Eden Flicks/Eden Kink Discussion: Secretary. January 17 at 8 PM EDT

Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Hey! I'm going to jump into games here! Only one winner per game and if you win one, don't participate in the next one, please! Are ya ready?
01/17/2012
Contributor: wrmbreze wrmbreze
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Originally posted by Jul!a
My mom's come to terms with mine. I have a steady job, I graduated high school and college, I'm in a stable happy relationship, and my tattoos can all easily be hidden. As much as she doesn't like that they're permanent, she has ... more
right now I only have an elephant on my right shoulder. She has never seen it. I am a black female, a little dark. I remember when I was younger she said something about me being too dark for tattoos and it kinda hurt my feelings. I ignored but found out years later that her mom had told her to put skin lightner on because she was 1 of the 2 darkest people in the family. Just goes to show that black people can be racist too... Sorry about the offtopicness
01/17/2012
Contributor: Serenesub Serenesub
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Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
I'm codependent, also. Master owns me. I give everything that belongs to me over to him. How could I not be dependent upon him?
exactly. I know when I move with my owner I will be in HIS house. He will be in control of the money.. including mine. Etc. Etc. It's natural to some.
01/17/2012
Contributor: biancajames biancajames
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Originally posted by lexical
I'd say that's accurate. I think there's definitely a level of...obsession going on there. But I also think that's the point. She's coming to learn that she NEEDs this. That it feeds something in her. And he's obviously a ... more
What you said about him being mean makes me think of a D/s relationship where I put up with legit emotional abuse because I wasnt yet at a point where I could tell the difference between kink and abuse, if that makes sense...I think James Spader's character is emotionally abusive to her in some ways.
01/17/2012
Contributor: wrmbreze wrmbreze
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
Hey! I'm going to jump into games here! Only one winner per game and if you win one, don't participate in the next one, please! Are ya ready?
ready
01/17/2012
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
Some dominants have a hard time reconciling their dominant personality with the person society expects them to be. Especially men. We spend most of their lives telling them no woman would ever enjoy being hurt or controlled. When they develop a ... more
I understand that, now. It just didn't sit well with me. Again, it's a realistic story and I see how it fits in to their personalities, but as a stereotype, it just frustrated me in a mainstream movie.
01/17/2012
Contributor: wrmbreze wrmbreze
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
Hey! I'm going to jump into games here! Only one winner per game and if you win one, don't participate in the next one, please! Are ya ready?
what game, trivia??
01/17/2012
Contributor: Serenesub Serenesub
Quote:
Originally posted by biancajames
What you said about him being mean makes me think of a D/s relationship where I put up with legit emotional abuse because I wasnt yet at a point where I could tell the difference between kink and abuse, if that makes sense...I think James ... more
What's abuse for one may not be for the next person though. They don't really cover what all of Lees kinks are. I have a friend and her dom definitely toys with her emotions, some see it as abuse for sure. For her though, she gets turned on. She hates it, but at the same time she loves it. It makes her push harder.
01/17/2012
Contributor: winterseve winterseve
I like games!
01/17/2012
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
If you were Lee or Mr. Grey, what would you have done differently?
If I were Mr. Grey I would have stepped up pushing Lee's limits and pressing deeper into the control aspects in a slower, more rhythmic way, not taking tiny steps then large leaps like some uncontrolled creature. But like I said, it's obviously meant to be seen as someone new to domination that doesn't have the experience to do it differently, and just because it's what I do and prefer doesn't mean it's right for everyone either.
01/17/2012
Contributor: lexical lexical
Let the games begin!
01/17/2012
Contributor: biancajames biancajames
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Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
I'm codependent, also. Master owns me. I give everything that belongs to me over to him. How could I not be dependent upon him?
There's a difference between having dependence be a negotiated, conscious decision and being unhealthily attached to someone who isn't invested in treating you well.
01/17/2012
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
Mind fuckery is all good and well, but I personally can't understand doing it without aftercare and reaffirmation of bonds.
01/17/2012
Contributor: lexical lexical
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Originally posted by biancajames
There's a difference between having dependence be a negotiated, conscious decision and being unhealthily attached to someone who isn't invested in treating you well.
Yeah, I don't think codependent is the word you'd like to use, Rayne Dependent, sure. Interdependent, absolutely. But codependent is no good.
01/17/2012
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by wrmbreze
right now I only have an elephant on my right shoulder. She has never seen it. I am a black female, a little dark. I remember when I was younger she said something about me being too dark for tattoos and it kinda hurt my feelings. I ignored but found ... more
I don't think you can be too dark for tattoos, just for certain colors to show up well. It's true that having dark skin limits what colors you can use. I have a friend who I literally only managed to avoid hitting with my car when backing out of his driveway because he was wearing a light colored shirt, and he's got a lot of black tattoos that I really like because they're so subtle. It's all about working with what you have. I'd love to see a picture of your elephant if you'd like to share it. You can message me later to talk more
01/17/2012
Contributor: lexical lexical
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Originally posted by AndroAngel
Mind fuckery is all good and well, but I personally can't understand doing it without aftercare and reaffirmation of bonds.
Amen! My thoughts exactly.
01/17/2012
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
This sounds like a really cool topic, but I have not seen it
01/17/2012
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
I've been trying to stay somewhat on theme for the contests... On that note:

What movie is this picture from?


01/17/2012
Contributor: biancajames biancajames
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I've been trying to stay somewhat on theme for the contests... On that note:

What movie is this picture from?

Story of O
01/17/2012
Contributor: wrmbreze wrmbreze
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
I don't think you can be too dark for tattoos, just for certain colors to show up well. It's true that having dark skin limits what colors you can use. I have a friend who I literally only managed to avoid hitting with my car when backing ... more
cool, will share with you later. Its blue and I think it shows up well on me.
01/17/2012
Contributor: lexical lexical
Quote:
Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I've been trying to stay somewhat on theme for the contests... On that note:

What movie is this picture from?

Story of O!
01/17/2012
Contributor: wrmbreze wrmbreze
Quote:
Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I've been trying to stay somewhat on theme for the contests... On that note:

What movie is this picture from?

story of o
01/17/2012
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
No clue lol.
01/17/2012
Contributor: Serenesub Serenesub
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Originally posted by lexical
Yeah, I don't think codependent is the word you'd like to use, Rayne Dependent, sure. Interdependent, absolutely. But codependent is no good.
See, that's your opinion though. Telling somebody that when they're happy in their relationship could really hurt them. Everybody works out what's good for them.
01/17/2012
Contributor: winterseve winterseve
Heard a few things about the Story Of O. Is it as good as The Secretary?
01/17/2012
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
Quote:
Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I've been trying to stay somewhat on theme for the contests... On that note:

What movie is this picture from?

Story of O...hate that movie!
01/17/2012
Contributor: wrmbreze wrmbreze
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Originally posted by winterseve
Heard a few things about the Story Of O. Is it as good as The Secretary?
I didn't like it that much. kinda blah to me
01/17/2012
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by wrmbreze
cool, will share with you later. Its blue and I think it shows up well on me.
I can't wait to see it!
01/17/2012
Contributor: lexical lexical
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Originally posted by Serenesub
See, that's your opinion though. Telling somebody that when they're happy in their relationship could really hurt them. Everybody works out what's good for them.
It's not my opinion, actually...Codependent has a specific definition. It is, by definition, unhealthy.
01/17/2012
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by biancajames
Story of O
Congratulations biancajames!
01/17/2012