Please tell me if I'm wrong.

Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
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Originally posted by JessCee
No, you are not wrong.

Hell, she doesn't even need *you* to go get BC pills, she could walk right in there herself if she wanted to. It's a good thing she has you supporting her though.
Thank You JessCee!
11/19/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by AndroAngel
I'd help a friend with something like that, so helping someone who's practically family is no big deal. You're definitely in the right with this one.
I agree.
11/21/2011
Contributor: swaggsohott12 swaggsohott12
her protection comes fisrt and foremost at this age
11/21/2011
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
Her family gave up the right to have a say in the matter when they decided not to listen to her needs. They don't have to agree with her decision to have sex but they should support her decision to take care of her body and prevent any unwanted troubles the future a sexually active teen could face. She needs to be supported for having the frame of mind to do what is right for herself. As others have said too though let her have her right to privacy. Her family need not be involved in it at all.
11/21/2011
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
She is asking for help because she WANTS to be responsible. Any parent should be supportive of a child who is trying to do the right thing, although as parents, until she is 18, they certainly have the right to discourage her sexual activity, but it's unrealistic to think that she's going to listen.
11/25/2011
Contributor: duff duff
If ur just takin her, I see notjing wrong with JUST GIVING HER A RIDE
11/26/2011
Contributor: voenne voenne
Not getting birth control isn't going to stop them from being intimate, so why would the older sister be stupid enough to let her go without extra protection? She is trying to be safer and responsible, she's obviously a smart girl. You are not in the wrong to support her, because although she is not blood family, it will involve you and your entire family if she gets pregnant. The other family doesn't need to know. I hope it goes well. <3
11/26/2011
Contributor: Nashville Nashville
This is a complex issue. You want to do the right thing, but the fact is, legally she's still a child. When it comes to general health, not just reproductive health, parents need to be involved in the decision. And birth control is a medication, what happens if this girl has a life-threatening side effect and no one knows she's on a particular medication because she's hidden it?

As a Mom, I'd want to be informed. You can help her get it, but I do believe the parents need to be up to speed. Nothing is private until that girl turns 18.
11/27/2011
Contributor: GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
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Originally posted by Nashville
This is a complex issue. You want to do the right thing, but the fact is, legally she's still a child. When it comes to general health, not just reproductive health, parents need to be involved in the decision. And birth control is a medication, ... more
*facepalm* When it comes to planned parenthood, it IS private for those 16 and up. No matter what state she resides in. If she has side effects, simple, she gets a ride back there and changes her method of birth control. Life-threatening side effects are rare. But I'm sure planned parenthood would help her out. The parents really don't have any say in what she can do regarding her own sexual health.
11/27/2011
Contributor: Nashville Nashville
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Originally posted by GonetoLovehoney
*facepalm* When it comes to planned parenthood, it IS private for those 16 and up. No matter what state she resides in. If she has side effects, simple, she gets a ride back there and changes her method of birth control. Life-threatening side ... more
Thank God I'm not too old to know what a facepalm is!

Basically, I think I was trying to convey that communication is important. This is a family affair and the parents should be brought in as she's underage. Going behind a parents back willingly, when you're acting in conjunction with someone underage that is not your child or in no way related to you in order to obtain medications (no matter their use)- there needs to be a sense of respect. Unfortunately, respect is often lost, especially when it comes to matters like this.

Call me old fashioned, but if someone is helping my daughter score some meds, no matter what they're used for- I would be inflamed to not have any knowledge about it.

Course, it's just an opinion and opinions are like assholes- everyone has one, or is one...
11/27/2011
Contributor: GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
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Originally posted by Nashville
Thank God I'm not too old to know what a facepalm is!

Basically, I think I was trying to convey that communication is important. This is a family affair and the parents should be brought in as she's underage. Going behind a parents ... more
The parents would have every right to be miffed, but they decided that they didn't support their daughter's decision for protection. So,I believe they lost all say in the matter.
From what I read/understand, Miss Nessa is simply giving her a ride so she can get the medication herself (and possibly helping with the cost if need be, it is still the woman's decision). I'm proud that a 16/17-year-old is taking the proper steps to secure her sexual health.

I personally see a huge difference between birth control medication that she can get herself and be informed of all the side effects/risks of the different types and other medication.
11/27/2011
Contributor: switzerland switzerland
it is the right thing to do. if anything, i'm shocked her sister isn't willing to do the same thing for her. you are obviously a strong and responsible woman, and i think that's the kind of role model she needs in her life. good on you - she will thank you in the end!
11/27/2011
Contributor: Nashville Nashville
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Originally posted by GonetoLovehoney
The parents would have every right to be miffed, but they decided that they didn't support their daughter's decision for protection. So,I believe they lost all say in the matter.
From what I read/understand, Miss Nessa is simply giving ... more
"The parents would have every right to be miffed, but they decided that they didn't support their daughter's decision for protection. So,I believe they lost all say in the matter. "


Who knows the parents didn't support her decision? She never asked them for birth control.

