Friends with benefits. Would you ?

Friends with benefits. Would you ?

OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Fwb. Is that mostly for single people ? Does anyone think this would spice up relationships. Or a recipe for disaster? If your SO allowed it, would you ?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
TheToyGuy , CuriousJ , FleurDevereux , mfmtrios , pghaaron , Jexca17 , evie.amor
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C&K0143
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TheToyGuy , NJ casanova , FleurDevereux , Jarhead1341 , h3artsav3r , Jexca17 , evie.amor
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TheToyGuy , C&K0143 , FleurDevereux
3
Andykh , sXeVegan90 , C&K0143 , MsKole , Vnessa , OH&W, Lovebears , Lvstoplay , Sexy Housewife , squid1two , 20yearstogether , ReverieReviews , symbiasin , Gr8pumpkin
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TheToyGuy , Sexy Housewife , Lena Eden
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merc41
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TheToyGuy , Lioncub , FleurDevereux
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TheToyGuy , FleurDevereux , Swing Curious , Gunsmoke , pghaaron
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Inquisitor
1
Total votes: 44 (29 voters)
Poll is open till 9/30/2019 2:00 AM
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Inquisitor Inquisitor
Personally, the only time I would do this is if I were single. I'm not condemning anyone who has it like this, but, I just wouldn't be able to deal with any stress if I was in a relationship.
10/10/2015
sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
I'm in a committed relationship, so I personally wouldn't do this. I feel like if you have an open relationship and you feel like this is a great way to spice things up in the bedroom/relationship, I have nothing against those who do that. However, I personally, am very happy with one other, and that is my partner.
10/10/2015
Andykh Andykh
I have to agree. The friends with benefits would do nothing but harm a committed relationship.
10/10/2015
RonLee RonLee
Many years ago... my then GF and I broke up and I was still unattached, she would call me for sexual satisfaction when her new BF couldn't. It was also an ego stroke during a time that I needed it.
10/11/2015
NJ casanova NJ casanova
Quote:
Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Fwb. Is that mostly for single people ? Does anyone think this would spice up relationships. Or a recipe for disaster? If your SO allowed it, would you ?
I think it's for singles, I think if you "need to" spice things up swinging/threesomes would be the only way. I think a FWB, will only lead to jealousy and/or hooking up behind the partners back(an affair).

FWB is the only way for me since My-ex,was the one. I care about all my FWBs,and want them to find what I had/lost, since I can't be that for them. Basicly I'm a real life Noah from the "Notebook"
10/29/2015
TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Personally, FWB is a way of life. I have fuck buddies, girl/boyfriends, sex friends and FWB. All know their role, all know what we are getting into. There are rules.
11/03/2015
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by TheToyGuy
Personally, FWB is a way of life. I have fuck buddies, girl/boyfriends, sex friends and FWB. All know their role, all know what we are getting into. There are rules.
TG, do you mind if I inquire if you are hitched ? Guess not since you said gfs/bfs.
11/03/2015
MsKole MsKole
I personally would do this if i were single, but im engaged and my fiance and i have both talked about it and both agree it is not for us.
11/03/2015
Vnessa Vnessa
For me personally, I think FWB are for single people just looking for a good time. I think it's just a recipe for disaster when committed couples try to stray outside of their current relationship to add a fling. It's not something I would condone in my marriage. That being said, each relationship is different. So, I don't pass judgment on those choosing to go this route. Does more sound merrier? Sometimes. It can come at a price though.
11/03/2015
TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Quote:
Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
TG, do you mind if I inquire if you are hitched ? Guess not since you said gfs/bfs.
I'm actually engaged. We have a very open relationship with certain rules and things we follow, but she is the love of my life and I cannot wait to marry her and settle down together.
11/04/2015
NJ casanova NJ casanova
Quote:
Originally posted by TheToyGuy
I'm actually engaged. We have a very open relationship with certain rules and things we follow, but she is the love of my life and I cannot wait to marry her and settle down together.
Congrates for finding your "1" and is down with having FUN the way you like it
11/04/2015
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by TheToyGuy
I'm actually engaged. We have a very open relationship with certain rules and things we follow, but she is the love of my life and I cannot wait to marry her and settle down together.
Congratulations. Set a date yet ?
11/04/2015
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by Vnessa
For me personally, I think FWB are for single people just looking for a good time. I think it's just a recipe for disaster when committed couples try to stray outside of their current relationship to add a fling. It's not something I ...
I think for some single people. They know they are not destined for a successful relationship but enjoy each other in bed.

