Hot'NSexy Texas Mama needs some loving....

Hot'NSexy Texas Mama needs some loving....

Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
As older members of the club may have noticed HNS Texas Mama hasn't been joining us for the Eden Lit Club meetings. Life has stepped in and sort of swept her away into a journey none of us is looking forward to taking.
Her elderly Father was placed in rehab because he was over medicating himself with pain meds and nearly died. He is not suicidal, thank goodness but seems to be losing the ability to care for himself. He needs assisted living arrangements made and she lives half the Country away!

To add to the mess her Mother has recently suffered a bout of pneumonia that is complicating the stage 3 lung cancer she is suffering from. The hospital is setting up hospice care for her. To make matters worse, or better depending on your perspective, she suffers from Altzheimers. She has no idea she has cancer and they aren't going to tell her.

She is learning things about her parent's relationship that are very painful and it's a stressful time, so drop her a note here just to let her know we are thinking of her and wish her the best.
05/16/2012
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My sympathy and prayers are with her. I am most likely going to lose my father on Friday during his surgery so I understand the hard times, confusion, anger and hurt she is going through right now. Many hugs!!!!!!
05/16/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
I, too am facing the loss of a parent and to make it worse we are estranged. You can rationalize it however you want, there's no way to avoid the pain.
05/16/2012
Ryuson Ryuson
I was noticing that she hadn't been on as much recently, but I just assumed that she was moving or on vacation. It's not a good surprise to find out that she's been absent due to such negative circumstances.

We Edenties have to stick together! If you've got a good way of reaching her make sure she knows that we're all here for eachother, even if it's just for a pat on the back.

I live in constant fear of losing my grandpa (I'm not too big on most of my family members, even my mum or my dad) so I can't even imagine what it would be like to have to watch someone you care for that much deteriorate like that. She and her family will be in my prayers!
05/16/2012
Beck Beck
Oh my! We miss you Texas Mama. You and your family are in my thoughts.

We are facing similar issues with my mother in law right now.

I wish you the best. And I'm sending you many hugs!!! And something special to let you know I'm thinking about you. So check your email.
05/16/2012
mama2007 mama2007
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
As older members of the club may have noticed HNS Texas Mama hasn't been joining us for the Eden Lit Club meetings. Life has stepped in and sort of swept her away into a journey none of us is looking forward to taking.
Her elderly Father was ...
wow i'm so sorry Texas Mama - my prayers are with you and your family! God bless you. i cant imagine =[
05/16/2012
Buttercup Green Buttercup Green
I am so sorry that life has taken such a bad turn for you! Just know that the community will always be here for you and your family!
You and your family will be in my thoughts.
Sending love and hugs.
05/16/2012
VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you.
05/16/2012
Ansley Ansley
Lots of love to you!! We hope things get easier for you soon. We really miss you around here!
05/16/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
Love and Hugs to Texas Mama. I hope life eases up for you soon, sweetie.
05/16/2012
Gracie Gracie
I'm sending my love and hugs too! We miss you!
05/16/2012
wrmbreze wrmbreze
Lots of love to you and yours Texas Mama. We definitely miss you around here. If you need to talk just let us know.
05/16/2012
SMichelle SMichelle
I was wondering where she's been! Texas Mama, sending lots of love your way.
05/16/2012
Sammi Sammi
Big hugs
05/16/2012
Kissy Kissy
You know, it has been a while since I read an update from her. Lots of love to you!! You'll get through it, take it day by day.
05/17/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
Sorry to hear. Hugs
05/17/2012
Sex Positivity Sex Positivity
Take care of yourself! Whenever life gets stressful, we tend to neglect our own needs. Take a nice warm bath and pamper yourself for a little while, you most certainly deserve it.

Thinking of you.
05/17/2012
VioletMoonstone VioletMoonstone
Don't forget to take care of yourself. You can't think right or do what you need to do when you're too exhausted or stressed. Try to relax when you can. Stay strong and try not to let your emotions get the best of you. Think with your head and don't let your emotions drag you down and wear you out.

