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Contributor: sugarOne sugarOne
Do you think a slave should have limits or should surrender all to his or her owner?
  •   (2)
    I am personally offended by this
  •   (2)
    This is unacceptable / Against the Expectations of Conduct
  •   (1)
    Spam
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes
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75
no
Diabolical Kitty
1
Total votes: 76 (75 voters)
Poll is closed
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Contributor: TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
Your question is confusing for the answers.

If I answer 'yes' would I be answering yes to they should have limits or they should surrender them to the owner? Perhaps more thought into your post would have been helpful....
08/30/2010
Contributor: isisandshiva isisandshiva
since I can't answer the poll, 'm just gonna answer it here. every one has limits by nature, it just is what it is, however that does not mean that they cna't be crossed nor does that mean they will ever be touched or relavent. for all intents and purposes I have no limits, why, because they are so beyond anything that would be encountered that they are there mainly for my own comfort, I will not do things that could send me to prison, everything else is up for grabs. however having closer limits isn't a bad thing, a persons boundries are part of who they are, and if those were changed would they be the same person.

a mind without limits is insanity or addiciton.
09/03/2010
Contributor: Trashley Trashley
preguntas.. i think everyone has limits by nature, too.. so does that mean if you surrender all to your partner, even with your limits that are bound to be crossed, does that make it rape or assault if you go somewhere you don't want to go? pardon me, it's late. :]
09/03/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
Quote:
Originally posted by TitsMcScandal
Your question is confusing for the answers.

If I answer 'yes' would I be answering yes to they should have limits or they should surrender them to the owner? Perhaps more thought into your post would have been helpful....
This. Plus explaining more of your point would help too.
09/03/2010
Contributor: SimplySynful SimplySynful
All slaves have their limits (no one is invincible), everyone is human, and everyone is entitled to their likes and dislikes. I am always sure to have all of my slave both state and set their limits. As a dominatrix it is always important to respect your counterparts limits, this should apply to all dominants as well.
11/14/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I agree - every slave has their limits. Depends on how much respect the Dom, Master or owner has for their slave.
But I think if your Master is truely in tune with you, then he or she will know by your body language on how far to push.
I love that about my Master - even though it's online (with cam), he can tell what my boundaries are and how far he can push me without me even saying so.
11/16/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
Im curious - why does this have two flags??????
How can someone be offended by that question? It's just a simple question for those who want to answer.
11/16/2010
Contributor: Tart Tart
Everyone has limits. Slaves who engage in Master/slave relationships negotiate their limits and are often put into written form as a contract between the persons in the relationship. They are respected and enforced. If a limit is subject to change then it should be documented and updated in the contract. Funny, I am actually going to a class about collars and contracts this weekend. I should have more info after Sunday if anyone cares to know more on the subject.
11/17/2010
Contributor: Phoenix713 Phoenix713
Quote:
Originally posted by Shellz31
Im curious - why does this have two flags??????
How can someone be offended by that question? It's just a simple question for those who want to answer.
Well, I can see how it does because this seems like a question that one could answer "no" to. But if one were to answer no, it seems that they don't want the option to say no, and that they are giving up their rights. It also seems like if they answered no, they would be okay with being raped. I could be wrong, but this is just my take on it.
11/17/2010
Contributor: vanillaSpice vanillaSpice
Everyone has their limits, and I don't like the idea of them being overridden - they're there for a reason.
01/19/2011
Contributor: KnK KnK
Limits...
01/31/2011
Contributor: Kitty Stryker Kitty Stryker
Quote:
Originally posted by Tart
Everyone has limits. Slaves who engage in Master/slave relationships negotiate their limits and are often put into written form as a contract between the persons in the relationship. They are respected and enforced. If a limit is subject to change ... more
This. *People* have limits- slaves, submissives, and, um, yeah, Dom/mes too!
01/31/2011
Contributor: BluePixi BluePixi
Quote:
Originally posted by Shellz31
Im curious - why does this have two flags??????
How can someone be offended by that question? It's just a simple question for those who want to answer.
I don't think anyone is offended by the question, the question was worded poorly and there is no clear answer. Is "yes" the response that slaves should have limits or does "yes" mean that slaves should surrender completely?
01/31/2011
Contributor: TboyTy TboyTy
There are hard limits and there are soft limits, everyone it entitled to them and has them weather they realize it or not. Experienced players will know them, newbies will find them. Either way they should always be negotiated and respected.
02/04/2011
Contributor: KatPawz2003 KatPawz2003
When the slave enters service of the Master it is normal for hard limits and soft limits to be a topic that is brought up. Whn talking about a Master/Slave situation it is normaly understood that after that inital conversation there is limited say on things from the slave. In a Dom/Sub situation, the sub retains the right to say that they dont want something and while the Dom may push it, if the Sub truly doesn't want it then it doesn't happen. I know that this is not the way things should work but, at least in the commuinity down here, that is how it does work.
02/04/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Everybody has limits, no matter how you spin it! If it's not safe sane or consentual, there's a problem.
02/22/2011
Contributor: RammaJamma RammaJamma
Any Dom that can't respect their sub enough to know their limits isn't worth the time of day.
03/12/2011
Contributor: Solar Ray Solar Ray
Yes there should always be stop words and limits and if you want to push the limits it should be Sub pushing them and not the Dom.
04/05/2011
Contributor: horngry horngry
Quote:
Originally posted by sugarOne
Do you think a slave should have limits or should surrender all to his or her owner?
Everyone has limits, otherwise we would get killed during sex lol.
04/11/2011
Contributor: Fuck it. Fuck it.
Every person has limits.
04/14/2011
Contributor: kelaaa33wish kelaaa33wish
Limits
04/28/2011
Contributor: Kaltir Kaltir
Quote:
Originally posted by TitsMcScandal
Your question is confusing for the answers.

