I know this will make me sound or look bad but I want some feedback. I don't condone cheating as I didn't like it when it happened to me. But what do you do when you have like 4 married guys wanting you?
Would You Do It?
07/01/2012
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Yell "THANK YOU, JESUS!" and jump in.
Well, no, seriously, as a fellow woman who had been offered the "Mistress" position and actually trying it, it's nothing but heartache and frustration. Their full attention will never be on you, you'll be lonely most of the time, and you won't be a priority in their life at all unless they're horny. You deserve better than having that thankless position as an on-call blow-up doll with-a-pulse. If they're that unhappy with their situations, they'll get out of it, but it sounds like they won't.
Don't get taken advantage of.
Well, no, seriously, as a fellow woman who had been offered the "Mistress" position and actually trying it, it's nothing but heartache and frustration. Their full attention will never be on you, you'll be lonely most of the time, and you won't be a priority in their life at all unless they're horny. You deserve better than having that thankless position as an on-call blow-up doll with-a-pulse. If they're that unhappy with their situations, they'll get out of it, but it sounds like they won't.
Don't get taken advantage of.
07/01/2012
Thanks for the response. I know it makes me sound and look horrible since there are 2 who I REALLY want to jump on in with! Its just so confusing I know its not right but again if they aren't being taken care of at home its confusing to say the least I am recently single so not really looking for an actual relationship
07/01/2012
Honestly, I couldn't do it. I'd be putting myself in the other woman's position and having been that woman myself, I would feel terrible about it. I couldn't even handle the emotional aspect of it much less what might happen should one of them find out and be the violent you-touched-my-man-now -I-will-show-up-at-you r-door-and-stab-you-to -death type.
07/01/2012
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You're also extremely vulnerable because of your recent break up - they're taking advantage of you by offering this. (That's what happened to me when I did it. Told my ex-husband it was over - the very next day I'm offered. *sigh*)
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*Camoprincess*
Thanks for the response. I know it makes me sound and look horrible since there are 2 who I REALLY want to jump on in with! Its just so confusing I know its not right but again if they aren't being taken care of at home its confusing to say the
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Thanks for the response. I know it makes me sound and look horrible since there are 2 who I REALLY want to jump on in with! Its just so confusing I know its not right but again if they aren't being taken care of at home its confusing to say the least I am recently single so not really looking for an actual relationship
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It's their problem if they can't work out what's going on at home and/or grow a backbone. You take care of YOU, sweetheart, that's all you have to worry about.
07/01/2012
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As someone who went through a marriage where my husband cheated on me with 2 different women, one married and the other unmarried, I hate cheaters. People who are in a relationship and don't know the other is married, I could place the blame in the married liar. But if you know they are married and choose to go out with them, then A) don't be surprised if they cheat on you B) karma comes around. And I never understand those that say "the home was already broken so it's not my fault." Sorry if this sounds judgmental, I'm really not trying to be. I'm just writing as a general "you". Good luck!
Originally posted by
*Camoprincess*
I know this will make me sound or look bad but I want some feedback. I don't condone cheating as I didn't like it when it happened to me. But what do you do when you have like 4 married guys wanting you?
07/01/2012
Not a good idea
07/01/2012
Don't do it. Put yourself in the married man's wife's shoes, how would you feel?
07/01/2012
Sounds like it would complicate things.
07/01/2012
I think people should do what they want. If you feel that it is right and have no problems with it & you think you will have a good time in the moment I say go for it. Although be prepared for drama if somehow the wife finds out about it. I personally wouldn't do it, because I'm not attracted to the type of man that would do that. But honestly if it's not you it will be someone else and if it's something you're interested in doing then I say go for it. Don't expect it to be more than just a one night stand type of deal though.
07/01/2012
Seems like it would just over complicate your life.
07/01/2012
Tell them that if they aren't taking care of their wives--someone else would be glad to do it. You will not be a part of the cheating triangle and to quit whining and start working on their relationships if their needs aren't met at home. Better yet--give them a gift card and tell them to deal with it themselves.
07/01/2012
Think of it this way. If they are ready and willing to cheat on their wife, what exactly do you think would ultimately happen to you? Have you ever been cheated on by someone you loved and trusted?! It's one of the worst feelings in the world, gotta be one of my top 5 worst feelings. It's not fair. And if there is children involved, do you want to be the woman to wreck that home?
If someone is married/engaged/dating someone else then you should tell them if they want to date you that they need to get out of the relationship that they are in. Seriously, look elsewhere because despite you being single, it isn't morally right. Put yourself in the woman's shoes. And this is just me, but you do NOT want to be the other woman messing around with MY man. I may be short and innocent looking but when you mess with mine, both him AND her best just stay the hell away because the female Hulk comes out to play.
