This may be a touchy subject, and I don't want to offend anyone. I don't believe interest in BDSM is a direct result of abuse, but I'm curious if there is any sort of trend. This poll is private.
As a person interested in BDSM, have you ever experienced any form of unwanted abuse from a friend/family member/partner?
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As a person interested in BDSM, have you ever experienced any form of unwanted abuse from a friend/family member/partner?
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Yes, I have.
I actually support a few groups that deal with abuse and have tried to raise awareness in my local BDSM community not only of abuse but specifically abuse in the BDSM context, as it can and does happen.
I don't think my own experiences with abuse influence my decision to get into BDSM but it has effected relationships in the community and set up some of my hard limits - i.e. I won't do rape play though I understand and respect that there are many who enjoy it.
I actually support a few groups that deal with abuse and have tried to raise awareness in my local BDSM community not only of abuse but specifically abuse in the BDSM context, as it can and does happen.
I don't think my own experiences with abuse influence my decision to get into BDSM but it has effected relationships in the community and set up some of my hard limits - i.e. I won't do rape play though I understand and respect that there are many who enjoy it.
03/16/2012
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my psychology teacher always said: "correlation is not causation" which means that just because two things appear similar, does not mean that one causes the other.
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dks210
This may be a touchy subject, and I don't want to offend anyone. I don't believe interest in BDSM is a direct result of abuse, but I'm curious if there is any sort of trend. This poll is private.
i believe that my desire to dominate comes from my past with a family of chauvanist males and close minded parents who frequently told me that i couldnt do things because i was a girl. i had issues for years where i wanted desperately to be a boy so people would stop telling me those things.
now i want to humiliate and dominate men.
03/25/2012
I have to say yes to all. I had a father who if you didn't do or act as he said you where beat, we learned frear and love at the hand of a leather belt, "Yes,Sir" "NO,Sir" where the first things we learned. I watched the older kids in my family get beat and learned to be see and not heard, to get what he wanted done before he asked.
I was raped for 3months by my church youth teacher, some would say he was my first Dom, I did as he said even if I didn't want to because what he would do was worse that my father.
I do have to say that this lifestyle gives me more freedom that the past abuser did I can say Red for stop and they will.
I was raped for 3months by my church youth teacher, some would say he was my first Dom, I did as he said even if I didn't want to because what he would do was worse that my father.
I do have to say that this lifestyle gives me more freedom that the past abuser did I can say Red for stop and they will.
07/15/2012
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BDSM has helped me to deal with, and get over, the emotional abuse of my childhood but it isn't the reason I like it.
Originally posted by
dks210
This may be a touchy subject, and I don't want to offend anyone. I don't believe interest in BDSM is a direct result of abuse, but I'm curious if there is any sort of trend. This poll is private.
07/19/2012
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I dont think it is a direct link... at least not in my case... yes i am interested in some BDSM but i dont think thats from anything in the past... i think its just my kink side coming out more and more
Originally posted by
dks210
This may be a touchy subject, and I don't want to offend anyone. I don't believe interest in BDSM is a direct result of abuse, but I'm curious if there is any sort of trend. This poll is private.
07/23/2012
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