Finding a First Toy for Family Member

Finding a First Toy for Family Member

Sir Sir 09/29/2010

I'm needing help from the people of the community with something very important - it's a purchase for a family member, preferably a couple's toy, that will both last and is well-made.

I directed them to Edenfantasys and went through the section of vibrators for them to pick out a few, and these are the ones that piqued their interest. If you would be able to tell me how these are, maybe suggest a few things of your own that I may have missed, please do. I really want to make this a special gift to them since their relationship, they have told me, has been sort of down lately.

Maybe even if you could give me help with a gift set to put together, like a nice vibrator, maybe some lubricant and something else, like a tickler or something?

Any and all suggestions appreciated! I did a pretty good job, but since I'm not a vibrator expert on ALL of the toys here, help would be great. Kits with lots of pieces to try are excellent too.

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Sir Sir
Choose one/multiple toys that you think would be best for my family member in need.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Madeira , JustYourAverageGuy , V.T.T , Pleasure Piratess , Lady Venus , ToyTimeTim , Shellz31 , YvetteJeannine , Kayla , Ropeguy , ToyGeek , DeliciousSurprise , Illusional , meganthomas , Alicia , LikeSunshineDust , cherryredhead88 , sasweetheart89 , Love Buzz , Kitty Kitty , mnc5051 , Persephone Nightmare , Sebmissive , Danielle1220 , Lummox , moonlitlilly , potstickers , C4ss , dv8 , Scension Earthbound , Harlequin , rdytogo , Miss T , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Lady Marmelade , Twinkies , Lily Night , Lio , Solar Ray , Kaltir , ellejay , eggiweg , sixfootsex , PiratePrincess , DCorrelle , Adam02viper , callsignhusker , *HisMrs* , darthkitt3n , Howells , chidoll , The Curious Couple , sassyNsensual , wetone123 , cujo467 , ~Brittany~ , Judas Iscars , Virgulino , jay28 , GravyCakes , Ghost , carenautilus , pinkcupcakes , sktb0007 , ToyBoy , CAKES , Pink Jewel , Love Perpetua , K101 , dhig , haley730 , ily , ToyGurl , DreamWolf , OrangeKushBB , ColorMeCute , brevado , sXeVegan90 , deltalima , GirlOnGirl , glasskitten , mpfm , Falsepast , unfulfilled , Kenneth Fort , panthercat23 , Badass , BlooJay , pokefan15 , padmeamidala , Kitka , TiffyPixie , PropertyOfPotter , Missmarc , GONE! , FHeemz , Boyfriend , Kat and Aaron(aaron) , Stinkytofu10 , mmmmm
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ToyTimeTim , P'Gell , cherryredhead88 , Sera , DustBunny , I'll Miss You EF :( , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , kawigrl , Husband and Wife , Virgulino , ParisLove , Sunshineamine , Bignuf , AliMc , skeeterlynn , Kitka , debo
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~LaUr3n~ , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Stagger13 , zracer , CarmenGore262
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A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Beck , SecretKinksters , Geogeo
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jdloelo , fghjkl , ToyGurl , thesquaredeific
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chidoll
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Lady Venus Lady Venus
I just got my We-Vibe II and we LOVE it!! It does take some getting used to, like adjusting and getting into comfortable positions and whatnot. But I think it's the experimenting that makes this toy so fun! We are still experimenting with it, and having loads of fun while doing so, to the point we end up laughing so hard...good times!
10/08/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Since you did not mention if they have tried toys or not, I chose two. For the experienced I say the We-vibe, really a vibe that both partners can feel at the same time, win, win.

For the newbies I think the Silicone play set gives a great variety of toys and lubes to experiment with.
10/08/2010
Shellz31 Shellz31
I'd have to choose the We-Vibe 2 cause I have been seriously thinking of getting it myself.
10/08/2010
Bunnycups Bunnycups
I saw a promo for feathers and an eye mask the other day. I think that with a really nice vibrator and a lube that tastes good would be nice for a gift basket. It is so sweet of you to do this for that couple. I hope things start looking up for them soon.
10/08/2010
Alicia Alicia
I like the new Lelo ticklers link

I hear mixed things about the we-vibe and haven't tried it myself, but it does look pretty cool.

What about a smaller massager style vibe? They could use it not only for giving each other massages but also for sexual stimulation.

