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Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled 12/11/2011

I already have cuffs, paddle, whip, 2 blindfolds, but want to expand my collection

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Which would you get to add to a starter collection? (60 posts)
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I really like the looks of the lover's prisoner kit b/c it contains a leash and ankle tethers which I don't have.

Then the fetish fantasy series is my favorite color (purple) and includes a ball gag which I don't have yet. Geez I want it all.
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Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I'd pick the suede fantasy kit. I don't have any suede stuff.
12/11/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
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I personally am against being gagged, and the collar seems much more fun than the feather thing!
12/11/2011
Contributor: Eucaly Eucaly
The suede looks so nice, and of course I love dark purple!
12/11/2011
Contributor: Drakoni Drakoni
Sexy slave kit has both wrist and ankle straps, so I went with that one.

The ball gags and whips are a bit advanced for this type of kit.
12/11/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by unfulfilled
I really like the looks of the lover's prisoner kit b/c it contains a leash and ankle tethers which I don't have.

Then the fetish fantasy series is my favorite color (purple) and includes a ball gag which I don't have yet. Geez I want it all.
Get the FANTASY series....but make sure you AND your partner are wanting to try this stuff. We have given it a little try...and it is NOT our cup of tea...or coffee.
12/11/2011
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
I definitely like the look of the fetish fantasy kit!
12/11/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
Despite how the majority of people have voted so far, I say skip the suede kit - the cuffs are weak and the hardware will break if you play too hard. The ball gag is rubber, which is gross tasting to have in the mouth. Buy a quality silicone gag instead if you're looking for that kind of product. The suede is sensual, but the quality is pretty sub-par overall.

Sportsheets makes more durable products. The Lover's prisoner kit looks more interested to me than the sexy slave, so it gets my vote. If you already have a rubber whip then it may be less intriguing, I guess. Still, you say you also have 2 blindfolds already, so you wouldn't really need the one that comes with the slave set.
12/11/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Thanks everyone. I don't want a rubber tasting ball gag that just sounds gross. Maybe I'll buy pieces and the lovers prisoner kit.
12/13/2011
Contributor: sexydelphia sexydelphia
suede kit
12/15/2011
Contributor: GoneBabyGone GoneBabyGone
Don't go for the suede kit. Suede degrades really quickly and isn't really durable.


And rubber ball gags don't tend to have a lot of taste. You can wash it if you think it has a flavor. Mine did the first time, but it has no flavor now.
12/15/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Thanks for the info on the suede degrading and that rubber taste goes away.
12/18/2011
Contributor: 12345678 12345678
The suede looks nice, but I'm not sure about the quality.
12/18/2011
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by unfulfilled
I really like the looks of the lover's prisoner kit b/c it contains a leash and ankle tethers which I don't have.

Then the fetish fantasy series is my favorite color (purple) and includes a ball gag which I don't have yet. Geez I want it all.
suede fantasy kit
12/18/2011
Contributor: Valentinka Valentinka
Suede fantasy kit surely looks nice, but its quality bothers me, so I would go with either Sexy slave or Lover's prisoner kit. It depends really on what you need more: Sexy slave will add more restrains and a tickler to your collection and Lover's prisoner has a nice-looking collar.
12/18/2011
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
The purple looks really pretty and classy.
12/18/2011
Contributor: pinkpottergirl pinkpottergirl
The suede is cute, plus it seems to have good for expanding
03/23/2012
Contributor: CuteDee CuteDee
Tough choice... Like them all! Good luck...
03/24/2012
Contributor: SexysaurousRex SexysaurousRex
suede kit. i think its got the nicest stuff in the kit. plus i like the color and suede is always a nice plus
03/24/2012
Contributor: C-Rae C-Rae
Hm.. Well I LOVE the color red so my opinion would be bias here
03/24/2012
Contributor: MrGoodTool MrGoodTool
Suede is beautiful
03/28/2012
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by unfulfilled
I really like the looks of the lover's prisoner kit b/c it contains a leash and ankle tethers which I don't have.

Then the fetish fantasy series is my favorite color (purple) and includes a ball gag which I don't have yet. Geez I want it all.
Fetish fantasy series suede fantasy kit
03/30/2012
Contributor: DreamWolf DreamWolf
FFS set...
03/30/2012
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
We got the Lover's Prisoner kit and used it for the first time last night. It's our first bondage set, and our first flogger. I really like it. And I think the husband enjoyed using it, too.
03/31/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Lil Missy, I ended up getting the Lovers Prisoner Kit too. I should have gotten the purple suede one when I posted this because now it's discontinued and I won't be able to get it. So sad!
04/01/2012
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
Unfulfilled, That is sad. =( But if you find you are into bondage and you LOVE purple, you should look at the crave line. 0_0 I got the Lover's Prisoner Kit as a starter to see if I liked it. Now I'm going for that one. It sucks that the purple one was discontinued tho. That would have been a great one for people to get to see if they were into gags. =(
04/01/2012
Contributor: nosrslylol nosrslylol
Hmm... suede sounds pretty cool.
04/01/2012
Contributor: FruityCloud FruityCloud
Purple is not my favorite color, but it sounds like it'd be the best choice for you.
04/01/2012
Contributor: SadoMas SadoMas
love red
04/08/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
Suede sounds nice.
04/08/2012
Contributor: Azule Azule
I'd choose the purple suede over the others.
04/14/2012
Contributor: mmmmm mmmmm
Suede
05/22/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Suede, it'd go well with a lot of other toys if you keep expanding, and it's good as is
05/22/2012
Contributor: theavocadopit theavocadopit
Quote:
Originally posted by unfulfilled
I really like the looks of the lover's prisoner kit b/c it contains a leash and ankle tethers which I don't have.

