Does anal play make me gay?

True. It's not the same as pursuing a potential friend. I'm talking about the desire based on looks from across the room mostly to get all up in the person's biz.

I think this question haunts many men that like anal play. I don't think it makes you gay at all. My hubby likes anal play, even using realistic looking dildos, but he's never wanted a man to do him that way, nor does it excite him to think of it. I think everyone, male or female, is curious what it would be like to be with a partner of the same sex, if only once.

I just think it makes men a bit more open to ways to pleasure themselves (and recieve pleasure from their lovers) too. And, let's be honest, who doesn't like more pleasure?

if you like man

You need to reassure her that you love her and will love her and this is something you would like to do with only her and no one else. Then you need to find out what she doesn't like about it. If she's worried it means you're gay and will leave her go back to the beginning of this post, if it's the "mess" she's worried about then find a way to deal with it. The other thing in the "big three" is that she might feel that penetrating (especially if you're thinking strap-on pegging) makes her less "womanly". That just needs to be talked out, but you can help things along by finding more 'ladylike' toys.

this sounds like the best option to me

me too.
there's no reason to push your limits too far, if you're not attracted to men then don't go for it. just find a nice girl willing to do some role play

if you're not attracted to men, you are not gay. it is as simple and easy as that

Well said!!

I would only think you were gay if you are attracted to men. I think being into anal play would just make you adventurous.

"My conclusion is no your not gay. Even if you had sex like that with a guy as a one time or multiple time thing, with no attraction, feelings etc"

This is serious? If you have sex with a man, you are having a homosexual act. It does not make you gay forever of course, but at the moment you want to do it, you are having gay feelings.

If you play with a plug, thinking on a dick, is gay play. If you touch your penis to masturbate yourself thinking in girls, then you are not.

just liking anal doesn't male you gay. its a great experience if you can get past all the stigmas. I have a gf now that is willing to take me and though not as good as the real thing it is with someone i love. find someone to explore yourself with then decide for your self. do not let anyone label you.

I guess i was looking at a larger picture, meaning the whole, being mutually attracted to each other. Spiritually, loving and caring for the same sex. I see your point on, the act of it. I also see the other points.

Do i ever fantasize about other men, whether someone in particular or a stranger?. no. Whether masturbating, playing with a plug etc. My curiosity is more based on, wanting to know what it would feel like, to have the real thing. Other than a fake imitation. As i said, i came close to trying this but could not in the end. Will i ever try it? I doubt it.

Unless your in the same situation its hard to full explain in detail how it feels to be torn like this. I'm not homophobic and do not think bad things of anyone out there in the world who is gay, male or female.

The most important thing of this whole discussion is for "curious1" to have a clear conscience. If you know deep down you are not gay, then thats it. I wish you good luck. As suggested by someone else, perhaps having your partner with a strap-on and giving that a shot first.

Absolutely not. I know many heterosexual men that enjoy anal and/or prostate stimulation. Your desire for various forms of sexual stimulation has nothing to do with your sexual orientation. Only YOU get to identify that.

it has nothing to do with your sexual orientation.. all human beings have the potential to be greatly stimulated anally.

that said, exploring your sexuality with other sexes/genders is not a bad thing at all, i would just advise to proceed with caution, and understand that most people don't want to be objectified as an experiment.

I wouldn't suggest a pre-op unless you know someone willing and SAFE. I can see your interest, but I urge you if you are in a monogomous relationship at this time to REALLY think this through and possible consequenses (like issues of trust, STD's).