Guide to a Loving Relationship - dvd - review by oldhippy

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A DVD for Improving Any Couples Relationships

This DVD will be good for any couple that wishes to strengthen their relationship and to check and see where they are now. Dr. Laura is a firm believer that a strong sex life is the basis to a good relationship and stresses that in this DVD. There are a lot of points to ponder and ideas on ways to improve your relationship and your sex life within this DVD.
Well presented and points well supported. Useful for all couples.
Volume not always consistent
Rating by reviewer:
extremely useful review

Content / Genre / Audience

This is predominately an instructional DVD with no sexual action involved. It is comprised of various scenes that move from Dr. Laura's office in conversation with a patient to a more one on one presentation directly to the viewer. The talks with the patients are frank and tend to re-enforce the points that were just covered in the presentation. The presentations provide information on key points of the DVD, which are the basis of that particular chapter.

This DVD is geared towards any couple that would like to improve their relationship. Although the discussion tends to revolve around a male/female relationship, the basic principles discussed would apply to any relationship that is based on the principle of one partner with the primary role of provider and the other is the one who maintains the home and hearth. Even if these are a bit archaic ways of looking at life, the idea is still the same, and should work for almost any relationship. Dr. Laura has taken the time to divide the DVD into chapters that cover a variety of subjects, such as the 8 Golden Rules of Good Sex; How to Fight for Love, Not to Win; Individuation, etc. The chapters provide an easy way to move through the DVD to review any subject and discuss that topic with ease.

The 8 Golden Rules for Better Sex are:
1: Never go more than 2 weeks without sex.
2: Plan a weekly sex date.
3: Men who do housework have more sex
4: Don't fake orgasm!
5: Make your relationship a priority over the kids.
6: Go to bed at the same time.
7: Remember why you first fell in love.
Dr. Laura provides more information on each of these topics in each chapter so that they can be applied to any couple.
    • Instructional / educational


The primary actor on this DVD is Dr. Laura Berman. She has been a sex therapist and educator for 15 years. She is an assistant clinical professor of OB/GYN and Psychiatry at the Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University. She has been featured on Oprah, Dr. Oz, The Today Show, and the View. She has also appeared in most major publications and has published several books including, "For Women Only: A Revolutionary Guide to Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction and Reclaiming Your Sex Life" ; "Secrets of the Sexually Satisfied Woman"; and "The Passion Prescription". She also has a line of products that are featured on Eden Fantasys.
The patients that she deals with within this DVD are not identifed, understandably.
    • Good presentation
    • Good acting / chemistry

DVD Features

The most interesting feature of this DVD is the use of chapters. Each chapter is a seperate teaching or discussion point within the DVD.

The chapters are: Welcome, What's Inside, 1st Golden Rule, Fixing Your Sex Life, Getting Individuated, 2nd Golden Rule, Individuation Review, 3rd Golden Rule, Soft Addictions, 4th Golden Rule, Compromise, Compromise Review, 5th Golden Rule, Libido Differences, Libido Review, 6th Golden Rule, Avoid? or Confront?, Argue Better!, Fight to Love, Not to Win, 7th Golden Rule, Good Sex, Good Connection , 8th Golden Rule, Homework.

Each chapter can be accessed separately for review and discussion.
    • Attractive design
    • Discreet packaging
    • Informative

Personal comments

This DVD is not a one time use experience. It will require the individuals that wish to improve their relationships to view it several times. The first time, it should probably be viewed together, and straight through from beginning to end. After that, moving from chapter to chapter to discuss various items that arise or that the couple feel need to be discussed.

One thing that may arise is that it is a bit dry at times and may lead to the temptation to nod off if you are tired when you watch it the first time. That happened to us, so beware.


Even though my wife and I have been married for 43 years, we found that there were points that were brought up that started us discussing issues right away. We plan of reviewing this DVD several more times in the future, just as a way to keep on track. It helped us see where we are, where we have been, and ways to improve where we are going.
Follow-up commentary
Although I am still working on some of the items on this DVD, I still find it relevant and worthwhile to my relationship. I also still feel that it is worth a look by almost any couple that would like to strengthen their relationship.
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  • sexyintexas
    Fantastic review. Very good and informative!
  • wetone123
    Sounds like a great thing for couples to include in their educational library. Anything that will help people love each other better is wonderful in my book. Awesome review! Thanks
  • oldhippy
    Thank you wetone 123. It is a great DVD and well worth the time.
  • Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
    Thanks for reviewing this. I am usually skeptical of books and other media that offer this type of advice, but this DVD sounds like it is built on solid principles. I appreciate your summary of the chapters and topics covered.
  • kinky girlfriend
    what if you think a good sex life is great but want the focus to be on other things first before sex? would you say its not the dvd for me? Is there anything on here you would reccomend for love and relationship help but don't focus on sex more focus on each individual,communication skills, ect.
  • kinky girlfriend
    I mean if I could find a great book like that I could get this dvd as a follow up..
  • Beck
    Sounds interesting, thanks for the review.
  • oldhippy
    Dr.Laura believe that a good sex life provides the basis for a good relationship, but it is not the end in itself. If you will notice, so of the chapter deal with communications (Compromise, Avoid or Confront, and Fight to Love, not to Win), for individuals, there are a couple of chapters on Individuation. The DVD is not just about sex, although it does at times sound that way.
  • kinky girlfriend
    have you read her book of love? i wonder if its the same as the dvd
  • oldhippy
    Sorry, I haven't read that book by her yet.
  • oldman
    Dr. Berman has a website and all she wants to do is sell stuff. She is way to commercial to have me listen to her.
  • Lucky21
    Thanks for the awesome review! This one is on the list!
  • Illumin8
    Thanks for this review!
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