If you're looking for massage oil type stuff I have to recommend the intimate organics line, they're awesome and I've been completely satisfied with everything I have tried from them.
10/15/2010
Sir Sir
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Since you did not mention if they have tried toys or not, I chose two. For the experienced I say the We-vibe, really a vibe that both partners can feel at the same time, win, win.

For the newbies I think the Silicone play set gives a great ...
Well, I said "first toy." I thought that that cleared it up.

Yes, this is a FIRST first toy. They've tried cock rings a bit, but nothing other than disposable ones.

And no, nothing even slightly related to kink. She's not interested in that.

Thanks for all the responses, though! I really appreciate the help!
10/15/2010
Kindred Kindred
I have zero experience with any of the specific toys you listed. However, I have looked into the We-vibe II and my only concern would be that some reviews have stated concerns that the shape/size may not work for all bodies. I would be concerned that if your family member were one of these that it didn't work for, they would have a negative "first" experience and be turned off from sex toys altogether.
10/15/2010
ScottA ScottA
Get them a good one - some of those look sort of chintzy.
10/15/2010
kck kck
Hmmm... I realize the We-Vibe II is winning this poll, but I must say I have one and both myself and my partner were VERY disappointed with it. The vibrations were not very strong, it didn't stay in place or hit the right spots, and the toy easily bent out of shape. I don't recommend it.
10/15/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
Well, I said "first toy." I thought that that cleared it up.

Yes, this is a FIRST first toy. They've tried cock rings a bit, but nothing other than disposable ones.

And no, nothing even slightly related to kink. She's ...
Sorry about that, I must have had my eye's closed when I posted.

Have you made a decision?
10/15/2010
Kindred Kindred
I'm not sure if you've made a decision yet, but I saw the Boy meets girl kit and thought it would be great for a couple first starting out with toys. It combines too good quality basic items and packages them together very nicely. You could combine that with some lubricant or sensual massage oil for a nice gift.

boy meets girl kit
10/16/2010
Sir Sir
Thanks for some more posts. I haven't really decided as this person is now no longer in a relationship, so I would feel bad giving her something like this...
10/16/2010
Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
Thanks for some more posts. I haven't really decided as this person is now no longer in a relationship, so I would feel bad giving her something like this...
Sir, I highly recommend either the LELO Liv or the Gigi for her first vibe. Either are great for solo and may help her get through this difficult time post-breakup.

I have both and, while I love both, I tend to prefer the Gigi because I absolutely love it as a clit vibe (though I know it is really meant for G-spot stimulation, at which it does a great job). However, it can be difficult to thrust with. The Liv is much better for thrusting and can still be used clitorally, too. So . . . I'm thinking perhaps Liv might be better overall?

Honestly, I'd seriously consider narrowing your search down to those two!
10/16/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
I picked the Silicone Play Set, as it gives a good overview of several toys. And it's silicone!

I don't actually own any of the toys you chose, My Man and I went right to big traditional phallic vibrators for our first purchase, and then silicone traditional vibes or dildos plus a Wahl. You said the woman isn't in a relationship anymore? Maybe a nice silicone vibe or dildo along with The Wahl, so she can get off until she recovers might be nice.

If I were single, a traditional vibe plus a Wahl or Hitachi would be invaluable. In fact, I'm NOT single and I think these two types of toys are invaluable!

Even thought I don't have it, I was underweight with the reviews of the We-Vibe. It sounds like a good idea, and I assume you can use it alone, but I, personally, like strong deep vibrations, and from what I have read, the We-Vibe isn't good for that. I guess if you know her Orgasmic Threshold you would know what toy would be best.

Good luck.
10/16/2010
cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
Quote:
Originally posted by Kindred
I'm not sure if you've made a decision yet, but I saw the Boy meets girl kit and thought it would be great for a couple first starting out with toys. It combines too good quality basic items and packages them together very nicely. You could ...
I second this. I was thinking something like this also:

Not sure where the price ranges are here, but there are a few different choices.
Love Essentials Kit or Carnal Pleasures Kit would make a nice romantic foreplay session. Serenity or Little Paul for her, and a nice beginner's cock ring.

I voted for the silicone playset because it is silicone and has some different things to it. I also voted for the We Vibe because it looks interesting, but I do own the Cunning Rabbit and it is a good bullet.

I also just purchased this egg for 9.99 and it is amazing!

