Do you think knowing your lovers "Number" is important?

Contributor: teeny <3 teeny <3
I like to have the "number conversation" early on in a relationship. Some boys have been shocked/angry and not reacted kindly to my number. Frankly I'd rather not waste time with similar jerks in the future. So for me the number talk is good first hurdle to see if someone is worth my time. I really don't care about my partners' numbers, except in one circumstance when I was his first. I was glad he told me because it made me be more sensitive to what he was experiencing and maybe not sharing.
06/16/2011
Contributor: CPTInsanity CPTInsanity
I like to know, just because I'm interested in my partners experiences. I don't judge them. Don't get me wrong, in the past I demanded test before I would have unprotected sex, but that was just to protect me from getting Syfa-gonna-herpe-aids.
06/16/2011
Contributor: Fun Lover Fun Lover
Leave the past in the past, lets live in the present and future.
06/16/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
no i just want to make sure they're clean. if he tells me though, i won't mind
06/16/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Yes, both times, I wanted to know. My husband wouldn't tell me until after we were married, which annoyed/angered me. I told him MY number without reservation. I thought, and still think to this day it was because he was embarrassed he had 3 and I only had 1.
07/09/2011
Contributor: zeebot zeebot
I don't really want to know, but having some idea is nice. It's part of getting to know someone...no specific numbers, but what sort of relationships they've been involved in, in the past.
07/09/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
Yes i do since i dont want to be with a man who has had hundreds of women that would be a complete turn off
07/16/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
I agree with Taylor.
07/16/2011
Contributor: Leaving Love Leaving Love
Nope, I don't think its important at all.
07/16/2011
Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I don't ask but if they do, I don't give an honest number. I most likely would in a serious relationship though.
07/17/2011
Contributor: Vanessa Weiss Vanessa Weiss
Quote:
Originally posted by CPTInsanity
I like to know, just because I'm interested in my partners experiences. I don't judge them. Don't get me wrong, in the past I demanded test before I would have unprotected sex, but that was just to protect me from getting Syfa-gonna-herpe-aids.
This. I actually like knowing about my partner's past experiences. Neither of us really has a jealous personality and it's led to some interesting/fun conversations
07/17/2011
Contributor: playtimeohsofun playtimeohsofun
Yes i sure do not want to find out I am number 200 or something.
07/17/2011
Contributor: lanky lanky
dont care
07/17/2011
Contributor: Cora Jane Cora Jane
A general idea is kind of nice, but I wouldn't need a specific number.
07/17/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
No it's not important, but it is extremely interesting. I lovvve those early relationship talks where everyone shares their sexy past info. Unnecessary, but very fun as long as no one gets too serious about it.
07/17/2011
Contributor: sexyintexas sexyintexas
What happened before me is just that...before me. When we first got together, we were both tested for STDs as neither one of us were super safe. We have both been monogamous and have been tested regularly throughout our relationship. I think that living in the past would be unhealthy for us.
07/17/2011
Contributor: Envy Envy
I'd like a general idea because I don't want to end up with someone who's had a god awful amount of gfs before me. It makes me uneasy when a guy tells me he's had so many in a certain amount of time, usually there's a reason for that, and usually it's a bad reason, at least to me.
07/17/2011
Contributor: melissa1973 melissa1973
We don't really talk about the past, it's just that, the past, As long as were both clean of anything catchy which thank god we never contracted one. It's all gravey.
07/17/2011
Contributor: Miss Morphine Miss Morphine
The number isn't important so much as the blood work saying my partner is clean.
07/18/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
Hard to say. I voted no, but it really depends on how much info both parties WANT to know and WANT to give. I prefer knowing every single thing! I'm strange, but I like knowing. I could understand someone not wanting to share their number especially in the beginning or with someone you just hooked up with. Some people don't want to be judged right away by only their number. I prefer the person really knowing me before knowing my number. Also it's common for women to be looked down on solely on the number and some lose respect for you right away if it isn't the number the hoped to hear. I guess in that case the person wouldn't make a very good partner, but still. I can understand not doing so for those resons. The numbers can be important to some though and I do prefer knowing everything about my partner, even his past. I don't get upset about it, but I just like to know. I don't think a person's number of partners is anything to judge them on though.
07/18/2011
Contributor: IrishLassie IrishLassie
I know how many partners my husband has been with before me. For the 1st year we were intimate it was difficult for me because I was constantly comparing myself to them in my head. Then one day I just said screw it and havent cared about it since. The important thing for me was that he was clean when we started having sex and after every partner he got tested to make sure he was clean. Thats what was/is important to me.
07/19/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
I feel like it's an important part of who they are, but I wouldn't want to hear any juicy details.
07/24/2011
Contributor: jessi2 jessi2
No, I just want to not hear about it, and know that she is clean and has been tested
01/18/2012
Contributor: Ahatmadeofshoes12 Ahatmadeofshoes12
As long as I have a general idea of whether they are experienced or not I don't care at all about knowing specific numbers. Just get tested and prove to me you are STI free and I don't remotely care about your past relationships.
02/10/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I picked other, because it's not important to me as far as sexual experience, but it is important to me as far as openness in our relationship
02/16/2012
Contributor: dragonn dragonn
My partner and I discussed each others sexual pasts without much detail. I don't care for details and imagery (who does?).

I think for me, the biggest thing was discussing relationships -- like the more concrete facts I knew about the past relationship, the less I could imagine. I was more comfortable knowing things like, "this was a partner I had in the past. around that time i was x, y, z. this was good. this was why it didn't work."

Most of our past partners were not very significant or important. However, my partner got out of a long-term relationship before we started dating. i took some time to understand what happened there -- i don't know if many would do the same. the facts i learned put things in perspective. For instance, i learned that in his last relationship, my partner didn't feel as sexually fulfilled and that he didn't enjoy relationship dynamics similar to a parent-child. Those sort of details just emphasized the positive aspects of our relationship -- like how we're sexually compatible and how we treat each other like equal partners.

Anyone experienced something similar?
03/17/2012
Contributor: Crystal1 Crystal1
I'd like to have a ballpark figure, as in if we're talking 2 or 200, but I don't need specifics.
03/17/2012
Contributor: Khanner Khanner
When I'm in love with someone, I have to know EVERYTHING about them. I'm just very curious like that.
03/17/2012
Contributor: HugsAndBites HugsAndBites
i dont mind sharing it- and if they feel strange about telling me then i stat to wonder why... or why of all people they would feel strange or ashamed to tell me? but i can b jealous so while i want to know... i dont need specifics...
03/17/2012
Contributor: stars stars
I want to know experience, not how many. And I never tell my number.
03/17/2012