012
LadyKaye LadyKaye
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Originally posted by sexykiss
it was okay would you have sex with someone else while they watched
I am not saying that it's not okay and that no one should do it, but I would not. Of course I find other men attractive, but I could never have sexual intercourse with anyone else. Even though I love my husband to pieces, that's not the biggest reason. I'm not comfortable in my own skin. It took a lot of getting used to myself before I was comfortable in front of my own husband. To be with someone new for the first time in seven years would be hugely impossible to me, and even worse if he was watching. I suppose if I wasn't so hard on myself (which I am working terribly hard at getting over), things might be different.
08/05/2012
Vii Vii
I would be way too aware of my partner's gaze to really enjoy myself. Some people enjoy it, but I probably couldn't.
08/05/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
No this type of activity is anathema to the commitment that we have made to each other. Although I fantasize about it sometimes - the real life complications are way too much to even contemplate.
08/06/2012
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