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Contributor: spicywife spicywife
a girl was just interested in your penis?

Yes, we all know that women can all to eagerly point the finger at a man saying he is a "womanizer" and "he cheated on her!"

But the truth is, women do it too. But what are they called? Manizers? Sperm Jackers? Women may not do it as much as men, the rates (according to studies) are higher for men than women.

Sperm jackers is a term used exclusively for a woman who initiates a one-night stand with a man in order to have unprotected sex with him to try and become pregnant. But that's besides my point, at least my current point.

Guys:

Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt the woman was solely interested in your penis? As in, interested only in having sexual relations with you? Have you ever been in a one-night stand initiated solely by the woman?

Private voting but feel free to chime in on your experiences. Women can chime in as well, based on your experiences with men (whether or not you've initiated a one-night stand, etc).
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes
29  (29%)
No
50  (51%)
I wish....
18  (18%)
Other
2  (2%)
Total votes: 99
Poll is closed
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Contributor: Sam Benjamin Sam Benjamin
Interesting post!
But I've been with a good number of women in my life, not a crazy number, just more than a handful, and I've NEVER felt that I was used just for my body or my penis. It always seemed to be to be a lot more about companionship and love and fun and everything . . . much more so than just "give me that dick."

That's just one man's experience, though. Also, most of the women I've been with have been under thirty. So that might matter, too.
09/22/2009
Contributor: spicywife spicywife
Quote:
Originally posted by Sam Benjamin
Interesting post!
But I've been with a good number of women in my life, not a crazy number, just more than a handful, and I've NEVER felt that I was used just for my body or my penis. It always seemed to be to be a lot more about ... more
Thanks for your input!

So in general, it could potentially be said that men are more likely to just want a woman for her body rather than women just wanting a man for his body?
09/22/2009
Contributor: spicywife spicywife
Quote:
Originally posted by spicywife
Thanks for your input!

So in general, it could potentially be said that men are more likely to just want a woman for her body rather than women just wanting a man for his body?
some men, that is...

which is why generalization isn't very accurate!
09/22/2009
Contributor: Raven Raven
Interesting topic! I had never thought to ask my husband this question, but when I did he said he had never had the feeling a woman was just in it for the sex and nothing else.

As a woman, there have been times when I have used a man for sex, although sometimes I think they may have thought it was the reverse. When I was single, I had a very close male friend and although there was nothing romantic in our relationship, we did care for each other. We had an agreement that if one of us needed relief and we had no one availiable, we would take care of each other. It beat going without and we were getting it from someone who did are about us. It was great.
10/05/2009
Contributor: Juliettia Juliettia
I tell my Husband that if hell freezes over and we divorce that one of the clause in the papers is that he has to have sex with me at least once a week. lol.

I believe that are probably more cases of women who are only interested in getting some than not. It explains why so many women can go to bed with random people every day without thought.
10/06/2009
Contributor: Dragon Dragon
I so love this. I'm completely guilty. But I've done so in complete honesty and usually with my husband right behind me. Couple times in clubs... Couple times off the dance floor. Those are my favorites- when a guy has the guts to hold my eye because he knows that I looked at him because I think he's hot, and ALL I want is sex because I'm all over dancing with the guy I'm with and they STILL move towards me. They know... They like. I love.
10/07/2009
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by spicywife
a girl was just interested in your penis?

Yes, we all know that women can all to eagerly point the finger at a man saying he is a "womanizer" and "he cheated on her!"

But the truth is, women do it too. But what are ... more
Honestly I'm not that well endowed. I work hard to make the best of what I have but most - if not all women who were interested me were mate shopping. You don't need a big package to make good money!
11/25/2009
Contributor: headlong headlong
Wonderful question!
I was reserved (nervously bashful?) about approaching women for most of my life (until I quit smoking at age 67 and gained a MUCH needed 35 pounds) but I am well hung. Yes, there have been three occasions when I got laid solely because the woman came onto me - and three others when I was asked to come "to their aid" but was not able to do so due to conflicting situations. One of the former was when we were necking and she discovered her "prize" and, at her insistence, we went from there immediately to a motel and to bed.
Ah, fond memories. I wish I could meet them all over again.
My wife doesn't dare at all for it anymore which leaves me dreaming and masturbating a lot.
11/27/2009
Contributor: chris69c chris69c
There was 1 girl who used me for my penis/body...

She was my neighbor. She saw me mowing my lawn one hot summer day and asked if I wanted to come in for something to drink. I never did get that drink...

It was one of the most erotic encounters I ever had. We engaged in sex from time to time after that, always initiated by her...

I never complained about being used...
02/01/2010
Contributor: Pleasureman Pleasureman
Quote:
Originally posted by spicywife
a girl was just interested in your penis?

Yes, we all know that women can all to eagerly point the finger at a man saying he is a "womanizer" and "he cheated on her!"