You'll be in my thoughts.
05/17/2012
indiglo indiglo
Tough times! That sure is a lot to deal with all at once. Your family will be in my thoughts.
05/17/2012
wetone123 wetone123
My thoughts and prayers are with you and family. I'm so sorry.
05/18/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Such an outpouring of love...damn I love this community! Mama be gentle with yourself and get some sleep. I know that's the first sacrifice when you are caring for a loved one.
05/18/2012
K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
As older members of the club may have noticed HNS Texas Mama hasn't been joining us for the Eden Lit Club meetings. Life has stepped in and sort of swept her away into a journey none of us is looking forward to taking.
Her elderly Father was ...
Oh my. How devastating. I just sent a prayer up! I am so sorry for both you, Airen and her. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain of losing a parent. You are both in my thoughts and prayers and will be every time I think of you two!

Best wishes and I hope ya'll are able to surroud yourselves with tons of love while going through these things
05/19/2012
Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
That is tough. Thoughts go out to you. Hope to see you back soon.
05/23/2012
PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
I would like to offer my best wishes to Texas Mama as well. I really know what she is going thru, since I was a Primary Care giver to my elder parents who also followed the journey of 'end-of-life' with dignity and respect. The support she will receive with Hospice Care will be most valuable in helping overcome any stress, uncertainty, and provide love and support during these difficult times. My thoughts are with you, hope to see you back soon.
05/23/2012
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I have noticed she has not been around much since she has came back from her mom's. My thoughts and prayers are with you I hope everything works out for the better.

05/23/2012
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
oh gosh! i'm going to head over to her page right now. thank you for sharing with us.
05/23/2012
NurseKitty NurseKitty
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I, too am facing the loss of a parent and to make it worse we are estranged. You can rationalize it however you want, there's no way to avoid the pain.
Thanks so much for letting us all know. It is wonderful how much the EF community functions as a family.

My thoughts are with both of you, it's very hard when you are estranged from parents (I am from one of mine) and life throws a curveball at you.

Hang in there Airen and Texas Momma!
05/23/2012
Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Hi everyone! Dad is napping (FINALLY - thank GOD!) and so I'm taking a chance to write a brief note before he wakes up again.

It looks like I'm going to be here in Northern Maine until July 14th (approx - haven't yet bought ticket).

Dad's doctor was going to try and wean him off his narcotics....so I wanted to be here for his June 12th appointment and then his following appointment which would be about 3 weeks later.

BUT...dad is not weaning off the pills at all....and so the doctor has given him permission to stay on the dose he is on now.

I want to go home - but dad still needs me...if only emotionally.

I was going through some of his paperwork and found out that he was diagnosed with Congestive Heart Failure in late March and that people with that frequently wind up back in the hospital within 3-6 months if they live alone and don't have support in getting better.

About mom - she's back in the nursing home and tomorrow morning she has an assessment which the family will be attending. We would like to move her here to Mars Hill instead of her nursing home in Houlton (30+ miles away) - BUT - we really like her doctor down there vs. the doctor up here.

I don't remember how much I shared before...but she has been diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer and I'm suspecting that she will pass sooner than they think (6-12 months) because whenever folks visit her, they feel like her lungs/breathing/coughi ng sounds worse.

I believe hospice will be starting to get involved and she will be given strong meds for comfort so she can live pain-free even if she's heavily drugged.

On top of all that, my bedroom bunny passed away last week after a brief illness. He was 8 years old and had been with us for 4 years. I still have a hard time processing he won't be waiting for me to pet him when I get home.

Well - that is about all the time I have. Thanks everyone for listening...

I will try to update more often.
05/30/2012
Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I, too am facing the loss of a parent and to make it worse we are estranged. You can rationalize it however you want, there's no way to avoid the pain.
Oh no. I wish there was something I could say.

I was estranged from my dad for many years - and for my mom for a several months after the Alzheimer's got bad.

All I can say is - for me - I'm glad I let go of the hurts and was able to be in touch with them (especially mom) and spend this last time with them.

Mom did a lot of horrible things to me when I was growing up - and I've learned so much that I want to share at some point in time....but whenever I see her, all I can feel is compassion and love and gratefulness for the good times we shared.

I'll be praying for peace for you Airen!
05/30/2012
Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Really short update - I'm in Northern Maine indefinitely at this point. Mom's in the nursing home and enrolled in Hospice.....dad has congestive heart failure, atrial fibrillation and kidney issues and we're trying to get his meds settled down.

The good news is...since I'm not flying home July 14th - my honey is flying up July 13th to spend a week!!!!!!

I hope to join y'all soon - dad is on antidepressants now and may be sleeping more which may mean more free time for me...I hope!
06/13/2012
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