Then the fetish fantasy series is my favorite color (purple) and includes a ball gag which I don't have yet. Geez I want it all.
05/22/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Thank you all for commenting. I ended up with the lovers prisoner kit and the purple suede one is now discontinued here.
05/25/2012
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
Lovers prisoner kit
05/25/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
The suede kit looks nicer in my opinion but honestly I'm spoiled with my hubby making most of our bdsm toys.
05/25/2012
Contributor: Passion plum Passion plum
The sexy slave kit is a nice cheap starters kit.
05/27/2012
Contributor: carenautilus carenautilus
The suede kit looks like the best value. I'd get it, but I'm vegan.
06/06/2012
Contributor: Internet Brat Internet Brat
The suede one looks the best IMO
06/07/2012
Contributor: KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I don't like any of these personally. They all seem pretty cheap. I would recommend buying the pieces that you are interested in trying out individually. It will probably save you money in the long run.
06/07/2012
Contributor: Allstars316 Allstars316
I would get the fetish factory.
06/07/2012
Contributor: Dixiemomma Dixiemomma
ohhh pretty purple... that would be my choice but honestly the quality of the items in the kits isnt that great... but for beginners to experiment with that would be my choice!
06/07/2012
Contributor: amazon amazon
The suede kit would be a good starter
06/07/2012
Contributor: Kitten has left the site Kitten has left the site
i like the idea of the sexy slave kit
06/07/2012
Contributor: ksparkles16 ksparkles16
I like the purple set
07/08/2012
Contributor: Roz W Roz W
purple!
07/17/2012
Contributor: Boyfriend Boyfriend
the suede looks cool
07/17/2012
Contributor: Experiment Experiment
Quote:
Originally posted by unfulfilled
I really like the looks of the lover's prisoner kit b/c it contains a leash and ankle tethers which I don't have.

Then the fetish fantasy series is my favorite color (purple) and includes a ball gag which I don't have yet. Geez I want it all.
fetish fantasies
07/18/2012
Contributor: RadRach RadRach
Quote:
Originally posted by unfulfilled
I really like the looks of the lover's prisoner kit b/c it contains a leash and ankle tethers which I don't have.

Then the fetish fantasy series is my favorite color (purple) and includes a ball gag which I don't have yet. Geez I want it all.
Id probably get the suede only bc i dont really have anything else like that.
07/23/2012
Contributor: WildeKnight WildeKnight
I like purple, and I like leather.
07/24/2012
Contributor: HippieFeet HippieFeet
I have the lovers prisoner kit. Sadly I lost the flogger somewhere really quickly, but the restraints have been nice while waiting for other ones
07/25/2012
Contributor: Calypso05 Calypso05
I haven't tried suede so I would go with it.
07/25/2012
Contributor: tunacan75 tunacan75
Beginner sets always seem to include at least one 'cheap' item, I find it better just to buy separate items of higher quality, that way you can get some time to practice with each first!
01/25/2013
Contributor: anon195 anon195
Wow, really useful thread. Thanks for making it!
02/08/2013
Contributor: WordsmithingImp WordsmithingImp
I will second what a few folks said--don't be afraid to go outside of a kit if you'd like something durable that'll last you a little longer!

Also consider the magic of what my friends and I like to call "pervertables"--everyd ay innocent items that you pervert into something naughty.

Like being hit/lightly hurt? Rulers, spatulas, hair brushes, clothes pins (wooden rather than plastic, if just starting).

Like being tied up? Sailing rope, duct tape (though if you're just starting and want something comfier, you can look up "bondage tape" that acts like duct tape, but only sticks to itself instead of your skin!), saran wrap (cheap and super effective, but I will warn you that it gets sweaty and is not the comfiest kind of bondage), go to the fabric store, and get long thin cuts of any fabric that feels nice when you tie it around your skin. Satin is usually a good bet. Or ever try bondage with a man's tie?

Like having some senses or the ability to speak taken away? MORE duct/bondage tape (it seriously fixes everything), noise cancelling head phones (so you can't hear or see, and have to just focus on being touched--I personally find sound deprivation a little scary, but some folks don't feel that way!), miscellaneous strips of fabric.

Like trying NEW senses? Ice cubes, candle wax (do a little bit of research into this--some wax types burn at much lower temperatures than others, and would be much better/safer for beginners), fur, banjo picks (for light scratching sensations), feathers, again--going to the fabric/craft stre and just picking up anything that feels interesting.

Go into any craft store, dollar store, Home Depot, Ikea--with the idea of picking up something naughty, and you can have cheap toy shopping trips every time you leave the house. Heck, look INside your house. You might have some pervertables already. Have fun exploring!
02/16/2013
Contributor: FLIPxMODE FLIPxMODE
fantasy kit
02/16/2013
Contributor: karenm karenm
The Fetish fantasy set.
02/17/2013
Contributor: Dear Ruby Dear Ruby
Suede is so hard to clean, I really would prefer rubber. Plus, the Lover's fantasy kit has extra tethers, which open up a world of possibilities!
02/19/2013
Contributor: 4everpissedoff 4everpissedoff
they all look good
02/19/2013