But the truth is, women do it too. But what are ... more
I like to tease my girlfriend about this and tell her she's only interested in my penis. That's about as far as it goes.
02/01/2010
Contributor: ShercockHolmes ShercockHolmes
i sometimes wonder if guys like the feeling of being used for sex. opposed to some women (probably the majority) who hate feeling like they've been used. i dunno. sometimes i feel like guys enjoy the thought of being used for their penis. it's like they take it as a compliment or something. i'd like to hear from more men on how they feel about this. very interesting.
02/01/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by ShercockHolmes
i sometimes wonder if guys like the feeling of being used for sex. opposed to some women (probably the majority) who hate feeling like they've been used. i dunno. sometimes i feel like guys enjoy the thought of being used for their penis. ... more
As a young stud in college - I'd say that's right, I took it as a compliment. Not now, I've definitely outgrown that - but as a monogamous spouse it's just a rhetorical exercise for me!
02/01/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
Quote:
Originally posted by ShercockHolmes
i sometimes wonder if guys like the feeling of being used for sex. opposed to some women (probably the majority) who hate feeling like they've been used. i dunno. sometimes i feel like guys enjoy the thought of being used for their penis. ... more
No. Maybe some men, but not me. I completely dislike being used for what's in my pants. That may not be because of my gender though, it's probably more so because I am dominant.
02/01/2010
Contributor: MattBryant MattBryant
Quote:
Originally posted by spicywife
a girl was just interested in your penis?

Yes, we all know that women can all to eagerly point the finger at a man saying he is a "womanizer" and "he cheated on her!"

But the truth is, women do it too. But what are ... more
when i was single.. i could have only been so lucky. lol well not sperm jackers though.. ewww
02/25/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Heh I've watched women use Sigel for sex and he's perfectly fine with it!
02/26/2010
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
Well I learn something new everyday, sperm jackers...that is an interesting term
02/26/2010
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
Nope, when girls throw their panties at me its because they want them fluffed and folded and back by the weekend.
07/25/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Weird. I mean, how would you know (assuming the woman wants a hung like a horse guy.) Women's breasts and ass are right out there, for all to see, a penis is not as easy to "display" for lack of a better word. (The scene from "This Is Spinal Tap" comes to mind, where Derek Smalls, the bass player causes the metal detector at the airport to go off, and the wand beeps at his crotch, and he has to pull out a foil wrapped cucumber from his pants. Hysterical.)

I know there's a movie where a woman does this, but with the advent of sperm banks, I kinda think the idea of "sperm jackers" (especially in our age of fluid transmitted diseases) is kind of an Urban Legend.
07/25/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Avant-garde
Nope, when girls throw their panties at me its because they want them fluffed and folded and back by the weekend.
Avant, what do you do for a living? And do you carefully hand wash for the right price?
07/25/2010
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
I had a relationship based solely on sex, but he was a crappy person, so I don't blame myself for only enjoying the sex, and using him for that.
07/25/2010
Contributor: joja joja
I've had a fuck buddy before, if that counts - and I wasn't particularly interested in him as a friend, either. However, I was totally honest about my intentions and broke it off when he started getting too attached.

Funny thing is now I'm a total relationship person. I finally found out that the more I feel for a person, the better the sex is.
07/27/2010
Contributor: GNGenie GNGenie
Quote:
Originally posted by spicywife
a girl was just interested in your penis?

Yes, we all know that women can all to eagerly point the finger at a man saying he is a "womanizer" and "he cheated on her!"

But the truth is, women do it too. But what are ... more
(cough cough) I am a woman who has used a man for his penis. Sorry to say, but there are just some gents who would be better off without a mouth to ruin good sex with. Enjoy it once, get gone, then savor the memory that is still pleasantly (hopefully) intact without thinking about anything futher.
07/30/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Avant-garde
Nope, when girls throw their panties at me its because they want them fluffed and folded and back by the weekend.
ROFL
08/15/2010
Contributor: SeXXXcapades SeXXXcapades
I wish but I don't think women are as interested as men are...
09/12/2010
Contributor: Madeira Madeira
I've had interest in men solely for sex, only very pretty feminine looking men (I'm exclusively romantically interested in women) but I do like to have sex with the occasional man, and then it's just sex.
09/27/2010
Contributor: Xavier7 Xavier7
Quote:
Originally posted by spicywife
a girl was just interested in your penis?

Yes, we all know that women can all to eagerly point the finger at a man saying he is a "womanizer" and "he cheated on her!"

But the truth is, women do it too. But what are ... more
I'm not that big, so no. Plus, my girlfriend's the only one I've ever been with, and she loves me for me. We're thinking about getting engaged.
12/09/2010
Contributor: Vaccinium Vaccinium
I so wish women had an interest in me solely for sex. I dated one woman who came close, but I think her interest in sex was a disturbing "Daddy issue", so I can't really count that.
01/07/2011
Contributor: newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by spicywife
a girl was just interested in your penis?

Yes, we all know that women can all to eagerly point the finger at a man saying he is a "womanizer" and "he cheated on her!"

But the truth is, women do it too. But what are ... more
Yes, on two occasions in my single years I was "picked up" by a girl for a one night stand situation. However, in both we did end up seeing each other for more than one night. In both I used a condom. That was more than 25 years ago however.
06/21/2011
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
Hubby n I started wit just sex. Loved it. Hed come over, Id get mine, hed get his and then go about his way. Then the stays became longer, we hung out a lot more, hed sleep over and eventually we started to date every relationship can always lead to more
06/21/2011