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I've been married for almost 14 years next month. We never had a super active sex life and still don't, but here we are, still together, laughing and happy. I've been having menstrual issues so he has been such a good sport while we try
I've been married for almost 14 years next month. We never had a super active sex life and still don't, but here we are, still together, laughing and happy. I've been having menstrual issues so he has been such a good sport while we try to get me regulated. We still have intimacy, which I believe is more important than intercourse. What are your opinions?
I think as long as both members of the couple are satisfied that's what's important. Different people have different needs. If someone who likes/needs sex every day is matched up with someone who is fine getting it once a week or once every few weeks then it might not work out well. But if both partners like it every day, or like it every few weeks then I see no reason that they wouldn't be satisfied regardless of how often that couple does it
My husband and I have been married for just about 7 years and together for 9, we have sex like 1-2 times a week most weeks. Sometimes it's more, sometimes it's less. We're completely happy and madly in love. Some people would think that we're not having sex nearly often enough but for us this works and we're both satisfied. In a perfect world we'd do it more often..but we have kids, we have work, we go to the gym and are so sore we can't even THINK about putting our bodies in any kind of sexual positions, life just happens.
I also think that intimacy is much more important than actual sex is. We make time to be intimate with each other every day. Sometimes this is just foot rubs while we watch tv and relax, sometimes we try to sneak away and make out or something, we'll shower and wash each other's bodies, cuddle before bed..just something every day to keep close to one another even if we don't have the time or energy or what not for actual sex.