So those are my choices for beginners! Good luck!
10/16/2010
Kindred Kindred
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
Thanks for some more posts. I haven't really decided as this person is now no longer in a relationship, so I would feel bad giving her something like this...
I'm so sorry to hear this. In light of this new information, I would suggest a nice vibrator for personal use. There are so many that are beautiful, well made, and non-threatening. I'm sure someone else can make a suggestion since I'm a vibe newbie but love to look at all the options. I'm so jealous of women!
10/16/2010
oohlookasquirrel oohlookasquirrel
I have the original we-vibe, and I wouldn't really recommend it for newcomers to sex toys. I think it will be great for some couples in some areas, but if the couple has never had a sex toy before, I would get them something with a wider variety of uses. As others have mentioned, it takes some experimentation to find the best positions for both partners with the we-vibe, and we got sick of dealing with it and have kind of retired it, especially since the battery life was so terrible (though maybe they improved this for the newer version?). It felt like we were constantly having to rearrange where the toy was, which kind of defeats the whole "hands free" appeal they were going for. Since the bit that goes on the clit was so small and bent at a specific angle, I had a hard time getting it to actually hit me in the right spots to do anything nice.

If a couple is new to sex toys, they should get one toy that can be used in a variety of situations. I'd get a Hitachi Magic Wand (if she likes a lot of power) or a small clitoral vibe that could be used as a massager on many surfaces, like the Lelo Siri or Fun Factory Layaspot. A toy that can be handheld and used easily with partners. If she's interested in g-spot play, I'd get a Fun Factory vibe. These are my "if you only buy one sex toy, buy this one" suggestions.

Actually, my best advice would be to point them towards the "Sex is Fun" podcast and then get them a giftcard to Edenfantasys. If their relationship isn't feeling so hot, I'd rather examine why that is and get them talking about the things they'd like to try together to spice it up instead of just bringing home a toy and hoping it's the right one.
10/16/2010
Envy Envy
I'm going to recommend this: link

I have it and love it, it's strong, you get two bullets which can be used at the same time, and it uses batteries that are easy to find and buy rather than little button batteries and such.
10/16/2010
cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
Oh no! I am sorry, I didn't even read past the post I quoted. I still say Serenity or Little Paul could work well for her. Also, I absolutely love my Perfectly Hot Pink but I'm not sure if that would be too big and firm for her. This might be something she could look at as well. Or even this!
10/16/2010
ScottA ScottA
Why not a nice silicone insertable or rabbit-type? Those are very flexible (in use).
10/16/2010
Sera Sera
I'd pick the silicone play set. It's got a lot of toys to sample and a good variety to it.
10/18/2010
Love Buzz Love Buzz
the we vibe truly is a toy for couples, giving pleasure to both parties.

And the best lube I've ever found is boy butter, but have a feeling it might not be compatible with silicone
11/02/2010
Misfit Momma Misfit Momma
I have a We-Vibe, and with all the toys I have "mastered" I still haven't figured out the best way to use this one and personally wouldn't recommend it as a first toy.

If she wants vibrations, I really like Evolved Novelties because they are compatible with both silicone and water based lubes as well as waterproof so very easy for a beginner to care for without a long list of Do's and Dont's. Croupier is my favorite, but the Short & Sweet are nice too.

