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Contributor: kawigrl kawigrl
some toys are very expensive, i'm curious do you keep track of toys you have before and buy during the relationship, what about after?

what do you do with toys after you and a partner break up?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
split/ take equal shares
1
keep only what u bought
35
let them have all of them
1
keep all of them
73
throw them out
7
Total votes: 117 (111 voters)
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Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
Since I'm usually the penetrative partner, I usually get to keep all of "our" toys.

If my partner brought them into the relationship, of course I return them.

I will also return those that my partner has a special affinity to, but I don't promise to return them in tact.
01/23/2011
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I've had this happen once. It wasn't discussed ever. I ended up throwing away the what I knew would be weird to use with someone else (mostly cock rings). I returned one he bought for us, but destroyed it since he shouldn't have used it with anyone else. I did this because I knew his questionable hygiene. I don't think he was smart enough to figure that out on his own-the nature of the porous material. If my current boyfriend and I were to break up now, I think I would give him the masturbation sleeve stuff because it would be inappropriate to use with anyone else, but I would keep cock ring type things and destroy them so neither of us would use them with anyone else. 99% of the toys, I have bought or gotten for review so he could keep whatever he wanted from his review items. He picked them after all.
01/23/2011
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
They would be mine. That is all.
01/23/2011
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Quote:
Originally posted by Jobthingy
They would be mine. That is all.
LMAO
01/23/2011
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
Yeah, I don't think there is any question that I would keep them.
01/23/2011
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
Quote:
Originally posted by Jobthingy
They would be mine. That is all.
lol Well, guess I have the same mind frame cuz the toys are mostly for my own pleasure. I'm greedy lol I can't imagine breaking up with Hubby though. Been through too much together.
01/23/2011
Contributor: TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
I'm fluid bonded with my toys, plus I'm the reviewer. Not to mention, even with the BDSM toys, I'm the one receiving so I get to keep them.
01/24/2011
Contributor: kawigrl kawigrl
i can't imagine what happens when both want to keep all of the toys
01/24/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Quote:
Originally posted by kawigrl
i can't imagine what happens when both want to keep all of the toys
Maybe a shared custody agreement? Eww. Gross never-mind.
01/24/2011
Contributor: moonch1ld moonch1ld
The ones I've bought were gifts to my gf and I would never expect them back after a breakup. I also wouldn't have any use for them myself.
01/24/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
He has "his" toys that he can't use with anyone else because they're masturbation toys and anal toys... he can HAVE them. I keep my vibrators and dildos.
01/24/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
Quote:
Originally posted by Redboxbaby
Maybe a shared custody agreement? Eww. Gross never-mind.
LMAO
01/24/2011
Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
I buy all my toys, and I would keep them as all penetrative toys are used on me. But for hygiene reasons (not to mention that it would be awkward with another partner "here, put on a slightly used c-ring!", I would toss all cock rings.
01/24/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
Quote:
Originally posted by Jobthingy
They would be mine. That is all.
LOL
01/24/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
They would be mine, lol. All of them are vibrators and such, the hell he will have them.
01/24/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
I buy it or it's a gift, it's mine. If he wanted to give me something we used together that's fine too. Same for the dishes and other personal effects.
01/24/2011
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
Toys for him are toys for him, though I seriously doubt he'd have the gall to include them in a future relationship.

Toys for me are mine and he has no right to possession of them in the slightest.
01/24/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
Generally: I'm the one who buys the toys, so I'm the one who gets to keep them, easy as that. Certain lesser-quality cock rings would get tossed, but anything we shared that's sterilizable would be cleaned and used with future partners probably. Most of the collection is penetrative toys that only go in me, so there'd be no reason for him to have them.

A few things would be harder to split up, like the Sex in the Shower stuff and some bondage things.. not sure how that would get worked out. In the past I let my ex take our under the bed restraints because he paid for them but my current lad and I went splits on the coupley things so who knows. Hopefully we'll just never break up so I'll never have to figure it out
01/24/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
I only had toys involved in one other relationship, and I kept them since they were only used a few times and on me each time.

I don't ever see my husband and I splitting, but if we did, I would have him keep any masturbation sleeves or anything like that. I would dispose of the cock rings and other sharable things like that that weren't able to be sanitized or shared (the only possible exception being my favorite bullet, on which I would get rid of the sleeve for a new one, something I should do every so often anyway). Anything that I bought for myself, I would keep.
01/24/2011
Contributor: Yoda Yoda
Take what's yours, leave the rest.
01/24/2011
Contributor: Misfit Momma Misfit Momma
I would let him take the sleeves, and keep the rest for myself.
01/24/2011
Contributor: danellejohns danellejohns
Quote:
Originally posted by Redboxbaby
Maybe a shared custody agreement? Eww. Gross never-mind.
Now that is classic!! And very gross!

I guess I wouldn't want any of them if we were ever to divorce. If he wanted let him have them, I say. I wouldn't care what he did with them at that point. After all was said and done I would go on a new shopping spree.
01/27/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by kawigrl
some toys are very expensive, i'm curious do you keep track of toys you have before and buy during the relationship, what about after?

what do you do with toys after you and a partner break up?
They are mine all mine! Anyone petty enough to ask for an intimate object like that back is just plan crass.
01/27/2011
Contributor: guy4guyz420 guy4guyz420
I would keep them all!!!
01/27/2011
Contributor: sbon sbon
Whoever pays keeps.
01/28/2011
Contributor: Ash1 Ash1
Quote:
Originally posted by kawigrl
some toys are very expensive, i'm curious do you keep track of toys you have before and buy during the relationship, what about after?

what do you do with toys after you and a partner break up?
I'd keep all of them, unless they were mainly for male use. I wouldn't have any need for those.
01/28/2011
Contributor: northstar northstar
Keep them! Unless there was something that only really worked for him and he'd use more.
01/29/2011
Contributor: sweet seduction sweet seduction
I would keep them all
01/29/2011
Contributor: thedude thedude
Quote:
Originally posted by danellejohns
Now that is classic!! And very gross!

I guess I wouldn't want any of them if we were ever to divorce. If he wanted let him have them, I say. I wouldn't care what he did with them at that point. After all was said and done I would go ... more
haha
01/30/2011