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Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by AU
Haha, yeah, certain encyclopedia went missing for a while before we got the internet in my house. We collected our volumes slowly, I think it took 6 years to complete our set. We got to the r volumes by the time I was approaching my teens. R is of ... more
Our Commodore 64 has been retired to the attic.

I saw an identical one in the Smithsonian! We had two of those huge 5 inch floppy disk drives, because otherwise you couldn't write and save even small documents. NOTHING could be saved to the hard disk, everything was on those 5 inch floppies. I have years of Journals on 5 in floppies!

No modem and no internet on that, though. It didn't have enough power.

We also had a "Tractor Feed" printer, Daisy wheel, with that duo chrome green paper! It was terrible stuff, always jamming.

Finally, we got a 486, when My Man sat down to write a letter and saw how slow it was. That was probably about 17 or 18 years ago, though. Even that 486 didn't have the power for the internet. We only got online about 11 or 12 year ago.

It was still operational when we put it in the attic.

Anyway.....
08/23/2010
Contributor: TheCleansing TheCleansing
Well, my parents never talked to me about sex. Never.
08/27/2010
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
I have an 11 year old that is not like most girls her age. She does have questions, I have tried to explain as best as I can but she is also approx 4 years delayed. She is more like a 7 year old. This makes it difficult because her processing is different than girls her age.
10/05/2010
Contributor: Madeira Madeira
I intend to have children at some point, I have none now, I intend to talk to them early about the basics of reproduction, and then have a thorough talk with them at adolescence
10/05/2010
Contributor: Kim! Kim!
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Originally posted by P'Gell
There was no internet when I was an adolescent. Well, maybe some nerds at University of Chicago, with a phone modem connected to a Commodore 64, talking to one person in Japan or something like that. But, no internet as we know it now.

I ... more
Yay! Another person who grew up with a Commodore 64! We didn't have a modem though.

My son asked THE question a couple of weeks ago, he'll be 5 in December. He has been telling me lately quite often that he wants to be a girl. I asked him why he felt that way, one of the reasons he gave me was that he wants to have a baby in his belly. (Two of my sisters are pregnant.) I explained to him that boys do not have the special organ (he's been obsessed with anatomy for over a year now) called a uterus that babies live in while they are inside of their mommies. I did tell him that I will love and support him no matter what and he should be who he wants to be and all of that as well. Well, my boyfriend said he can only put them there. I shot him a look because I knew the "why" was next. I know it's something that is bound to come up since I do have two pregnant sisters and he's a very curious child. We didn't have time for an explanation since he had to leave for school and he hasn't brought it up since. I'm formulating my plan though for next time!
10/05/2010
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
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Originally posted by Dragon
Do you have children? Specifically do you currently have children that are adolescents and have you started talking with them about sex?

My goal here is generally to find out who has adolescents and at what level are you communicating with ... more
I have no children, and no idea how o approach the subject.
10/06/2010
Contributor: CS2012 CS2012
I have an older sister and an older step sister who told me the juicy stuff. My mother didn't have the chance to tell me about sex. My sisters beat her too it.
11/04/2010
Contributor: Trashley Trashley
I'll never have kids, but I'd let the internet and other kids do most of the talking. I'd teach them that whatever sexuality they are is okay, and acceptance of everyone as is is of the utmost importance. I'd teach whatever they asked me to teach them, but otherwise, go learn at day care like I did!
11/04/2010
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
I have two small children, I do my best to teach them about their bodies and answer their questions. I also am doing my best to teach them to respect their bodies as well as other peoples.
11/19/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Kim!
Yay! Another person who grew up with a Commodore 64! We didn't have a modem though.

My son asked THE question a couple of weeks ago, he'll be 5 in December. He has been telling me lately quite often that he wants to be a girl. I asked ... more
When my kids were this small, we talked about the fact that the Papi has the "baby seed" and the Mama has the "baby egg" and they need to join to make a baby. But, I also let them know that when a Mama and a Papi (or two people who love each other, because we have GLBT friends and also know people who have chosen to not have children) lie together "In Love" it isn't just to make babies. It's because they love each other and love to make each other happy.

11/19/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by Backseat Boohoo
I don't have children, but I will say that talking openly about sex when I was young--even if it was in the most basic, child-friendly manner possible--would've saved me a lot of grief throughout my youth. I definitely intend to keep my ... more
Ditto!
11/19/2010
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
I have a 15 yr old son and we often talk about sex and most importantly safe sex. And when we do talk about it it is usually in great detail but very matter of fact like and he has the typical, "Oh my God Mom, are we seriously gonna talk about this again???" reactions at first but he is starting to come around and not be so shy about asking questions now.