If she doesn't want an insertable toy, I would probably go with something that is wireless because I hate wires but some people like those ones...something like LayaSpot or one of the Lelo Clitoral vibes maybe. The Fun Factory Minivibes are nice for clitoral stimulation too.
11/07/2010
Shellz31 Shellz31
Quote:
Originally posted by kck
Hmmm... I realize the We-Vibe II is winning this poll, but I must say I have one and both myself and my partner were VERY disappointed with it. The vibrations were not very strong, it didn't stay in place or hit the right spots, and the toy ...
Yeah, there seems to be a lot of mixed feelings about this toy because of that and the price, I'm kinda having second thoughts.
11/07/2010
Shellz31 Shellz31
I can highly recommend the Better Than Chocolate for a clitoral vibrator. Im yet to get the LayaSpot but it's on my list!
11/07/2010
Trashley Trashley
Quote:
Originally posted by Kindred
I'm not sure if you've made a decision yet, but I saw the Boy meets girl kit and thought it would be great for a couple first starting out with toys. It combines too good quality basic items and packages them together very nicely. You could ...
I've seen this and I totally agree. This would be a nice one.
11/08/2010
Solar Ray Solar Ray
A nice set of double bullets like those from Pocket Exotics or a nice silicone vibe like the Ellove from Fun Factory would be a great starter as well.
02/26/2011
ichwillwaffels ichwillwaffels
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
Choose one/multiple toys that you think would be best for my family member in need.
I would go with the silicone play set or the sexy decision. Variety is always nice. Especially for beginners!
03/05/2011
CarmenGore262 CarmenGore262
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
Choose one/multiple toys that you think would be best for my family member in need.
I THINK THE FOREPLAY WAND
04/25/2011
Willis2011 Willis2011
wevibe
04/25/2011
~Brittany~ ~Brittany~
we vibe 2
04/25/2011
Beck Beck
Xtreme pack G-spot bullet looks like fun to me! Bullet is always a winner and a great start! The Sexy Decision looks like a great beginner toy also.
08/24/2011
PassionQT PassionQT
I just made a purchase from my big sister. I gave her an Eager Beaver years ago and she's killed it, so I told her "hey girl, I'll send you a new one because I do reviews on this great site...blah blah blah"...She really can't afford to buy new sex toys right now so I feel good about hooking her up. I already told her that when she comes for the holidays, she is free to go through my stash. I have two Jopen Vibes so I will probably give her the VR7 since it can be fully sterilized.
09/17/2011
K101 K101
We-vibe all the way! I don't own it yet, but that would be my choice by far out of the options listed. Plus everybody wants a we-vibe! You kinda can't go wrong there.
09/20/2011
Sunshineamine Sunshineamine
If they are newer to EF and sex toys in general it seems like the silicone play set offers variety and is versatile fun for a couple, especially one who's relationship has taken a recent dive.
09/21/2011
haley730 haley730
We-vibe II
09/22/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
We-Vibe II. If you read my review it has like... TONS of different uses. You can't go wrong with it. Unless, of course, your dog eats it... like mine did...
09/22/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
BUT if they still sell the Black Magic Kit that's a wonderful starting point and it's much cheaper. You get the traditional vibe (very strong), the pocket rocket (very strong), the bullet&controller, and the egg. + lubricant I believe.
09/22/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
BUT if they still sell the Black Magic Kit that's a wonderful starting point and it's much cheaper. You get the traditional vibe (very strong), the pocket rocket (very strong), the bullet&controller, and the egg. + lubricant I believe.
09/22/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
Choose one/multiple toys that you think would be best for my family member in need.
We Vibe II is a high quality toy...but does not do much for my hubby or me, frankly. Even if it were perfect..and MANY seem to love it, for what you want, the SILICONE set, seems the MOST versatile and gives them all kinds of play options...from which they can learn and build upon what works best for them.
09/22/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
We-Vibe II. If you read my review it has like... TONS of different uses. You can't go wrong with it. Unless, of course, your dog eats it... like mine did...
Tons of uses? I need to go back and look at other reviews. We spent a lot on that toy...and it sits unused in our toy drawer. Just didn't do a thing for either of us. Maybe I am missing something here?
09/22/2011
brevado brevado
I'd go with the We-Vibe III
09/13/2012
sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
The We-Vibe II is truly the best toy for couples.
09/13/2012
SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
I know this thread is old, but I got the We-Vibe 3 and hated it as a couple's toy! The vibrations are just so-so, and it doesn't stay put. I would have gone for the Touch for a couple's toy instead.
10/03/2012
Kenneth Fort Kenneth Fort
Id' say we-vibe, but lord if it isn't creepy to buy family members sex toys.
10/03/2012
panthercat23 panthercat23
Maybe the we-vibe. Though maybe look into the fairy wand, it's a wonderful toy that should see a lot of use.
10/03/2012
Badass Badass
The WE-Vibe 2 is costly and shows you care!
10/03/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
The We-vibe looks cool.
10/03/2012
skeeterlynn skeeterlynn
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Since you did not mention if they have tried toys or not, I chose two. For the experienced I say the We-vibe, really a vibe that both partners can feel at the same time, win, win.

For the newbies I think the Silicone play set gives a great ...
Agreed.
10/05/2012
Kitka Kitka
Out of those options I'd go with the We Vibe 2 and the silicone kit.
10/05/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
Choose one/multiple toys that you think would be best for my family member in need.
Id go with a bullet
10/05/2012
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
Choose one/multiple toys that you think would be best for my family member in need.
We-vibe II
10/05/2012
thesquaredeific thesquaredeific
The G-spot kit.
10/07/2012
Boyfriend Boyfriend
we vibe 3
10/07/2012
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
Choose one/multiple toys that you think would be best for my family member in need.
We-vibe II
10/07/2012
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
Choose one/multiple toys that you think would be best for my family member in need.
We-vibe II
10/07/2012
mmmmm mmmmm
Id say we-vibe
10/12/2012
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