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24/7 Lifestyle are you in one or what do you think of them?

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Contributor: GoneBabyGone GoneBabyGone
24/7 lifestyle have you ever heard of one? Are you in one? I'm kind of feeling lost lately. I work. I pay the bills. Everything is in my name. But I am also responsible for all of the housekeeping. With my hectic schedule and my dominant type of job I find it hard to turn that off at home.

I would love nothing more than to go back to 24/7 but I just don't know how to flip back to submissive. Suggestions?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I've heard of it and never tried it.
48
Tried it and didn't like it
3
Tried it and liked it
3
I live one and love it
14
Other/ something else/ please specify below
9
Total votes: 77 (70 voters)
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Contributor: toxie m toxie m
24/7 is not for me, at all. I don't even like to play with D/s power every time I have sex, let alone have it permeate every other aspect of my life as well.
12/06/2011
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
I am in one.
12/06/2011
Contributor: bratofthekitties bratofthekitties
I do 24/7 but I do have a dominant job. Well, I'm still in school but I'm directing a documentary so that requires some sort of dominance. It's definitely been hard, but more so because I have my Master crewing for me in this project so its a complete role reversal situation where I have to give him orders.

Being a submissive in a dominant job is very different, and I personally can't handle being dominated while I'm trying to be dominant. It can be hard to switch off/on.

For me, hands down, the easiest way for me to feel submissive is to be fucked/taken down/beaten. This isn't always practical of course, I do a lot of little things throughout the day/ask permission for many things. Sometimes it helps when I remind myself that I'm doing everything for my Master, because he wants me to have a career. I've actually had people say that this means we can't be in a "real" Owner/property or Master/slave relationship but that's a rant for another time and place Really, what I'm trying to say is that 24/7 is more of a mindset. Personally it makes doing dominant things easier for me.
12/06/2011
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I've wondered if I'd be suited for it, sometimes, but I'm too hot-tempered and bitchy to stay a sub for 24/7. He's willing to keep the sex, day-to-day life, and work thing separate, too, as he really appreciates women who can take care of themselves and take pride in their leadership and express individual opinion. (His ex-wife was a gold-digger who wanted to be taken care of, which stuck in his craw. My ex-husband wanted a mommy to look after him, which stuck in my craw.) He's still Master, though, and does think it's funny when I refer to him as such when the subject isn't about sex. The contradiction doesn't bother us, so I guess we aren't 24/7 types ... but I wouldn't mind it being 12/5 (weekdays) and 16/2 (weekends).
12/06/2011
Contributor: JGrey JGrey
Never heard of it...i don't think there are many people who can actually do it
12/06/2011
Contributor: Pixel Pixel
Ha. Me in a 24/7 dynamic with my Owner (or any of my other lovers, for that matter) would end in death. Theirs, mine, the whole town, who knows. I'm far too independent and strong willed for that to work.
12/06/2011
Contributor: GoneBabyGone GoneBabyGone
We were at one point. Then the situation has changed. Since we do switch it isn't that hard to reverse roles and what not.

It' just really hard for me to be submissive when I spend all day being dominant. I can't seem to turn it off when I walk through the door.

It makes me sad really. I've been trying.

I am sure we will get back to it eventually, I just kind of miss it.

JGrey there are millions of people that do it everyday. They all have their own deals worked out but they live it all the time. The dynamic between people is interesting to say the least.
12/06/2011
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
I'm in one and loving every minute
12/07/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
have never heard of it.
12/07/2011
Contributor: thecorsetkitty thecorsetkitty
I'm in one and wouldn't have it any other way. The dynamic I have with my Master, I wouldn't forfeit for anything.
12/07/2011
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
A lot of the time, he is the dom and I am the sub, but we also act as equals a lot of the time as well.
I've wondered what it would be like to be the sub 24/7, but we've never tried it.
12/08/2011
Contributor: LostBoy988 LostBoy988
An interesting experience to have but not my type of thing.
12/08/2011
Contributor: RemusHalifax RemusHalifax
I don't live with my partner, but he understand that he is to ALWAYS follow my rules, even when I'm not around and even when I'm not feeling extremely physically or emotionally dominant. I think that would be considered 24/7 in some ways.
12/08/2011
Contributor: klyte klyte
Certain couples make the 24/7 lifestyle look effortless. I personally couldn't commit that hardcore.
12/08/2011
Contributor: Shorty32 Shorty32
I've heard a lot, and read a lot, but haven't ever done it. Have a little interest in it though.
12/08/2011
Contributor: Serenesub Serenesub
I live it and I love it. It definitely is possible, it just takes some work
12/08/2011
Contributor: hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
Not for me or my sub. We're both headstrong people who like to have things our own way, and since I tend to nurture others to the exclusion of caring for myself, it could get really unhealthy, really quickly. I really don't want a Mommy/little thing happening, and neither does he. Also, it's nice to switch when I want to.

I can see how it would work for other people, and I've known some people who are totally happy in it, but it's not for me... for longer than a few days anyway.
12/09/2011
Contributor: GoneBabyGone GoneBabyGone
Cool. Nice to see all the different answers.

It was nice while we were able. I am more of a traditional style woman. I like it when he works to take care of the bills and I tended all his needs. It made me happy to clean the house, cook, and keep everything well put together. I also laid out his clothes and a clean towel for when he returned.

I enjoyed waiting for him. He always called me on the way home and I would wait patiently by the door for him, often with a collar and a leash. I just miss it.

I know it isn't for everyone but it's nice to hear other peoples experiences.
12/09/2011
Contributor: biancajames biancajames
Couldn't do it, I'm a switch! Would never be happy in just one role.
12/10/2011
Contributor: Miss Morphine Miss Morphine
I've attempted it. It's not for me. I'm a very service minded individual, but the living situation started to feel like too much work for the both of us.
01/06/2012
Contributor: cryinglightning86 cryinglightning86
Even in bed, I switch between being a dom and a sub. I don't think I can commit to one role 24/7.
06/30/2012
Contributor: Roz W Roz W
Not My Thing, but I think there are a lot of ways to accomplish this that can work for some people. (There are also a lot of ways to do it that aren't helpful at all...)
06/30/2012
Contributor: xMila xMila
I don't think I could do it.
06/30/2012
Contributor: brevado brevado
Not my thing
06/30/2012
Contributor: Ashley B Ashley B
It's not for me.
07/01/2012
Contributor: Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
couldn't do it 24-7
07/01/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Heard of, haven't tried it (no opportunity). It'd be interesting to see if it worked, but I'm skeptical of my ability to always be in charge
07/01/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
I find it interesting and vaguely appealing but I think it just has to be a fantasy because I don't think I can ever do it
07/01/2012
Contributor: Faeya Faeya
We're in as close to a 24/7 relationship as we can be working around kids and jobs and real life. I like it and honestly would like more. We're slowly working on deepening it.
07/02/2012