If someone is married/engaged/dating someone else then you should tell them if they want to date you that they need to get out of the relationship that they are in. Seriously, look elsewhere because despite you being single, it isn't morally right. Put yourself in the woman's shoes. And this is just me, but you do NOT want to be the other woman messing around with MY man. I may be short and innocent looking but when you mess with mine, both him AND her best just stay the hell away because the female Hulk comes out to play.
07/02/2012
I've never seen any good come from this.
07/02/2012
wdanas
I think way better of myself than to stoop to that level. If the person cares so little about their actual relationship and responsibility to be a decent human being, they aren't worth my time, let alone a romp in my bed.
I also wouldn't assume there's "something wrong" at home. Some people simply have problems with chasing fantasy to avoid reality. Don't degrade yourself by being used in that way.
I also wouldn't assume there's "something wrong" at home. Some people simply have problems with chasing fantasy to avoid reality. Don't degrade yourself by being used in that way.
07/02/2012
RUN the other way!! You will only end up getting hurt, and karma is a bitch. You don't want that to come back to you!! Stay strong!!
07/02/2012
it will not end well, so I would stay away from it.
07/03/2012
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There is no way to explain to a cheater's partner that they are unhappy at home and make yourself or the hurt person feel better. The last man who cheat on me told every woman he cheated on me with that he was unhappy, couldn't talk to me, wasn't having sex, was miserable but I didn't have any place to go...whatever he had to say to get her in bed and feeling sorry for him. NONE of it was true!
Originally posted by
*Camoprincess*
I know this will make me sound or look bad but I want some feedback. I don't condone cheating as I didn't like it when it happened to me. But what do you do when you have like 4 married guys wanting you?
If they aren't happy at home they have the option of leaving said home or working on their relationships to make them happy. You are not a part of that equation, nor should you be.
Now you might find a married man who's wife is willing to allow him to play with you...but you should be sure and confirm it with her BEFORE anything occurs.
My advice even to swingers, poly folk or just anyone really: NEVER NEVER NEVER sleep with a married man unless his wife is there with you saying, "Yes, let's do this!" It's just safer all around.
07/03/2012
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If you don't like being cheated on how do you think their wives feel. I know this might be frowned upon however I feel the need to say it. They are not real men. They are boys shaped like men. If it was me I would turn my back on all of them. Refuse to talk to them or refuse their calls or affections. It would be a waist of my time. If they are willing to cheat on the wife then they will cheat on you.
Originally posted by
*Camoprincess*
I know this will make me sound or look bad but I want some feedback. I don't condone cheating as I didn't like it when it happened to me. But what do you do when you have like 4 married guys wanting you?
Good luck to you and Best wishes.
07/03/2012
If you like them (or their wives), you won't let anything go too far. I've only known one couple (other than celebrities) who date or marry the person they cheated with. I hope you find someone who's not married and wants you too.
07/03/2012
No way
07/03/2012
go with your gut - only you can make that decisions. just remember there can be consequences for your actions.
07/03/2012
wow! you're popular! I agree with others here though, they only really want you for your body. I wouldn't want to cheat on my SO, would be too guilty about it.
07/04/2012
I agree with Airen Wolf - if someone is willing to cheat in a marriage, it's entirely likely that they'll make up whatever they need to make up to get you to feel sorry for them. Also, cheating is not a healthy or particularly productive response to being unhappy in a relationship. If you're going to sleep with anyone who's married, you need to be totally sure that their spouse has given them the go-ahead. Cheating creates more problems than ti solves - I'm not sure that it solves any.
07/04/2012
Couldn't do it, the wife is always number 1, no matter what. I can't stand being number 2
07/07/2012
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If the wives know and don't care, then go for it, if that what you want to do...
Originally posted by
*Camoprincess*
I know this will make me sound or look bad but I want some feedback. I don't condone cheating as I didn't like it when it happened to me. But what do you do when you have like 4 married guys wanting you?
But if not, just know that you could ruin 4 womens lives by sleeping with their husbands.
Marriage is supposed to mean something.
Women shouldn't sleep with other womens husbands, I don't care if the men want to or not, it would still be very painful for the wife.
07/11/2012
Personally i wouldn't do it. As a married women i wouldn't want someone sleeping with my husband.
07/11/2012
Its okay we aren't talking anymore an I am fine with that
07/12/2012
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I've been there, and it's hard to say no. Contrary to popular belief, sometimes the other woman does end up with the guy, and he does stay faithful to her. I've seen it happen!
Originally posted by
*Camoprincess*
I know this will make me sound or look bad but I want some feedback. I don't condone cheating as I didn't like it when it happened to me. But what do you do when you have like 4 married guys wanting you?
07/18/2012
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Thanks I appreciate the feedback I am not talking to any of them really however I went an seen one at work the other day an he was oober excited to see me since its been a few months. So I am not sure what I am doing
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ViVix
I've been there, and it's hard to say no. Contrary to popular belief, sometimes the other woman does end up with the guy, and he does stay faithful to her. I've seen it happen!
07/18/2012