Recently I read a article that stated that you could apply pressure to the perineum before ejaculation and this would stop you from cuming but still enjoy the orgasm.
I have been able to do this twice. While the experience was very good and enjoyable. I wonder if there could be anything 'not good' about doing this.

Anyone have any experience with this. less

Recently I read a article that stated that you could apply pressure to the perineum before ejaculation and this would stop you from cuming but still enjoy the orgasm.
I have been able to do this twice. While the experience was very good and enjoyable. I wonder if there could be anything 'not good' about doing this.

Anyone have any experience with this. less

My bf was advised by his doctor to masturbate more often in order to get rid of excess cum. He already masturbated quite a bit, but apparently not enough. The excess was making his prostate and balls extremely sensitive, and he was in a lot of pain. I have no medical background, so I can't say that this applies, but I just thought you might want to know his experience... maybe it applies to intentionally suppressing the release of ejaculate. I'd say it's probably not "bad" every now and then, but I wouldn't make it a habit. less

Recently I read a article that stated that you could apply pressure to the perineum before ejaculation and this would stop you from cuming but still enjoy the orgasm.
I have been able to do this twice. While the experience was very good and enjoyable. I wonder if there could be anything 'not good' about doing this.

Anyone have any experience with this. less

Recently I read a article that stated that you could apply pressure to the perineum before ejaculation and this would stop you from cuming but still enjoy the orgasm.
I have been able to do this twice. While the experience was very good and enjoyable. I wonder if there could be anything 'not good' about doing this.

Anyone have any experience with this. less

Yeah that's what I have found after some more browsing.
Sure is a experience, going through the actions but see nothing come out.

NY Toyfan, Yes it is a great feeling. I have to put quit a bit of pressure on the perineum to stop the ejaculate, so I am not sure about your experiance. less

It seems that there are two different things with this:
1. Having an O without cumming. It's happened to me a few times.
2. Having an O but blocking the tracts so nothing comes out. This doesn't seem as safe to me. There's a lot of pressure when it comes to ejaculate (and a world record for distance). With no place to go, this could go up to your kidneys or something.

I'm not a medical doctor, nurse, etc. Seems like more research is required. less

It's called "Retrograde Ejaculation." Basically, what Gary said. The semen is diverted to the bladder, where it will be eliminated when the man urinates. I wouldn't recommend this as a regular thing. A lot of doctors simply do NOT recommend causing oneself to experience retrograde ejaculation due to the risk of putting pressure on the pudendal nerve. This can cause numbness of the penis and sexual performance issues.

Some men have a problem with their urethra, or where the urethra connects to the vas deferens, (cum tube) where Retrograde Ejaculation happens regularly, and they eventually need surgery to correct the problem, especially if they want children, (because they have no appreciable semen expelled from the penis during intercourse) but also because it can cause long term health problems down the line. Diseases like diabetes, radiation or surgery of the testes or muscle disorders can cause the muscles which keep the neck of the bladder closed during ejaculation (so you don't pee while you orgasm) to become weak can also cause RE. It is not know if repeatedly inducing RE could cause bladder neck muscle weakness, but I wouldn't take a chance on it. Men who have clinical RE say their orgasms eventually become less strong with time without treatment.

The semen goes to the BLADDER (which is a holding organ) not the kidneys (which are filtering and excretory organs, much higher in the urinary tract, attached to the bladder by two VERY long tubes) If it was getting to your kidneys, not only would it be terribly painful, it would probably also cause immediate health problems. less

It's called "Retrograde Ejaculation." Basically, what Gary said. The semen is diverted to the bladder, where it will be eliminated when the man urinates. I wouldn't recommend this as a regular thing. A lot of doctors simply do NOT recommend causing oneself to experience retrograde ejaculation due to the risk of putting pressure on the pudendal nerve. This can cause numbness of the penis and sexual performance issues.