If I answer 'yes' would I be answering yes to they should have limits or they should surrender them to the owner? Perhaps more thought into your post would have been helpful....
AGREED. I answered yes, assuming it was for the first part of the question. Everyone needs limits of some sort.
04/28/2011
Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
I personally am still figuring out my limits. The few definite "no"s I can think of are far out of my guy's interest range. For anything that I haven't really decided on, I would research and discuss with my guy.

The main thing that influences my definite "no"s are health risks that cannot be greatly reduced. And whether something's illegal, but usually those are unhealthy/risky anyway. I'm pretty flexible otherwise.
04/28/2011
Contributor: ac0313 ac0313
Quote:
Originally posted by TboyTy
There are hard limits and there are soft limits, everyone it entitled to them and has them weather they realize it or not. Experienced players will know them, newbies will find them. Either way they should always be negotiated and respected.
agree. If you are engaging in D/S play with your SO, you should already know each others' hard and soft limits. If not your SO, you need to have that discussion. The soft limits are the ones that can be pushed at times and if the Dom is pushing, (s)he needs to be paying attention for the safe word to not put the Sub past their point of acceptance. Hard limits should not be tested during play, but can be discussed at a later time.
05/02/2011
Contributor: PinkPedal PinkPedal
Limits are a must.
05/02/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
Limits are crucial in order to keep play safe. Additionally there are always the confines of legality.
05/06/2011
Contributor: stlouisxxx stlouisxxx
Limits of course.
We aren't into S&M just bondage
06/01/2011
Contributor: Miss Morphine Miss Morphine
Everyone has limits and communication is important to establish those boundaries, but as Laura Antoniou, one of my favorite kink writers/educators, has said we tend to pre-select for people with complementary limits to our own.
06/01/2011
Contributor: CandidKinkster CandidKinkster
Quote:
Originally posted by TitsMcScandal
Your question is confusing for the answers.

If I answer 'yes' would I be answering yes to they should have limits or they should surrender them to the owner? Perhaps more thought into your post would have been helpful....
Excellent point. I responded "yes" without really reading the question all the way through.
06/02/2011