For those who don't know me, I'm a female who lives with my male partner. We sleep together every night. Sometimes during the night my partner becomes somewhat active without regaining consciousness. Sometimes his actions are not surprising: he will lay his arm across me or cuddle up next to me. Other times, he will grab my ass, try to finger me, or touch me in ways that normally would require some communication beforehand. Sometimes I don't realize he is asleep until I tell him "no" (loudly) and he doesn't stop. The most surprising thing that has happened was once when I heard a noise at night and was asking him if he heard it, and he just grabbed my face and kissed me for several seconds. I have woken him up at night and he has no recollection of what he was doing. Other times, I've asked him the next day why he tried to touch me, etc., and he won't remember at all. I'm convinced he is truly asleep and unaware of his actions. We are not normally "pushy" or "rough" in our affections, and are very open with each other in communication.

Here are my questions for this dear community: Does anyone have any similar experiences to share? Have you made changes to your lifestyle to try to decrease the number of sleeping incidents? I'd like to figure out how I can better handle these situations without startling my partner in his sleep, or just decrease the frequency or stop these incidents in general.

I'd like to say that nothing painful or scary has happened, and that this situation isn't alarming to me. We have also talked about what has happened at night, so he is aware of what has transpired, and is also in favor of me posting this discussion here. less

I twitch in my sleep, from my leg injury. My leg muscles in the left leg set off violently because they are unable to fully settle down. This sometimes kicks my partners, and I am oblivious of it. I am also a frequent cuddler, even alone with pillows, it helps me sleep. So a lot of times I end up pulling someone close and sticking my hands down infront of their pants and wrapping both legs around them all while asleep. It's more amusing to the people that it happens to, though initially scary if it's flat out dark and you forget you're sharing a bed. less

My ex husband had an issue that the doctors blamed on the transmitters in his brain that normally shut down so you don't act out your dreams not shutting down every time he fell asleep.

Which caused him to do weird ass stuff.

Like chase a "snake" around the inside of a tent whilst telling me he was going to catch it - when there was no snake and he was sound asleep.

Or standing up, legs spread wide, arms out, holding on to the sails in a violent storm at sea - except he was standing on our mattress.

It was funny as hell most of the time. It was also harder than normal to wake him up in these instances, though that is what I usually did. No way I was going to let him throw me overboard. less

Well, I'm somewhat comforted that many of you have experienced similar events. I will encourage him to get a sleep study done; I think those can be useful for many reasons.

@Mamastoys - my uncle would have dreams he was fighting people and one time he punched his wife in the head while they were sleeping...kinda scary. Another time he was running away from people and jumped a fence in the dream, but jumped over her and off the bed in real life. O_O less

Well, I do things to my partner while we're both half asleep and it's been very good. But usually, when I'm asleep, the only weird thing that I've done has been speaking. I rarely dream, and when I do, they're always bad, so I sometimes say odd things. I fell asleep on my partner and she was trying to wake me up, and I started asking her, "Why are you trying to touch my penis?" I had no idea that I had done that the next day and I honestly had no idea why. less

I have an ex-boyfriend that used to do that exact same thing and I know exactly (exactly exactly!!!!) what you're talking about. There actually is a name for it - sleep sex or sexsomnia. You can google it for more information and there's also a wikipedia entry on it. less

For those who don't know me, I'm a female who lives with my male partner. We sleep together every night. Sometimes during the night my partner becomes somewhat active without regaining consciousness. Sometimes his actions are not surprising: he will lay his arm across me or cuddle up next to me. Other times, he will grab my ass, try to finger me, or touch me in ways that normally would require some communication beforehand. Sometimes I don't realize he is asleep until I tell him "no" (loudly) and he doesn't stop. The most surprising thing that has happened was once when I heard a noise at night and was asking him if he heard it, and he just grabbed my face and kissed me for several seconds. I have woken him up at night and he has no recollection of what he was doing. Other times, I've asked him the next day why he tried to touch me, etc., and he won't remember at all. I'm convinced he is truly asleep and unaware of his actions. We are not normally "pushy" or "rough" in our affections, and are very open with each other in communication.

Here are my questions for this dear community: Does anyone have any similar experiences to share? Have you made changes to your lifestyle to try to decrease the number of sleeping incidents? I'd like to figure out how I can better handle these situations without startling my partner in his sleep, or just decrease the frequency or stop these incidents in general.

I'd like to say that nothing painful or scary has happened, and that this situation isn't alarming to me. We have also talked about what has happened at night, so he is aware of what has transpired, and is also in favor of me posting this discussion here. less

For those who don't know me, I'm a female who lives with my male partner. We sleep together every night. Sometimes during the night my partner becomes somewhat active without regaining consciousness. Sometimes his actions are not surprising: he will lay his arm across me or cuddle up next to me. Other times, he will grab my ass, try to finger me, or touch me in ways that normally would require some communication beforehand. Sometimes I don't realize he is asleep until I tell him "no" (loudly) and he doesn't stop. The most surprising thing that has happened was once when I heard a noise at night and was asking him if he heard it, and he just grabbed my face and kissed me for several seconds. I have woken him up at night and he has no recollection of what he was doing. Other times, I've asked him the next day why he tried to touch me, etc., and he won't remember at all. I'm convinced he is truly asleep and unaware of his actions. We are not normally "pushy" or "rough" in our affections, and are very open with each other in communication.

Here are my questions for this dear community: Does anyone have any similar experiences to share? Have you made changes to your lifestyle to try to decrease the number of sleeping incidents? I'd like to figure out how I can better handle these situations without startling my partner in his sleep, or just decrease the frequency or stop these incidents in general.

I'd like to say that nothing painful or scary has happened, and that this situation isn't alarming to me. We have also talked about what has happened at night, so he is aware of what has transpired, and is also in favor of me posting this discussion here. less

For those who don't know me, I'm a female who lives with my male partner. We sleep together every night. Sometimes during the night my partner becomes somewhat active without regaining consciousness. Sometimes his actions are not surprising: he will lay his arm across me or cuddle up next to me. Other times, he will grab my ass, try to finger me, or touch me in ways that normally would require some communication beforehand. Sometimes I don't realize he is asleep until I tell him "no" (loudly) and he doesn't stop. The most surprising thing that has happened was once when I heard a noise at night and was asking him if he heard it, and he just grabbed my face and kissed me for several seconds. I have woken him up at night and he has no recollection of what he was doing. Other times, I've asked him the next day why he tried to touch me, etc., and he won't remember at all. I'm convinced he is truly asleep and unaware of his actions. We are not normally "pushy" or "rough" in our affections, and are very open with each other in communication.

Here are my questions for this dear community: Does anyone have any similar experiences to share? Have you made changes to your lifestyle to try to decrease the number of sleeping incidents? I'd like to figure out how I can better handle these situations without startling my partner in his sleep, or just decrease the frequency or stop these incidents in general.

I'd like to say that nothing painful or scary has happened, and that this situation isn't alarming to me. We have also talked about what has happened at night, so he is aware of what has transpired, and is also in favor of me posting this discussion here. less