Or in the shower, woods, beach etc.
11/04/2015
TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Quote:
Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Congratulations. Set a date yet ?
Yes, next year in August.
11/04/2015
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by TheToyGuy
Yes, next year in August.
Yippe skippe ! Going to be big or small ? Wedding that is.
11/06/2015
TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Quote:
Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Yippe skippe ! Going to be big or small ? Wedding that is.
Big wedding, small reception, massive after party a week later.
11/06/2015
Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
I think it is more risk than it would ever be worth if you're in a committed relationship. There's a difference in three or four people being in a relationship together, where they are all committed and understanding what's going on, and a more open relationship where at least one person is free to sleep around. I think that commitment is very important within any romantic, long lasting relationship.
11/06/2015
FleurDevereux FleurDevereux
My husband and I are both open to this and have both indulged.
Example: One of our best friends from high school is one of my fuck buddies right now. We have been for about the last year. He comes over quite often, shares the bed with us, and stays for a few nights usually. My husband is out picking him up tonight, as a matter of fact.
This is just one example because it is relevant to tonight and it tied in with this conversation.
The reason it works is because we are all open and completely honest with each other.
11/11/2015
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by FleurDevereux
My husband and I are both open to this and have both indulged.
Example: One of our best friends from high school is one of my fuck buddies right now. We have been for about the last year. He comes over quite often, shares the bed with us, and ...
Wow, sounds like the two of you have a great relationship. How long have the two of you been together. (if you don't mind my curiosity"

And btw, have your seen Black Orhid's thread on mmf ? Could you comment if you have engaged in it.
link
11/11/2015
mfmtrios mfmtrios
Quote:
Originally posted by FleurDevereux
My husband and I are both open to this and have both indulged.
Example: One of our best friends from high school is one of my fuck buddies right now. We have been for about the last year. He comes over quite often, shares the bed with us, and ...
you are very lucky to have this set up!
11/09/2016
h3artsav3r h3artsav3r
my husband and I allow each other to have special friends on the side. We have rules, and are completely open and honest with each other, and I think that's why it works.
Oct 27, 9:38 am
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by h3artsav3r
my husband and I allow each other to have special friends on the side. We have rules, and are completely open and honest with each other, and I think that's why it works.
@h3artsav3r
Thanks for sharing. How long ago did you guys/gal start ? Who's idea was it ? Weekly, monthly or ?
And if one " has a fwb date" , does the other arrange one also?

And no jealously ever
Oct 27, 12:15 pm
Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
Quote:
Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Fwb. Is that mostly for single people ? Does anyone think this would spice up relationships. Or a recipe for disaster? If your SO allowed it, would you ?
While there are a few people or couples that can somehow isolate their emotions from purely physical sex, it would be dangerous to assume you can be intimate with another person and keep it purely physical. Somehow, when we add touch to the equation, wheather it is just a kiss, or more sexual overtures, the brain wants to attach emotional feelings to that event. Even flirting with another is fraught with peril as we mostly do that with people who we are attracted to, either physically or emotionally. So I would not recommend a FWB relationship as a couple, maybe as a single person, it might work, but beware, you can become emotionally attached.
Nov 1, 11:40 am
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Gr8pumpkin
While there are a few people or couples that can somehow isolate their emotions from purely physical sex, it would be dangerous to assume you can be intimate with another person and keep it purely physical. Somehow, when we add touch to the equation, ...
I'm with you on this - there's just more risk in this than I have any interest in taking. I have it pretty good - I'll just do my best to keep her happy on my own
Nov 1, 11:29 pm
merc41 merc41
I have had to tell my wife that if things didn't improve in the bedroom that I would seek satisfaction elsewhere. I said that I loved her but things are so bad that I needed sexual satisfaction and was not interested in a divorce. She is a great gal in all respects other than sex. She takes our sex life for granted,is unimaginative and un willing to try new things. We have been married for 44 years and honestly the only thing we have ever argued about is sex. Believe me I have tried everything to get her interested in a happy ,fullfilling sex life. She always comes first when we have sex and I try to make sure she cums atleast twice before I do. When I told her that I was going to look elsewhere all that happened was the frequncey got better and I talk more openly about sex. She is very naive and clueless when it comes to keeping a relationship spiced up. I have to keep that in mind so I don't lose my temper and keep pushing the envelope.
Nov 7, 6:39 pm
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by merc41
I have had to tell my wife that if things didn't improve in the bedroom that I would seek satisfaction elsewhere. I said that I loved her but things are so bad that I needed sexual satisfaction and was not interested in a divorce. She is a great ...
Goes to show you, she still loves you very much .
And from reading your other post about now engaging in pegging , the two of you should become closer. I hope the two of you both embrace the power switch. The more she puts you in your place the more power she will gain.

