I agree with this. I'm not gonna go out of my way to mention it, but if they were asking about bruises and assuming I was being abused I'd set them straight.

If it directly pertains to the issue I'm talking with my doctor about I would. I obviously wouldn't just bring it up. If they asked I would be open with them, because excuses will make it sound a lot more like you are in a violent situation.

These are two totally unrelated things. If you'd like to discuss how doctors treat trans* people, perhaps you could start another thread on it? More people are likely to respond to this particular topic in a thread for it than in the BDSM forum.

I would if the subject came up. I would much rather them know the truth verses something horrid the imagined happened

Unrelated? Unrelated if I am a trans* person into BDSM? You act like in a trans* forum is the only place I can talk about trans* issues, when we are people, just as you, and we exist everywhere and we have lives that involve things like BDSM sometimes-- or shoes, or lawnmowers, or whatever. And for ME, when I get certain surgeries and/or HRT, I won't give a shit whether I have visible bruises when I go visit the doctor, because I'll be more worried that the doctor is a bigot who might do me more harm than good because I'm trans*! It's like- yeah, WELL... Good for you that you only have THAT to worry about, when I would have to worry about BOTH, and being trans* in a hospital trumps a few bruises as far as probability that I'm gonna get hassled and treated like shit.

Your comment was unrelated. You mentioned nothing about BDSM until now. I'm sorry that you feel you aren't treated as a human being in the doctors office, but the way you are presenting your words makes it sound like your issues are far worse than anyone else. It comes off as very rude.

I'm gonna second what Beck said. Of course you're into all sorts of things. I never said anything to the contrary. I'm into stuff outside of BDSM too. However, if I want to discuss things outside of BDSM, I'll post them in a different forum category. If I want to discuss something BDSM specific, I'll post it here. That's why there's different categories.

And for what it's worth playing "my problems are worse than yours" comes off as childish. Also for what it's worth, I have a very serious mental illness that causes doctors to treat me like I'm incompetent and a moron. So no, I don't only have bruises to worry about. Especially since doctors rarely if ever see them but ALWAYS see my medical records that say I'm nuts. I've been sent away from ERs because they assume I'm thinking myself sick when things were really wrong. I've been given medications that make my condition worse by doctors that don't know how the pills react with mentally ill people. If you think the only thing doctors will harass you about is being trans, I can assure you that you're wrong. I get harassed and treated like shit by most every doctor other than my mental specific ones.

I'm truly sorry that you have to go through that with the medical community. However, I feel like posting this in a different area would yield you better results.

I'm not a fan of those things. Every doctor I go to has information they don't need about whatever my current ailment is. You really don't need my life history because I have a cough. It makes it very hard to be honest in therapy when the ER gets all those records too and uses them against me.

What I am gonna say it totally unrelated to medical conditions, but what the hell?

Every time my husband goes to the Dr they refuse to give him anything and turn him right away because of his tattoos. They listen to him talk before the see them, but when he told to get ready for scans and they see him in the gown...their opinion changes right away. You can see it in their face. They still do the scans and check him. Of course, they tell him his back is horrible because he has 4 bulging disc that are within mm of surgery, but still refuse to help him with pain. They think he is only in there for the drugs. Every Dr he goes to is like this. It got the the point where he flipped out on the last one and told him that he will call him when it's too late and he needs surgery.

I completely agree with you.

I'm sorry, but I'm going to have to agree with everyone else here.

While your points are valid, they aren't related.


I'm a man, and I like pizza... but I don't walk into the pizza shop and start ranting about how much I hate having to deal with male problems.


It's nothing against you at all, and you shouldn't have taken it as such. Beck simply pointed out that it wasn't directly related and that if you wanted a better discussion you should post in the correct forum.



If I had marks from play or I thought something could possibly have caused issues I would certainly tell my doctor (if I had one) before they had to ask.

I never even thought about that. What a good back up plan. My husband was ran over by a Pathfinder at the age of 17 and at 32 had a really bad car accident where he broke his neck. He is in chronic pain.

I would tell my doctor about it if there was a need to. Doctor's a pretty chill when it comes to that sort of thing. If you don't make it into a big deal the doctor won't either

Travelnurse, I understand a doctor's need to report. Actually, I have a family member who is a retired nurse, so I know all about this. That requirement to report is part of what made me ask the original question. That, and fear of electronic records, which also show some mental health issues exacerbated by brain damage.

As for the chronic pain/pain meds side-convo that has been brought up, I deal with chronic pain as well. Usually I try to be very straight up with the doctors and say something like, "Hey, I do not use anything illegally. I am not a druggie just here to get pills. I genuinely hurt here and here in this way because of x condition." It is a shame that I have to anticipate bias like that, but I really feel that I have to.