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I try not to, but I admit when I'm mad sometimes, I avoid it hoping it will upset him even more. Although "usually" I would if he approached me to, but he seems to know when not to bother.
NEVER! Why punish myself because I'm mad at him?
No, really, even when the kids were little and my sex drive was a little smaller, I never "withheld" sex, as I think it's really manipulative. If I'm angry at him, he's gonna find out but in an honest way. I'm going to TELL him. He's an adult man, and it is NOT up to me to reprimand or use manipulation to "punish" because we haven't talked about things that should be talked about.
My Mother is a very controlling, passive-aggressive woman, living with her was hell, and she drove my father away with stuff like this. I learned what "not to do" very young.
I swore when I got into relationships, two things I would never do was to nag and to manipulate. I think I've done pretty good at avoiding both of them.
I had a friend (ex-friend, now) who used to publicly tell her husband, when she was angry, "You're cut off, you asshole." and it was such a mean, humiliating thing for her to do to him. I would never do anything like that, in public or private to My Man.
We try really hard not to manipulate each other in any way. We've been together for decades, while my "you're cut off" type friends have either emotionally or actually broken up. The aforesaid woman and her husband now sleep in separate bedrooms, actually have separate "Living rooms" to spend the evening in, and are never seen together, despite, for whatever reason, remaining legally married. I'll never understand that kind of relationship. But, I think the whole "you're cut off" thing was a symptom of an unhealthy relationship in the first place.