Lol, start now by doing more if not all the housework
When she sees that she may want to reward you.
Nov 8, 1:02 pm
merc41 merc41
Quote:
Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Goes to show you, she still loves you very much .
And from reading your other post about now engaging in pegging , the two of you should become closer. I hope the two of you both embrace the power switch. The more she puts you in your place the ...
Thanks for the encouragement. Believe me Iv'e tried the housework angle It didn't work.And I had hoped that the pegging thing would empower her but it hasn't either. I'm a physically imposeing guy and I thought giving her control or dominance ( me submissive ) would interest her but it hasn't. Truth be told I would enjoy a dominant partner on occasion.Like I said she is oblivious in a kind and loveing way. It is getting harder and harder not to seek out sexual satisfaction elsewhere.
Nov 8, 5:57 pm
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by merc41
Thanks for the encouragement. Believe me Iv'e tried the housework angle It didn't work.And I had hoped that the pegging thing would empower her but it hasn't either. I'm a physically imposeing guy and I thought giving her control or ...
I can certainly sympathize. For 25+ years I did all of the 'work'. So I bought some blindfolds, restraints, paddles, crops, etc. and just said - "this is your rodeo cowgirl" and refused to take any further action until she 'did some work'.

She's embraced the role - somewhat - because I've held my ground. That's pretty much how we start each session now. She has figured out that as the Dom she can 'command' me to 'service' her - I'm completely fine with that. It makes her voice her needs/wants.

Even she is surprised by the how this plays out. She admits to getting rather wet and aroused using the paddle and has made a cottage industry out of getting herself off while I'm tied blindfolded to the door. The sound effects and narrations are amazing.

I don't know what will work for you - but I found taking a stand and demanding active participation on her part was long over due. Maybe she'll find out some things about herself that she didn't think were possible.

Last thing - about pegging. My wife went through the motions - in a lifeless sort of way. I think hoping to discourage me. But I persisted and 'demanded' that she figure out how to have an orgasm while pegging me. With that challenge she started more vigorous thrusting - I also convinced her to let me attach a vibrating dildo for her. The combination proved successful - she's no longer reluctant or passive when pegging - it's a true win-win.

Best of luck - and stand your ground!!
Nov 8, 7:09 pm
merc41 merc41
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I can certainly sympathize. For 25+ years I did all of the 'work'. So I bought some blindfolds, restraints, paddles, crops, etc. and just said - "this is your rodeo cowgirl" and refused to take any further action until she 'did ...
I bought a nice harness with a good sized strap on but she wouldn't even look at it. Very disappointing. She will finger my ass as well as use a relalistic viberating dildo but not a strap on. Maybe you are right and I just need to be a little more demanding. I have definatly thought about it. Last weekend I was super horny and in the mood for some over the top sex and some good porn. We gave up porn watching years ago at her request. But I was in the mood and picked out some big titted MILF porn to watch. I didn't want to intimidate her with young hard bodied girls. She said let's forget the porn and put on music. I said NO I'm in the mood for porn and knock your socks off sex. I don't know if she ever watched but she sure could hear the dialog.And we had some good sex. She never mentioned the porn but she did say she had a great time!
Nov 9, 2:35 pm
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