Would you tell a new partner about a past, curable STD?

Would you tell a new partner about a past, curable STD?

jjdd jjdd
If you have been treated for a STD in the past and are completely cured of it, would you disclose this to any new partners? Is it justified to lie and say you've never had anything if you know you won't infect your new partner?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, I would tell.
42
No, I would not tell.
6
Only if the partner asked, point blank about past, cured STDs.
18
I would only tell about non-curable STDs.
12
Lying is justified in this circumstance.
Lying is never justified
27
Total votes: 105 (69 voters)
Poll is closed
06/27/2012
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Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by jjdd
If you have been treated for a STD in the past and are completely cured of it, would you disclose this to any new partners? Is it justified to lie and say you've never had anything if you know you won't infect your new partner?
I would because I believe in and demand full disclosure. I would then provide proof of being clean.
06/27/2012
quinceykay quinceykay
If they asked I would. If it was something that I'd had in the past, been cured of, and there was no chance of passing it on to them, then I probably wouldn't bother.
06/27/2012
Scrawberry78 Scrawberry78
I would because I like honesty and would expect the same from him/her.
06/27/2012
Azule Azule
I definitely would since it is not longer an issue anymore, but is worth talking about if the situation came up. I probably would not make it one of our first or regular topics of conversation however.
06/27/2012
ghent529 ghent529
I would deff tell. it's not a major issue anymore. but it was still there
06/27/2012
deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by jjdd
If you have been treated for a STD in the past and are completely cured of it, would you disclose this to any new partners? Is it justified to lie and say you've never had anything if you know you won't infect your new partner?
I'd bring it up when discussing OUR sexual history.
06/27/2012
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
If they asked, I sure would. Honesty and trust should be part of any good relationship.
06/27/2012
Sangsara Sangsara
Depends on the std, what type of sex you're having, what type of relationship it is etc
06/27/2012
xOhxSoxScandalousx xOhxSoxScandalousx
Yes, honestly and trust is important.
06/27/2012
solitudinarian solitudinarian
If they asked but otherwise I don't really see the point. If it had been cured and I therefore couldn't pass it on to them, why would it matter?
06/28/2012
SadoMas SadoMas
sure
06/28/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Trust and honesty is the foundation of a good relationship. It wouldn't matter WHAT my partner asked me, I would tell them the truth.
06/28/2012
woodsdragon woodsdragon
Quote:
Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
Trust and honesty is the foundation of a good relationship. It wouldn't matter WHAT my partner asked me, I would tell them the truth.
Great way of putting it! Trust and respect is so important. And not telling information about sexual health (especially if it could impact your partner) is inexcusable! I have fortunately never been in that situation but would hope that any partner I might be with (although I am getting married so no new partners for me) would share information about STDs. It is not an east topic but a necessary one! My fiance and I talked about our sexual past and were both very open about. Granted neither of us have any STDs, but I feel it is still important to know what you are getting into.
06/28/2012
hybridinsurge hybridinsurge
If it came up, I guess. If I was completely cured of it then I'm not sure why it matters. I wouldn't lie about it if asked. If I currently had an STD, I would definitely bring it up.
06/29/2012
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by jjdd
If you have been treated for a STD in the past and are completely cured of it, would you disclose this to any new partners? Is it justified to lie and say you've never had anything if you know you won't infect your new partner?
I would, but I've never had STDs, so I don't really know.
06/29/2012
G&L G&L
I've never had an STD, but you shouldn't lie to anyone you trust enough to sleep with.
06/30/2012
peachmarie peachmarie
I dunno, I think if you were cured and had no chance of passing it on to them then why is it their business? You would probably just freak them out, there are a lot of guys who are very judgmental and closed minded. No need to scare the guy off for no reason, i hate when people over share when it is not at all necessary. It's not going to befit your relationship in any way? I wouldn't want to know, i wouldn't want to know about their sexual past unless the STD was relativity and current.
07/01/2012
babyrock babyrock
Isn't this a bit like the how many sexual partners have you had question? it's better to be don't ask don't tell if you ask me.
07/11/2012
Lavendar Lavendar
I think complete trust and honesty is important. I'd tell.
07/11/2012
jjdd jjdd
Quote:
Originally posted by peachmarie
I dunno, I think if you were cured and had no chance of passing it on to them then why is it their business? You would probably just freak them out, there are a lot of guys who are very judgmental and closed minded. No need to scare the guy off for ...
This is pretty much how I feel. I mean, I'm not gonna go out of my way to tell him I had a cold last year. He can't catch it now.
07/13/2012
jjdd jjdd
I have to say I'm surprised by how many people on here are saying they would fess up. I wonder if people are being idealistic in their answers on here or if there are really that many honest people. I just feel like most of the people I know, men and women, would lie about this, especially if the disease had been completely cured. Obviously, since I made this poll, I'm in a position to deal with these types of questions. But, I just don't feel obligated to share information with someone when it won't have any effect on them.
07/13/2012
wdanas wdanas
It may not have any physical effect on them since the disease would have been cured, but if the relationship takes off and they happen to find out one day that you had the disease and didn't tell them, it could easily cause a world of complications. Upfront honesty helps to minimize a lot of relationship issues, so that would be my policy.
07/13/2012
Llahsram Llahsram
I guess it wouldn't really matter...but, sure, I'd tell. If they asked.
07/14/2012
Anne Anne
I've told my partners... but they've been pissed each time.
07/14/2012
Nacht Stern Nacht Stern
I would, I have one of those annoying nagging conscience's.
07/14/2012
KRD KRD
I would definitely tell. I wouldn't be sleeping around though. I wouldn't want a repeat STD. So I'd probably try to find someone I actually liked and had a connection with and could have a relationship with.
07/17/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I would because I believe in complete honesty. That said I've never had an STD so I dont know what it's like to have to tell someone.
07/17/2012
jjdd jjdd
Thanks for the awesome responses everyone! I believe in honesty as well and I don't want to come off as not having a conscience or respect for my partner. I guess my purpose in starting this conversation was to see where people drew the line between honesty and privacy. If we called all date people as honest and open as the posters on this site, communication would be a lot easier!
07/18/2012
cutiefairyprincess cutiefairyprincess
Id only tell if he asked
07/26/2012
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