For all those BDSM lovers, care to share safe words? My partner and I figured it's about time we needed one and we can't seem to find one that doesn't make us fall about in fits of giggles!
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There was a hilarious set of posts on that recently on Divamidori. It included one story about an agreement about the big grinning cat on tv. When one partner yelled "Garfield" and the other *later* asked why she didn't use her safeword thinking it was "Marmaduke..." Because they didn't remember the conversation the same way...
11/18/2008
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Oh god, now that sounds like a nightmare just waiting to happen.
Originally posted by
Dragon
There was a hilarious set of posts on that recently on Divamidori. It included one story about an agreement about the big grinning cat on tv. When one partner yelled "Garfield" and the other *later* asked why she didn't use her
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There was a hilarious set of posts on that recently on Divamidori. It included one story about an agreement about the big grinning cat on tv. When one partner yelled "Garfield" and the other *later* asked why she didn't use her safeword thinking it was "Marmaduke..." Because they didn't remember the conversation the same way...
11/19/2008
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Oh I should think about that - when I can't speak we revert to good ol' tapping. We tend to just know.
Originally posted by
Beautiful Dreamer
We use "Red" for our oral safe word. When one of us is gagged, we have a dog toy that fits around our wrist so we squeeze it as the safe "act". This particularly comes in hand when we're also using restraints, as you can't
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We use "Red" for our oral safe word. When one of us is gagged, we have a dog toy that fits around our wrist so we squeeze it as the safe "act". This particularly comes in hand when we're also using restraints, as you can't accidentally drop the toy.
11/19/2008
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It's not vanilla, it's funny! We heard poodle somewhere and stuck to it but now just laugh at it
Originally posted by
Nashville
How vanilla does this sound--- we heard their safe word on Desperate Housewives was Philadelphia.. We tried it and it works quite well for us, we're not big into BDSM or S&M so rarely do we need to rely on a safe word if we get into the thick
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How vanilla does this sound--- we heard their safe word on Desperate Housewives was Philadelphia.. We tried it and it works quite well for us, we're not big into BDSM or S&M so rarely do we need to rely on a safe word if we get into the thick of things.
11/19/2008
"Pancakes" is the one I use - with everyone I ever need to tell. It's also quite effective to say it even if the other person has no idea why because it shocks them into stopping or pulling back.
Sure it's silly, but I need a silly word to find in my brain in times like that because my mouth tends to say all sorts of crazy things....
Sure it's silly, but I need a silly word to find in my brain in times like that because my mouth tends to say all sorts of crazy things....
11/19/2008
My husband reads me very well so it's rarely necessary, but I put up my hand, with my palm towards him, as a safe act. (Safe words won't work because I lose the ability to speak under certain kinds of stress.) We've discussed getting a jingle bell or something for when he can't see my hands.
01/29/2009
My boyfriend was into martial arts for about 10 years and there is a "tap" system used when someone gives up a fight. When either one of us "taps" the bed, the other person --- whatever we can get our hands on, it instantly means playtime is over. This is the best thing that we've found that works for us. We had safe words set up but never used them...and tapping is so much easier in my mind than having to search for words when you're panicked.
03/19/2009
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I like to be choked a little once in a blue moon, and that's what I use tapping. Two quick taps on the arm means "let go."
Originally posted by
Sammi
We are trying to come up with one as well. I like some of the ones above! I also like the idea of tapping - we are experimenting with gag usage in our play, and the tap would work well, I think.
03/20/2009
I like the "stoplight system". That's what me and my current partner use. "Yellow" if you want to slow down or lighten up on whatever's happening, "red" if you need to stop all together and discuss the situation.
Another idea that won't be too hilarious and random is to use your full name, middle name and all. I think that can be kind of sexy And you'll never forget your name, whereas you may forget some random word!
Another idea that won't be too hilarious and random is to use your full name, middle name and all. I think that can be kind of sexy And you'll never forget your name, whereas you may forget some random word!
03/25/2009
With my husband, and with casual playpartners, it's all about the green yellow and red. I use green a lot cause I, for one, love knowing when "all is well". Those are more feedback words to me than safewords - I want them respected, of course, and will stop playing with anyone who doesn't respect them. And when I top I always suggest the G/Y/R system to whomever I'm topping.
My actual safewords, in order of severity, are "FAINTING", "VOMIT", "LAWSUIT"
My actual safewords, in order of severity, are "FAINTING", "VOMIT", "LAWSUIT"
05/14/2009
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*laughing my butt off* I love "LAWSUIT" that's perfect.
Originally posted by
Red
With my husband, and with casual playpartners, it's all about the green yellow and red. I use green a lot cause I, for one, love knowing when "all is well". Those are more feedback words to me than safewords - I want them respected,
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With my husband, and with casual playpartners, it's all about the green yellow and red. I use green a lot cause I, for one, love knowing when "all is well". Those are more feedback words to me than safewords - I want them respected, of course, and will stop playing with anyone who doesn't respect them. And when I top I always suggest the G/Y/R system to whomever I'm topping.
My actual safewords, in order of severity, are "FAINTING", "VOMIT", "LAWSUIT"
My actual safewords, in order of severity, are "FAINTING", "VOMIT", "LAWSUIT"
05/14/2009
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Those just might be the best safewords ever!
Originally posted by
Red
With my husband, and with casual playpartners, it's all about the green yellow and red. I use green a lot cause I, for one, love knowing when "all is well". Those are more feedback words to me than safewords - I want them respected,
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With my husband, and with casual playpartners, it's all about the green yellow and red. I use green a lot cause I, for one, love knowing when "all is well". Those are more feedback words to me than safewords - I want them respected, of course, and will stop playing with anyone who doesn't respect them. And when I top I always suggest the G/Y/R system to whomever I'm topping.
My actual safewords, in order of severity, are "FAINTING", "VOMIT", "LAWSUIT"
My actual safewords, in order of severity, are "FAINTING", "VOMIT", "LAWSUIT"
05/15/2009
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