I wish that someone had been knowledgeable and upfront with me when I was his age.
11/19/2010
Contributor: KnK KnK
If I ever have kids, I want to make sure that they are well educated in their sexuality.
12/29/2010
Contributor: Eliza Eliza
I don't have any children yet, but I think it's important to start educating them early. I remember in 5th grade when you first go over reproduction in school (or at least in the private school I went to) I was completely freaked out. I think parents should have the first say in what their children learns, and if I have kids, I certainly plan on talking to them before the education system starts telling them what to believe.
01/05/2011
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
I have two under 10 and they get the basics though occasionally the 10 year old requires a bit more when he says something he doesn't understand the meaning of or over hears his older brother saying something.

My oldest boy is 12 and got the usual in school training followed by mom and dad doing the actual explaining. He has autism so he takes in information then requires a good deal of time before he can process it's meaning. Has made this part of school better taught by us. Daddy does the more in depth "man" talk. I get the "Mom! did you know..." type stuff.

I also helped raise my niece and I call her my oldest daughter all the time. I had her for part of her adolescence and we could talk about anything. Imagine I'll be the same with my youngest once she gets a bit older.
01/05/2011
Contributor: Crystal1 Crystal1
I don't have children yet, but I think providing answers/info that is both honest and age appropriate is important! (ie a 3 year old that asks where babies come from is going to get a much simpler answer than a 12 year old.) I think that teaching them it is normal and natural (not shameful) is important, too!
01/06/2011
Contributor: Vaccinium Vaccinium
I have two children, ages 8 and 5. My wife and I haven't gone through any steps to educate them sexually yet (although we do answer any questions they have), but I'm going to start with my 8-year old soon. I plan on being a lot more liberal with them in terms of what I tell than than my wife. I'm not expecting to have "THE talk" with my son, but rather make it more low-key with bringing up topics every few weeks. With my daughter, I'll let my wife do most of the educating while she's young, but I'll assert my opinions as she gets older.
01/10/2011
Contributor: ReesaAndBrandon ReesaAndBrandon
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Originally posted by Dragon
Do you have children? Specifically do you currently have children that are adolescents and have you started talking with them about sex?

My goal here is generally to find out who has adolescents and at what level are you communicating with ... more
My mother started talking about birth control, sex, and babies at about 12 when I first had my monthly. I found that it helped me out a lot and I was pretty much set.
01/11/2011
Contributor: rdytogo rdytogo
No children now, but hopefully in the future we will be able to have those conversations with our kids.
01/13/2011
Contributor: Eliza Eliza
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Originally posted by ReesaAndBrandon
My mother started talking about birth control, sex, and babies at about 12 when I first had my monthly. I found that it helped me out a lot and I was pretty much set.
I think that's a really good time to do that. It kind of ties it all together, which is important.
01/14/2011
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
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Originally posted by Dragon
Do you have children? Specifically do you currently have children that are adolescents and have you started talking with them about sex?

My goal here is generally to find out who has adolescents and at what level are you communicating with ... more
goodness no!! to early in out marriage
01/29/2011
Contributor: Mr.RightNow Mr.RightNow
no children yet
02/03/2011
Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
I don't have children and don't plan to but if I did I would be open and honest with them regarding sex, especially once they hit their teen years. They deserve to be educated and know the consequences of their actions.
02/19/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by mrs.mckrakn
goodness no!! to early in out marriage
LOL! It depends. We were only married 5 months when we became parents.
03/18/2011
Contributor: lovebugg lovebugg
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Originally posted by Dragon
Do you have children? Specifically do you currently have children that are adolescents and have you started talking with them about sex?

My goal here is generally to find out who has adolescents and at what level are you communicating with ... more
I actually have two stepdaughters, ages 11 and 16, who live full time with my husband and I. I handle most of the talks about sex, only because their mother refuses to do it (she was raised in a very religious household where sex is dirty, and it's definitely left a mark on her own parenting). My husband agrees that the girls seem to be more open and honest, and less awkward, with me than with him, though he does join in the talks sometimes.
03/18/2011
Contributor: Upskirt Upskirt
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Originally posted by Dragon
Do you have children? Specifically do you currently have children that are adolescents and have you started talking with them about sex?

My goal here is generally to find out who has adolescents and at what level are you communicating with ... more
I don't have children, (thankfully.) I'm 19, and my parents never really talked to me about sex. Through sexual education in school which, was informational, and pretty basic..is where most of my knowledge came from. I really wished that I had gotten something from my parents. And I definitely would like to inform my children about sex personally, then have them just get a public school education on sex.
03/30/2011
Contributor: Fuck it. Fuck it.
I'm glad so many people are being open and honest with their kids like my mom was with me. I think it really helps.
I don't plan on having my own any time soon, but I'm still the friend that people go to when they have questions.
03/30/2011
Contributor: callsignhusker callsignhusker
no children and we don't intend on having any, we just don't feel like it..
04/02/2011
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
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Originally posted by P'Gell
LOL! It depends. We were only married 5 months when we became parents.
True were just not ready
04/24/2011
Contributor: Mr. Jim Mr. Jim
I have to agree with Alura Une.
04/27/2011