"She can't go on her own because she's on her parents health insurance, so they will know if she goes to the docs and fill a prescription for BC. "

From the op's original post. The parent's haven't been consulted AT ALL. If anything, we need to encourage her to discuss this with her Mother as communication is clearly being neglected here.
11/27/2011
Contributor: hyperballad hyperballad
She's obviously intent on having sex. It's better that she be protected when it happens.
11/29/2011
Contributor: lost686girl lost686girl
it's always better to be on birth control. but it's good to talk about maybe not having sex, 17 is pretty young
11/30/2011
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
In my opinion, you're not wrong for helping her out with this business. If her parents aren't willing to accept the fact that YES, their daughter is having sex, and YES, she wants to go on birth control, then they're in denial. Even before I was willing to admit to my mother that I was having sex, she put me on birth control and bought me condoms. Sometimes, there's really nothing you can do to stop them, so you just have to do what you can to make sure they're being safe/careful.
11/30/2011
Contributor: mizzmilla mizzmilla
My oldest sister did the same thing for me when I was young and having sex. She got me birth control and I'd give my daughter it if there was no way I could change her mind about having sex.
11/30/2011
Contributor: pixxie87 pixxie87
i believe ur right
12/01/2011
Contributor: GoneBabyGone GoneBabyGone
I think you're doing the right thing.

I never understood how people can think telling a kid you won't get them birth control is going to do anything but harm. It's a safer way to do things. Even if they don't decide to have sex (which they might not), it's a good thing to be prepared.

A lot of people say getting it encourages it. I don't think so. I think it just makes sure all the bases are covered.

Don't worry about it. It might cause some ruckus but in the long run there isn't anything wrong with it. At least she is being responsible and taking precautions.
12/02/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
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Originally posted by swaggsohott12
her protection comes fisrt and foremost at this age
I have to fully agree with you on that one.
12/02/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyTabby
Her family gave up the right to have a say in the matter when they decided not to listen to her needs. They don't have to agree with her decision to have sex but they should support her decision to take care of her body and prevent any unwanted ... more
I agree with you. I couldn't have said it any better.
12/02/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
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Originally posted by PassionQT
She is asking for help because she WANTS to be responsible. Any parent should be supportive of a child who is trying to do the right thing, although as parents, until she is 18, they certainly have the right to discourage her sexual activity, but ... more
I have to agree with this too. You would think that they would know. I mean in todays world. Teens are having sex, and I would feel good, if my child came to me for protection. I Mean, I would be thinking you shouldn't have sex,but I would help, because with or without me. It's going to happen.
12/02/2011
Contributor: Katherine Wolfe Katherine Wolfe
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Originally posted by Miss Anonymous
Okay, so my little brother moved in with me. It's been very good so far. Now my little brothers girlfriend is coming to visit. She's turning 17 and my brother just turned 18. When she gets her she will be a month shy of her 17th birthday. ... more
Miss Nessa, please take that young girl someplace she can get birth control. If her parents would wig out over that you wouldn't believe what they'll do if she gets pregnant.
12/05/2011
Contributor: Mistress Jezebel Mistress Jezebel
You are correct 100% The only mistake I think you made was in talking to the sister about it and letting her know your intentions.
12/05/2011
Contributor: starklover starklover
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Originally posted by AndroAngel
I'd help a friend with something like that, so helping someone who's practically family is no big deal. You're definitely in the right with this one.
agreed
12/06/2011
Contributor: time4lust time4lust
I think it's good that she has you to go to and can trust. As long as your not getting it for her or giving it to her,you should feel like you are doing the right thing. Good luck!!
02/10/2012
Contributor: PDXlady PDXlady
So what if you're not her family! If they aren't going to keep her safe and you are willing to then I think that's great. If it starts any drama then so be it at least they will be safe.
02/10/2012
Contributor: SaraW0512 SaraW0512
She is reaching out for help to people she trusts. She is trying to be mature about the situation. I hope you do take her.
05/09/2012
Contributor: xilliannax xilliannax
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Originally posted by Miss Anonymous
Okay, so my little brother moved in with me. It's been very good so far. Now my little brothers girlfriend is coming to visit. She's turning 17 and my brother just turned 18. When she gets her she will be a month shy of her 17th birthday. ... more
"Its not your place, you arent her family" well, if we dont get them SOME SORT OF PROTECTION we're going to be family sooner than ANY one wishes.
05/16/2012
Contributor: NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
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Originally posted by Miss Anonymous
Okay, so my little brother moved in with me. It's been very good so far. Now my little brothers girlfriend is coming to visit. She's turning 17 and my brother just turned 18. When she gets her she will be a month shy of her 17th birthday. ... more
First, I think it's wonderful that you accept they are having sex and want to help them be responsible. While you may upset some family members, I completely agree with your decision to take your brothers girl friend to get birth control. Also, I applaud her for being brave and asking you. At 17 I would have been too scared to ask for any sort of help with birth control.
05/16/2012