Some men have a problem with their urethra, or where the urethra connects to the vas deferens, (cum tube) where Retrograde Ejaculation happens regularly, and they eventually need surgery to correct the problem, especially if they want children, (because they have no appreciable semen expelled from the penis during intercourse) but also because it can cause long term health problems down the line. Diseases like diabetes, radiation or surgery of the testes or muscle disorders can cause the muscles which keep the neck of the bladder closed during ejaculation (so you don't pee while you orgasm) to become weak can also cause RE. It is not know if repeatedly inducing RE could cause bladder neck muscle weakness, but I wouldn't take a chance on it. Men who have clinical RE say their orgasms eventually become less strong with time without treatment.

The semen goes to the BLADDER (which is a holding organ) not the kidneys (which are filtering and excretory organs, much higher in the urinary tract, attached to the bladder by two VERY long tubes) If it was getting to your kidneys, not only would it be terribly painful, it would probably also cause immediate health problems. less

Boy you got me on that. I have heard of this but it was something that needed to be worked at to achieve. ( I am kinda jealous)

Something to try if he is up to it would be to lube up a finger and massage his prostate while giving a blow job. When I massage mine it only takes a short time of penis stimulation and I am coming like mad.

Good luck. Hopefully someone has some more info. less

I've read the same, about needing to work at it to achieve it, but I don't think he's doing it on purpose, which is why I'm mildly concerned. I'd really like to give him a prostate massage, but he won't do it with me...he thinks that you have to be in love and/or in a relationship to be intimate and do "the really kinky things" like that. I'm not sure how to persuade him otherwise. I'd say we're intimate - it has been 5 years this August. He's also afraid of a prostate massage in general. I'd love to do that to him if he'd let me. less

It's called "Retrograde Ejaculation." Basically, what Gary said. The semen is diverted to the bladder, where it will be eliminated when the man urinates. I wouldn't recommend this as a regular thing. A lot of doctors simply do NOT recommend causing oneself to experience retrograde ejaculation due to the risk of putting pressure on the pudendal nerve. This can cause numbness of the penis and sexual performance issues.

Some men have a problem with their urethra, or where the urethra connects to the vas deferens, (cum tube) where Retrograde Ejaculation happens regularly, and they eventually need surgery to correct the problem, especially if they want children, (because they have no appreciable semen expelled from the penis during intercourse) but also because it can cause long term health problems down the line. Diseases like diabetes, radiation or surgery of the testes or muscle disorders can cause the muscles which keep the neck of the bladder closed during ejaculation (so you don't pee while you orgasm) to become weak can also cause RE. It is not know if repeatedly inducing RE could cause bladder neck muscle weakness, but I wouldn't take a chance on it. Men who have clinical RE say their orgasms eventually become less strong with time without treatment.

The semen goes to the BLADDER (which is a holding organ) not the kidneys (which are filtering and excretory organs, much higher in the urinary tract, attached to the bladder by two VERY long tubes) If it was getting to your kidneys, not only would it be terribly painful, it would probably also cause immediate health problems. less

Depending on his age at some point it is recommended that guys go and get prostate exams. This usually involves you Doc to stick his finger in there and feel/ massage his prostate. Some times they will "milk it" until fluid comes out so they can test it.

I would much rather someone I know intimately do it than some stranger.( Do not see a Doctor unless I really need to) Sure there will be no testing, but hey it is fun to go through the actions. Just go slow and use lots of lube.

It might be that you can not convince him. Just remember to respect his decision and not push it. less

I won't push him to do anything that he doesn't want to do. I think he would probably be open to the idea if he were in a long term committed relationship, just not with me even though if you discount the part that we aren't in a closed relationship where we do things other than have sex and have long breaks in between, we're each other's longest relationship.

He's 25 and never had this issue with me before. I don't know if it has happened to him with others - he wasn't very concerned about it, so I let it go....I think if it happens again, I'll talk to him about it. I've read that if you use a vibrator, it can force him into ejaculating. I'll have to remember to have my We-Vibe handy next time. He enjoyed that the first time we tried it. less